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Title: Unprotected deep throat oral and protected vaginal intercourse
Post by: kelecha on April 25, 2009, 09:57:07 am
I had protected brief encounters with sex workers. I had HIV test after 45 days of possible exposure. The result was negative but I continued to get worried that I may have been exposed. Do I need to re-test or is this test conclusive since I had protected intercourse?

Thank you
Title: Re: tested negative after 45 days of exposure
Post by: Andy Velez on April 25, 2009, 10:04:19 am
As long as you use condoms everytime you have vaginal and anal intercourse, you are well protected. Condoms do the job and make the HIV status of your partners irrelevant.

Use them everytime. No exceptions.

There's no need for testing over your recent incident. We do in general advise that any who is sexually active ought to have a full STD panel done regularly as other STDs are easier to acquire than HIV. That means doing it at least once a year.

Cheers. 
Title: Re: tested negative after 45 days of exposure
Post by: kelecha on April 25, 2009, 10:29:06 am
Thank you for the reply. I also had STD test together with the HIV test and it all came as negative. I learned a great deal while waiting for my results. My Doctor went on vacation but he told me that I will be contacted if there something is wrong. When I didn't hear from my doctor, I got worried and thought something was wrong. Anxiety took over me and started to read a lot about HIV. I thought I had all the symptoms. One day I felt dizzy and my blood pressure was very low (I was fasting for lent and didn't have much to eat that day). I checked my weight and got worried. I had nightly sweats for two days. All this while waiting for the result. Now that I learned that all is well, I have become a cautious person. I think God wanted to teach me something and I learnt my lesson.

I thought I share my one week of stress and anxiety over a test that finally came negative. It cost me one week of happiness.
Title: Re: tested negative after 45 days of exposure
Post by: Andy Velez on April 25, 2009, 11:00:33 am
One important fact you also ought to know about HIV status is that neither the presence nor the absence of symptoms will ever tell you anything accurately about your HIV status.

Hopefully you won't ever have unprotected intercourse, but if you do the only sure and reliable way to know you are HIV negative is by getting tested 13 weeks after the incident. Symptoms and any other method are just guesswork and HIV status is never something to guess about.

Cheers.
Title: Re: tested negative after 45 days of exposure
Post by: Ann on April 25, 2009, 11:29:37 am
kelecha,

You're worried about hiv because you had sex with sex workers and you think they're in a high risk group. The ONLY TRUE risk group, sexually speaking, consists of those people who have UNPROTECTED anal or vaginal intercourse. Use condoms with anyone and it won't matter who they happen to be or what they do for a living.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED FURTHER TESTING AT THIS TIME, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms, for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

Ann
Title: Re: tested negative after 45 days of exposure
Post by: kelecha on April 25, 2009, 01:04:37 pm
Thank you Ann,

You are right, I was worried for the reasons you mentioned. I completely agree that using condoms is the safest way. Actually, I don't remember the last time I had unprotected sex with a stranger.

Thank yo again
Title: Unprotected deep throat oral and protected vaginal intercourse
Post by: kelecha on November 11, 2011, 12:05:16 am
Hello,

I greatly appreciate the work you do in this forum. Without forums like this, I wonder what would happen to all of us who are risked of catching this fragile yet deadly virus.

I met a CSW from backpage.com. We then had unprotected deep throat oral for about 3 to 5 minutes. And then a brief PROTECTED vaginal intercourse (4 or 5 thrusts) less than one minute. She later mentioned that she is a Registered Nurse and doing this on the side. I asked her if she ever worries about STD/HIV. She said she does and tests for HIV every month. By the way she brought the condom.

As horny as I am, I always worry about HIV and it is always in the back of my mind. What are the practical and theoretical risks from this encounter.

Thank you very much again for the great effort you put in educating and calming down low-risk guys like myself.
Title: Re: Unprotected deep throat oral and protected vaginal intercourse
Post by: RapidRod on November 11, 2011, 04:19:47 am
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Title: Re: Unprotected deep throat oral and protected vaginal intercourse
Post by: Ann on November 11, 2011, 07:32:43 am
Kelecha,

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep everything in one thread. It doesn't matter how long it has been since you last posted in your thread or if the subject matter is different.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread (http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=220.0) so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines. Thank you for your cooperation.





Getting a blowjob is absolutely NOT a risk for hiv infection. Not only is saliva not infectious, but it also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect.

You should already know the score where protected intercourse is concerned. It's not a risk. There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

Please re-read your entire thread, particularly reply #4. It's been over two and a half years since you've posted here and in that time, you should have had at least two complete sexual health check-ups. If you haven't, go do it. NOW. Provided you've been using condoms during this time, you can fully expect the hiv portion of your tests to return negative results.

Ann
Title: Re: Unprotected deep throat oral and protected vaginal intercourse
Post by: kelecha on November 11, 2011, 11:35:38 am
Ann,

Thank you for your detailed reply. Within the last two and half years, I have more HIV tests than I needed; I had on the average 3 HIV/STD tests per year. This year alone I had two tests. Although I use protection in all my brief encounters with no exception, I constantly worry about STD/HIV. Hence, the more than average tests.

Sincerely,
Title: Re: Unprotected deep throat oral and protected vaginal intercourse
Post by: Andy Velez on November 12, 2011, 08:07:37 am
It's good to know you are consistently using condoms for intercourse. If something is troubling you about your experiences which I sense, how about seeing a counselor or other professional to talk about it. We can't help you with that in this setting.
Title: Re: Unprotected deep throat oral and protected vaginal intercourse
Post by: kelecha on November 16, 2011, 08:37:01 am
Andy,

Thank you for your reply. You are right in the sense that I do get super-worried about HIV, hence, the frequent tests. At the same time I love sex and exercise great caution when I do it. I also know for fact that I will not engage in unprotected vaginal intercourse no matter how horny. What is bothering me is guilt as you might have sensed. I grew up in a society where sex is looked upon as bad even though people do it in their own privacy. May be that has its effect on me and always think I have done something wrong after each sexual encounter. The irony is that I love sex so much :)

Thank you for listening, Andy.
Title: Re: Unprotected deep throat oral and protected vaginal intercourse
Post by: Ann on November 16, 2011, 10:01:38 am
Kelecha,

There's nothing wrong with enjoying sex and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. We are biologically hard-wired to enjoy sex.

As long as you are using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, you will avoid hiv infection. Yes, it really is that simple!!!

Ann