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Title: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Seven on January 18, 2007, 12:35:01 am
So if this was done before kill me now. LOL...just kidding...

I was curious how everyone found out they were poz and if they know how they got it? I got mine from a peeler back in 95, but I didnt find out I was poz till Dec 05 when I almost died in the hospital. I tracked down who gave it to me and the kicker is it was the first time I didnt use a condom...who woulda thunk it? Found out he use to share needles with people for riods.

What about you?
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: newhope on January 18, 2007, 02:01:51 am
I found out my husband of 10 yrs had a secret life. of meth and bareback orgies. and he didn't believe aids was real so he never bothered using a condom. i thought we were together for 10 yrs didn't worry about protection. he had 2 kids he visited on the weekends he stopped visiting them and starting parting apparently. so i left him in April and got tested in June. i haven't seen or heard from him since April.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: David_CA on January 18, 2007, 06:13:27 am
I got it from Dick or some asshole.  ;)  The health dept. notified us that somebody who just tested poz had listed us as contacts.  We got tested and here I am.

David
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Alain on January 18, 2007, 08:11:10 am
By getting on with my life and of course in the early 80's, we didn't know about it.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: marco23 on January 18, 2007, 08:40:15 am
First boyfriend....he just loved sharing everything!  ;D
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: aztecan on January 18, 2007, 08:48:09 am
I found out in 1985 at a clinic in Hollywood, CA. Was told to get my affairs in order because I had a year or two left.

How did I get it? Sex. Lots of it.

Hey, it was the late 70s, early 80s.

HUGS,

Mark
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: koi1 on January 18, 2007, 09:51:47 am
I found out at an anonymous test site.

I got it while having drunk sex, most likely. Don't know who gave it to me.

rob
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: ACinKC on January 18, 2007, 10:23:52 am
I got mine in the mail....  Even had it overnighted! ::)

I was a man whore.  Could have been alot of different people.  Tho I have in my head who I think it may be. 
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: lydgate on January 18, 2007, 10:59:49 am
There was in fact a long thread on this topic a few months ago; with a poll as well, if I remember correctly. But can't seem to find it now.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: bear60 on January 18, 2007, 11:06:17 am
OK...someone needs to tell me what this means:  "I got mine from a peeler back in 95"              quote                  seven
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: pozguy75 on January 18, 2007, 11:21:52 am
toilet seat! LOL

I got it about 9 years ago...lord know who...or where...diagnosed two years ago yesterday!! Holy cow, I just realized that...wow...hmm, goes to show you...time flies!
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: woodshere on January 18, 2007, 11:28:52 am
It was on sale and I couldn't resist!  Unfortunately there was a no return policy.

Probably got it 6 or 7 years ago.  Like Jeromy, lord knows from who.

But I have to say does it really matter how I got it?  I just see no sense in trying to figure out who.  I would rather concentrate on living today and planning for tomorrow, rather than dwell in the past.

Woods
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: David_CA on January 18, 2007, 11:33:37 am
toilet seat! LOL


You mean you sat down before he got up from the toilet?   ;)
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Life on January 18, 2007, 12:17:41 pm
i got mine the same way AC did except differently..
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: puertorico2006 on January 18, 2007, 12:30:22 pm
I got it because I became a meth addict and well those of you who have done meth know that it kind of makes you think your invincible so you dont insist on condoms at all. So it could have been one of about 10000000 people :-S (i think i went over a year with one or more sexual partners a day hahaha). I found out 3 months ago because i decided to take a home access anonymous test and sure enough it was positive. Thankfully though i quit drugs almost 2 years ago (it got old) otherwise i would probably be worst off :-D
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: puertorico2006 on January 18, 2007, 12:32:02 pm
yea id also like to know what a peeler is :-\ lol (i feel dumb)
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Tucsonwoody on January 18, 2007, 12:44:46 pm
If a peeler ain't what I use on my carrots then maybe its a stripper? :)  And if not then I don't know either.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: angels4kelly on January 18, 2007, 01:17:29 pm
I got tested by my Gynecologist because I knew I was very "high-risk".
I tested positive in 1990.

I had been having sex w/no condoms and sharing needles since '76.
I never have gotten ill though.
I just had a feeling that I would test poz.

GEE, I WONDER WHAT MY FIRST CLUE WAS?...LOL

Peace,
Kelly
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Longislander on January 18, 2007, 01:57:00 pm
mine came knocking at my front door~

and I'd also like to know what the heck a 'peeler' is....
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: cubbybear on January 18, 2007, 04:05:02 pm
I got mine because I was a whore, and all (there were LOTS) of the guys I barebacked said they were negative... duh!
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: poet on January 18, 2007, 05:57:52 pm
I was infected by my first sexual contact (passive anal sex at a bathhouse in the Times Square of 1984).  I developed acute retroviral syndrome shortly afterwards.  Test results in 1986.  Win
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: newt on January 18, 2007, 06:01:28 pm
I bought mine on eBay and forgot to return it within 7 days
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: racingmind on January 18, 2007, 06:11:17 pm
yeah...just what the hell is a "peeler"?  I'm thinking someone that takes off the condom and you are not aware of it.....am I right?


Oh, and I was drunk ...
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: fearless on January 18, 2007, 06:21:41 pm
bestiality
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: tsw923 on January 18, 2007, 06:28:30 pm
I'm with everyone else --- what the heck is a 'peeler'?  Dang I'm getting a better education here than I did w/ 4 years of college  :o

Anyway, according to the doc I contracted HIV+ about 10+ years ago.  So apparently some guy that I was madly in love/lost with gave me a lovely parting gift.  It could have also been from a blood transfusion during a surgery I had back then.  At this point though, its spilt milk.  I just made sure the most recent ex was negative and the current bf is protected....

