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Offline PrettyWorried

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« on: July 23, 2007, 04:08:33 am »
 :-\

Hi there.  Great site.  I read the welcome thread and promise to do my best to follow the rules on this site.  I'll only post to this thread.  With that said, I'm sure some others who read on medhelp will recognize my story as I'm on there as OCguy.  I'll try not to repeat my originally asked questions, but since it's from the same encounter, we'll see how far that'll go.   :P

Long story short.  I had an encounter with a female escort on May 2nd.  She provided the condom and put it on. She then proceeded to giving me a blow job and with the same erection, we proceeded to vaginal sex where I finally came.  When I pulled out the condom was still on. 

Out of my own concern I went to the bathroom and put water in the condom to see if there were any tears.  No water seemed to fall out.  I then threw it in the trash.  I walked away from the restroom, and then out of my dumb impulse, I went back to the restroom, grabbed the condom out of the trash, and did the water balloon thing again.  However, I noticed there was another condom in the trash from a previous client.  I'm slightly concerned that I pulled out the other condom, which was there probably there at least 15 min before.  There was no soap near the sink, so I wiped myself using water, my hands,  and a clean towell. 

I have read the lesson on transmission but I guess I'm still worried that the condom usage was not done properly.  I have re-read the condom usage guide which Ann has posted in her responses, and I can actually recall each of those steps were followed during my encounter. 

Alright so here are the questions.  I will fight the urge to ask about symptoms, but I've read other responses to symptom questions on here, so I won't cross that line.   :)
1.  I have been told this is a near zero risk.  Would you folks agree even with the potential of me coming into contact with the earlier client's condom when wiping myself off?
2.  Condom breakage.  I've read on here condom breakages are never tiny holes and that they break like bursted balloons.  Also considering my water balloon experiment, is that conclusive evidence the condom didn't break?
3.  It'll be exactly 12 weeks on July 25th.  However, the testing centers out here which I can access are open on Mondays for Oraquick and Thursdays/Saturdays for Orasure.  (Note:  one place does the orasure, the other oraquick).  Is it too early me to go 2 days early (ie, July 23rd) to get tested via oraquick and have a conclusive result?  Should I hold out til this coming Thursday or Saturday to have the test after the 12th week mark?   

I just want a conclusive result, which I'd imagine will be negative.  Thanks.

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Re: Pretty Worried
« Reply #1 on: July 23, 2007, 04:27:12 am »
It's not a near zero, it is a zero risk. You don't need to test.

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Re: Pretty Worried
« Reply #2 on: July 23, 2007, 05:51:30 am »
Worried,

You didn't have a risk at all and you can test any time for a conclusive result. I expect the result to be negative and so should you.

Getting a blowjob, condom or no condom, is not a risk for hiv infection. Protected intercourse is just that - protected. Playing with someone else's condom is also NOT a risk for hiv infection.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you do not need to test over this specific incident, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

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Offline PrettyWorried

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Re: Pretty Worried
« Reply #3 on: July 25, 2007, 10:27:54 am »
I tested via Oraquick Advance on 82 days and I'm concerned the results were obtained too soon.   Will this affect the accuracy?  This is not a "what if" question.  The tester set a timer and it only went up to 10 minutes.   I hear it's supposed to be 20 min.

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Re: Pretty Worried
« Reply #4 on: July 25, 2007, 11:45:53 am »
Did you bother to read the replies that you have been given? You didn't have a risk.

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Re: Pretty Worried
« Reply #5 on: July 25, 2007, 12:19:10 pm »
Anytime I read "I hear..." alerts me immediately that someone is nervous and giving much more credence to hearsay than is ever a good idea. I hear I hear -- you can "hear" anything. The Orquick is an approved test. A negative at 87 days or 12+ weeks is going to be a reliable result, no matter what you have been "hearing" about how long it should take for a result.

What you have already gotten here in responses is not hearsay. It's well-grounded in HIV-science.

Re-read what you've been told. And stop bothering yourself needlessly. Time to get on with your life. Seriously.

Cheers,
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Offline PrettyWorried

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Re: Pretty Worried
« Reply #6 on: July 25, 2007, 01:54:10 pm »
Anytime I read "I hear..." alerts me immediately that someone is nervous and giving much more credence to hearsay than is ever a good idea. I hear I hear -- you can "hear" anything. The Orquick is an approved test. A negative at 87 days or 12+ weeks is going to be a reliable result, no matter what you have been "hearing" about how long it should take for a result.

What you have already gotten here in responses is not hearsay. It's well-grounded in HIV-science.

Re-read what you've been told. And stop bothering yourself needlessly. Time to get on with your life. Seriously.

Cheers,

The 82 days answer has been very clear and my second post was no longer asking that specific question.

I'm not sure if I conveyed my second post clearly as you are only replying how many days to take the test and not how long it took from the time the sample was obtained to the time the result was obtained.  Again my last post was not asking about the reliability of 82 days on here.  I'm now asking if a reliable result can be pulled after only 10 minutes and not the 20 minutes as stated on OraSure Technologies own page on OraQuick.

http://www.orasure.com/products/default.asp?cid=17&subx=3&sec=3

You're right.  I shouldn't have said "I heard".  I'm sorry for that.  I should have clearly stated "I read on OraSure's site it takes 20 minutes from time of sample collection to produce a reliable result.  Is this true?".

I didn't mean to cause any confusion.  With that said, can you answer my clarified question?   Thank you.
« Last Edit: July 25, 2007, 01:56:56 pm by PrettyWorried »

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Re: Pretty Worried
« Reply #7 on: July 25, 2007, 01:56:11 pm »
I still woudn't doubt the reliability of the test result even though it took only 10 minutes. That "20 minutes" is an average or approximate guesstimate.

AND

I will remind you that you weren't at any risk to begin with. Your mind has been working overtime on this matter and with no basis in HIV science.
« Last Edit: July 25, 2007, 01:58:22 pm by Andy Velez »
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Offline PrettyWorried

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Re: Pretty Worried
« Reply #8 on: July 25, 2007, 01:58:09 pm »
I still woudn't doubt the reliability of the test result even though it took only 10 minutes. That "20 minutes" is an average or approximate guesstimate.

Okay.  Thank you for answering my second post as my question was intended!   ;D

Again sorry for the confusion.

 


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