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Offline lupetto

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Girlie online friendship & support group
« on: March 27, 2015, 05:55:52 AM »
Hello all my beautiful ladies!

I saw few of you were posting about wanting to get new female friends and support groups. I don't want to hijack Cerise's thread and hope she (and everyone else) will find the actual face to face support & friendship she's looking for. But maybe we can also give each other some online support? :) I have attended few of my local support group meetings but actually find it hard to open up there, talking online feels easier at the moment.

I'll start by telling a bit about myself. I'm 30, single, studying and working on and off. I've been infected for about 9 years and no one in my life at the moment knows of my status. I've only disclosed to my ex and the one who infected me. I no longer have anything to do with neither of them. My feelings about HIV and being infected by it have varied a lot during the years and I guess I should say I don't quite know how I feel about it right now. It's a work in progress. ;) I live in Europe and receive excellent, free health care so I don't really need to worry about that. But the mental side of this all is sometimes bit tough. I love nature, cycling and growing my own herbs and other plants in the summer time. Now that spring is finally coming I'm starting to put the seeds in the soil again and soon my home will be filled up with tiny beginnings of new life. ;D

I hope to hear from you all and would really like to make some new friends here.
« Last Edit: March 27, 2015, 05:58:02 AM by lupetto »

Offline Lasthope

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Re: Girlie online friendship & support group
« Reply #1 on: March 27, 2015, 06:28:30 AM »
Hi, lupetto

You doing great I like you plans I love natural also now I'm nearly have normal life I plan about next month I will go to the beach for my birthday:)


Take care xxx

Offline yellabee3

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Re: Girlie online friendship & support group
« Reply #2 on: March 27, 2015, 06:37:11 PM »
Hello Lupeto,

I understand how you feel. I always interested in meeting new people and especially have similar lifestyle as me. Love to get to know you better.

Offline lupetto

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Re: Girlie online friendship & support group
« Reply #3 on: March 28, 2015, 01:36:31 PM »
Hey girls, so good to hear from you!

Lasthope, birthday by the beach sounds lovely! Over here we are still freezing in the cold temperatures but I expect that to change very soon. I'm glad you are having such nice plans and don't let this turmoil you're going through dictate your whole life. Keep that up! :) What's going on in your life otherwise?

Yellabee, I'm also looking forward to getting to know you better! :) How have you been? How is your baby boy doing? Is he your first child or do you have others too? I would imagine you are quite busy with everything being a mother brings along. I'm always happy to hear when an HIV+ woman gets a healthy baby like you did. I remember when I was first diagnosed I immediately started to cry that I can never have a child. I heard right there and then that it's not true and there's no reason to think that way but it was still something I battled with for a while. I don't have any kids but that's because the father candidates have been lousy ones ;) Now I'm starting to think I'll never have kids of my own but I think I'm fine with that.

I'm really glad to see you guys posting here and hope we can support each other and just share our thoughts about whatever's on our mind. Like now I really want to have some chocolate, I think I deserve that on a Saturday... :P Take care everyone!

Offline Lasthope

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Re: Girlie online friendship & support group
« Reply #4 on: March 28, 2015, 11:19:30 PM »
Thank you, lupetto

Come join me :) wish my plans it great happy and have fun. And i wish you happy too beautiful lady .


Hugs x

Offline didee

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Re: Girlie online friendship & support group
« Reply #5 on: March 30, 2015, 01:58:18 AM »
Hi all,

I like the idea of having this way of sharing, it's always easier with others that are going thru the same things.  I've been positive for 30 years come this April!  Everything has changed so much over the years and hopefully will continue to get even better.  I haven't had anyone in my life since my husband passed many years ago.  I'd love to have that special someone in my life again, but it seems so hard to meet someone when I don't want to meet them at a club, and then there's that fear of having to tell them about being positive.  That's my biggest thing I guess, is not wanting to continue growing old alone.  Thankfully I do have some really great friends, but it'd be nice to have someone to cuddle with again :-)  and someone to come home to.  I've been fortunate to have good health over the years and continue to work full time.  I'm getting a little closer to retirement, but wasn't good at saving, so need to get my butt in gear in that area.  That's great Lupetto that you have free health care and that's it's great....haven't heard of that before lol :-)  Lasthope, going to the beach sounds wonderful!  I haven't been to a beach in sooo long and wish I could go to one, enjoy!!

