Dating Thread Part XXIV: Shake the Cobwebs Off and Get Your Asses in Gear.

[Queen Tokelove]

Ok, well, I started it. I wanted it to say "Shake the Cobwebs Off, Get Your Asses in Gear, Spring is almost here" but I ran out of space.....I will try to post the other threads. I hope I do it right..


Dating Thread History:

Part I:       http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=12526.0
Part II:      http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=13850.0
Part III:     http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=14375.0
Part IV:     http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=14848.0
Part V:      http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=15148.0
Part VI:     http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=15558.0
Part VII:    http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=15951.0
Part VIII:   http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=16271.0
Part IX:     http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=16637.0
Part X:      http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=16913.0
Part XI:     http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=17115.0
Part XII:    http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=17324.0
Part XIII:   http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=17723.0
Part XIV:   http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=17900.0
Part XV:   http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=18150.0

Part XVI:   http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=18329.0
Part XVII:  http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=18596.0
Part XVIII: http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=18828.0
Part XIX:   http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=19011.0
Part XX:    http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=19193.0
Part XXI:   http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=19305.0
Part XXII:  http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=19454.0
Part XXIII: http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=19562.0



Betty-- I thought I would wait and comment on what you said in the last thread about clearing out the house and things. Maybe at the moment you are just numb to it all like you said. But I am thinking when you clean out the house it will probably be the time you break down even if it's not because of your Dad's passing but the memories of your Mother when you come across some of her things. I know that's how it hit me when I went through my  Mother's things. The anniversary of her death is on April 30. My Dad's was on February 22 and I made through his. I think I will be ok on the 30th too. Anyhoo, not about me but just don't be surprised when it happens is what I am saying.

I am off to the other threads and maybe do some gaming today...Later Ladies...

[netta]

good day ladies!, I survived another birthday!. didn't do anything and happy.

Queen,
I like that title it makes me feel like jumping up doing something, with my lazy ass lol, I didn't even go to church today. Just don't feel like doing nothing , no energy. Queen, I know what you mean about cleaning a parents home. My dad died a couple of years ago and he was found dead in his apartment, we found out he had cancer and never told anyone. I still have not gotten over it. We lived in different states and I begged him to come live with me,but he was stubborn. The hardest thing was going to his mailbox and getting the letter I had just sent him, strange enough there was a lady who had sent a copy of a pic she took of him and his friends sitting on a bench , like the old timers often did everyday, she was a tourist and just happen to meet my dad one day passing by.That was the last picture he ever took. the day I went to clean his apartment I got sick to my stomach, with grief. I had to leave for a while.

Betty,
 hope you are holding on, my prayers are with you.

p.s Queen, by the way your dad, died on my dads birthday, feb.22.

[MOONLIGHT1114]

Queen, there's a song by Megadeth called "Addicted to Chaos" ans some people just ARE.  They can't let anything die down and they keep butting their noses in where they don't belong.  Sounds good that you all may be planning to get a house in the future.  You'll have to, with that petting zoo you got going now.    JK

BT~ Still pain while you pee?  The stress can't be helping.  I wish you felt better, but I know that good head on your shoulders will help you through all of this.  I can't imagine if I had to go clean out the house I grew up in.  My parents are still in the same house they bought when I was 14, back in 1984, so its been 24 years.  They prob won't move for a long time, either, its a great place.  I am so sentimental, I cry over all of that kinda stuff and just let it out.  I like your quote, too, about yesterday and tomorrow.  Iceman has taught me to be in the present as well, its really helped me to enjoy TODAY.  

~ Cindy

[Snowangel]

Betty- I can't even imagine what is going to be like for you to go through your parents house.  I am an only child and my mother still lives in the house that we moved into when I was a toddler but she had a major fire in the early 90's so we lost everything then. My parents have recently started talking again and are kind of leaving me out of the loop but just as long as my Mom is happy and doesn't get hurt, that is all that matters to me.  Hopefully all your siblings will come together and make it easier for everyone.  I will be thinking of you this week.