TSW
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Miss Philicia on January 18, 2007, 06:36:12 pm
I got mine on a green shag carpet up on 112th street in Harlem.  Well, that's one possibility.  Could have been anytime theoretically between, oh... 1988 when I first was fucked up the ass using only Aramis hand lotion as lubrication by a hot guy I met in a bathroom at a coke dealer's apartment up to around 1991 on piece of old foam rubber on the rooftop of a 7th floor tenement walkup in Chinatown, NYC.  Diagnosed in mid-'93 but I had neglected to get myself test previously to that and as my cd4's were down to 200 I'd say it was some time before that year, no?
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Lou-ah-vull on January 18, 2007, 06:50:52 pm
I, too, have never heard of a "peeler," but if it is a top who removes his condom during sex, that is my nominee for new "word" this year! 

Like David NC, I found the toilet seat discussions curious (lol).  No one has suggested doorknob yet!

I also don't know who or when, not to hard to guess how (unprotected sex), I recognize that is unimportant to know, but like many of you, I wish I did know.  I think it happened in mid 2000 (thats when I got the "defining" illness), but was not aware of my status until 2005.

Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: cubbybear on January 18, 2007, 07:22:37 pm
According to the urban dictionary a peeler is slang for a stripper or an uncut guy.  I kinda prefer to think a peeler is someone who rips his rubber off.

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Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Miss Philicia on January 18, 2007, 07:45:32 pm
Well, if it's uncut cock then I guess that applies to me as well.  Shag Carpet was Venezuelan and Foam Rubber was Dominican.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: bluelove on January 18, 2007, 07:52:10 pm
Newt great answer!!

Got it from a ex boyfriend.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Razorbill on January 18, 2007, 07:55:31 pm
Tested poz in Sept 01 - tcells 200 and vl way up there so I guess I had it for a while.  My first and best lover died in 94 of it and I spent years in fear and denial.  Maybe it was him.  Maybe it wasn't.  That was another life.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: dtwpuck on January 18, 2007, 07:57:55 pm
I got mine because I touched a Republican.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Eldon on January 18, 2007, 08:34:24 pm
Somewhere along the lines there was an exchange of bodily fluids which had infected me.


"What Can I do today to make a better Tommorrow?"
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Miss Philicia on January 18, 2007, 09:34:28 pm
O RLY
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Dan J. on January 18, 2007, 09:43:56 pm
 I was probably infected sometime in the early '80's. I found out in May of 1986. I don't know who infected me or where. & To tell the truth I don't really care. Does knowing when/where/who matter today? NO, it doesn't. I just try to take care of myself as best I can now.

Dan J.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Coffeechick88 on January 18, 2007, 10:01:45 pm
Well, on Feb 23, 2001 I went on a walk at about 1 am with my boyfriend who said he'd keep me company because I was having insomnia and couldn't sleep.  This was a Christian college campus so I thought I was safe.  I was a virgin then and naive enough to think that he respected my wish to stay that way.  We got to a place--wasn't well patrolled by the security guards--they would get you to come back to the dorms if you were caught--and it was a nice quiet, peaceful place.  He put the moves on me, I said no, he said I was his girlfriend, he shouldn't have to ask for sex, I said no again and I won't go into detail about what happened after that....Anyway, fast forward to about the second week of March 2001, I drove up to visit my homestate for spring break.  I staggered to the Urgent care not being able to keep anything down and a fever of 106.  After a whole battery of tests, they concluded it was CMV, but it is more likely that I got two viruses, but it was ARS symptoms that hospitilized me not necessarily CMV.  When I felt better, I went to a blood drive.  I didn't have the knowledge then about HIV (I didn't know about window periods and thought since he was an athlete he couldn't possibly have anything) so I thought since that first test was negative and nothing else came up that I was safe and okay to donate blood.  The Red Cross sent me a letter stating I needed to get tested.  I went back to the infectious disease doctor (one of the team of doctors that puzzled over my case in the hospital) and in May 2001 I found out I was positive. 

The end.  There you have it.  If I could hit those kind of odds again on a trip to Vegas, I'd be a rich woman..... But anyhow, it really doesn't matter.  I usually don't tell people because they tend to ask that to try to put you in the "innocent victims" file or the "bastards who deserve what they got" file.  I don't like to give them that opportunity to do that.  I only posted it on this site because people tend to be more supportive here and wouldn't judge me or give me an overwhelming amount of pity or "at least you are an innocent victim" like many people are prone to do (at least the people my mom and grandma told and that support group I made a mistake of telling).
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: aztecan on January 18, 2007, 10:19:51 pm
So if this was done before kill me now. LOL...just kidding...

I was curious how everyone found out they were poz and if they know how they got it? I got mine from a peeler back in 95, but I didnt find out I was poz till Dec 05 when I almost died in the hospital. I tracked down who gave it to me and the kicker is it was the first time I didnt use a condom...who woulda thunk it? Found out he use to share needles with people for riods.

What about you?

OK, I'm still not clear on what a "peeler" is and what in the world are riods?

Actually, I lied earler. I didn't get it from sex. I got it from contaminated Doritos.

HUGS,

Mark
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: thunter34 on January 18, 2007, 10:29:38 pm
Dagnabbit!  I just know that that is a reference to an infamous 'Doritos' thread from back in days of old on this site!  I have not been able to find it, and I think Ann said it was gone away with the old forums!

Phooey.


(I knew there had to be some risk associated with unprotected Frito-Lays!)
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Life on January 18, 2007, 10:33:49 pm
Mark!!!  Read the Label next time!



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Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Eldon on January 18, 2007, 10:34:24 pm
Philly you are really...Yes, it did!