D
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Offline Lasthope

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Re: Girlie online friendship & support group
« Reply #6 on: March 30, 2015, 03:01:51 AM »
Hi, didee

I just plans for birthday and i hope i will have fun I really love the beach. Come join me :) wish you happy and healthy.


Be strong x
Take care

Offline lupetto

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Re: Girlie online friendship & support group
« Reply #7 on: March 30, 2015, 03:13:20 PM »
Lasthope, I would love to hang out at the beach with you and your friends but I'm afraid you're bit far away from me. ;) But I'll be there in spirit, ok? Over here it's been snowing the whole day and forecast is promising the same kind of weather for the whole week. And here I was thinking winter was over. But then again I shouldn't be surprised, this happens pretty much every year.

Didee, so nice meeting you! Wow, 30 years! I was just about to turn 1 year when you were diagnosed. ;D I can't even imagine how your journey with this virus has been like, I'm so happy that you have made it through everything and are here on the forum. And can give us some perspective on things. I totally understand what you mean by wanting to meet someone special. I feel like that sometimes too but it's not so easy like you said. Though I think it's difficult even without this virus. ;D  Sorry to hear that your husband has passed away. Was he positive too? I'm trying to remind myself as often as I need to that I wouldn't let the virus control my life, e.g. not be afraid of meeting new people because of it. Sometimes that just isn't working so well... But good to hear you have wonderful friends in your life, they are so important for us all! About retirement, I remember when I was first diagnosed I was sure I would never retire as I would certainly die before it. Now that feels like such a distant thought and silly to even have had it. Now I'm sometimes talking with my friends what we're gonna be like as 80-year-old grannies and have no doubt that wouldn't happen ;D

Heh, I had to rely on that healthcare of ours today and luckily everything went smoothly. I should clarify that the HIV related health care & meds are free and I'm so pleased with all that. Basic health care is also free and for other meds you don't have to pay the full price either so all in all it's pretty good. Some things might not always be working quite perfectly (like there might be long queues for certain things) but that's still not too bad. I try not to complain too much as I know I have things so good over here. :) I've been reading a bit of the insurances etc. in the States, I don't know how anyone can make sense of it all. I know I wouldn't have had the energy to find out all about it while I was diagnosed so hats off to anyone who's done that. I was really blessed as I could just follow the clear instructions I was given and not worry about the practicalities.

Hope you're doing fine my ladies, looking forward to hearing more from you soon again!

Offline BT65

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Re: Girlie online friendship & support group
« Reply #8 on: March 31, 2015, 05:54:53 AM »
Hey all, I think it's great to have this online support.  A couple years ago we used to have a thread here that myself and some other ladies would post in almost every day, but it went by the wayside.  Most of the lading moved on and quit posting and unfortunately one lady passed away.   So, it's great to see the support revived!

So, my name is Betty and I've been poz since the late 80's.  I went through the wasting syndrome in the early 90's, got down to 80 lbs.  I recover from that but I have stuff wrong due to long term infection and the early meds.  Since October of last year I've had 5 broken bones and had a rod put in my right leg, which is the leg/ankle/foot side that all my broken bones have been in. 

I work part time, live in the States, and used to be a case manager for people with HIV/AIDS.  Anyway, I don't want to keep rattling so I hope to read more!

Betty
I've never killed anyone, but I frequently get satisfaction reading the obituary notices.-Clarence Darrow

Offline lupetto

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Re: Girlie online friendship & support group
« Reply #9 on: March 31, 2015, 02:09:35 PM »
Hey all!
I've stayed home sick today and have been looking at the seagulls flying above my neighbourhood. How exciting, I know. ;) But I'm so amazed by them, there aren't usually any seagulls around here where I live. I guess they are on their way somewhere... Well, it's been good entertainment for my day! ;D

Betty, nice to hear you had that kind of threads here before. I hope we can bring it back again. :) I think we all need some support and sharing every now and then. I've been reading about your health struggles on other threads, I'm so sorry you have to go through all that! I sincerely hope you will start getting better soon. I can only imagine how frustrating it must be. Stay strong, you've won so many battles already, you will beat this one too! I must say you really are a hero to me and I appreciate so much the support you are giving to everyone here.

