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« Last post by littlelamb on Yesterday at 03:32:48 PM »
alright now the tough part...getting over and it and carrying on....i really dont have to test for this and this is medical advice correct? so how do i get this out of my head?
Your symptoms have nothing to do with HIV as you never had a risk.
« Last post by Joe K on Yesterday at 03:29:10 PM »
As Jeff told you, you have not had any risk. HIV needs certain cells to latch onto, cells that are NOT found on the fingers. You do not need to test over this incident.
« Last post by littlelamb on Yesterday at 03:28:58 PM »
and the TIMING of my symptoms....and the symptoms themselves....this does not sound like seroconversion? dry throat etc.
thanks for the reply and help Joe....much appreciated...
You can relax as you never had a risk. A small cut, does not represent a risk, no matter what you are doing. Kissing, masturbation and grinding are not a risk for infection. Oral sex is also not a risk for infection. HIV is a very fragile virus. Its outer surface becomes damaged, immediately when leaving the host; where changes in temperature, pH and moisture levels, alter the HIV outer surface, rendering it unable to infect. The mouth is another barrier, as it protects us from pathogens that we encounter daily and it contains over a dozen proteins and enzymes that alter HIV, leaving it unable to infect.
There have been no fewer than three separate serodiscordant couples studies (where one person is HIV positive, the other negative.) These couples were tracked for three. five and ten years. The couples used condoms for penetrative vaginal and anal sex, but NO BARRIER at all for oral sex. Any kind of oral sex.
These studies yielded NO infections.
You have not had any risk and you do not need to test over this incident.
« Last post by Daffodil on Yesterday at 03:24:14 PM »
Hi, I rarely come here as mostly I deal with hiv on my own and it causes me few problems, although I find great comfort here when I need to feel how others are coping with this and am really grateful that it exists. Only 2 friends know about my situation, but it's not really discussed because it doesn't really affect my daily life. It seems that I may be a controller and therefore will hopefully not have to take meds, so other than the twice a year bloods followed by the twice a year doctor (free as I'm in the UK) I largely ignore it, and count myself one of the lucky ones (if you have to have this virus...) I got it from my husband, now ex, who seemed to think that working away for long periods of time allowed him to have sex outside of what I had thought was a happy marriage.
I have a great team at the hospital and normally everything goes to plan. Today however there was a mix up over days and the specialist nurse, my rock, bordering on friend, who I have known from Day 1 (6 years ago) wasn't there. I decided to wait for someone else but there is an issue with timing for bloods to leave with the van, finding someone who could look at my notes, and not wanting to speak to the staff about my problem in front of the other people there, who were largely young people, (I am in my 50s), possibly friends of my children, there for the "drop in" session, some who were laughing together about the sexual antics that had caused them to be there in the first place.
Which leads to how I feel about how the person who gave it to me. Normally I am ambivilent about him. I don't hate him, the hiv wasn't the only reason we separated in the end, and I feel that being angry all the time won't change anything and is wasted energy. As I said, being a controller and in the UK, and having found a neg and lovely partner, I know I am much luckier than many people in the world.
Today though the anger came through from nowhere and with a vengeance. I spent 45 minutes in the waiting room with a lot of people who by their own admission were there because of their own actions (and I'm not judging) and I feel so angry that because he had no self control I now have to walk down the long corridor with the signs marked "Sexual Health" and in through that door. I feel humiliated, I live in constant fear that I will bump into people I know (the hospital is local), I can't even bring myself to speak to the reception staff about my situation. I hate it. I hate it so much. I have to lie to my friends at work about where I'm going, and I hate that too. If he had to had sex why couldn't he have done the responsible thing and used a condom? In the end I couldn't wait any longer, I made my excuses and made it back to my car before dissolving into huge, gasping tears until I could barely breathe, just thinking how much I hate, hate, hate what he's done to me. I went between hating him and just hating what he's done, and I sat in that car park and howled. I wanted to call him right then and just say, this is what you've reduced me to. I have to make excuses to friends in my life, I have to wear long sleeves in the summer which looks wierd, to cover the bruises if bloods have been difficult, I have to make sure I have removed the little round plaster in case my inquisitive children ask what that was for and then have to lie again. I am not a liar, and he has turned me into one. While I don't think it effects me I do think that it is in the background. I have to hide the condoms that my partner and I use in case my children spot them - why would a post menapausal women in a steady relationsihip use condoms? And then there is the condoms themselves - a necessary evil but I hate them too. We never used them during our marriage, but I have been condemned to using them now, as has my very understanding partner, but my husband took away the spontiniety of sex. I feel that he has caused some of my vibrancy to be hidden by the constant subconciousness of watching what I say and do. So I don't hate him as such, even while I was howling in my car, but I absolutely, totally hate what he has done to me through selfishness. So actually, maybe today I do hate a bit of him.
