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Title: how do you look at someone everyday knowing that you have exposed them
Post by: LYFE on June 30, 2006, 01:23:29 am

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Title: Re: how do you look at someone everyday knowing that you have exposed them
Post by: DanielMark on June 30, 2006, 06:13:40 am

I think you tell yourself that they exposed themselves, and move on.

It's 2006. Most people have heard about safer sex by now.

My 2 cents.

Daniel

Title: Re: how do you look at someone everyday knowing that you have exposed them
Post by: newt on June 30, 2006, 06:31:22 am

Do you truly know you put someone at real risk of transmission, and if you did were they wearing rose-tinted spectacles at the time, or are you just being hard on yourself for being HIV+?

Title: Re: how do you look at someone everyday knowing that you have exposed them
Post by: Moffie65 on June 30, 2006, 06:41:33 am

I don't even see the need for this question, as the others have said, we are all responsible for our own sexual health.

END OF STORY

In Love and Support.

Title: Re: how do you look at someone everyday knowing that you have exposed them
Post by: cubbybear on June 30, 2006, 06:49:03 pm

Totally agree with everyone else's comments, everyone has the ability to make a decision about safe sex, either they use protection or abstain from risky actions, or they don't.  If they don't, they are at least entertaining the notion that picking up an STI is a *possibility*.  Having exposed someone and having infected someone are also two different things.  An exposure (your words) doesn't mean you have infected them, and there's no love lost.  An infection on the other hand is something you'll have to live with, and deal with. 

Everyone can do their bit to avoid infection, it's not all about you.

Title: Re: how do you look at someone everyday knowing that you have exposed them
Post by: LYFE on July 02, 2006, 10:48:32 pm

Thanks guys i guess i knew this already but my boyfriend and i found out i was positive at the sametime while trying to conceive but I'm strong and young thanks for your thoughts i appreciate it

Title: Re: how do you look at someone everyday knowing that you have exposed them
Post by: Cliff on July 03, 2006, 04:49:32 am

I guess it's a matter of forgiving yourself and recognizing that you didn't know your status at the time and wasn't intentionally trying to expose your boyfriend. You can't undo what has been done.  All you can do is move forward.  Focus on your health (remaining healthy, getting access to quality health care, etc..) and focus on your relationship. 

Let the past remain in the past.  Like Matt said, don't be hard on yourself for being positive.

- Cliff