Talk to you all soon again, take care girls!

Offline lupetto

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Re: Girlie online friendship & support group
« Reply #10 on: April 05, 2015, 06:38:02 AM »
Sorry ladies but I need to vent a little... I was hanging out with my best friend yesterday and somehow the topic of HIV came about. She doesn't know I'm HIV+ and I have often thought about telling her but she has said things that keep me quiet about it. Yesterday she was saying HIV+ people can't have relationships anymore and can't have children. We talked about this a lot and I tried to make her see the realities and that what she thought was just untrue. She wouldn't agree with anything I said and eventually said that "fine, maybe they can have relationships and kids but they shouldn't because that's wrong". She also said that she would not allow anyone she knew was HIV+ around her loved ones, for example her sister's kids (who I also know) and that even though she knows how HIV is transmitted she doesn't trust that you wouldn't get it other ways too and she could not be at ease around someone who was HIV+.

Obviously this all made me really sad but also angry. We have talked about this all many, many times during the years but her attitude has not changed one bit. I feel that maybe I should tell her about my status so that it would perhaps open her eyes about it all. But then again I'm terrified of telling her and don't know if that would make any difference since I have educated her of the matter countless times. It saddens me that I keep this a secret from her but I feel like right now I don't have the energy to deal with everything that might follow after telling her. But I also notice I'm getting angry at her and can't really say why unless I tell the whole truth. It's like HIV is affecting our friendship whether I tell her or not... I don't know what I'm expecting to happen but I just needed to tell someone about it all.

Well, on a positive note, if I'm to believe the weather forecasts I might see some sunshine next week after a whole week of grey skies and rain! AND, I bought myself a lovely new dress so I am so ready to party next week at my friends' wedding. :D Anyway, I hope you are all doing fine and enjoying your Easter chocolate eggs! :P

Offline BT65

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Re: Girlie online friendship & support group
« Reply #11 on: April 06, 2015, 06:53:46 PM »
Lupetto,

It sounds like you need a new best friend.  Honestly, I have a friend who is as "square" as they get (country-music listening to, Jesus-loving etc) who accepted me without question and is still friends on Facebook-and if she were not-I would definitely cut her out of my life.   

But you know this friend.  Maybe you could tell her without her freaking out? I mean, to the point she would cut you out by being so gossipy?   I don't want to keep you from your friend if you're sure she wouldn't take to local media and let everyone know?

I'm just worried about you, that's all.  Keep yourself safe.

Betty
I've never killed anyone, but I frequently get satisfaction reading the obituary notices.-Clarence Darrow

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Re: Girlie online friendship & support group
« Reply #12 on: April 12, 2015, 08:28:37 PM »
Hi Ladies,
Been reading this post and wanting to join in but one thing always led to another.

Lupetto, reading you post about your friend brought to my memory an experience I had a few years back. A close friend was also discussing HIV/AIDS with me and got to the point of saying "anyone who gets HIV/AIDS in the 21st century is very stupid and deserves to perish". I was shocked, because I fitted the description...I got infected in 2007. I tried to argue with him too about the rights of people living with HIV and he was adamant they should not even try to have kids or live a life because according to him they had nothing to offer to the kids.

I decided I will never disclose my status to him and I got very angry with him. I just learnt recently that his own sister was diagnosed with AIDS and he had a hard time accepting it. He finally accepted the diagnosis, and this has changed his perspective on people living with HIV/AIDS. He no longer thinks we are a bunch of stupid folks who deserve to perish. For this person to learn to accept positive people, it had to touch him on a personal level...his own beloved sister. Now he is her main care-giver, and he is no longer judgemental. Despite his experience and acceptance of people living with HIV I still don't feel the need to tell him about my life.

