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Living With HIV / Re: Should I Disclose?
« Last post by tarantula on Today at 05:14:17 PM »
I was not asking ethical aspects of it but thanks, anyway.
Questions About Treatment & Side Effects / Tinnitus and ARVs?
« Last post by awakening on Today at 04:51:10 PM »
Over the past months since I've started ARV therapy I've had increasing tinnitus. Are there known connections between these type of drugs and tinnitus?
Living With HIV / Re: Should I Disclose?
« Last post by zach on Today at 04:25:15 PM »
your first post here and that's what you have to say?

i'm with lightfighter on this, 100%
Living With HIV / Re: Should I Disclose?
« Last post by Lightfighter on Today at 04:11:11 PM »
No thin skins with me.

In my opinion it is a complete disregard for the other person to not disclose. Whether or not you can transmit, or you practice safe sex is a moot point. Ethically, again, in my opinion you owe it to him to let him know full and well what he is agreeing to.

To say that you're scared he will not talk to you again is a cowards way of rationalizing why you don't tell him. By saying that, you are being selfish and very self serving. If I were in his shoes and I found out through someone else I would never speak to you again. I can't stand I liar. If you disclosed at the current point in this relationship I might consider continuing it, also I might not. The longer you wait, the worse it will be.

You talked about someone passed it on to a partner deliberately and the law was involved. You're not concerned because you practice safe sex. Where I live going off of that premise will get you a minimum of 5 years in prison; safe sex or not since you didn't inform the person of your status.

Again, I'm not being a dick man. It's just my perspective and some context for your situation.


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Living With HIV / Re: Should I Disclose?
« Last post by tarantula on Today at 03:25:29 PM »
Hi, Ptrk3thanks for your response and action about my post.

My viral load became undetectable one month after I started to take my medicine despite a high viral load(309000 copy/ml). By the way, I was practicing safe sex during anal penetration even before I got infected. I used to check condom during and after sex in case of breakage. Despite this, here is the result... Therefore, I suspect that I contracted HIV through oral sex because my gum was extremely sore for a few months and I kept having sex during that time.

As for our relationship, my viral load is undetectable and my oral hygiene is good now. Before we met, we were chatting online and he asked me whether I use condom and added that "Hiv is spreading really fast in this city". I felt speechless and just said "Oh yeah, everyone should be careful about it and I definetely use condom". I guess he is well aware of STDs and how they are transmitted. However, I feel so dreadful that I might lose him forever If I disclose my status to him :( I pray that no romantic releationship arises between us but I cannot change it if it happens :/

In my country, there is no certain law  regarding HIV-related crimes but I know that it is illegal to put someone's health at risk on purpose. Also, a guy was arrested a couple of years ago becuase he was accused of transmitting HIV to his partner on purpose. I don't feel doubtful in terms of legal regulations because we practiced safe sex. I didn't even let him give me blowjob. I was the receiver and know that the probability of infecting someone by sucking his penis is considered to be almost 0.

My only concern is his presumable bad reaction when I admit I am an HIV+ guy. On the other hand, he is having sex with numerous guys and this sometimes make me feel encouraged to say my status to him. The reason is that as he has sex with many guys, he should assume that he might be having sex with many HIV+ guys  and I'm just one of them disclosing it :))

I have a lot of time to reach a final decision for now but I can't get it out of my head. I hope I will make the right decision when the time comes...
haha thanks CaveyUK, i just swallowed a triumeq and I will request a new receipt on Monday.

yes it will happen at some point and lets just let it happen now. i did not wait i just did not give the doctor the answer straight away, espcially he recommended to wait for sometime while i want to start earlier. and i swear 2 you the comeback of the virus doesnt feel good...
if I want to keep the virus surpressed?? yes yes yes
my virus right before the treatment was 88000 so i am certainly not a natural surpressor...that was the false idea before i started party drug use and that was in 2014.

well i really hope it will work out this time... till end  this  year, no joint no drugs no alcohol...keeping you guys updated.
Once more thank you all for your answers and advice.
I am not sure whether it is true but I ve heared that HIV people are more susceptible for cancers. And I got panicked if someone may have already started in my body since it was not treated for such a long time -   due my unawarness . On the other hand I had my blood and urine checked regularly as well and it was always good.

I am a bit freaked also because before treatment when I had privately abdominal ultrasound checked they lady has found 'somewhat' in my kidneys, however when double checked when already on treamtment in the hospital the guy has found nothing and said everything is ok, also as per my urine tests the DOC said that kidneys are fine.

In general I ve already been hypohondric and obssessed with health issues , so all of this is double hard for me :/

Really thanks for your patience and understanding.
I have to agree with CaveyUK.

You are on treatment and have no reason to panic.

Am I Infected? / Re: Risk Assessment
« Last post by Ptrk3 on Today at 01:49:00 PM »
The hospital personnel was correct in not prescribing PEP to you.  Protected anal intercourse is not a risk for HIV infection.

Receiving unprotected oral sex is not a realistic risk for HIV infection, since it has never been documented to have occurred (you won't be the first).

Giving oral sex is a theoretical risk only, and would require you to have gaping wounds in your mouth, so it is a virtually impossible mode of HIV transmission.

However, other STD's/STI's can be transmitted via unprotected oral sex.

You had no risk, so you don't need PEP.
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