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Main Forums => Pre-HAART Long-Term Survivors => Topic started by: lforsyth on September 04, 2010, 04:43:33 pm
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I started the Lawrence Forsyth Trust. I'm afraid that others will try to just get things. The terms of my Trust leaves everything to "Aunt Rita's Foundation". I want nothing to go to family who has no respect for me. I'm posting this in the event that I die and want it know what my wishes are according to my TRUST.
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larry is there some problem right now with the family ???
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Hi Larry ,
That seems to me to be a good idea !
Bob and I have discused the same arrangement .
I do hope all is well with you .
Carl
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The main problem is with my late partners three kids. They immediately started hitting me up to finance cars and for money. So that breaks the trust where I have no one to take over legal, health or financial if something happens. I'm just getting scared because of the heart attach last year and it's almost a year now. My management at work is pushing for more overtime and using the excuse of the economy plus health care reform to push more cost onto the employees. I can understand that. We only paid 11% of cost where industry average is 30%.
The cardiologist said I can have procedures even on Plavex (previous thread) but the surgeon won't touch me (he's also gay, YEAH). I think some of the resistance may also be my being a long term survivor although a new Intern at work told me that there are a lot like me. It's like cumming out, I thought I was alone until the Las Vegas Gathering. But then I had to come home where I'm alone and the only person with HIV that many at work know.
I'm just concerned that my wishes won't be done and I had to put it out there.
My niece and brother (before his death) told my Mother that I shouldn't get anything because I own my own home. And my Mom made me promise to refinance the family home in West Los Angeles, which I did. My niece refinanced it under her family and I had her pay me out. When my brother died she told me that I had to sign a quick claim deed if something happened to me (FUCK THAT!!!). She also didn't support me when I asked for emotional support at rough times. I'll tell you later.
I was always an outsider in my family but my DAD always loved and accepted me. As an Engineer in Los Angeles he was proud to drive me around and show me what was new in the Late 60's and 70's.
Just thought I'd put more out there. Maybe I need to clarify things better. Thanks for your concern. It's tough living alone at times. My dog was sick this last weekend and scared the hell out of me. He's better now.
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I need friends in charge of legal, health and finance.
Any takers that I can trust to make sure that Aunt Rita's Foundation get's it all.
Just asking.
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You really should discuss this with a lawyer before you make any decisions.
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You really should discuss this with a lawyer before you make any decisions.
Agreed. Ilfor, the last thing you want to do is come onto a Forum and ask for someone to be your executor.
Jsut sayin.
-Will
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Will, as you are not considered a LTS, you should not be posting in this forum. Please read this forum's
Welcome Thread (http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=11166.0). Thank you for your cooperation.
Ann
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Being the executor of someone’s estate is a time-consuming, complex, and stressful task even for a modest estate. It involves much more than overseeing the disposition of your assets. There is much paperwork to be completed. Among other things, the executor is responsible for filing the final tax return for the deceased. Selling a home adds another layer of complexity to the process.
If you do not have a good friend who is able and willing to do this for you, then you might consider asking the lawyer who drew up your will and trust if he or she would do this (for a fee, naturally).
One thing you can do to make the settlement of your estate easier is to keep a binder with all pertinent information on your finances. You could also put this information on a CD or other data storage medium. It should include information on where your cash and other assets are, your mortgage, insurance, credit cards, and every other aspect of your financial life. This will be a huge help to whoever takes care of your estate. Just be sure to leave this information in a place where your executor will have easy access to it.
Allan
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Will, as you are not considered a LTS, you should not be posting in this forum. Please read this forum's
Welcome Thread (http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=11166.0). Thank you for your cooperation.
Ann
Yikes, did it again. My bad Ann. Ummm I'm aware what the "Welcome Thread" says it was just an oversight on my part.
I'll show myself to the door.
-Willster
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Will, You are a friend after Vegas, so don't apologize.
Thank you Allanq for your advise. A trust is different from a Will. I have a box with the original trust here and I'm afraid the my hand written last wishes will be removed by immediate family for their gain. As I said, it is written in my own hand that everything is property of Aunt Rita's Foundation!
I'm just getting a bit scared about so many things happening that may make me home bound. Arthritis that limits my head movement cist's and other things happening. I'm just glad to have been at the Las Vegas Gathering.
But it's a lot more. My management at work want's me to work more hours (like nothing happened).
I'm gearing up for AID's walk even without any support from BOEING, my employer. It is depressing but I still need to get through that and my dental and medical appointments. Not doing well on both counts, especially Dental.
I can understand that I've never been out there for AID's but we didn't have AID's walk since 2000 - 2008. I feel like I've never done anything but just be open at work about being gay and HIV+. I'm not supposed to talk about it but I've been open and there is a lot of support (mainly from the smokers).
Thank you for your support. I just have to kick myself in the ass or push a larger dildo up there (OOPS!) and go on.
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I guess I'm just being a cry baby. Aids Walk in Phoenix is 10/03. I put up posters with tear away cards. Four gone but still no support. Just my $25.00. That's all.
I'm trying to keep upbeat at work knowing that Boeing does not support me.
Oh Well. I just need to keep myself going until then.
I saw the Cardiologist yesterday and I'm doing well. My next appointment is in December, one year since my heart attack and stent put in. This year has gone by so fast.
I'm glad that I got to meet others at the gathering. You can't know how helpful it was and is.
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I just read more carefully. Allan, thank you for the advise. I'll look into that. What scared me so much was how sudden the heart attack happened even though there were signs.
My largest problem is that I've been living in Mesa and haven't been part of the Phoenix Community. They don't know me from Adam. I did Aids Walk last year and have $50 sent to Aunt Rita's every paycheck. Not much, I guess.
I'm still just an outsider looking in. And it's my own fault.
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Well, it's happened. Boeing has a Cadillac insurance that I will lose this year. Med's that cost $15 per, which are now 8 will cost more because everything is going common. I've stopped my cell phone because of this and don't know how it will affect me in the future. We are in the low to middle of our pay grade in aerospace.
Not impressed with health care so far but I'll bet it's best for all.
I got instructions today to be at Dodge Theater for clean up detail after AID's walk. I'm so happy that I can take part in a different way. I'll probably be cleaning up after the Dogs and people of course. That's probably where I belong.