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Title: Rough Seas - Update
Post by: AlanBama on October 17, 2006, 09:55:54 pm
This is a tough post for me to make, but I feel like I am ready to make it, so here goes:

Some of you may recall that I met someone special earlier this year.  I made some posts about our first dates, and how Fang the cat was behaving around him. We have become extremely close over the past 3 to 4 months.  Like me, he has a 20+ year history with HIV, and the myriad of health issues that entails.   Two weeks ago, I took him to have eye surgery at the Eye Foudation Hospital in Birmingham; it was to be a "routine" procedure, removal of a melanosis on his left eye.  Local anesthesia only, no big deal....or so we thought.   Last Friday, we received the biopsy report.   He has malignant ocular melanoma.

Tomorrow, he sees a trio of specialists, an Oncologist, Dermatologist and the Opthalmologist who performed the procedure.   Together, they will determine the next course of action and hopefully answer some of the many questions we have regarding his prognosis, treatment plan, etc.

I refuse to believe that God/The Universe has brought us together without a purpose.   If you think of it, please remember us in your prayers. 

Alan  :'(

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Title: Re: Rough Seas
Post by: Robert on October 17, 2006, 10:12:28 pm
Alan..

I'm so sorry to hear this.  I will say a little prayer for both of you and little Fang.

robert
Title: Re: Rough Seas
Post by: aztecan on October 17, 2006, 10:19:10 pm
Alan,
Consider it done.

I will focus some special energy toward your special friend and for you.

Please know that you and this special man will be in my thoughts.

HUGS,

Mark
Title: Re: Rough Seas
Post by: ademas on October 17, 2006, 10:26:20 pm
Oh man, Alan, I'm so sorry to hear this.
My love and best thoughts to the both of you.
Craig
xox
Title: Re: Rough Seas
Post by: RAB on October 17, 2006, 10:31:00 pm
Alan

I know how hard it was for you to post this.  But this isn't something you have to face alone.  You'll have friends standing right beside you as you travel the road ahead.  YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

You will both be in my thoughts and prayers tomorrow as you get more information.  Whatever the future holds, we'll cross those bridges together when they are in front of us.  Until then. . . . . .

I love you my friend,

RAB
Title: Re: Rough Seas
Post by: Teresa on October 17, 2006, 10:35:47 pm
Alan,

Im so sorry to hear this. You can bet that you both will be in my prayers.
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Big Hugs
Teresa
Title: Re: Rough Seas
Post by: Jody on October 17, 2006, 10:40:15 pm
Dearest Alan...I just want to say that anyone who hasn't had the pleasure of meeting you has not had the opportunity to meet a very special and totally real and unpretentious man.

That being said I too will say a prayer that your special someone pulls through this just fine and the news will be better than it may seem right now.

Here's positive energy flowing your way my dear friend and best wishes.

Jody
Title: Re: Rough Seas
Post by: cubbybear on October 17, 2006, 11:14:27 pm
Hey Alan,

I'm thinking of you both, and sending a prayer your way.

much love
Matt
Title: Re: Rough Seas
Post by: ndrew on October 17, 2006, 11:40:20 pm
Alan,

Thinking of you both in this most difficult time...

Drew
Title: Re: Rough Seas
Post by: allopathicholistic on October 17, 2006, 11:55:51 pm
absolutely. strength from above for him and you
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Title: Re: Rough Seas
Post by: RevMC on October 18, 2006, 12:14:07 am
I'll be adding the 2 of you to my prayers.

Love and Light,

Michael
Title: Re: Rough Seas
Post by: GSOgymrat on October 18, 2006, 12:17:02 am
Very sorry to hear about your friend's diagnosis. I hope that his treatments go well.
Title: Re: Rough Seas
Post by: sweetasmeli on October 18, 2006, 12:58:56 am
Healing thoughts and kind wishes to you both, Alan.

Melia  :-*
Title: Re: Rough Seas
Post by: anniebc on October 18, 2006, 01:20:16 am
Dearest alan

You already know how I feel about this..and like Rocky said, you are not alone, we will be with you and "L" every step of the way.

sending you both love and prayers from NZ.

Hugs to you both.
Jan :-*
Title: Re: Rough Seas
Post by: JohnOso on October 18, 2006, 03:40:42 am
Alan,

You have my prayers my healing energy and whatever else it takes to get the job done.  You give of yourself quite a bit on these forums....time for some payback my friend.

Love,
John
Title: Re: Rough Seas
Post by: RapidRod on October 18, 2006, 04:16:21 am
Alan, thought and prayer are your way to the both of you.
Title: Re: Rough Seas
Post by: Cliff on October 18, 2006, 04:22:20 am
oh Alan, I'm so sorry to see this.  Both of you will be in my thoughts and prayers.  Please keep us updated on how things are going.  You two are blessed to have each other.

