Thanks so much for your replies.
To Ted: I am sorry to hear that you went down the same route I did by not finding out till you were really far down the rabbit hole..
We were both in the same boat i guess because I was pretty dam close to death myself.
And YES it really does mess with your head… I think about it all the time ..
Its one of the reasons why I quit drinking… Depression got so bad and suicide started to look pretty good to me..
I am very happy to hear that you quit smoking.. It's one of the hardest battles i am still dealing with ..As you know first hand Pneumonia is no joke and and don't ever want to be there ever again..
It's nice to hear that it may be overkill to take PrEP if monogamous ..
We have been monogamous in our past relationship and have all plans to do so .. So again this is really nice to hear..
As far as I can say I am pretty healthy now… I take my meds everyday and am seeing the results working well..
Thanks for your reply.
I did the homework.. I copy and pasted your Bold text sentence to google search and stared to read a few of the websites that were on the first page…
It is really nice to know how low the risk is with oral sex.. The fact that there is still a chance makes me nervous mostly for my partners comfort..And how he feels about that.. we are still in the talking phase of getting back together and haven't discussed SEX yet,But I am sure you guys will hear many questions from me before we do..
Thank you for telling me that i don't need to be sorry.. I do feel a bit like a dick for waiting this long to post on this site... from both of your replies i am glad that I did though..
Anyway thanks again..