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Main Forums => Living With HIV => Topic started by: loverboy32 on August 04, 2006, 10:10:52 pm
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Needing some support/advice. So I met the love of my life. I am poz he is neg. I didnt expect to ecounter so many emotional issues related to this. I thought it would be about sex, but its so much more. Sometimes I feel like I shouldn't be loving him.
He is an amazing and wonderful guy and thinks the same of me. Lately I have this irretablity around him and its coming out opposite from what I really feel.
Does anyone relate?
Vancouver
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Loverboy,
Welcome to Aidsmeds.com! This particular board is for hiv risk assessment. As you are already living with hiv I would like to invite you to post with many others in your situation in the "Living With HIV" forum.
This is an execellent site. You'll find many friends here.
Morgan ;)
PS There is a link to it on the left of every page under "Content".
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I agree with Morgan and I am going to move this over to the LIVING WITH HIV section where I think you will get some helpful responses.
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Hay,don't worry please...
When you really love somebody you love him/her as he/she is-with all good and "bad" sides - so,he'd accept you with hiv if he really care about you and love you...
And of course that you may love him!
I had few b/friends who weren't positive- I am.They knew about it and everything was all right-we just care about some things like safe sex is.We used condoms-although some of them even didn't want to use them but I always insisted on them.With one who was on drugs while I was too-we care about stuffs for shooting too...
Everything is ok-they are hiv negative...
Don't worry,just relax,enjoy love and life-you have right for it,no matter you're hiv positive!
I wish you all the best and happiness!
Don't forget-here,on this site/forum you are with friends...
Elena
ps.sorry,my english isn't so good but I hope you understand what I want to say?
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Agreed. My last boyfriend was negative. The hurdle is mental, not physical. If he's over it you should relax and enjoy your relationship.
Could it possibly be that something else is causing you to be irritable with him but you're blaming it on the pos/neg issue?
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Oh yes...I dare say I can relate, my good buddy. But you deserve to be happy too so stop kicking yourself about being positive. Like the saying goes..."Love makes the world go round" and truly it does for some. What seems to be the source of your irritation? Identifying the problem is half the battle.........give that man a big hug and let him know how much you love em........ :P
I admit it...I'm a hopeless romantic. Always will be I suspect :-\
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I'm more fickle than is the weather! What works well, when I'm iritable, is to say it loud and clear to my partner and then we both work at identifying the cause. Sometimes it's just me. Sometimes it's him. Sometimes it's just life, but always there's a reason. We've been together for almost 17 years and the one thing I cannot speak more highly of is that we always try to communicate. With someone expressing the same strong feelings for you as you do for him, I can't help but think that talking about your emotions will help to clarify not only your feelings toward him but also bring you two closer together for having shared.
[ I should add that we're sero-discordant, myself being the poz partner, diagnosed in Feb 2006. There was an initial speed wobble but I think I have more trouble with the "relationship" now than does he. Too many things come to mind to write about here but I'm willing to discuss specifics, anytime! ]
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Hello Loverboy32, it is Eldon. First, welcome to the forumws where you will find a lot of information on HIV, support, encouragement, love, and answers to many of your questions.
Keep an open line of communication with your partner and talk things out, it can help you find out why you are irritable. Most of all enjoy your relationship and make the most of it.