Queen- Your house sounds like mine now, total chaos, but it's all love.  I really need to win the lottery or something so I can move somewhere 2 or 3x the size I am now.   We only have 1 bathroom for 6 people, not fun.  At least I can send the boys outside to pee in the summer because we are surrounded by trees on 3 sides.

I am definately going to get the cobwebs off and get to walking again.  I have a feeling I am going to have a busy summer so I better get in shape.  I survived the bowling alley today, I thought my head was going to explode for a little while there, I didn't get much sleep last night because we stayed up late watching Hustle and Flow and Miami Vice.  One thing about the Atripla it definately seems to give me more energy during the day.

Hope everyone has a good day.

Take care,
Snow

[Queen Tokelove]

Netta--- My father passed away from cancer too. Everyone else in the fam knew but I was the last one he told because he knew I wouldn't handle it well. I know what you mean about having moments of not feeling like doing anything and there are times when I don't do anything but stay in bed and rest. And I think that helps sometimes because they say when you rest or whatever that is when your body heals itself, not including the virus but other injuries but I am sure resting helps in some way with the virus.

Cindy-- The animals are the main reason that we want a house is so the cats and dog can go outside. Well my 2 will be strictly house cats but Roomie #1 cats are use to going in and out. Plus Roomie #1 has a lot of stuff and she needs room for her extracurricular activities that she does.

Betty- You may have to break down and buy some cranberry juice, nothing works like the real thing sometimes.

Snow-- You posted as I was posting. I haven't gone bowling in ages, I actually like it and use to bowl for a league when I was younger. I don't think there will be any more humans joining us but we love our cats and Roomie #2 loves his little ankle biter. I would like to add an iguana to the hit parade but that would be after the move. I have been hearing you can an iguana and the whole starter stuff for around 80 bucks up at the pet store in the mall. You may hear me mentioning having one, one day...

I thought I would do a drive by since I am taking a break from taking these braids down. I'll check back in later.

[MOONLIGHT1114]

Looking at the title of this thread, we should have no problem getting our asses in gear, as long as we click on that link that Doxie posted in the "Always A Queen" thread.

[Dragonette]

Hi Ladies,

Betty, I liked your motto so much I use it in my signature, referenced of course. Hope that's OK. I dont know what to tell you about what you go thru right now. Just that I admire your strength. Again and again words fail me when using these forums, I always only write about 5% of what I feel.

Netta, I like your tude. It's not obligatory to do something specail to enjoy life is it, happiness is inside, the quality of your thoughts is the quality of your life. I know that but struggle to live by it.

Snow, my house is a total dump. I clean it like every 2 weeks, but not too enthusiastically. I am ashamed to admit... I have no excuse, no trip lets (HOW do you do it?!) no pitbull in a cage (lucky break with the break in), I am just lazy.

Looks like everyone is picking up when spring is around the corner. Its still cold here, I just cycled home from a friend's house at 5c, but with the wind on the bike it feels like 0. My BF (fiance, actually, but I had written it not so obviously a few days after the proposal - which occured, not very Hollywood style, in bed after sex) went to Spain for a week. I was originally supposed to go with him, back in the Holidays when I was there I promised to return for easter, but it's over 30 degrees there now and I chickened out of wearing short sleeves and having them see I have a tattoo. That's right, a teensy tattoo has prevented me going back until the cooler late automn. How will I pull this off when we are married? How will I continue sneaking around with my meds when they dont even know I have tattooes?

well, I'll try not to freak out too much about it and just take life as it comes, b/c we are getting married. I dont know why I keep it on the down low, as even with the friend I visited today we were talking about this and that and then halfway into the visit I was like oops, completely forgot to tell you something... and I really did! it's like I havent quite internalized that yet. maybe when I get an engagement ring that'll change... we have told families and some friends and collegues, but considering this was decided on 1/3, not that many people. I guess on my side, it's b/c there is so much more to the story than people actually know. My friend of today knows what I went thru, she was there when my ex dumped me and my health was crap and I was walkng the thin line btw throwing myself under a train and putting it off till the next day, but her husband and kids who were there are completely oblivious.

dont get me wrong, I am absolutely overjoyed, but I take this joy in cautious little sips. My knees are shaking... I feel like I won't be relieved until her gets back in a week. but the wedding ceremony itself is not planned till Nov, and that will be decided around Aug when we see his employment situation and whether or not I am pregnant yet, and for how long if I am... but in any case we'll do it until then, whether in Nov in a party in both countries, or just here in Holland at the city hall.