"What Can I do today to make a better Tommorrow?"
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: lydgate on January 18, 2007, 10:54:47 pm
My martinis were spiked with it, I'm sure of it. I like em stirred not shaken, but the bartender refused to comply; that should have been my tip-off.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: tsw923 on January 18, 2007, 10:56:54 pm
Doritos?!  Why didn't anyone tell me?!  That must have been it!  Unprotected Dorito Consumption!!  Is the risk high if you switched to 'Baked' Doritos?
 ::)
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Life on January 18, 2007, 11:05:08 pm
I tripped over this vid a couple of days ago....  Interesting..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oh9SOqScYZw
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: sdcabincrew74 on January 18, 2007, 11:12:30 pm
I found out in March of 04.  I was in the hospital with PCP and MAC.  CD4 of 22 and a VL "off the charts".  I got because I am a slut and like bareback sex.  No drugs, no alcohol, just stupid I suppose.  After two years I am VERY healthy.  CD4 in the 450's and no measurable VL.  However, I am still a slut and still like bareback sex......some things never change  ;D  Now, of course, I have to disclose a little something before we fuck it seldom causes an issue though.....
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: GSOgymrat on January 19, 2007, 01:55:53 am
Here's the whole story. I had been in a monogamous relationship with a guy in which we had unprotected sex after both being tested. We broke up because I was moving to Seattle to go to grad school. I decided I didn't want to be in a relationship for a while and was looking forward to casually dating. Of course the first guy I go out with ends up being "the One" and we start dating. I wanted to get tested so we could do the unprotected sex/monogamous thing again but my boyfriend was VERY uncomfortable about getting tested. His brother had recently died of AIDS and he could barely even talk about it. So after several months we slipped up once during sex and didn't use condoms. The next day I told him we had made a mistake and insisted we both needed to be tested. It took a couple of weeks but he agreed. His test came back positive and mine came back "indeterminate". I waited a couple of weeks, tested again and came back positive. However almost 15 years later we are still together, both healthy and happy.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: joemutt on January 19, 2007, 02:58:42 am
The grand old-fashioned way. And he said he loved me. And then he died.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: lydgate on January 19, 2007, 03:26:28 am
A week after I moved to Iowa. His name was Matt. 5'11ish, 160, perfect bottom, bad peroxide job but still incredibly cute. Matt the farm-lad-turned-slut. Well. It was fantastic sex though. And I even bought him an expensive breakfast. Topping bareback, just once, can still give you this.

Jay
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Mouse on January 19, 2007, 03:31:13 am
O RLY


YA RLY





(Sorry. Had to.)
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Miss Philicia on January 19, 2007, 03:46:39 am

YA RLY


(Sorry. Had to.)

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Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Lwood on January 19, 2007, 07:34:26 am
Well there was this one time, at Band Camp.......
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: skeebo1969 on January 19, 2007, 07:38:00 am


  Risky sex aka condomless sex bka unprotected sex ;)
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Dachshund on January 19, 2007, 08:27:07 am
butt f*cking my way through the 80's
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: skeebo1969 on January 19, 2007, 08:33:49 am
butt f*cking my way through the 80's

 I think I saw that record being advertised on VH1 the other day ;)
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: carousel on January 19, 2007, 09:08:52 am
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Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: racingmind on January 19, 2007, 09:34:46 am
this is an interesting thread...

On one hand, we all know that it ultimately doesn't matter how and from who you got the virus...

On the other hand, it is comforting to know that many others out there were infected the same way (carelessness or the heat of the moment, whatever..)  It's all about us owning up to the choices we made and living with them in the here and now.

And all we really know is that we have to take care of ourselves and each other..... ;D

BTW,  Day 3 smoke free (yay)!

and did we ever determine what a peeler is?  just curious...
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: sweetasmeli on January 19, 2007, 10:58:21 am
 ;D I swear I just almost spat white tea all over my keyboard! Some of these replies are so funny I can't bring myself to write anything serious...

A giggling Melia ;D
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: ACinKC on January 19, 2007, 11:31:07 am
I bought my virus at Costco.  A 100,000 Viral Load Pack was just $9.99 and it even came with a complimentary 12pack of Cd-4's!!!  I mean seriously who can pass up a deal like that.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Cerrid on January 19, 2007, 02:36:12 pm
My dick went astray
and all I got
was this lousy virus.

Judging from my numbers, it must have happened 10+ years ago or later. Most of the time, I was engaged in serial monogamies and, in-between, occasional polygamies. Somewhere along these lines I got that special gift but I have no idea when, from whom or on what occasion. What I do know now is that Mr Unknown didn't pass me any resistencies, so perhaps he didn't even know his own status.

I didn't get any symptoms until last summer when I got an oral thrush and felt quite tired. For the first time in many years, I had to see a doctor. That was when I found out about the harsh truth, diagnosed on Sep 1st, 2006.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Seven on January 19, 2007, 03:28:08 pm
LOL

You guys don't know what a peeler is?
hahahahahahahhhaa

Ok being a female with tons of male freinds....they ALWAYS use this word!

YES A PEELER IS A STRIPPER!

Wanna go see Peelers tonight?
Yo, lastnight I got the best lap dance from this hot peeler!

Peel...ya know to take off clothes....WOW...maybe they just use that word here in Toronto, Canada. For real...never known a guy that hasn't heard of that word before! LOL

Too Funny!!  ;D


Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: ChrisNCoronado on January 19, 2007, 03:30:15 pm
Well there was this one time, at Band Camp.......

....whereas Ms. Elle ("L") Woods pulled the flute from her chute and then stuck it in mine.  That's how I got.  Playin' some dirty flute.   
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Boo Radley on January 19, 2007, 03:39:48 pm
A mosquito with a really large proboscis.

I think I contracted HIV in late December, 1982 from a guy visiting from Houston for 2 weeks.  We had sex every night (and a few days) and a week after he left I came down with the worst "flu" I've ever had in my life.   He got sick by late 1983 and died in 1984 and by mid 1983 I was practicing safer sex.  I didn't get tested until late 1989 after I found my bf's AZT he'd conveniently forgotten to mention.  I don't think the bf infected me but if he did it was in early 1983 before we started practicing safer sex. 

