Still worried after husbands mistake

[KimmieK721]

Hello all. I want to thank this sight for all its help and insight, which includes all of you too! I am a married 31 year old female. My husband and I have been married 8 years and do not use condoms. I recently found out he had anal sex with a post op ts. The reason I found out is he gave me gonorrhea. Obviously my mind freaked out when I heard the news and immediatly got a rapid hiv test. Since we are married there have been a few possible exposures for me but only 1 for him. He tested negative on a rapid test at 52 days. I tested negatibe at 65 days on the first possible exposure, 54 days negative after 54 days possible exposure, and last negative after 23 days of last possible exposure. Neither of us have any underlying health issues. Are my chances good? I know about using condoms and have always used them when I was dating. I figured I could trust my husband and didn't need to use them. Boy was I wrong!

[Joe K]

The average time to seroconversion is 22 days and testing guidelines are to test at 6 weeks and then at 12 weeks to confirm the result.  Your negative result at 23 days is encouraging, but you will need to test again, to confirm the results.

Joe

[KimmieK721]

Thank you Joe. What about his test results? I know you cannot use your partners results to confirm yours but if his 50+ negative result is good then mine would be even promising right?

[Jeff G]

We can only advise that the ONLY test results that matter are your own test results taken at the appropriate time . You can read about testing here …http://www.aidsmeds.com/articles/HIVtests_5029.shtml

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI.Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence .

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

If you are not sure if you are in a securely monogamous relationship insist on condoms each time you have anal or vaginal sex .

[KimmieK721]

Yes I know that my test results are only for myself and so are his but what I'm asking is have you ever seen a 7 week negative hiv rapid test turn positive at 12 weeks? I know all about condoms and how to protect myself from hiv. This wasn't a drunken matter or poor judgment matter on my behalf. I am fully educated on condoms. I thought I could trust my husband and found out I couldnt.

[Jeff G]

I understand . A 6 or 7 week negative test rarely goes on to be positive when confirmed at 12 weeks . I have not personally seen a 7 week test change .