If you feel the need to tell your friend, do tell her. But only do it if you feel comfortable with the possible outcome: she could become even closer to you....or she could outright shun you. Personally, I made a decision a while ago that each time I disclose to someone, its someone I am ready to accept losing should they shun or reject me because of my status. So far, everyone I told has become even closer and more supportive. But I am at the point where I wont bother losing those who reject me because of my status. If they cant see pass a virus in my blood, then I don't need them anywhere near me. I am positive...and I need only positive-thinking people around me.

xoxo
Karry
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Offline BT65

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Re: Girlie online friendship & support group
« Reply #13 on: April 13, 2015, 08:58:35 AM »
Unfortunately, too many people only accept HIV when it touches their close personal circle, usually family. 

When I was a medical transcriptionist, one of the doctors I worked for was one of this area's first (of two) HIV doctors.  I remember reading all these horror stories of the patients, other than me and a couple others.  And what they went through.  I didn't feel disdain at all for these people, only sadness, and moreso because many of them became my close, personal friends.

When I tested positive and started building a network, which included many gay people, my mom, who was a religious fanatic all her life, basically totally changed from being judgmental to being accepting.  She even would invite my gay friends over for holidays when she knew their families wouldn't.  She got to know them as "people," not just "those people."  But, it took HIV touching her family.  Not that it would have done it any other way, I don't believe my mom even used to contemplate HIV when it was becoming a national issue. She was too up in years.

Thanks for this thread.  I hope we can continue to build.,  We're some badasses! Lol.

Betty
I've never killed anyone, but I frequently get satisfaction reading the obituary notices.-Clarence Darrow

Offline lupetto

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Re: Girlie online friendship & support group
« Reply #14 on: April 14, 2015, 01:01:32 PM »
Hey girls!

Karry, nice that you joined us! :) And thanks to you both for your thoughts and listening to me vent. This is a tricky thing, I guess. I trust my friend and I've known her all my life. In the past years we have got even closer and can share so many things. Part of me believes she would change her mind if she knew about my status; I mean she would accept me and learn more about HIV. But then again I'm questioning this and wondering what would happen. I can't imagine she would cut me out of her life but maybe she would view me differently. I guess my biggest fear is she would freak out about me, be scared. I suppose I need to be stronger and more sure about myself before I tell her. I think her initial reaction might be hard for me to face. I feel the need to tell some of my friends/family but I guess this particular friend won't be the one I start with.

I guess we overcome our prejudice only when it hits close enough. Well, for some it does not happen even then. I lost one of my (then) best friends when I told her about my depression. Even still today when I think about it, it baffles me. It was really tough to face at the time and still saddens me but I'm over it now. My oldest brother on the other hand used to say the most horrible things about depressed people and I again tried to hide my condition from him and argue his views. Eventually I told him I was one of those people he so much despised and he was shocked but changed his mind pretty much immediately. We are now even closer.

If they cant see pass a virus in my blood, then I don't need them anywhere near me. I am positive...and I need only positive-thinking people around me.

I like the way you put it, Karry. That's just what it is, a virus in the blood. Isn't it amazing that a simple thing like that can scare some people so much or based on that some like to judge the people!? :o Like the virus would affect how we are as people.

We're some badasses! Lol.

Hell yeah! 8)

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Re: Girlie online friendship & support group
« Reply #15 on: April 14, 2015, 09:13:13 PM »
Hello ladies!! It's very nice meeting you all. I'm new to the game haha. I am 22 andI was recently diagnosed last March. Honestly, I'm stupendous. I am still with the guy that I contracted this from and yes, I love him :D I focus on school soooo much it's in the back of my mind. I can't wait until this semester is over so I can let loose lol. Having this illness is the least of my worries. I live in Maryland if anyone else it out there!!

Offline BT65

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« Reply #16 on: April 17, 2015, 09:07:07 AM »
Hey Newbie!  Welcome to the mix.  I'm glad to read you're going to school.  I just completed my undergrad (bachelor's) about 6 or 7 years ago.  Then, I had gone all the way through a master's program in forensic psych, started writing my thesis, and fell and fractured my hip.  That was the end of that.  Anyway, school is good!

Also glad to read you're in a good relationship.  My first husband, who I got the virus from, died in '89.  If he were alive I don't know if I would be with him or not; but not because of the virus, he was a bad alcoholic.  I still love him, always will, just not in the way I used to.