Boo
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Joe K on January 19, 2007, 03:56:05 pm
It came as the "special prize" in a box of Cracker Jacks.  Some prize.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: aupointillimite on January 19, 2007, 04:00:34 pm
Stolichnaya+ Me+ "I can't keep it up with a condom on"= A very classily drunken faggot who is newly infected with HIV.

I found out six weeks later when I had to get an HIV test to join the Navy. 
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: northernguy on January 20, 2007, 01:19:39 pm
I can't believe so many people didn't know that a peeler is a stripper!

For lack of a witty response, just the facts: it either happened 3 1/2 years ago when some selfish jerk shot in my mouth without warning, or a condom broke and the top didn't tell me.  Either way, it's done.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Blixer on January 20, 2007, 01:42:55 pm
I don't have a clue when I was infected.  Sometimes I wish I could pinpoint the event and then sometimes I'm glad I can't.  I was always pretty safe. I only have a handful of what would be considered "risky" encounters.  So I guess it must have been one of those.  I didn't get tested regularly because I thought I was safe enough and I never had anything that even resembled a seroconversion incident.  My last HIV test prior to diagnosis was in March 2000 and it was negative.  I got my diagnosis in Jan. 2006.  So that basically gives me the window I guess.

I found out because I had swollen lymph nodes and a very astute doctor that knew something was up.  Otherwise I might not have known till I ended up very sick.  Luckily, I caught mine at a point where I think the immune damage is minimal (if that can ever be the case).

I also had no clue as to what a "peeler" was!
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: skeebo1969 on January 20, 2007, 02:43:25 pm
It came as the "special prize" in a box of Cracker Jacks.  Some prize.

   Joe thats so ironic!  I was just telling my girl that the Cracker Jack suprises ain't what they use to be. ;)
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: poet on January 20, 2007, 04:32:39 pm
I don't have a clue when I was infected.  Sometimes I wish I could pinpoint the event and then sometimes I'm glad I can't.  I was always pretty safe. I only have a handful of what would be considered "risky" encounters.  So I guess it must have been one of those.  I didn't get tested regularly because I thought I was safe enough and I never had anything that even resembled a seroconversion incident. 


The above from David.  This from Racing: On one hand, we all know that it ultimately doesn't matter how and from who you got the virus...

On the other hand, it is comforting to know that many others out there were infected the same way (carelessness or the heat of the moment, whatever..)  It's all about us owning up to the choices we made and living with them in the here and now.

Why?  Because we need to remember all the people reading our posts, especially any who are still negative or who have friends who are negative.  We often question here what is safe sex.  Well by pinpointing, if we can, what infected us, we are defining what is safe and what is not, if not for ourselves, for others who might still be unsure or who might hear conflicting information: another form of disclosure.  If we were all anonymous here, without a face, without personal details, it might not matter much.  But each time someone 'connects' with one of us, sees himself or herself in us, in aspects of who we are, we are talking directly to him or her.  An important thread: thanks for creating it! Win
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Coffeechick88 on January 20, 2007, 05:30:15 pm
I can't believe so many people didn't know that a peeler is a stripper!

For lack of a witty response, just the facts: it either happened 3 1/2 years ago when some selfish jerk shot in my mouth without warning, or a condom broke and the top didn't tell me.  Either way, it's done.
Oh that makes sense.  I was really wondering what a peeler was and I was hoping someone would say it.  It makes sense now that I think of it.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: yowsaa on January 21, 2007, 02:40:37 am
Got it from a toilet seat in a public washroom me thinks  ::)  Hmmm, see that's been done  :-[
OK than, bought mine with Air Miles.

Seriously tho, without going into details how the 'stars' aligned for the perfect storm.
Flashback to mid 90's:
yowssa meets hot chick
hot chick wants yowssa
yowssa wants hot chick
hot chick says last recent boyfriend hiv+
yowssa still wants hot chick
hot chick gives yowssa condom
yowssa dont like condoms
yowssa still wants hot chick
yowssa does hot chick
THE END

Can't win a damn thing in the lottery, but I win this. Go figure  ;)
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: rodeo99 on January 22, 2007, 02:23:14 am
I was hoping to contribute in two ways to this forum (my first post on this site, awesome site by the way, great sense of community):

1) answer the "peeler" mystery, but Seven and Northernguy beat me to it. It is  a stripper. Us Canadians get acquainted with peelers early in our adolescence.
2) I too, like Seven got it from a peeler.  I literally sold my soul for $160. In 2000, a few months after my baby girl was born, away on business, I was in a strip club horny and thinking I would have one last m2m encounter.  The ironic part is that I didn't have a condom so there was no anal.  I must be one of the lucky ones who got it from oral sex ( a good topic for another forum).  He came in my mouth, i didn't swallow.

Anyway, it cost me two years of my life.  For the first year I was so sick and had no idea what was wrong with me. I have no memory of most of that year. After the diagnosis I was a basket case - depressed, scared to death and pretty much cried myself to sleep every night.  My wife stayed by my side the whole time (another good forum topic, as I wonder how many guys are in my position).

Six years later I'm in a good place mentally and physically, probably the best shape I've been in my life. We had another baby girl in 2004 (yet another topic). I'm undetectable and other than being plagued by guilt now and then, consider myself a very lucky man.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: david25luvit on January 22, 2007, 05:38:10 am
Not that it really matters at this point...I'm pretty sure I got my dose from my lover who had been positive for sixteen years when he passed away
Oct 04.  Two years into the relationship I suddenly tested POSITIVE despite having safe sex.  I suspect I was infected while giving him an
injection (T-200) when he unexpectedly jerked his arm and caused me to stick myself with the same needle.    But who knows for sure...
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: wishihadacat on January 22, 2007, 05:59:22 am
Based on risk behavior, I got mine in late '79 or early '80,  in my (hopefully) discrete way describing it, by doing something I shouldn't have done with someone I shouldn't have done it with. To my knowledge, that individual died lond ago, with so many other men and women.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Cerrid on January 22, 2007, 06:13:25 am
1) answer the "peeler" mystery, but Seven and Northernguy beat me to it. It is  a stripper.