Love,

Clif
Title: Re: Rough Seas
Post by: Nadine on October 18, 2006, 06:39:31 am
Alan,

I'm sending you two all the positive energy that I can.

I am sure you can feel all the good vibes that everyone is sending...grab hold of it.

Hang in there!

((BIG HUGS))
Title: Re: Rough Seas
Post by: Alain on October 18, 2006, 08:05:23 am
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Title: Re: Rough Seas
Post by: angels4kelly on October 18, 2006, 08:10:41 am
I'm very sorry to hear about this, Alan :(

BOTH OF YOU ARE DEFINITELY IN MY PRAYERS.

Peace & love to both of you,
Kelly

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Title: Re: Rough Seas
Post by: Val on October 18, 2006, 09:36:11 am
Alan, dear baby, yesterday was a special day for all of us because the Earth received a unparalleled cosmic radiation/cosmic opening.  It was a special day for thanksgiving, suppilication and congregation.
And,  since most of the time I am at loss for words in these kinds of situation, all I did was say your names more than a hundred times.  Every single time I would say both names and, in the end, I would add "I love you!"
Be strong, sweetheart, we are all with you in this struggle.

Love,
Val
___
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Title: Re: Rough Seas
Post by: AlanBama on October 18, 2006, 10:26:16 am
Thank you so much everyone, for the love and support, and pm's and phone calls.   

We can get through this.  Sickness and disease has taken so much from me during my lifetime -- both my parents to cancer, so many friends and loved ones to AIDS, and also robbed me of a good portion of my own life.   I suppose if it weren't for the bad times, I would not appreciate the good times I have had nearly as much as I do.   I am thankful, so very thankful, for the good days.

I wish for more good days ahead for all of us.

with love,

Alan
Title: Re: Rough Seas
Post by: joemutt on October 18, 2006, 10:57:36 am
Allow me to join you in wishing for better days.
I hope all will be well.
Title: Re: Rough Seas
Post by: Christine on October 18, 2006, 06:12:37 pm
Dear Alan,
Good thoughts and prayers going out to both of you.

Christine
Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: AlanBama on October 18, 2006, 06:53:43 pm
Hi everyone.

This evening, I am relieved to report that after a long day, we have learned that he is going to be o.k., after one more surgical procedure next Tuesday.

His vision should not be affected, and there will be no radiation or chemo required.

I really appreciate all the support, prayers and good wishes from all of you.   I really do think prayers are answered, and in this case, I have proof!

Love,
Alan
Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: Teresa on October 18, 2006, 07:04:49 pm
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That is great news!!

Big Hugs
Teresa
Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: cubbybear on October 18, 2006, 07:06:08 pm
Alan, that is the best news!! 

Much love,
Matt
Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: Ann on October 18, 2006, 07:07:49 pm
((((Alan))))

I'll continue sending love, light and positive energy your way. I'm so happy to hear things aren't as bad as they first seemed.

Hugs,
Ann
Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: Life on October 18, 2006, 07:26:38 pm
Alan..... What a releif.... SMILE!
Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: J.R.E. on October 18, 2006, 07:48:45 pm
Hello Alan,

Thanks for the update. I will continue to send all the support and energy I can muster your way.


(((HUGS))) to both of you----------Ray
Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: Alain on October 18, 2006, 08:23:58 pm
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Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: livingpositively on October 18, 2006, 08:53:49 pm
Alan,

I'm so glad to hear that the news was as good as it was.  You are a very special guy and I'm sure your special someone must also be a pretty special.  Wishing the best for both of you.

Love and hugs,

Shane
Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: Robert on October 18, 2006, 09:05:20 pm
good news alan!!!.   I agree.  ANswered prayers are always a Godsend.

robert
Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: Eldon on October 18, 2006, 09:50:48 pm
Hey Alan,

I am sending my BEST wishes and prayers to you and yours. It is ALWAYS GOOD to hear GOOD news!!! It is ever so nurturing.



Make the BEST of each Day!
Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: aztecan on October 18, 2006, 10:01:39 pm
In a word, WHEW!

I'm delighted at the good news and very glad things are looking brighter.

BIG HUGS,

Mark
Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: RevMC on October 18, 2006, 10:27:04 pm
YEAH!!!!!!!!!   WOOOOOHOOOOOO!!

So glad to hear that you have some GREAT NEWS!

Love and Light to you both,

Michael
Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: LatinAlexander on October 19, 2006, 12:19:11 am
GREAT!

Alex
Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: JohnOso on October 19, 2006, 04:29:22 am
Alan,

That is such good news to me.  I am much relieved.

hugs for both of you,
John
Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: penguin on October 19, 2006, 07:59:47 am
glad to hear this news, alan - big hug to the both of you.

Kate
Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: BooBoo on October 19, 2006, 09:25:08 am
So glad to hear that he's gonna be OK!!!!

