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HIV Prevention and Testing => Do I Have HIV? => Topic started by: heartlessNhurt on January 20, 2009, 01:16:41 pm
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:'( Ok heres my story im married i cheated 3 time 2 different guys no protection. the first guy 2 times and the second guy once n he ejaculated in me.Ok i took an hiv test 2 weeks and 2 days later it was negative.Im really afraid of the 3 month test im so sorry for what i did.Its been about 10 weeks .I have been having joint pain for over a month now .i keep getting a soar throat worse in the night.Ive had what they call a cluster headache for over 2 months :-\ It seems like it doesnt go away .I spoke to both guys they say there clean ??? .Oh and 8 days later post exp my stomach was sick for a month .my husband got a flu for 3 days.What is any1 comments please?!
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You put yourself at risk of contracting HIV from having unprotected sex. Get your 3 month post exposure test and that test will be conclusive. None of your symptoms are indicative of ARS.
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Thank ..is it still a risk if both of those guys were clean?
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Clean? I'm very clean but have AIDS. It's very insulting to use the word clean when referencing those that have HIV as being dirty. You don't take anyone for their word on their status. Had you used a condom you wouldn't be here today asking these questions. Get your conclusive test and be done with it.
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>:(Sorry i didnt mean to call it like that i meant hiv negative.
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For future reference you can have anal sex in either role however often you want to and with whomever you want to. But to protect your health (and theirs) you need to do it the safer way which means always without exception the insertive partner needs to be wearing a latex condom. No exceptions.
Condoms provide very effective protection. And intercourse without them is very high risk behavior.
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Thank you andy it was vanginal im a woman.anywho what is your take on my situation?Im really scared about the second test in another 3 weeks
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heartless,
Mercy on your soul? Give me a break. Hiv isn't a judgement sent down from some invisible entity in the sky. Grow up!
You've had a risk. You need to test at three months past your last unprotected encounter. Praying to "god" won't help you - either you've been infected or you haven't. A test at three months will let you know.
Ann
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Ok you sound kind of bitter but heaven is real .And i pray for forgiveness because i cheated ok why do doctors recommend test at two weeks?
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heartless,
I'm not bitter. You're the one who cheated and has the burden of guilt. Not my problem.
I don't know of any doctors who recommend testing at two weeks. Six weeks is the earliest you can test. The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, but a six week negative must be confirmed at three months.
Heaven may or may not be real. However, the science of hiv is indisputable. Only testing at the proper time will reliably reveal your hiv status.
Ann
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Can one get hiv just by having sex with 2 different people ?
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Heartless,
One can become infected by having ONE incident of UPROTECTED intercourse with ONE person. It only takes once, especially if you're the one who is being cum into.
I hope you come out of this ok and learn to insist on condoms.
To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.
Wise up.
Ann
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Sorry...what do you think about my situation Andy?
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After having had unprotected intercourse the only way to accurately know your HIV status is by getting tested.
The CDC recommends doing that at 13 weeks for a definitive result. Everything else is just guesswork and HIV status is never something to guess about.
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So as long as a condom is used properly there is no risk right .Say i have an sex with a condom its ok?
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A condom used correctly and consistently prevents HIV transmission.
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A latex condom worn properly provides very effective protection against HIV transmission.
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A latex condom worn properly provides very effective protection against HIV transmission.
Or the use of polyurethane condoms.
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Thank you all for the advice..but if thats true how come people on here say they used condoms and still got infected also ..does tingling have to do with hiv?
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Whoever said that they used a condom consistently and correctly are liars that's all there is to it.
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We can't account for what people say about what they did or didn't do. Sometimes it's faulty memory for various reasons and sometimes it's shame over having had unprotected intercourse.
What we do know for sure, as many studies have proven through the years, is that anyone who uses condoms consistently and properly is well protected against HIV transmission.
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ok let say i was those two guys in the saME time frame ok and that they are hiv negative.Can you still get hiv Because i was with them?
