infection and passing on to relatives

[settingsun]

hi im 34 and live in the uk, i had a short relationship in august 2001 with a girl who i was lead to believe maybe a little promiscuous,since then i havent really thought about hiv or had any illness at all( only 1 day off work in the last 9 years lol), at this time i was lving with my parents for around a year and accidently could have shared my toothbrush or razor with my father, the reason this worries me a little is that since this time my paretns have both had a few illnesses, my father has had crohns disease had an operation in 2006 and doing fine now also it was discovered he had a fatty liver at the time of this ( although i belive crohns and fatty liver are connected) he also has just been told he has plantar fasilits and has to unergo some physio. My mother has approx 2 and half years ago been diagnosed with seronegative  of the knee and does complain of feeling tired very often i should add my paretns are both 52. do you think its possible i could have passed any infection with whats happend to them?


Thanks for taking the time to listen

[RapidRod]

Did you have unprotected sex with your parents?, because that is the only way they could be infected if you are infected.

[settingsun]

no rod of course not, i have just read on certain websites it is possible for transmission to occur this way, i was sceptical but thought id ask the question anyway as you seem very helpfull on this website

[settingsun]

one other thing my girlfriend of a year recenty had a throat infection which cleared up within 3-4 days taking antibiotics we have been having unprotected  sex for about 4 months, i did not get any symptoms despite kissing and close contact do you think this could be symptoms of ARS?

Thanks again this will be my last question

[Ann]

sun,

The ONLY way to know your hiv status is by testing. We do not discuss symptoms here because they are meaningless when it comes to diagnosing hiv infection. ONLY testing will reveal your hiv status. As you have been having unprotected intercourse with people of unknown hiv status, you need to test at three months past your last unprotected encounter for a reliable conclusive result.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann

[settingsun]

Aside from hiv would it be possible to kiss someone with a throat infection and not get it?

[Ann]

Sun,

We will not speculate on such things.

The bottom line in your case is that you have put yourself at risk for hiv infection by having unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse. As the insertive partner, the chance of you being hiv positive is quite low, but you still need to test.

We will not permit you to use this website to try to get out of testing. You need to test, no ands, ifs or buts about it. It's what responsible, sexually active adults do.

Now go test and get it over with. You have a very good chance of testing negative, but the ONLY way to accurately know your hiv status is to test. Go do it.

And by the way, even if you do test positive, you will not have passed it on to your family unless, as Rodney said, you have been having unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse with your family members. The ONLY risky thing you have mentioned in your posts has been the unprotected intercourse.

Ann