Crikey, so many changes. I can't quite believe it, like I said if I dont take it one day at a time, including all the annoyances and everyday hissy fits (bosses etc) I'll flip out. I'm so freakin happy ladies, but sad and emotional at the same time. I do know that even if we never get married or have a child, I am happy to be with this person, I am not there b/c of the future but b/c of the daily present. He is my angel. But that kind of dependency is absolutely terrifying. I think I dont have to say here why.

Well this has turned out to be quite a brooding reply. I just want to say if I'm on this emotional wave that no matter what, I have come to look at you ladies as role models. I mean all of you for so many reasons. The more I know you, the more it is so. For some reason, it's easier to warn people against something they might be doing or should be looking out for than to tell them how truely admirable they are for so many of the things they do. It's astouding. So I take that on the road with me wherever it's gonna head. There, I had to get the sappiness out of my system. Don't worry I'll be back with some ranting before long.

[MOONLIGHT1114]

Drag!  So its TRUE!  OMG, I was in such a fog and skimming the threads a week ago, I must have missed it!  I am so happy for you both!

I think I understand some of what you feel.  You are "taking the joy in cautious little steps."  I feel the same way about Iceman.  I actually feel that there is some stability now with him in my life, and there may be great (good) changes ahead for me.  Even good change can be emotional and overwhelming.  Just breathe and be thankful for what you have with this wonderful man! 

Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay!

[Cheetara74]

Hello ladies,
I hope everyone is feeling well.  I'm doing okay.  This past week, I had some bad news and some good news.  My aunt Lenora has pancreatic cancer (Stage 4 diagnosis) .  Apparently, she had been ill for quite some time now but no one told me until a few days ago.  I spoke to my aunt directly and she didn't want me to worry.  Of course, I'm worried and had to see her immediately.  The good news... a cousin of mine had a healthy baby boy (a new edition to the family).  I was happy to hear the good news.   

[BT65]

Evening ladies, today was a looooooong day.  I picked my sister up this morning and we went to my parents'.  Then all the sibs went to the funeral home around 1:00 and got the service stuff together.  My sister who flew in wanted to see my dad to tell him good-bye.  The funeral home knew about this ahead of time.  They embalmed (sp) my dad and had him all cleaned up (he's going to be cremated).  He looked wonderful and in his hands was a picture of him and my mum, when she was in the Hospice bed, out of it, and he was kissing her head.  That was it for me-I broke down.  Yes, I cried for a couple minutes.  Then we went back to my parents' and a lot of food was brought over by different people.  We sorted through pictures and my sister brought out an old trunk my dad had in his closet.  I found out a few things about my dad he never shared with us.  He has an autograph book and in it were Buddy Rich's autograph (he's a famous drummer) and Frank Sinatra's autograph.  Yep, old 'blue eyes.'  My dad met a lot of different people when he played drums in the nightclubs in Detroit.  It was all interesting, but tiring. I only got home a couple hours ago.

Queen, I have some cranberry juice that my sponsor brought me yesterday.  It's the kind with Splenda in it.  So I'm going back and forth between that and water.  She also brought me apple juice and grape juice, both made with Splenda.  I truly appreciated that.


Cin, I really do try to stay in today.  Why worry about a day that's not here and things that might not even happen? 

Snow, six people and only one bathroom?  Wow.  I don't know if I could stand that.  Do you get to have your full time or are you constantly interrupted?

Drag, you just moan on girl.  Planning a wedding isn't easy.  I'm glad you've found your soul mate.  You deserve it.

Cheetara, sorry to hear about your aunt.  It's not easy losing someone we love.

I'm going to check out a few more threads and probably go to bed.  You ladies have a good night.