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No, let's NOT say that. We're not here to play speculative games with you. We evaluate real situations with the information that we get and give a reply.
You're getting awfully close to receiving a Time Out here.
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Anyways..I am coming up to my 13week mark in 3 weeks how do i prepare for the test and the results.?
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That's one test that no preparation is required.
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ok thank you ???
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if intercoarse took place again with a condom do i need to count 3 months from that exp.?
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Protected sex is just that protected. No you don't need to count from the protected sex, just from the unprotected sex.
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Thanks you for the advice rodney.But could u please tellme if tingling if an early sign of hiv?And can one get hiv jus by haveing unprotected even if the other one is hiv negative
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Tingling =stress and anxiety.
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Heartless,
And can one get hiv jus by haveing unprotected even if the other one is hiv negative
Once again you are showing your prejudice. Hiv isn't generated by simply having sex outside a relationship sanctioned by a religious or political entity. It's a virus, nothing more, nothing less.
You cannot become infected with hiv while having intercourse with a person who is hiv negative. It's not rocket science.
If you keep coming back with this time-wasting bullshit, you'll be timed out, regardless of being in a window period. Your time out will last until your window period is over.
And NO, I'm not joking.
Ann
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Does joint pain of hiv last longer then 2 months honestly ..how does everyone feel today
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If you keep coming back with this time-wasting bullshit, you'll be timed out, regardless of being in a window period. Your time out will last until your window period is over.
And NO, I'm not joking.
Ann
Last warning,..one more post and you will be timed out, and like Ann said..we are NOT joking.
Jan
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I had a question and i dont think its very hard to answerr me there no need to band me i just need toknow sorry
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Heartless,
How do I feel? I feel you're not listening to a single thing we say to you. We don't discuss symptoms here. You should know that by now.
You've been repeatedly told that the ONLY way to know your hiv status is through testing. You're nearly at the end of your window period. Keep productively busy until it's time for you to test and the time will go quicker than you can imagine.
Ann
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have a comment and questions about alefou...Sorry toask but its only right ..ok he stated that he's always had protected sex and hes positive how could this be.Is this true that condoms dont protect whats going on here
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Sexually transmitted diseases, including HIV
Latex condoms, when used consistently and correctly, are highly effective in
preventing transmission of HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. In addition, correct
and consistent use of latex condoms can reduce the risk of other sexually
transmitted diseases (STDs), including discharge and genital ulcer diseases.
While the effect of condoms in preventing human papillomavirus (HPV) infection
is unknown, condom use has been associated with a lower rate of cervical
cancer, an HPV-associated disease. Laboratory studies have demonstrated that latex condoms provide an essentially impermeable barrier to particles the size of STD pathogens.
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I just wanna ask what should i do right now..should i stay off computer and spend time with my babys while i am still happy...i test in 12 days im really afraid i find myself hypervenilating all the time wat doi do?
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I sincerely hope you're a more adult mother than the behavior you're indulging yourself in here implies.
Yes, you should stay off the computer! Do you really have any doubt about that? All it does is addictively feed your fears. Shame on you and all of your drama!
Hyperventilating? Get yourself a paper bag and breath into and out of until that stops. And stop all the drama. Take your baby for a walk. Get busy with other things and your waiting time will pass much more easily.
You've used up your time here and if you come back with another worried whatever before your test result, I can promise you that you will get a 28 day Time Out. No kidding.
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This is getting ridiculous, you are pushing the patience of the good people here, there is nothing we can say or do anymore..GET OFF the computer NOW, look after your family, (I hope you are at least capable of that) and wait for your test day..I/we don't want to see you back before you get those results...seriously.
Jan
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:'( OK ....you know what i wont be comeing back here with my results because already know i really am not getting any support from you all...All you say im just drama but wanting to be hiv negative is not drama especially if i have a family to live for...so i wont look for you all support ...!!!!!!
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You cheat on your husband 3 times and then tell us you are not getting the support you expect from us..not being judgemental here just really pissed that you had the audacity to say that.
