The Search For A Father Continues...

[david25luvit]

I know I've never actually spoken of my father here on the forum....and he and I have not had a relationship since I was a child.  My parents were divorced when I was eleven years old and other than a few short visits with my ole man, he has been on the back burner of my life.  Let me just mention before I continue with this thread that my father started out as a Methodist preacher and ended up (in my estimation) a con man...  His problems with the authorities bares me out on this one.  Anyway since Hurricane Katrina, my father's family has been very concerned about his safety and his whereabouts.  They do not wish to have him in their lives mind you but they are concerned about his survival since the storm.  My father lived in Pass Christian, Mississippi (one of the hardest hit areas) and despite scouring numerous list and placing his name on a couple of contact list...no one has heard from him.  Despite our history or lack of in this case, I can't help but wonder if he survived...and if so where he is re-located.

If anybody can assist me in finding him I would be eternally grateful.  Please contact me by PM for additional information.
It's Father's Day and I don't even know if my father is alive.  Ironically enough he and I lived in the same area for years and despite an occassional sighting we have had little contact.  Since David's death I've wondered if perhaps I should at least talk to him....  My Uncle and Aunt (his brother and sister) are very concerned and are urging me to do what I can to find them.

[allopathicholistic]

It's Father's Day and I don't even know if my father is alive.  Ironically enough he and I lived in the same area for years and despite an occassional sighting we have had little contact.  Since David's death I've wondered if perhaps I should at least talk to him.... 

Hope you find him and share some good moments 

[Teresa]

David..i have no idea of how to even start to find someone..but i hope someone else here can you all the info you need to find him.

Wishing you the best of luck in finding him!

Hugs
Teresa

[david25luvit]

Well in a strange twist of fate...my dear mother called tonight and informed me my father was alive and well.  She read me the email her cousin in Gulfport wrote to her and apparently he is residing in Gulfport.  He works at the Salvation Army and was last seen handing out programs at a local Baptist Church.  I immediately emailed my dad's sister and brother and shared the news with them.  I'm suppose to go to Gulfport tomorrow or Tuesday...perhaps I make another stop while I'm in town........I'll keep you informed.

[Teresa]

Thats great David! I know your aunt and uncle will be glad to hear hes alive!


HUGS
Teresa

[Ann]

Hi David,

That's good news for you and I hope you manage to see him and have a good reunion.

I have to admit that I was hoping you would get some suggestions on how to find him because I don't know where my sister is these days. I just wrote a bit about it, but I've cut it out of this post because it's not fair to hijack your thread with my own issues. I'm hoping you'll be wanting to use this thread to tell us how well your meeting with your dad went. I'll start my own thread.

Keep us updated David, OK?

Ann

[Cliff]

David,

I'm glad someone above was reading the forums, cause clearly that was a nice twist of fate.  Let us know how things with your dad go and I hope he is doing okay and able to start rebuilding his life.

Cliff

[Sdgirl]

David,

I just posted this information in Ann's thread about her sister.

Please go to WWW.ZABASEARCH.COM

It is a very powerful Internet tool that gives you the ability to find people and ALL of their last known addresses.

Lisa

[Andy Velez]

Glad to hear the latest news, David.

No matter what's gone on in the past, I hope you're able to have good meeting with your father.

My suggestion is to keep it simple and see how it goes.

Implicit in what you've written is that you have thoughts and feelings and those need to be respected, whatever they are. I'm glad you are likely to have to opportunity to have some contact now instead of just being stuck with the leftovers from past years.

Cheers, 

[david25luvit]

Thanks Ann, Lisa, Teresa, Cliff , Andy and everybody else....  True Andy.  My father and I have had serious issues in the past.  Not about my being gay...he doesn't know I'm HIV.  The last run-in I had with him was when he got my little brother involved in one of his schemes and I ended up having to bail him out to the tune of three thousand dollars.

I have considered contacting him face to face.  I'm not sure what I'll say but I wanted him to know I have forgiven him
for all the things he's done to me and my family in the past.  I don't know if I can have any type of relationship with him or not but perhaps we could talk on the phone or by email occassionally.  We'll see....

Again...thanx everybody....Things happen so fast some times....
I'm headed to Gulfport tomorrow.........

[jkinatl2]

I wish you well in your reunion. I hope you are able to forge a better relationship, or at the very least put the ghosts of the past to rest.