Thanks for clarifying. :)

Actually, I did look the term up at urbandictionary.com which is usually my last source of hope in cases like this. But they offer two alternative explanations as well ("a member of her majesty's constabulary: a police officer; especially in the United Kingdom and Australia" OR "an uncircumcised man"), so it must have been one of those three.

Ah, they also explain what "riod/riode" means. Another term I haven't come across before.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: budndallastx on January 22, 2007, 06:52:11 am
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("a member of her majesty's constabulary: a police officer; especially in the United Kingdom and Australia" OR "an uncircumcised man"),

Why couldn't it be all three?  Were any of the British / English guys cops who were uncut that come to mind who happened to be constables?

Just trying to help !   ;)
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: keyite on January 22, 2007, 07:04:49 am
Not from unprotected anal sex (although I have had this type of sex in the past I only fucked with a condom within the 'window' between three previous negative tests and the positive one). So almost certainly from oral sex/swallowing and probably with a guy with very high VL.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: gaz41 on January 22, 2007, 12:41:28 pm
i had unprotected sex with my first partner after leaving the military.  after weeks of insisting on a condom, i was drunk and had used recreational drugs for the firstime and my guard was down and thats it positive
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: ryeguy on January 22, 2007, 02:37:54 pm
I found out from an earlier employer. Lufthansa, I was working as a flight attendant and after a check up I got the nice call which informed me that I was hiv +  About 1 week later my job was terminated, at that time in Germany this was possible as I was still in the probation period of 6 months which all new employees must go through.

And as most of you got it from ax ex-Bfriend. Yep That's the Reader's Digest version.

Take care.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Salteen on January 23, 2007, 12:11:37 pm
I got it when I was born from my mother who got from a bad blood transfusion.  Fun fun.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: ChaplinGuy on January 23, 2007, 03:06:28 pm

I have no idea (well, I have an idea, but not sure who). But can say that indeed I'm sure that alcohol was at least partly to blame. No doubt acquired (no pun intended) this bug during my year and a half of endless partying and lack of judgment sleeping with a lot of folks. I think it's only in post-diagnosis that I can appreciate the calls to educate college students about the dangers of heavy drinking and partying - I used to think that was for pussies (pardon my language, but 'twas my thinking at the time).

Never even thought for a second that a night of shots and making out with a stranger back at my place would lead to this. But alas, here I sit and type on an HIV+ peoples web site! Crazy, crazy.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: fred40 on January 23, 2007, 05:57:55 pm
I finally came out in '98 because I found the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.  It lasted 6 years ('04) until he became sick and we found out he was poz.  I was tested and got my poz results back the day before he died.  I wish I could say something funny, but still can't think about it without getting emotional.  Sorry.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Queen Tokelove on January 24, 2007, 12:53:47 am
I got infected by an ex when I lived in Miami....
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: siongi on January 24, 2007, 02:29:18 am
I had been unemployed for about a year and had earlier spent three and a half years in an hostile country. So when i got this job, i found myself spending more time partying and sooner or later i couldnt count the number of gals i had had sex with. To me i was having the greatest time peeling of the stress that had built inside of me for a while. Now here am people, looking for how to live another hour today, tomorrow.But it dosent matter now actually maybe only if we could be of assistance those who are still negative.

Love

Siongi
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: dixieman on January 24, 2007, 10:26:52 am
Well in 1990... after several hiv test which came back negative... my ex and I decided it was ok to use no protection. Unfortunately it takes two people to remain monogamous and my ex unfortunately did not... I went to my doctor after finding out monogamy was only on my side so I had all testing for std's ran... to make this short I tested positive to hiv booted out my ex... he now resides in NYC and at that time it was a given death sentence... so any who I met a wonderful person we dated and this new wonderful man was the one... but, unfortunately I could not deal with being hiv+ eventhough he did not care that I was hiv he wanted to stay together although he was negative... I closed the door to a perfect person and I really regret it... but, life goes on and here I am living although my doctor said I'd be dead within a year... 16 years later... here I am... Thanks to family, friends, herbs, exercise, meds and a couple of doctors... I'm still alive and well...
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: marc11864 on January 27, 2007, 01:00:58 am
Thank you for asking this. It is only now that I feel that I can finally tell my story.

I was attending a party on the remote planet of Dantooine. It was just after the Empire had attacked and destroyed my home planet of Alderaan because I'd refused to tell them where we were hiding our rebel base. This sleazy guy named Old Ben came up to me and said, "Nice buns!". How was I to know he was talking about my hair?
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: dutch on January 27, 2007, 06:10:41 am
I have always assumed I got my HIV from oral sex in May 1990. A guy came in my mouth. I swallowed in a reflex. This was at a sleepover during the famous Queensday festivities in Amsterdam in a house with mostly HIV+ guys. My partner must have assumed I was HIV+ too. I had tested negative before this happened. Being honest to myself: I got tested because I had had unprotected sex several times. I was depressed and had started to take risks. I did have an mutually passive anal contact in January 1990, so it might have been the more accepted route of contamination.

During my seroconversion I got litterally mad with fear. I got tested. I was negative 3 months after May happened, but I knew something was wrong. I was hospitilised for 3 months for depression. In 1993 I got tested again after my health started to deteriorate. I tested positive and my t-cell count was down to 200. 2 years ago I stopped taking antidepressants. I now realise I started barebacking last year with HIV+ partners after years of safe sex because I fell into another depression.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: mrtallguy on January 27, 2007, 06:49:39 am
NEW YEARS DAY 2003.....AFTER A COUPLE HITS OF ECSTASY....AND HOURS OF BAREBACK SEX AFTERWARDS....INCLUDING SWAPPING DILDOS LIKE THEY WERE BARBIE  DOLLS....AND EXACTLY 7 DAYS LATER I SERO-CONVERTED.   AT THE TIME I THOUGHT I JUST HAD A BAD CASE OF THE FLU.  3 MONTHS LATER ON MARCH 25TH I WENT WITH A BUDDY TO GET TESTED BECAUSE HE THOUGHT HE HAD BEEN INFECTED....HE TURNED OUT NEG.....MY TEST CAME BACK POZ. UGH!  AS THEY SAY....THE REST IS HISTORY.

