I need your help ,pls !

[conky42]

Dear anyone , i have a boy friend who may have risk, I felt he hide me something and i convince he tell me the trust ,he said that he had posted his risk in here,and everyone said nothing to worry about his risk. but i still scared.
His risk is had protected sex with another girl who he not know hiv status, he used condom , but his foreskin penis has abrasion at least 3 hours ago because he mastubate himself . when he use condom ,he pull his foreskin back( uncircumcised), the condom not cover his abrasion. so maybe when he intercourse  varginal , the abrasion on foreskin may come inside that girl , Does it got infected hiv ?
he told me that abrasion don't have blood , it have red new skin on this . i and he got hiv test in 1 week , negative both of us .
Pls , help me , does he had risk ?  and i got hiv from him ?

[RapidRod]

No risk.

[conky42]

thank , but i still scared , i know this is free advice but i need the digital advice , why this is not a risk , especialy my boyfriend case ? because i read on the internet that the skin got wound will not 100% protect you from hiv

[Andy Velez]

I don't see how the condom could not have covered his foreskin since it would by definition be covering the head of his penis.

More to the point is that since he is having sex outside of your relationship, YOU should always insist that he wear a condom when you two are having either vaginal or anal intercourse. that's the real issue in this situation.

I don't see any cause for concern about his recent sex elsewhere.

If you have any lingering concern there is a simple solution. Get tested at 3 months and confirm your own negative HIV status. I don't see that as necessary relative to this incident, but I am wondering if you have been having unprotected intercourse with him. If you have then you should get tested.

[conky42]

dear andy ,
 His foreskin is long , it cover his head penis ,  he pull the foreskin back and condom is covered his head penis , i mean that his underside foreskin is covered by condom , but the outside is not covered by condom, the abrasion is on outside foreskin ,
he only had one time sex with another girl, he's scared now , me too ,do i and he had risk ?

[Ann]

Conky,

Your "boyfriend" (I think it's really you, tai50cent, who's writing) didn't have a risk. The outer part of the foreskin is no different to the skin on the rest of the penis - and small cuts and abrasions on that skin doesn't matter. Skin is skin and this situation is no different to fingering with small cuts, hangnails or abrasions - NO RISK.

At the end of the day, if you cannot bring yourself to believe us when we say you had no risk, go test, collect your negative result and move on with your life.

Giving you the benefit of doubt (that you really are the partner of 50cent), as sexually active adults you should BOTH be having regular, routine sexual health check ups.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

I'm warning you, if I continue to get additional membership applications from either of you, you're going to end up permanently banned. I know you've already applied for several, which I have rejected. You're lucky you're not permanently banned now, but as I said earlier, this once I'm giving you the benefit of doubt that you are the partner and not 50cent himself.

Ann

Ann