What is the my risk of infection?

[njay]

Hey all,

let me explain

2 years ago i tested on HIV because my former girlfriend asked me to.
So i did and it was negative.

1.5 years ago i had sex with a girl, the sex happend 2 times and with no condom, 1 time i did come in her and the othertime i did not
it only lasted a fews mins both times.

what is my risk of infection?

[RapidRod]

I take it you don't know anything of her sexual history? You had unprotected sex, so it will be necessary for you to test. It doesn't matter if you ejaculate or not. The only way to know your status is to test.

[njay]

she only said she had sex unprotected with 1 guy.
so she wasn't that sexual active

[Ann]

njay,

Anytime you have unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse, you are putting yourself at risk for hiv and other sexually transmitted infections and you need to test.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL STIs together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with a sexually transmitted infection. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

The ONLY way to know your hiv status is through testing.

Ann

[njay]

thanks for the reply's.

i am having my test tommorow and will hear the results 30 mins later.

im going crazy at home and the time is going slower and slower, i called the hotline and the women tolled me that i do not need to worry and the risk of getting infected is very small.

[Andy Velez]

Some things you should know:

HIV is not an easy virus to transmit. It's significantly more difficult to accomplish from female to male.

Low risk is not the same as no risk. So from here on in no matter whom you are with you need always to be wearing a condom when you have intercourse. No exceptions.

Asking someone else about their HIV status and basing whether you use a condom or not on that information is a mistake. Even a well meaning person may not know their accurate HIV status. You are responsible for your own health and you show that awareness by always using a condom.

The odds are in your favor that you will test negative this time. But you do need to learn from this experience and in the future always use a condom.

Good luck with your test.

Cheers,

[njay]

Hey Andy,

thanks for your reply, i feel allot more better now.
and yes your are very correct about using a condom everytime.

the reason im getting testen also is i started a new relationship with a new girl and it's going great.
so she and i are getting ourselfs tested just to be sure of ourselfs.

thanks again andy !

[Andy Velez]

You're welcome.

Assuming both you and your new gf both test negative, I also urge you not to rush into abandoning the use of condoms until you are both ready and willing to commit to a securely monogamous relationship.

Good luck and cheers,

[njay]

Well i was diagnosed negative.

i want to thank again everyone who helped me and replyed to this topic.

is there anything i can do back for this forum ?

[Ann]

njay,

We would be pleased if you contacted an hiv/aids organisation in your area and gave them a donation.

Thanks,
Ann

[njay]

i have just done that , thanks for the tip

more i can do? maybe i can calm some posters down that are/where in the same situation as me.

[Ann]

njay,

Thank you for the offer, but we don't encourage people to stick around. We find people often end up worrying about their own situation again when they stay here reading about other people's concerns.

If you're serious about wanting to help more, ask at the place where you made the donation if they need volunteers. Local places are often crying out for help. They'll give you proper training as well, something we can't really offer.

Good luck.

Ann