BE WELL....

CRAIG
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: havisham on January 27, 2007, 07:54:55 pm
I spent three months travelling in South America in 2003. On the way home, missed a connection in Buenos Aires and had an extra 7 hours to fill. Found a bar, and a beautiful man. Spent 3 of the seven hours having lovely, laughing holiday sex. He didn't have any condoms. Mine were in my rucksack at the airport. No alcohol, no drugs - just a lapse of judgement.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: J.R.E. on January 27, 2007, 08:01:12 pm

It was a conscious or at least a (semi-conscious )decision on my part not to use protection with an individual, over a period of about three days, back in July of 1985. Of course, excessive alcohol and poppers also played a roll.

I blame only myself...


Ray
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: appleboy on January 27, 2007, 10:52:17 pm
I got mine from licking a Jetta's door handle at a Volkswagen dealership to mark it as mine so I could buy it!  :P

Well I know what city and state and where I met the guy from.  It was Austin Texas and some cute guy from gay.com.  Dunno why I did not use a condom but hey that is past news.  I get asked often am I mad and I honestly have to say no because well it was my decision to not wear a condom it takes 2 to tango.  I found out I had HIV in Feb 2005.  I am about to approach my 2 year mark.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: swede_dish on January 27, 2007, 11:15:49 pm
As a young duckling, I fell into the wooes of a strapping fellow....he porked my hoohah and gave my blood the flu. Said flu seems to be permie.

8 cups beer
1 dirty futon
2 incoherent and stupid teenagers

mix well and serve chilled.

TADA you've got a nasty case of HIV.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: escapevelocity on February 05, 2007, 02:29:35 am
Getting fired from my job + dropping out of college + getting dumped + not giving a shit anymore + spending a good chunk of my unemployment check on speed + a summer of lascivious, random sexual encounters and drug abuse = HIV.

Part of me would like to blame a broken condom or a freak transmission through oral sex, but no such ...ahem...  "luck."  I was completely reckless for a while there.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: poodlelover on February 05, 2007, 02:50:16 am
found out in 1999 when i was very sick and hiv was the last test they ran and wala!!!  i had hiv with a tcell count of 140 and was married.  Come to find out i got it from my boyfriend  before I was married and he had even come to my wedding and didnt let me know.  He died in 92 from "bone cancer",  and  "skin cancer" but once i was diagnosed i called his sister and she told me he had died from AIDS.  we were together from 86 to Valentines day 87.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: AustinWesley on February 10, 2007, 06:05:56 pm
Hmm,

Well, this is a very sore subject with most HIV+ people, myself included.   I was glad to see there were some serious responses and got a kick out of the humorous ones too.

After a couple of public articles and being open about my status on Myspace I recieved hundreds of emails and contacts.   I got tired of answering this question.   While it's really no one else's business I decided to go ahead and write an account of how I found out I was HIV+ in hopes it would open a few eyes and perhaps someone else would learn from my mistakes.

Clearly, at the time I wrote this it brought up the intial rage I had.   I don't even like thinking about it or dealing with it.  That part of my life is over and I can't change the past, but if it benefits someone else to read my experience then here it is:

How I Got HIV, And the Aftermath


http://blog.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog.view&FriendID=37852557&blogMonth=6&blogDay=19&blogYear=2006
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: marc11864 on February 10, 2007, 07:24:38 pm
Wesley,

Just read the story on your blog. Thank you for sharing but now I am hanging on the edge of my seat.  :) Whatever happened to the poz guy that you met at the party? Did you ever ask him out?   ???
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: RapidRod on February 10, 2007, 07:59:49 pm
By unprotected sex or by getting lacerated by a broken bone in the morgue or by the same way in the funeral home. Just don't know which one. It was by one of them.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: AustinWesley on February 10, 2007, 08:09:06 pm
Wesley,

Just read the story on your blog. Thank you for sharing but now I am hanging on the edge of my seat.  :) Whatever happened to the poz guy that you met at the party? Did you ever ask him out?   ???

LOL, You're funny Marc.   You know that guy turned out to be the first person I could really talk to when I was going through the whole mess so I think my first impression was shot after calling him drunk at 2am all upset ;)

Ironically, both he and I ended up in relationships with other people about a month later.   Then, we both ended up single again at nearly the same time 6 months later or so.   I opted for a break, but he's now once again happy and in love with another cute partner.

However, we are still friends and I think very highly of him! ;)

Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: marc11864 on February 10, 2007, 08:15:21 pm
Awwww bummer! Being an old-fashioned romantic, I was hoping you could have at least embellished a little.   ;D

Oh well... I guess I'll have to go back to my "Harlequins".
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Nico on February 10, 2007, 08:48:29 pm
Well, the Jane Fonda workout video was on in late '89 after cocktails ;D...during sex and I did a my leg raises and the rest...well you know the story.

Roger
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Seven on February 11, 2007, 01:54:13 am
Well the guy that gave it to me..."the peeler" LOL
Has Hep C too. Good thing I dont have that as well.
UGH...

ANNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNND......

He and his present gf only have HIV...lucky fuckers!
With very high cd4 so they prolly wont ever go on meds...
I mean being they are both peelers they live a very healthy lifestyle.
Always eating healthy and working out. No wonder why they never got AIDS and I did!
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: ndrew on February 13, 2007, 12:55:40 am
There once was a boy named Rick.
Who slipped and fell on a dick.
It went right up his rear, and this oh I fear, is how he ended up sick!
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: lforsyth on February 13, 2007, 09:47:02 am
I really love the humor you all show on this topic.  The late 70's and early 80's were wild.  I was living in San Francisco from 1972 to 1980.  My partner and I went to the tubs every weekend. We broke up a year after moving to Los Angeles.  I was still a bit wild and had a f**k-buddy who later turned out to be positive. 