Hugs & kisses for both of you.

Jim
Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: Nadine on October 19, 2006, 09:30:05 am
Wonderful news Alan!

Hugs & Kisses to both of you!
Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: RAB on October 19, 2006, 09:48:19 am
Alan

That is great news and such a relief to hear.  I can't imagine what a roller coaster this was for the two of you to experience.  I'm just glad the "seas are calmer".

Thanks buddy for letting us know so quickly.

RAB
Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: cmhjeff on October 19, 2006, 10:14:35 am
FANTASTIC!

I'm so happy for you both!

HUGS

Jeff
Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: angels4kelly on October 19, 2006, 10:44:19 am
GREAT NEWS, ALAN!!!!

Love ya'.
Peace,
Kelly


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Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: Lisa on October 19, 2006, 11:01:25 am
HOT DIGGITY DAMN ! !

I know you are both soooooooooo relieved!
I'm tellin ya man...there's really something about the positive karma that this place emits! It's already been proven to me twice. Lovin' the AM family right now!  :-*  8)
Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: wellington on October 19, 2006, 01:02:27 pm
Sometimes I wonder if total ignorance would be bliss - stepping off this roller coaster we call life. The feeling quickly passes despite all the shit we have to endure. So glad for you two that things seem to be coming into the station for a time.

*hugs*
Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: Lou-ah-vull on October 19, 2006, 07:46:44 pm
Alan,

You especially recognize the power of prayer and healing.  I am relieved to hear your good news.  I have been and will continue to keep you in my prayers because I know how important they are to our well-being.  After hearing your story in Montreal (well, on the way to Quebec City) I have to rank you among the most extraordinary and courageous persons I have ever had the good fortune to meet.  Wishing and praying for you and your partners continued health and happiness....


Gary
Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: heartforyou on October 20, 2006, 01:40:08 pm
Alan sweetie,

Dan and I are praying for the two of you.
It makes me mad and helpless when I hear stuff like that.

Hope ther will be no permanent damage.
Herman and Dan
Title: Re: Rough Seas -CALMER NOW!
Post by: bobik on October 20, 2006, 04:47:00 pm
Dear Alan,

haven't been here for some days. Dammit you must have been afraid. I am glad that there is good news for both of you, that it isn't as serious as you feared. I am so glad!

Big hug

Coen
Title: Re: Rough Seas - Update
Post by: AlanBama on November 02, 2006, 04:49:32 pm
We got the best possible news today.   The malignancy was completely removed surgically, the margins are clear.   No need for chemo or radiation at this time.

Thanks everyone, for your prayers and notes of support.   It has helped me tremendously.

Love,

Alan
Title: Re: Rough Seas - Update
Post by: Teresa on November 02, 2006, 05:19:29 pm
Alan,

That is WONDERFUL news!!

Hugs
Teresa
Title: Re: Rough Seas - Update
Post by: emeraldize on November 02, 2006, 05:44:10 pm
Alan,
Seeing is believing or is it perhaps believing is seeing?
Glad to learn of such good news -- you drew it in.
Em
Title: Re: Rough Seas - Update
Post by: allopathicholistic on November 02, 2006, 05:48:27 pm
 :o  :o wow wow WOW - that is superb news!
Title: Re: Rough Seas - Update
Post by: Lou-ah-vull on November 02, 2006, 06:21:53 pm
Wonderful news...our prayers answered...I will keep the prayers coming for everyone.

Gary
Title: Re: Rough Seas - Update
Post by: J.R.E. on November 02, 2006, 08:40:28 pm
We got the best possible news today.   The malignancy was completely removed surgically, the margins are clear.   No need for chemo or radiation at this time.

Thanks everyone, for your prayers and notes of support.   It has helped me tremendously.

Love,

Alan



Alan,


This is fantastic news. Wishing both of you the very best...



Ray
Title: Re: Rough Seas - Update
Post by: Eldon on November 02, 2006, 08:51:11 pm
Hey Alan,

Even better news! The margins are clear! Prayer changes things.



Make the BEST of each and every Day!
Title: Re: Rough Seas - Update
Post by: Christine on November 03, 2006, 10:51:08 am
Fantastic news!
Christine
Title: Re: Rough Seas - Update
Post by: bear60 on November 03, 2006, 03:31:49 pm
Alan
Great news for you . I know how relieved you are.
Title: Re: Rough Seas - Update
Post by: RobT on November 04, 2006, 01:45:08 am
Alan-
Gr8 news!

RobT

Current meds: Truvada/Sustiva
VL: undetectable
CD4: 564
Title: Re: Rough Seas - Update
Post by: swede_dish on November 04, 2006, 02:32:06 am
Many hugs and kisses to you and yours Allen! I'm so glad things worked out!


xoxox

Jenn