Edited to add:  Queen, love the title of the new thread!

[Snowangel]

Hi Betty-
I am glad to hear they did such a good job with your Dad.  What a nice touch to put a pic of him and your Mom with him.  Sounds like your Dad was quite the drummer, that must have been kind of neat to find out.  How are you feeling otherwise? Are all the fluids helping your infection?  LOL.  I am constantly interupted in the bathroom, if not by kids, by the dogs, if I am in the bathroom by myself, I am home alone.  Something happened to the door jamb so that I can not lock it correctly and even the ankle biters can push it open.  I don't know if I ever told you guys this but my son with the speech delay came in one day as I was getting out of the shower and points at me and says " Are those your mintballs?'  Mintballs? Me? What is he talking about? I had been teaching him his body parts and during bathtime and he was asking me about my nipples. Mintballs. Nipples.  Close 

Cheetara- Congrats on the new baby in the family and I am sorry to hear about your aunt.

Drag -  I so feel the same way about cleaning except my reasoning is it takes the kids about 2.2 seconds to make it a mess again.  Seriously, we all cleaned up this morning, it is like a tornado hit again already.  It's kind of depressing but then I don't know anyone around here so I never have to worry about unexpected company- except burgulars,  I guess. You rode your bike at 5 c.  I like the cold but I think my limbs would have frozen in place.  I am glad you found someone you are happy with.  If you already met his family, I am sure they already love you, tattoos and all, and if not, it is thier loss.  I would be gun shy too seeing what you have gone through in the past, hell, I am gun shy.  It is very hard for me to open up all the time when I don't feel safe and protected.  Hope you have a good week without your honey.

Queen- You are just taking out your braids now?  Wow, you had them in a long time.  I am still impressed you can braid them yourself.  I do not have the patience at all.  I never knew bowling was such a big sport, the last 2 times I have went with the cub scouts it has been packed.  I want to go rollerskating, that is what I miss

Hope everyone has a good start to the week tomorrow. I can't believe Easter is this weekend.  Hey, Did you guys know that March 10 was Women and Girls HIV Awareness Day?  I found it on some website a couple days ago.  Eekk. I thought it was like 9:30, I have to get to bed.
Night all.

Snow

[Winiroo]

Helloooo ladies.

Boy oh boy what a busy weekend I've had. Billy <my sweetie> and I went to a 50th anniversary party last night. It was sweet. The couple is Billy's adoptive parents. His Mom passed away roughly 10 years ago and they have been surrogate parents for him.
They are a Jewish couple. They renewed their vows last night. I've never seen a ceremony like they had so thats why I mentioned them being Jewish. It was really interesting.

Today we went to my nephews 4th birthday party. We took the grandbaby with us to meet my family. It took us two hours to drive there and back but thats normal, this state is huge. I got to see my cousin I haven't seen her since my husband's funeral.
In all it was a really good day.

Billy just told me to tell you ladies that you all are invited over this summer to swim in the pool and he would be happy to put suntan lotion on anyone who needed it. LOL goofy butt

Betty - I think its weird you'd have to embalm your Dad if he is being cremated. Or is that because he is having a viewing?
I remember after Michael died I went thru the house throwing out most of his belongings. I was half out of my head and had hidden my wedding ring in a stuffed animal because I was too paranoid to put it in my jewelry box thinking if someone broke in the house they'd steal it but I didn't want to wear it. <I was nuts> Anywho I threw away a bunch of stuff including stuffed animals and later thought I had thrown out my wedding ring. LOL Thank goodness I didn't. Apparently I moved it sometime during my madness.
My memory of events around his death is all screwed up. Same with Justin's death. <my son>
I think I blocked alot of things cause I just cant remember much of anything around those times.

I'm rambling.

The cranberry capsules have more of the good stuff in them and its easier than drinking a gallon of juice. If the juice doesn't help please try them.

Snow - Mintballs LOL  Justin was in speech therapy too. I have a bunch of words like that I still use today. Too cute.


I'm feeling very chipper and I want to tell you all I enjoy reading your posts and I'm glad to have you ladies in my life.