I hope you find here the support you're looking for.  I actually live in Michigan, but have a niece who lives in Baltimore.  Good to hear from you!

Betty
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Re: Girlie online friendship & support group
« Reply #17 on: April 18, 2015, 10:44:10 PM »
Hello all,

Nice to this girl-to-girl solidarity here :) I've been poz since July 2014. my fiancée and I split right after the news. I couldn't handle his betrayal. Right after we broke up, he went back to his ex whom he got HIV from during our relationship (long story). I'm still confident I made the right decision breaking up with him, tho knowing having a new partner in the future would become extremely complicated.

I'm a college professor, 35 years old. Since testing poz, I pretty much became a workholic which has been the only thing that really keeps me going. My social relationships didn't change much. Nobody in my life knows my status. I feel comfortable this way although in different forums I've been reading different opinions about disclosure. I had one very bad disclosure experience which closed the door for me for now. loneliness doesn't bother me much at this point, yet I don't know what future holds. I still think I haven't really dealt with my dx besides taking my meds which I'm 100% comfortable with. I guess I'm just trying to live my life just as it was before, thinking everything is fine as long as I don't get sick. not sure this is a healthy approach...

Regardless, I really appreciate the support here and I definitely agree that online support much easier and more comfortable...as suggested, I think it would be nice to turn this into a regular posting every day/week.

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« Reply #18 on: April 21, 2015, 12:15:03 PM »
Hello Ladies!

I want to thank all of you beautiful women who  inspire and encourage me each day by reading your post.  I've been reading the post on the various forums since my dx 3/19/2012. 
But it's because of this forum and this sisterhood thread that motivated me to do so today. My journey has been rough, but God has brought me from a might long way.
It was a blow that made my knees buckle when I found out that I was poz and  when my labs came back to find out I had Aids (CD4 134) my body gave way and I found myself face down on the floor.

I believe that I contracted the virus from my husband because we got married in June 2009 and I got sick the first week of January. I thought it was the flu so I self medicated myself with some over the counter medicine and returned back to work a week later. I was angry at him and myself for allowing this to happen. Because I was so naive. I met him in the church and I asked him when was the last time he was tested for STD'S and he told me years ago but he has been abstinent since then.  I wanted to keep my marriage together because I truly wanted us to grow old together and live to see our Grandchildren and even our Great Grandchildren.

So I went into survival mode, (fight or flee) I chose to fight because I have three children and siblings who I love too much. Because no matter what you are going through it's never going to be about you.

I thank God because he's been fighting my battles for me. I starting taking my meds faithfully, never been sick and been UD since 2012!
My husband left the marriage 10/14 but that's ok because A man's rejection is God's protection!
I am truly at peace in my mind and home!  I don't fear death, I fear not living life to the fullest!

Ladies I pray that I will live to see a cure. But the saving grace is that we can still live a full life!
We can still get married, have children, continue our education. Life is what you make it.

Our days was numbered before we were knitted in our mother's womb and this virus is not going to add or subtract from them!

Peace & Blessings!

Offline lupetto

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« Reply #19 on: April 22, 2015, 03:58:22 AM »
Nice to see so many new lovely ladies joining us here. :) I'm so glad we can have this thread among all the other great ones and support each other when needed and share some laughs and tears along the way. I've been away from home for few days and missed all the action here ;D I had lovely time with some of my friends that I don't get to see so often, now I feel like I've been given an energy boost and am so happy of being reminded how great people I have in my life.

Newbie, I love hearing how great things are for you! I try to follow your example and get motivated with school again. I have had such a hard time finishing my studies but I really want to get it done. Work just takes a lot of time and energy and something in my head keeps me from getting into my books etc again. But I try harder, I promise! ;D

Weber, I relate to so many things you are saying! I also ended a bad relationship and never regretted it. Being by myself is so much better than being in a bad relationship. I hope one day I'll meet someone great and can have all those things I once dreamed of though right now I'm pretty happy about being single. I haven't disclosed to anyone in my life either but unlike you I'm not very comfortable with that. I think that might change soon, I could tell someone about the infection. Well, I've been living with this for years already and it's starting to bother me to keep it a secret. My way of handling the diagnosis has been very similar to yours. I also turned to work and studies after my diagnosis and that kept me going. For long time I didn't really think about HIV at all, just took the meds and was happy for being healthy. I still don't know what it means to deal with it but I now am trying to figure out what it all means for me. A slow process, I guess.