In 1985 friends of mine and I discussed the plague and decided that we would not be surprised if we were positive.  We all tested positive.  I found out the month before moving to Arizona.

I don't regret a thing and am still the same slut I was back then (given half a chance, LOL)

Thanks for all the support shown me so far.  I haven't been on in awhile because my machine at home crapped out and I picked up the new one yesterday.

Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: MoltenStorm on February 13, 2007, 01:33:00 pm
Well, it's the funniest thing...

One day I was walking naked by the fruit bowl...

... and POOF! :) Here I am.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: red_Dragon888 on February 13, 2007, 04:28:06 pm
While flying through the clouds I ran into a strange massive sustance.  I tried to avoid it but it was too late. It got me.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: sweetasmeli on February 22, 2007, 03:01:30 am
I’ve been double-dared to finally share with everyone here The Real Truth behind my infection, so here goes:

I got my virus from a Kinder Surprise egg.

Problem is, I haven’t been able to stop buying the things since. I’ve been trying to get the whole collection: herpes, chlamidia, gonorrhea, genital warts the whole kaboodle!

Btw, can't spell most diseases...thank goodness hiv is only 3 letters!

Melia The Minx ;D
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: ManISOMan on February 22, 2007, 04:26:39 am
I became positive from having unprotected sex, fully aware of what the risks were.  It's my fault and there is no one to blame but myself.  I had an idea that I was positive after having flu-like sypmtoms and went to get tested.  I went in for the results and gave them my id, the person looked it up and hesitated and said that doctor would need to talk with me.  I wanted to laugh out loud, as I knew I had just been told that I was positive.............it did seem rather funny at the time.  The doctor that sat down with me and actually told me could not have been nicer.  He gave me every available phone number, including his home phone number and said if I ever needed to talk to someone, feel free to call.  I did begin to tear up a bit and left..............believing I was surely going to die some time in the near future.  Still here, and even though I never did call that doctor.......................I greatly appreciate how available he made himself...................in fact I've not a found a doctor to be as available since then.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: DanielMark on February 22, 2007, 04:35:27 am
I’ve been double-dared to finally share with everyone here The Real Truth behind my infection, so here goes:

I got my virus from a Kinder Surprise egg.


You too Melia? Mannn, those things should come with a warning sticker.

 :-*
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: mjmel on February 22, 2007, 05:13:40 am
a pity shag with an ex--back in the 80's.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Miss Philicia on February 22, 2007, 11:53:26 am
o noes... the dreaded Pity Fuck
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Moffie65 on February 22, 2007, 12:07:35 pm
Probably from Forsyth above, when he and his were at Rich Street Tubs. ;)
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: David_CA on February 22, 2007, 01:11:02 pm
I got it from butt fuckin', most likely.

D
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: BKNYLivin on February 22, 2007, 02:50:50 pm
I took a load, now I'm trying to get rid of one........................
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: zeb on February 22, 2007, 03:00:09 pm
I got it from unprotected sex with a woman who said she was hiv negative.
I still blame myself for not protecting myself!

By the way: This week on the news: In the Netherlands people who are lying about their status and do infect others are found guilty by judges! Unbelievable!


Zeb
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: zeb on February 22, 2007, 03:01:14 pm
sorry correction:

these people who do infect others by lying about their status are NOT found guilty in the Netherlands!

Zeb
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Ann on February 22, 2007, 03:57:45 pm
Zeb,

Lots of people say they're hiv negative when they have never tested and don't actually know, they just assume they are. That's one of the reasons this thing keeps spreading.

Just sayin...

Ann
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: zeb on February 22, 2007, 04:07:58 pm
Hi Ann,

You're right I know now.

regards,
Zeb
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: David_CA on February 22, 2007, 04:22:52 pm
sorry correction:

these people who do infect others by lying about their status are NOT found guilty in the Netherlands!

Zeb

As morally wrong as that may be, I'll bet it would slow HIV infections, if it had any effect at all.  Knowing that I'm the one responsible for my staying HIV- would but the responsibility on the party that has the most to lose - me.

David
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: zeb on February 22, 2007, 04:51:55 pm
Well the idea behind it is this:

The Dutch government fears that people will become reluctant to test themselves if they can be put in jail for not disclosing.

The case this week was that a guy who knew he was poz had a relationship for a few years, but... he told his partner he was tested negative.
When his partner became infected he still was lying about it. Finaly the mother of this guy told the partner about the poz status of her son.

So, even these people will not go behind bars. Morally wrong of course!
Try to imagine how it has to be to find out that the partner you love is acting like this.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: heartforyou on February 22, 2007, 07:26:28 pm
Quote
How did I get it? Sex. Lots of it.

Hey, it was the late 70s, early 80s

Ditto

Hermie
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: livingpositively on February 22, 2007, 07:57:43 pm
It was the JACKPOT on a penny slot.  The "Arm" on that "Bandit" was so enticing.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: whizzer on February 22, 2007, 08:06:52 pm
The Dutch Govt is probably making the right call.

One of the barriers to testing is the stigma and life-changing aspects of the diagnosis,i ncluding the responsibilities some govts place on those who know they are  infected, so many simply avoid the diagnosis for as long as they possibly can. 

