I am worried to death! Did I pass the virus on?

[Seager]

First and foremost, thank you for being patient and understanding individuals for taking the time to answer/ provide support to people like me.

I am 25 years of age, in a 3 year relationship with my girlfriend. However some time back, things weren't so good between us. On Feb 19th, I visited a shemale escort. I gave her oral sex, which i felt a small amount of precum released into my mouth. I swallowed and after our session i gargled/ rinsed with soap. We had protected anal sex, both ways. After our session I noticed I had a little blister (or another legit medical term) on the back of my right molar (located on the gum). It wasn't bleeding, it was rather healing actually, more like I brushed too hard when I was brushing my teeth a couple of days back, just a scrape on the gum. I proceeded to check when I got home if it was bleeding, and it was not.

The next day, 20th Feb, I fell sick with a sore throat and mild fever that lasted 3 days. I have chronic sore throat (tonsillitis), happens once every few months. I got worried so upon reading up, I was told that HIV symptoms don't show up so soon. I was up and good and I have been feeling good since then till date.

March 20th and 21st, I had oral sex with my gf (she swallowed). On the morning of the 24th, she fell ill, with a bad migraine lasting 2-3 days, as well as getting down with a fever and mild diarrhoea. She has chronic migraines but usually never lasting more than 4-5 hours. It was passed down to her from family genetics. She's okay now, the whole episode probably lasted about 4-5 days.
Did she suffer from possible ARS? Seroconversion?

Hence, you can understand my worry. I love this woman a lot, and I would be darned if I had passed any sort of virus to her. I took the courage to test myself with the EZ-Trust RAPID ANTI-HIV (1&2) TEST kit. I bought 2 kits and tested both on the 27th of March, almost 5 weeks after that stupid encounter. I tested Negative with both kits.

I have not told anyone about this incident. I am constantly paranoid and worried and it's getting to my head. I am getting suicidal thoughts, how selfish could I have been to have done something so wrong and to have an innocent individual suffer because of my actions. She has always been the one for me, and I broke her trust

Any form of advice of opinions would be greatly appreciated.
Please help me.
Thank you.

[RapidRod]

First and foremost, thank you for being patient and understanding individuals for taking the time to answer/ provide support to people like me.

I am 25 years of age, in a 3 year relationship with my girlfriend. However some time back, things weren't so good between us. On Feb 19th, I visited a shemale escort. I gave her oral sex, which i felt a small amount of precum released into my mouth. I swallowed and after our session i gargled/ rinsed with soap. We had protected anal sex, both ways. After our session I noticed I had a little blister (or another legit medical term) on the back of my right molar (located on the gum). It wasn't bleeding, it was rather healing actually, more like I brushed too hard when I was brushing my teeth a couple of days back, just a scrape on the gum. I proceeded to check when I got home if it was bleeding, and it was not.

The next day, 20th Feb, I fell sick with a sore throat and mild fever that lasted 3 days. I have chronic sore throat (tonsillitis), happens once every few months. I got worried so upon reading up, I was told that HIV symptoms don't show up so soon. I was up and good and I have been feeling good since then till date.

March 20th and 21st, I had oral sex with my gf (she swallowed). On the morning of the 24th, she fell ill, with a bad migraine lasting 2-3 days, as well as getting down with a fever and mild diarrhoea. She has chronic migraines but usually never lasting more than 4-5 hours. It was passed down to her from family genetics. She's okay now, the whole episode probably lasted about 4-5 days.
Did she suffer from possible ARS? Seroconversion?

Hence, you can understand my worry. I love this woman a lot, and I would be darned if I had passed any sort of virus to her. I took the courage to test myself with the EZ-Trust RAPID ANTI-HIV (1&2) TEST kit. I bought 2 kits and tested both on the 27th of March, almost 5 weeks after that stupid encounter. I tested Negative with both kits.

I have not told anyone about this incident. I am constantly paranoid and worried and it's getting to my head. I am getting suicidal thoughts, how selfish could I have been to have done something so wrong and to have an innocent individual suffer because of my actions. She has always been the one for me, and I broke her trust

Any form of advice of opinions would be greatly appreciated.
Please help me.
Thank you.

You never had an exposure and EZ Trust is not an approved company.

[Jeff G]

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

[Seager]

However I am still very paranoid and worried. My girlfriend fell ill just 3-4 days after having oral sex with me. I understand that most sites state ARS or seroconversion takes place 2+ weeks after infection, but I have read a few instances where it happens just a week after infection. The following is a list of her illness starting Monday:

Migraine: Monday - Wednesday
Fever: Tuesday - Thursday
Mild diarrhoea: Thursday - Friday (Ongoing but improving)

Hence I keep wondering if I did this to her. I did not fall terribly ill, only the next day after my possible exposure where I had sore throat and a slight fever. 5 weeks later i tested negative with the EZ Trust home kit.

Sigh I can't seem to shake this off me

[RapidRod]

Thank you very much for your responses. I am worried about my girlfriend though. Just 3-4 days after having oral sex with me she gets the following starting on Monday:

Migraine: Monday - Wednesday
Fever: Tuesday - Thursday
Mild diarrhoea: Thursday - Friday

She also claims she has never been this sick before. Hence, I believe you understand my worries

Whatever is going on has nothing to do with HIV.

[Jeff G]

Nothing you mention is a risk for HIV ... and the symptoms are in no way specific to HIV and that is why we do not discuss symptoms . 

[Seager]

Just updating my situation for the benefit of other readers out there.
I took an EZ Trust rapid home test and tested negative at: Week 5,6,7.

My bloodwork for Western Blot Assay (week 6) came as "Not detected" for all the measurable criteria with interpretation of Negative for Hiv-1 and Hiv-2 status.

I am fairly confident of my results and I assume many would say my results are conclusive.
My advise to all of you out there, please stay safe. Life isn't all about "You Only Live Once (YOLO)". You live everyday, and you live everyday with the mistakes you make.
Value your life. If any of you would need a friend to talk to, please feel free to message me. I had a similar kind soul that assisted me by talking to me on this forum, and he similarly tested negative as well.

I will however take the home rapid test again at the 3 and 6 month period. Yes, I am still a little paranoid.

Rest assured, I'm going back to being a good kid now
My best wishes to all of you out there, stay safe!

[Jeff G]

Of course its negative you never had a risk to start with . You are conclusively HIV negative and do not need to test again for this specific incident .