03, welcome to the forums! I'm glad to hear you are doing better after some hard times, good that you are UD and healthy! And sorry for the end of your marriage but it's good that you are dealing so well with it. I don't personally wait for a cure but I wish there would be an end to new infections. And I agree with you, life is what we make it.

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« Reply #20 on: April 22, 2015, 11:11:36 AM »
Awesome thread.
Thanks Weber and 03 for sharing your stories. It makes me angry at times to see how this virus came in and disrupted our lives, but reading testimonies from all you powerful ladies makes me gain comfort in your ability to move on despite all the havoc caused by HIV in your lives.

Often I stop to think what my life would have been like without HIV.....but then I quickly pull myself from that dream and focus on the present. For me its been 8 years since diagnosis, and I finally came to terms with my life in the last two years or so. The first six years were not the easiest.

Like you, 03, I am a believer. And I draw a lot of strength, hope and positivity from my faith. It keeps me going when all else seems to be letting me down.

These last weeks I am in a place of mixed feelings: fear and hope. I have been with my partner for over five years now and we want a baby so much. We had some fertility issues, but last year I conceived twice, and unfortunately lost the babies. I am once again pregnant...and scared. As much as I dream of having this baby, I am so scared because of my previous miscarriages and the fact that I am currently on pain meds for my leg.

Anyways, enough ranting.
xoxoxo
K.
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« Reply #21 on: April 22, 2015, 01:43:33 PM »
Karry, I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriages. But congratulations on your pregnancy, I really hope it will all go well for you and your partner. How far is your pregnancy now? I can imagine how scary it is after everything you've been through but I truly wish the best for you!! (((hugs)))

I sometimes wonder how my life would be without HIV too but then again realise that my life isn't like this because of HIV, there is so much more that has happened and made my life and me the way it is now. I don't really get mad at the virus for changing my life, I get mad at myself for letting the virus affect my life in so many ways. Before my infection I always thought I would meet a great guy and start a family, I never even doubted that it wouldn't happen. After the infection, I kind of shut down for a long time and the idea of a relationship seemed like very distant and I had so mixed feelings about having children too. I'm sad and disappointed in myself that I have not lived my life to the fullest and kind of "wasted" the years of my youth but I can't change that anymore. Now I try to focus on the today and future. Having a relationship and children doesn't seem impossible anymore (like it did few years ago) but they still scare the hell out of me sometimes. But that's not because of HIV, it's the other issues I'm dealing with.

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Re: Girlie online friendship & support group
« Reply #22 on: Yesterday at 08:44:30 AM »
Hello ladies! I so needed to read this. I've been absent for a while but it's nice to return to such positivity. Thank you lupetto for your post. I have to constantly remind myself that HIV doesn't exempt me from all the good life has to offer. It's still, after 8 years from being diagnosed, a daily struggle.

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Re: Girlie online friendship & support group
« Reply #23 on: Today at 12:24:26 AM »
Lupetto, I couldn't have expressed it any better! I kinda don't know what it means to deal with HIV either. I felt numb when I heard I had it, broke up with my fiancé, but since then life just goes on. So vivyt when you say "daily struggle" I can't quite relate to it. I don't feel like struggling. Did I just quickly accept it or am I in denial I can't tell :) lol...do I sound weird? Am I supposed to have bigger reactions to my condition? I'd like to hear from more experienced members.

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Re: Girlie online friendship & support group
« Reply #24 on: Today at 08:27:41 AM »
Weber, I think what I meant by daily struggle is that I use the HIV to hold me back. I forget I have it but then when I think about putting myself out there, dating, I remember and put that wall back up. Does that make sense?  :)

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Re: Girlie online friendship & support group
« Reply #25 on: Today at 09:09:05 PM »
Vivyt, yes gotcha. You meant specifically struggling in the dating scene. I thought you meant more broader sense of the term like psychologically: stressing out, feeling down or isolated etc.

 


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