Author Topic: Hetero question... (Read 6042 times)

petsu · « **on:** December 16, 2006, 12:48:00 am »

How many of us are here? Also curious about others partners (- or +) and stuff like that... To this day I am still amazed my Mrs. did not get it, I mean in 9 years we have done EVERYTHING possible! Pure luck or fate?

ndrew · « **Reply #1 on:** December 16, 2006, 12:59:11 am »

Hetero-what? I am pretty hetero in many respects- diet, weight, exercise, tastes, culture, arts, profession, interests... I do have sex with men though.

Drew

Longislander · « **Reply #2 on:** December 16, 2006, 01:03:37 am »

omg, Drew's hetero?

lol

skeebo1969 · « **Reply #3 on:** December 16, 2006, 01:29:42 am »

Breeder alert !! Breeder alert!!

What is the question?

Longislander · « **Reply #4 on:** December 16, 2006, 01:35:55 am »

lol-hey cutie, how are you tonite?

Queen Tokelove · « **Reply #5 on:** December 16, 2006, 02:48:21 am »

Petsu,

Why ask why? Consider it a blessing she is not. What do you want to know, the chances of her becoming poz? Since it sounds like you guys are having unprotected, I'm assuming here, then I would just say for her to keep getting checked. Feels like I'm missing something here...

Eldon · « **Reply #6 on:** December 16, 2006, 03:22:36 am »

Hey Petsu...

I need some clarification here. From what I understand from your statement is that you are HIV+ and your wife is HIV- and you both have been having unprotected sex for the past (9) nine years and she did not get infected?

Is that right? Clarification is needed please.

sweetasmeli · « **Reply #7 on:** December 16, 2006, 04:16:26 am »

Well, I for one dont believe in fate!

And there's a lot of 'us' out here. If you mean heterosexual.

If you're having and have been having protected sex all those 9 years then you dont need to ask that question about luck or fate. If you are having unprotected sex and your missus has no desire to catch hiv off you, then you're playing a very risky game where your luck may change any day.

And anyone else who brags about how much great sex they're getting I'm going to put on ignore! Hmmph!

(only half joking!)

Monk-ess Melia

petsu · « **Reply #8 on:** December 16, 2006, 12:46:35 pm »

Okay. We have been using rubbers ever since I failed my test, even for oral (insert opinions here). I was referring to the years BEFORE that... I was mostly curious if anyone else had been with someone close to a decade and not passed it on (insert more opinions here)?

Teresa · « **Reply #9 on:** December 16, 2006, 01:49:49 pm »

Me and hubby have been married 4 yrs..together for 6 yrs. We used condoms for birth control. There were a few times we didnt and then we never used condoms if we did something that I "couldnt" get pregant. Never used condoms for oral and i did alot of oral on him, and Im negative. We found out in May of this yr that he is HIV positive. The Dr thinks he has been HIV+ longer then we have been togther because of his low CD4s and high Viral load.

Hugs
Teresa

IzPoz · « **Reply #10 on:** December 16, 2006, 02:06:12 pm »

My husband was married for seven years prior to us getting together. He had shingles during that time frame, but didn't know it was HIV related. His exwife never became positive, and they were trying for children. However, I'm the one who got infected by him.

HIVworker · « **Reply #11 on:** December 16, 2006, 03:44:32 pm »

Is your question about serodiscordant relationships and how frequently transmission occurs?

R

Boo Radley · « **Reply #12 on:** December 16, 2006, 03:58:19 pm »

I might as well be hetero since it's been years since I had sex and that's unlikely to change. One cannot have sex if one isn't looking for it (at least that's true for me).

We here at AIDSmeds allow a few token heterosexuals to enter the ranks but insist that each one knows how to color coordinate.

Boo,
who's partially color blind and has been caught wearing different colored socks too many times to mention (before I started buying only black, blue, and very light green [maybe they're light brown...] pairs)

sweetasmeli · « **Reply #13 on:** December 16, 2006, 06:13:05 pm »

Er, Boo...what exactly is a token heterosexual?

Boo Radley · « **Reply #14 on:** December 16, 2006, 06:22:23 pm »

Quote from: sweetasmeli on December 16, 2006, 06:13:05 pm

Er, Boo...what exactly is a token heterosexual?

"American Heritage Dictionary -
to·ken (tō'kən)
n.
1. Something serving as an indication, proof, or expression of something else; a sign: "Tears are queer tokens of happiness" (Eugene O'Neill). See Synonyms at sign.
2. Something that signifies or evidences authority, validity, or identity: The scepter is a token of regal status.
3. A distinguishing feature or characteristic.
4. One that represents a group, as an employee whose presence is used to deflect from the employer criticism or accusations of discrimination.
5. A keepsake or souvenir.
6. A piece of stamped metal used as a substitute for currency: subway tokens. "

Just kidding around, of course...

Boo

Eldon · « **Reply #15 on:** December 16, 2006, 07:27:22 pm »

Boo...LOL!

Hey Petsu...

This one is a bit unclear for an explanation. Somewhere along the lines when you were not having unprotected sex with your wife, you became infected. When this realization took place, you then began to use protection during your intercourse with her. Protection = prevention.

The fact is, she was protected from getting a possible infection from you. It is a bit hard to describe the particulars, you know that better than us.

"Don't Give Up, Don't Give In... Cause it is ALL within you to WIN!"

otherplaces · « **Reply #16 on:** December 16, 2006, 09:42:51 pm »

There's plenty of straight people hanging around these forums.

I think your situation with your wife isn't all that uncommon. It probably includes alot of variables, one being how well your body controlled the infection.

Unfortunately it's also not so uncommon to sleep with someone once and get nailed. So it goes.

brian

sweetasmeli · « **Reply #17 on:** December 17, 2006, 06:26:04 am »

Quote from: Boo Radley on December 16, 2006, 06:22:23 pm

"American Heritage Dictionary -
to·ken (tō'kən)
n.
1. Something serving as an indication, proof, or expression of something else; a sign: "Tears are queer tokens of happiness" (Eugene O'Neill). See Synonyms at sign.
2. Something that signifies or evidences authority, validity, or identity: The scepter is a token of regal status.
3. A distinguishing feature or characteristic.
4. One that represents a group, as an employee whose presence is used to deflect from the employer criticism or accusations of discrimination.
5. A keepsake or souvenir.
6. A piece of stamped metal used as a substitute for currency: subway tokens. "

Hmmm, I suspect I could be all of the above...in some bizarre poetic way! Except for number 6 maybe...

Boo makes Melia laugh! Tis a good good thing!

Sorry Petsu, didnt mean to hijack your thread! Back to topic...

Melia The Heterosexual

petsu · « **Reply #18 on:** December 18, 2006, 03:47:44 pm »

Quote from: Teresa on December 16, 2006, 01:49:49 pm

Me and hubby have been married 4 yrs..together for 6 yrs. We used condoms for birth control. There were a few times we didnt and then we never used condoms if we did something that I "couldnt" get pregant. Never used condoms for oral and i did alot of oral on him, and Im negative. We found out in May of this yr that he is HIV positive. The Dr thinks he has been HIV+ longer then we have been togther because of his low CD4s and high Viral load.

Hugs
Teresa

This is pretty much what my sitch was but we mostly used "pullout" for birth control. And my doc said I prob got it a few years before meeting her.. Oh did I mention we had a daughter (also neg of course!) the year before I was diagnosed and found with a lovely CD4 8 and VL 75,000 ? I am glad they did not get it... Thank you all for all your time! "The color coordinating Token" lol

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