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Someone I Care About Has HIV / Re: Serodiscordant Couples?
« Last post by chicago219 on Yesterday at 10:25:33 PM »
I can't tell you how happy I am to find this thread. I have been looking for someone to talk to who will understand. I am a negative female with a positive male
We will be celebrating our 8 year anniversary in july. He was diagnosed almost 3 years ago. We didn't know he had it till he had full blown aids and they didn't think he would make it out of the hospital. I got tested a week after he was put in the hospital. We were there a month.
When I first found out I was negative I was so relieved. We had been having unprotected sex for 5 years sometimes multiple times a day. I'm not going to lie I thought about leaving. I honestly find it hard to believe people when they say they never considered it. Obviously we were having other problems too, but mostly I am almost 30 and have no kids and his diagnosis came about a month after we decided it was time to try.
All I could think was there goes my chances of ever being a mom.
We didn't have sex for almost a full year after his diagnosis. We were scared and thinking about the fact that it could kill me ruined the urge for both of us.  The first time we did he went so slow and carefully like the condom was made of tissue lol. However things are good again.  He's undetectable. We use coitus interrupted. Yes that carries risk but with him being undetectable, and me not getting it the first 5 years it seems low risk (not no risk!!) When he misses a doctors appointment or doesn't take his meds on time a few days in a row we go without or use protection.  My question is,  there anyone else on here who wants kids and doesn't have any? Do you feel cheated? Do you ever want to leave? How do you deal?
Wow this ended up being longer than I wanted lol. This has been building up since his diagnosis.  Does anyone else feel there's not enough resources for the partner?
Also he won't talk about it ever!! He never shows emotion about it. Even when he was diagnosed he just said ok..it is what it is.  When I bring up my fears he either makes it sound like I'm a crazy person for thinking about death and or infection, or gets mad and says "then maybe you should go" I know that is not what he wants but it hurts. Sorry about the length. I look forward to having someone who understands

Hi there,

This is quite interesting and very well.  I am same situation and working to get baby. I got dating with my wife 14 years ago. I am poz and she is negative. When i stated dating with her i did not know my status and later on i found out that i m positive. That time she wanted to get married with me but how can i tell my status. It is very difficult to tell anyone in my community or relative. I took eight months to inform and  i used many different ways to tell about my status. I was afraid that if i tell her my status then she would tell to anybody. but she didnot. May be i was worry about it a lot. But finally she decided to get married with me. On that time i told her that we won't have child cuz of my status. she said as long as we together, she will be fine with that. But today it is different story. We are working on for having kids.

Now i am coming to your main point about having kids. It is absolutely fine having kids for serodiscordant couples. There are some steps that you have to go through. Now a days there are many mads and option available about it. And so far i know one couple who had gone through this process and their child is (-) and mom too (-).

IF you really want to know about this process then let me know. I can go over with that.
Living With HIV / Re: the look
« Last post by Jmarksto on Yesterday at 09:42:16 PM »
I would feel angry and manipulated if a friend or relative set me up this way, telling me they had a serious illness so they could use my emotional reaction as part of their art project.

I must be the odd man out on this one -- as I understand it the photographer's disclosure was real.  I am sure he thought quite a bit about how to tell his friends and family and was genuinely concerned about the reaction.  It is natural for any artist to express themselves through their art during the process and this was his way.  These portraits are very moving - I am sure they mean alot to him personally, and they have a strong social statement about disclosure (perhaps of any disease).
Am I Infected? / Re: HIV positive cousin and mosquito, plus discarded needle
« Last post by Jeff G on Yesterday at 09:29:39 PM »
You seem to have a running theme of being fearful of needle stick injury's . You have been advised already in this thread on the subject so please read it again . You are imaging things and no one is trying to inject you with HIV . Please get some help for your HIV phobia as we can not help you with that  . 

We are not going to play into your what if I was injected fear . You can discuss it with your therapist or doctor .
Off Topic Forum / Re: A Little Piss Never Hurt Anyone
« Last post by Jmarksto on Yesterday at 09:28:15 PM »
I will say that DanO just moved to Portland and within a week we have this...I don't know if there is a connection, just sayin.

Ok, the reservoir in question is just MERE blocks from my house (no, it wasn't me).  Those reservoirs have been there for over 100 years and are in an urban park. You can only imagine what has gone on in them over the years - some time ago they caught two people skinny dipping in there. 

This issue is getting significantly more press because there is currently a campaign to remove the water bureau from a particular city councillor's control and the opposition is making a big deal about the decision to flush, but then again they would have made a big deal about the decision if they didn't flush.  The politicians need to either inflame or defend themselves, the local press can't help themselves with this kind of stuff, and you all get the over spray.   

Living With HIV / Re: the look
« Last post by thunter34 on Yesterday at 09:06:50 PM »
Slight digression, but its lovely the energy coming from your posts Zack

This is exactly what I happened to say just yesterday - kid's got energy coming off him.

Good to see, er...hear, er....read.  Whatever.
Am I Infected? / Re: HIV positive cousin and mosquito, plus discarded needle
« Last post by RapidRod on Yesterday at 08:56:19 PM »
◾Please do not start a new thread every time you have another question or thought - regardless if you think your questions are related to each other or not. It helps us to help you when you keep all your thoughts or questions in one thread and it helps other readers to follow the discussion. Additional threads will be merged.

◾If you cannot find your thread, click on the "Show own posts" link in the left-hand column of any forum page, under your name.

Hi all,

I was grocery shopping the on Saturday, as I looked at the food on the aisle... I suddenly felt a small sting just above left butt cheek and upon turning around noticed a man standing right behind me. I felt the area where it stung and i felt a very small raised dot (needle mark?). I am not sure if a needle poke will cause a very small bump almost like a blackhead or very small pimple?

I know there are a lot of what ifs in this story but I would like some clarity on the situation as testing may be warranted?

If the person was HIV positive.
If that person did poke me with a needle.
If that needle was just used by him moments earlier.

I have read comments here about this sort of thing being an urban myth, but I can assure you having read the Metro (UK paper) a few months ago there was a report about a man who was randomly poking women in Birmingham with a needle.

So what are the chances of infection considering all the what ifs actually are true?

Living With HIV / Re: IT JUST AMAZES ME...
« Last post by Jmarksto on Yesterday at 08:42:37 PM »
Hey deprived;  I agree that PPE should be worn.

Regarding disclosing to the dentist...shortly after testing positive I had a conversation with my doc about when and how to disclose in other medical settings - and expressed some hesitation.  He offered to refer me to providers that he knew would have experience with other positive patients.  He referred me to my current dentist who is great - in my first appointment he explained the importance of oral health and in particular screening for cancers, etc.   I hadn't had a dentist be that comprehensive and communicative before.
Off Topic Forum / Re: Happy Easter weekend everybody
« Last post by mikeyb39 on Yesterday at 08:42:21 PM »

After church I plan to have an afternoon Grindr marathon session.


I will be waiting for the details.
Living With HIV / Re: pregnant and have questions about starting meds
« Last post by mikeyb39 on Yesterday at 08:33:50 PM »
Congrats on your Pregnancy!  I don't know much about it, but I was reading in below article.  It looks as though if you have viral suppression then its better to cut the risk of transmission even more.

I'm sure you have read stuff like this, but I will copy the link I was looking at.

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