Started worried about HIV 3 years after the exposure !!

[sunshine8989]

Hello everyone...
I am so sad i am about to die the last days...I am afraid of HIV all the time because i was thinking of my past,and suddenly i realize I HAVE TOO MUCH REASONS !!
Back in 2009 , i was married ( i married at 19) with a man , and without checking each other before, we had unprotected sex...He was actually coming inside , coz we didnt have problem to have a childe...We were doing this for few months...Then suddenly , i dont know why, i had fever for 7 days if i remember well...Not normal fever i didnt have any other symptom no runny nose nothing..just fever.. I took any kind of pill i found..2-3 kinds of antibiotics ! after the fever finished,or when it was finishing, I had on my LEGS rash..small red spots or dark red...i dont remember if i had in my hands..i think only legs..I thought i had the rash from the many antibiotics i took and i took antistamine pills..they left ..( i dont remember how long they stayed though)
After I didnt have my period and i developed pregnancy symptoms !! When i went doctor, she told me that i was sick because when u get pregnant ur auto immune system weakens..And thats way u became sick..but u took bad pills so abortion..So i had an abortion. Since then iw as always fine ! Of course i had flu and stuff bt in general i was ok..Also i had appendix surgery last year they did me mllion tests at the hospital they didnt tell me for something wrong ...
Well now...i m paranoid..I m divorced since long time from this guy ( though we keep contact he is ok his health i mean-he never got HIV test)...
Now I found one man i really love and i would like to make family with him..But once i get into this step..I remember this..and i feel like the disease came to kill my dream...I made the test today...tomorrow they said they ll have my results..
from what i told u and from ur experience and knowledge..do u think i could be infected? i mean of course i could be, But is my risk low? 3 years passed since this fever..also if there is someone who knows about pregnancies,do u think that symptom was frm pregnancy or seroconversion??

please reply...
sorry for the long post..i got noone to talk to...

[Ann]

Sunshine,

Anytime you have unprotected intercourse with someone of unknown hiv status, you're putting yourself at risk for hiv and other STIs. However, I can't tell you what your chances are - nobody can. The ONLY way to know your hiv status is to test, which you have done.

You also need to have your new man tested - and you should have been using condoms until such time as you tested together.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann

[sunshine8989]

Thanks Ann..what kills me the most is that i l loose the man that i love..how positive dealwiththat.. i had dreamswith him....

[Ann]

Sunshine,

If this new guy leaves you because of a virus, then he's not a man worth having anyway. Trust me on that.

Are you aware that all you would need to do to protect his negative status is to use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse? (Don't forget to make sure he IS hiv negative, regardless of what your own test results turn out to be.)

Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection. There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

You can also have a family. Poz/neg couples are having healthy hiv negative babies all the time these days, with the negative partner also remaining hiv negative. All it takes is for the poz partner to be on meds with an undetectable viral load for at least six months before you start trying to get pregnant, so don't think a positive result will stop your chances of being a mother. It won't. I know plenty of women who have had hiv negative babies with hiv negative men.

Good luck with the test. And please note you only have one free post left in the Am I Infected forum, so use it wisely.

Ann

[sunshine8989]

i didnt know i had limited comments !! I took the result...It came negative for my big surprise....i was like zombie since i started worried...i was like crazy...i was not sleeping or eating..i lost 2 kg from ths situation..
the bad thing i noticed is that ,yesterday, when i told my partner that i may be positive and that i have serious concerns about it, i noticed he was distant...didnt touch me much and didnt kiss me....
i felt a racism..i told him,if i  am positive u cant get it like this...but he continued to be distant...this made me sad...i knew if i had it he would leave me most propably...