Stay away that's fine, there are other's who need our support, aprreciate the time we give to them and actually listen to us...time to stand on your own two feet.
Jan
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Heartless,
We're calling it drama because it IS drama. You said, "wanting to be hiv negative is not drama especially if i have a family to live for..."
Do you realise you're talking to people who are positive and have families, children and grandchildren? We're still living for our families (as well as ourselves). We're still living and you will too - whether you test negative or positive. So cut the drama and get busy with your regular life until it's time to test.
Ann
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Hello all ..Hope your doing good...Well as most of you know its time to retest ..Im debating weither 93 days is enough time or should i wait till tommorow ...i dont know if this is hiv related ive been haveing sharp pain in my lower abdominal for almost 3 months now ?????????....thank you for your responses
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heartless,
93 days is more than thirteen weeks so test when you want to, it doesn't matter as any result now will be conclusive.
Sharp abdominal pain is nothing to do with hiv infection. Why have you been going around with pain like that for three whole months without seeing a doctor? Quit screwing around and go see a doctor for your physical problems. We cannot help you with that here.
Ann
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Thank you Ann.Wow its been more then 13 weeks i must have counted wrong because i thought 90 days is 12 week ..Ive been to the doctor she says its my stress i even have a abdominal scan everything was ok so i dont know ...trust me ive been there so many times in 3 months ,my medical bills are pileing up.ok i guess from what you say today is good to test ..i knowyou may think i derserve to be punished and i apologize for being this way
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heartless,
90 days is just under thirteen weeks. 90 divided by 7 = 12.86
Twelve weeks = 84 days.
93 days is just over thirteen weeks. 93 divided by 7 = 13.85
Thirteen weeks = 91 days.
Go test and get it over with.
Ann
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Thank you ..I just went and tested i will know the results when i go to my doctor on monday...I pray that i will be okay ??? :'(...I really have to ask this question is it normal to feel overheated when being active for awhile ?
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Andy sir very sorry for the pm..Well i just dont want to be banned from asking so many question i need this site ...I got kicked off of medhelp :-[ for argueing with someone..Anyways i just got my blood drawn on monday..Im going for the results in 6days ....As of now i have a cold sore on roof of my month and before that white bump on tongue then that one went away then another one appeared on tongue and after that the cold sore roof of mouth is this due to infection
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Just more stuff about symptoms even though you've been told repeatedly how meaningless that is in terms of knowing about HIV status.
You've a few days to wait for your result. We're not going to indulge you with talking back and forth about every sore, zit, pain, itch and other you experience between now and getting your test result. You need to get busy with other things in your life.
Otherwise I can tell you that if you continue to come back with more of the same you're going to get a 28 day time out.
Now, do yourself a big favor and get on to other things in your life.
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I wanna say thank you to all the people that gave me advice.Im very sorry if you felt i desrespected you.Well my test results came back NEGATIVE that was my 13 weeks test.I was very relieved but i still cant believe it .The reason being because my body has aches all the time and i cant stop the aches and body get really hot if im cleaning or something ..What should i do ?...Is this test conclusive?..Please help me thank you.
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Yes it was conclusive, now move along.
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Thank you Rodney..Ok this question is for anyone who has some knowledge of hep C...I called the hospital who did my test the first time and asked if they tested for hep and they said no...Should i get these test done..why didnt the doctor do this test ?..and if i got hep does that mean i need to test for hiv again..i keep getting a sore throat and i feel real hot sometimes please give me long advice thank you
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This is an HIV forum. You have a conclusive negatiive HIV test result. You want to know about HCV you discuss it with your doctor. Now move on.
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You need to discuss any symptoms that are bothering you with your doctor. This is an HIV-specific website and we cannot diagnose anything here.
What we can tell you AGAIN is you are conclusively and reliably HIV negative. Period. In the future you can protect that gift by always using a condom everytime you have vaginal or anal intercourse. NO EXCEPTIONS.