« Last post by Andy Velez on Yesterday at 03:09:14 PM »
Puede usar cualquier prueba especificamente por el VIH cuando probando a 3 meses. Con su resultado negativo creo que su resultado a 3 meses sera conclusivamente negativo.
Paciencia por algunas semanas mas...
« Last post by Elsarnawy on Yesterday at 03:08:47 PM »
Even this wound is big and fresh the wound is really half centimeter Cycle in my Finger and it was so fresh
And your answer tells me that i must Not make Test
Am i right
El pasado viernes 24 de julio tuvo sexo con una prostituta, no se si se podría decir que fue sexo protegido porque efectivamente si use condon pero el condon era de calidad sospechosa, lo que si me da algo de esperanzas es que cuando acabe note que el semen quedo en la punta del condon colgando por lo que eso significaría que no se rompió ¿verdad?
El problema es que ella me saco el condon con una de esas toalllitas desinfectantes pero me limpio un poco la punta del pene con la misma ¿puede ser que haya tenido contacto la cabeza de mi pene con los fluidos vaginales que habían sobre el condon que quedaron en esa toallita?
Estoy preocupado porque he tenido síntomas bastantes raros, por ejemplo el sábado en la mañana empece a sentir un calor intenso en mi pene y testiculos y luego tuve una fiebre intensa y empece a sudar por mis axilas. Durante esa misma tarde empece a sentir una ligera molestia muscular en mi abdomen como si hubiera hecho abdominales.
El mismo dolor abdominal del sábado me siguió sucediendo durante el domingo, ademas empece a sentir calor en mi nalga izquierda que después paso a toda mi pierna. A la vez noté ese mismo día que tenia heces blandas y de color claro y sentía un dolor constante debajo de mi esternón.
Hoy día lunes he empezado a sentir debilidad, ligero calor y tensión en ambas piernas. También note que tengo una mancha roja en la punta del pene y en el costado.
« Last post by littlelamb on Yesterday at 03:05:46 PM »
I have been reading a few posts here and wanted to share mine and see if I can gain some insight into my situation.
2 gay males....the risk was very low....Kissing, Mutual Masturbation, some very light grazing of his penis around my ass but not IN my ass...He gave me oral and he came I never did. He says he's fine and has had few partners but this is where my head got spinning....so the night after I was with him i noticed a tiny cut about half the size of a nickel and I kept thinking what if I had that cut and it was slightly open when i was jacking him off and what if he precum got into that cut....I know it sounds so crazy but I am sure you have all heard it before...
Exactly 2 weeks to the day I got a sore throat, it went away for a day then i got a bunch of nasal stuff going on and very congested...all clear but towards the end it got all thick and green and it just seemed like a reg cold. took about a week to beat it. no meds needed. Occasional light cough to hack up phlegm (gross I know sorry) dry throat too but I know may anxiety could be causing this. So heres some other strange things to have happened....I was carrying a huge bag with very heavy stuff over my shoulder and got a HUGE bruise...very strange that I bruised from this but whats even more strange (but on my side) is that it healed very fast (about 4 days and its nearly gone now).....
Yesterday morning I woke up and was in a rush and decided to take some advil and cold pills (2) to decongest me and ran to catch my bus and closed my eyes and when I woke up I was SOOOOOOOOO dizzy, lightheaded....it lasted about a half hour or so...It was very scary. But maybe just maybe thats connected to the fact that I didnt eat and that im a huge stress ball as you can tell in this post....
Alright, give it to me...what are my chances?
Do I need to get a test? I know i was at a very low risk but its my symptoms that are driving my fear and the TIMING of it....in the two week window....I know too much I know...
And is it true that a small cut is not a risk cause a) the blood would be pouring out and b) it heals from the inside automatically therefore no access to my blood stream? and is it true that hiv needs to latch on to certain cells which apparently cannot be found on your hand/wrist??? fyi i did not see any blood nor feel any pain or anything weird when i was jacking him off...
Please some of you please share your thoughts.
Hoping for a good outcome!!
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