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CalvinC:
I am wondering about y'all, how you distinguish between a genuine need for concern about factors concerning HIV and your own health and an unwitting gathering of TMI.

For example, I am newly diagnosed, and I know HIV up and down. Not on meds, likely won't be for years. Will be getting my first numbers July 5, with my second blood work Sep 1 or so. And I am feeling that, until Sep 1, I really don't want to dwell on HIV, beyond posting in this forum. I don't want to read up on the latest press release, don't want to think about medications, and so on. My therapist suggested kindly that I might be hiding somewhat behind the emotional turmoil of my recent breakup-that-is-and-isn't, and I think he might have a point. But does that mean I am in denial about my HIV? And/or that the information hasn't fully hit me yet?

Andrew (once known as Cal)

DanielMark:
Hi Andrew,

From what you've written, I wouldn't say you are in denial. I'm not in the position to analyse your life, but I can tell you that after 18 years of living with HIV, I find too much focus on HIV and not enough focus on living can be detrimental to one's well-being.

Clearly youíre aware of your status. Thatís not denial. You have a plan of action. That isnít denial either.

The beauty part of being in denial is that if you are, you donít know you are. :o LOL

CalvinC:

--- Quote from: DanielMark on June 22, 2006, 04:10:02 PM ---The beauty part of being in denial is that if you are, you donít know you are. :o LOL

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hahahahahah!!! Beautifully put, Daniel, very beautifully put....

Andrew

Moffie65:
How can we tell when it's "denial"?  

First off, you would more than likely be standing in Papyrus.

There would be a load of animals in the water, and probably a few hand hewn canoes with men doing net fishing.

And, finally, you would be sweating your ass off.

Sorry, Andrew, I couldn't help myself.  ;D  Really, please don't try too hard at this point, and make most of your energy directed inward and towards finding what will make your SOUL happy in the future life with HIV.  There are loads of things in a "normal" life that are totally unnecessary, and to keep this kind of shit in our lives is a total waste of energy.  Remember, we take the garbage out when the bag is full; we don't stash it and carry it with us through our lives.  Like our garbage, sometimes we carry a whole shitload of emotional crap with us for way too long.  This is what I mean when I ask people to examine their lives and get rid of all that negative shit that drags us down.  Who the hell needs it??

Just keep plodding along, you are on the right track and soon you will see the daylight and clarity will rule your life and spirit.  Just try to not be to impatient and let your mind, body and soul become comfortable with the New You, and all that this brings to the table.  

In Love and Support.

water duck:
Dear Andrew,

You started 2 threads within an hour of each, both, going +/-  in the same direction.
I had chosen to post here because i fully agree with DanielMark's post.

YOU know maybe the time has come to say GOODBYE to the Winter CalvinC alas Cal
AND WELCOME IN THE SPRING CalvinC alas Andrew (formerly known as Cal, i've come out of my anonymity closet ) Spring does have alot of positively energies, everything becomes alive, everything want to grow & become big & strong  ;) ;)


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--- Quote from: Moffie65 on June 22, 2006, 04:23:08 PM ---
Just keep plodding along, you are on the right track and soon you will see the daylight and clarity will rule your life and spirit.  Just try to not be to impatient and let your mind, body and soul become comfortable with the New You, and all that this brings to the table.  

Siang
PS : hope it comes out fine, first time that i quote.

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