Bad for them in the long run, but in the short term, they have a great time believing they are neg, all the while spreading the virus like crazy.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: jkinatl2 on February 22, 2007, 08:18:41 pm
We might wanna start yet another thread on the criminalization of HIV infection. Me gots some strong opinions :)

Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Lis on February 22, 2007, 08:22:27 pm
I'm sorta stuck between the fruit bowl, and the need for a new thread...

lis
(doing her best mike Meyers impression)
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: zeb on February 22, 2007, 08:53:46 pm
Yep, perhaps time for a new thread!?
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: thirtysomething on February 22, 2007, 09:02:32 pm
Cheating Boyfriend !  >:(
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Fosbery on February 23, 2007, 05:03:21 pm
Hey Rodeo,

I guess it must be something Canadian, I too practiced safe sex, I had a lot of problems with strep throat and my doctor said it entered the bloodstream when I my tonsils were inflamed, oh lucky me. I was tested every year for the past 14 years and always came back as negative. Met a one night stand in April of 2004, after just testing negative did the wild thing, safe, only he came and I love to swallow...pig that I am ::).  Five months later I meet this great guy and we started dating, we dated for the next 15 months having sex half way always safe, then one night we go out get drunk and come back to his place and get into it only this time we were so into it we did not use protection. Next day we talked about and it, he was worried and we talked about going in and being tested, but stupidly it took us till February 2006 to be tested, I found out I was poz on Valentines day, he found out 2 weeks later that he was poz too.  I was very naive to think that I was practising safe sex because oral was always stated to be so low risk...well come on who can suck someone with a condom on..not me that's for sure, but still I though I was safe, my partner is still with me, but he still gets angry most of the time blaming me, and he always will, he thinks I could have done more. I live with the guilt of ruining his life as it was. But one thing is for sure we love each other a great deal and we are a 98 persent match, I often wonder how much better things could be if it wasn't for this. But we have mostly good days now, it's when we have to go and get these bloody blood test every 3 months that he goes into this dark space and sometimes lashes out. But again I do understand and I hope that one day if we can make it though all this we'll grow old together if that is in the cards.

So again something Canadian.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: tigger2376 on March 01, 2007, 08:39:49 pm
I am ashamed to say, I was unfaithful. Just the once
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Jeff64 on March 01, 2007, 09:03:17 pm
I found mine on the doorstep...apparently no one wanted the poor thing so I decided to take it in and raise it as my own.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: NewYorkKat on March 01, 2007, 10:56:18 pm
after years of being good and having a new husband who is neg, I messed up on a trip to germany. One time with a 6'6 bear with a beer can of a you-know-what. Why unprotected? i do not know! I wouldn;t dare do that here in NY. I can;t change the past. I came back with only a slight fever. Dec 2006 i get tested and my worse nightmare happened. a positive result. I even worse fear: My neg husband would leave me. He didn;t. He understood. Not on meds yet.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: JPinLA on March 03, 2007, 12:42:56 am
I was at the end of about 1000 squat thrusts and I guess that last squat came with a parting gift.  That'll teach me to workout so hard.
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: tigger2376 on March 03, 2007, 06:54:41 pm
Has anyone else noticed that any old health worker seems to think its OK to ask how you got it? I've been in hospital for a badly broken wrist for f@@@sake before now, its on my record,so they ask!
Do I go up to complete strangers and as them about their sex life,social habits etc?
And does anyone ask how you got cancer?
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Ann on March 03, 2007, 10:14:47 pm
Has anyone else noticed that any old health worker seems to think its OK to ask how you got it? I've been in hospital for a badly broken wrist for f@@@sake before now, its on my record,so they ask!
Do I go up to complete strangers and as them about their sex life,social habits etc?
And does anyone ask how you got cancer?

Yeah, a lot of people seem to think it's an appropriate question. I think it's the same thing as meeting someone and asking them how they got their children. Like hiv, in most cases it was because they had unprotected sex. But other people got their children through adoption or IVF or other means. In either case, what does it matter? People would never dream of asking someone how they ended up with children and it should be no different to how a person ended up with hiv. It's a personal matter.

Ann
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: jkinatl2 on March 03, 2007, 10:19:58 pm
Thanks Ann. I agree. I'm always astonished. When my dad had cancer, no one asked me "how did he get it?" Knowing my affinity for the hyperbole, I would have said it was sexually transmitted :) Because isn't life a sexually transmitted thing? :)

Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Lisa on March 03, 2007, 10:24:29 pm
     ;D touche'
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: PJC0510 on March 04, 2007, 12:36:02 pm
I was diagnosed almost a year ago and kinda have i narrowed down..my bet is the Puerto Rican guy I let cum in my mouth on a beach in Puerto Rico a few years ago..I have bleeding gums and was extremely stupid.

Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Central79 on March 09, 2007, 05:23:08 am
Ditto. I never let anybody cum in my mouth. But I sucked cock with bleeding gums. Failed to connect that with an increased risk of getting HIV. I give myself a hard time about it, but it was a mistake. Just wasn't looking after myself generally back then.

Now when I go in the Am I Infected Forum I have to be careful, as my diagnosis was so unlikely. Wish I'd been a bit more risk averse back in 2005!
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: Poz-3/6/07 on March 09, 2007, 12:08:09 pm
Anyway, it cost me two years of my life.  For the first year I was so sick and had no idea what was wrong with me. I have no memory of most of that year. After the diagnosis I was a basket case - depressed, scared to death and pretty much cried myself to sleep every night.  My wife stayed by my side the whole time (another good forum topic, as I wonder how many guys are in my position).

I just found out I was positive on Tuesday (3-6-07).
Got it from my first Drug Party.

Yup, alot of people experiencing alittle Meth.

Well, I chose the faster option of the needle instead of the pipe.
Nothing faster to spread a virus than a dirty needle.

And now am paying the price for it.

However, Im trying to stay positive about being positive, and this community really helps me do that. THANKS

By the way, in response to RODEO99, my wife has commitment to staying with me through the journey.
She tested Negative today.

Staying Positive!
Title: Re: How did you get HIV +
Post by: milker on March 09, 2007, 02:19:03 pm
Drunk as hell, unprotected 3-some with first time double penetration. I don't even remember if that felt good or not!!! but I know my ass hurt the next days :-\