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Hey i confused about the lessons on oral sex is this a risk for transmission of hiv?
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From time to time there are reports of transmission of HIV gotten from giving sex orally. They never seem to old up under careful examination scientifically. On the other hand there are longterm studies of sero-discordant couples, both gay and straight, who have had lots of mutual unprotected oral and only protected vaginal and anal intercourse. Not one negative partner has become infected.
Good sense does dictate that if you have very poor oral care or a bleeding wound in your mouth that giving oral is not the thing to do.
Otherwise your saliva contains over a dozen elements which are very effective at preventing the transmission of viable HIV.
Give it a rest now here and get on with your life. Seriously.
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my situation is after testing 13 weeks negative...i gave oral to the same guy what is my risk of hiv..need to test again?
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heartless,
Did you bother reading what Andy wrote to you (reply #56)? If you did, you'd know that you don't need to test over oral.
As you saw fit to ignore my instructions to you to not PM people over questions you should be asking here in your thread, I've removed your PM privilege.
If you insist on going on about this blowjob, you'll be given a time out.
You will NOT be warned again!
Ann
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Wow.. Andy has some issues about compastion and respect... Wow.. to much ... I am out here... Ann I hope you do not have Children for you power play on this forum is most discerning in respect for people faith and questions and the red letters are truly most concerning ... and your words are full of angry and mis guided love. Now how do you like the pointing fingers at your soul...
Help and prayer this helps you work on peace, love and forgivness and I would suggest you see a theripist and that poz give you a time out.. ASAP
Peace.
Frederick Wright
Global Network of Positive People
GNP+USA
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Sorry Andy.. I ment to adress ANN.. for Andy seems to be the only centered moderator on the site...
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Wow.. Andy has some issues about compastion and respect... Wow.. to much ... I am out here... Ann I hope you do not have Children for you power play on this forum is most discerning in respect for people faith and questions and the red letters are truly most concerning ... and your words are full of angry and mis guided love. Now how do you like the pointing fingers at your soul...
Help and prayer this helps you work on peace, love and forgivness and I would suggest you see a theripist and that poz give you a time out.. ASAP
Peace.
Frederick Wright
Global Network of Positive People
GNP+USA
DO NOT POST IN THIS FORUM. PERIOD...
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Don't worry Rob.. this is misguided in my spirit... and hope compassion and kindness is in the teachings of the modrators in the future. Wow.. to much... I truly will never refer any one to this fourm.. for if you and ANN had the chance to get a hammer over this fourm, I think you would hit people over the head for channleging this Gang.
Wow to much
Peace
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FRedrick..why do you say the info is misleading ..are u sayin i do need to test ?
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MOVE ON. You already have a WARNING.
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Heartless, no you absolutely DO NOT need to test. Period. Frederick is not authorized to be responding in here and has been warned not to do so again in the future.
Now you need to get on with your life and stop indulging in a lot of unnecessary worry and drama about HIV when it is not an issue for you.
And you are going to get a Time Out for 28 days if you return again with this same groundless fear about HIV.
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Frederick, I have already warned you in one of the other threads. You are on the verge of getting either a time out or being banned totally from this site. Stay out of the I AM INFECTED Forum. Period.
I trust that is clear enough.
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the test results didnt help me relieve my fears..i still think somthing is wrong..Me and my hubby trying to conceive but i think its not safe because i keep getting a single cold sore on my tongue..i know all you have great knowledge of these kind of things im asking for you opinion because i cant find the answer to my question...It is is oral herpes a single cold sore on the tongue and it keeps coming back ..and does this mean i should not conceive?
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We deal specifically here with HIV. Period.
We don't diagnose symptoms of any kind. Instead of coming back here for something we aren't going to discuss with you, you need to be talking with your doctor(s) about your concern. If you do have herpes that has nothing to do with an ability to conceive and deliver a baby successfully.
You're HIV negative and that is happy thing. It also means you have no justification to continue returning here with your problems, whatever they may be.
Move on and good luck to you.