Wendy

[tendai]

Hie Ladies
hope everyone had a great weekend. mine was fine. i dint go for the baby shower after all. too expensive with having to get 4 buses to and from and buying the presents and nappy and whatnot. i went to my uncles to see my mum who really should be getting home to her husband she abandoned for 3 months. my little sister was looking so frail. she's stopped breastfeeding her baby whose 14 months old now so one of her boobs is swollen to twice its normal size and quite painful. the baby himself has some condition in his eyes where he wakes up and his eyes are stuck shut with some gross gunk that looks like wet sleep crust or something.  i worry about them they're always sickly if its not flu, its cough or stomach or the eyes or something. i just hope its not HIV related. the kid is now trying to walk so when he stands up and teeters around with his arms wide for balance he looks so tall and thin my mum says  he looks like those funny worm aliens in Men In Black who be drinking coffee in the kitchen when will smith goes for his interview at the MIB HQ.

i just had a phone call from the police asking if i knew that ex of mine who stole from me 2+ years ago.  he's had so many run-ins with the police even when we were still going out.  the first time he may have been falsely accused but after that he was involved in illegal gold, diamond etc deals and crossing borders without a passport and all that.  i just told them i last saw him years ago. they wouldnt give me any details as to why they were looking for him and i sure as hell dont want to be involved. why the hell did he give them my number?

have a great day everyone

[BT65]

Good morning ladies--

Snow, mint balls-love it.  Kids are so creative, aren't they.  I don't know how you do it with all those kids.  You are a strong woman.

Wendy, my sister from Arizona wanted to see my dad so she could say her good-byes.  Maybe they didn't enbalm him, I'm not sure.  But they really cleaned him up.  He looked like my father.  Oh, I'm not looking forward to going through the house.  When my first husband died, he didn't really have anything except some clothes, which were donated.  I remember looking at the bedroom at times though, expecting him to walk out.  Death can do mind-tricks.  I actually like drinking the juice because it's a nice break from water.  I wonder if I can take the capsules besides drinking the juice?  Have you ever done that?  I'm glad you're with us here, Wendy.

Tendai, I can't imagine living where you do and being able to keep my sanity.  You're really tough, girlie.   I'm so glad you're a part of us here. 

Today I'm just going to try to relax.  I have to be at the funeral home tomorrow at 9:00.  Some people from my church (which I haven't been to in like two months) are supposed to go.  And I think a couple people from NA are planning on going; they called me and wanted to know where the funeral home was at. 

Other than that ladies, not much to report.  The congestion is going away.  I wish the bladder infection would ease up a bit already.  I hate going to the bathroom and feeling like I'm going to pass a watermelon and need to push it out.  The Pyridium helps with that some.  Has anyone ever tried that AZO?  I think that's supposed to help bladder pain, isn't it?  I only have one Pyridium left; I might have to contact my doctor and see if he'll give me another script.  OK, you wonderful ladies have a good day.  I'll check in later.

[Paulette]

Good Morning Ladies
Queen- love the new title.
Betty- I'm sorry for your loss.
Drag- Congrats on your wedding.
Cheetara- Sorry to hear about your Aunt, I'll keep her in my prayers.
Neeta_ happy belated Birthday.( I live in Ga. too)
Cin- I hope all is well
Tendi- How's things going?

well if i missed anyone I'm sorry, I hope all is well with everyone, as for me I've been real busy with the girls softball, and not only had my 3 girls but 6 more teenage girls, my niece and her 2 babies and boyfriend, and my friend and another 9 year old at my house all weekend. CRAZY That's where it drove me Just CRAZY. way too many people at my house, it won't happen again. and with the tornado's coming through Atlanta, made everything worse.  I'm so glad everything is back to normal.  We had our egg hunt at Church yesterday.  The kids loved it.  Then to the ball park for the opening ceremony.  got three games today.  I'll only get to watch about 30 mins of each game to be able to see all 3 girls play.   I'll try to post scores later on today.
Paulette

[Winiroo]

I wonder if I can take the capsules besides drinking the juice?  Have you ever done that? 

 Has anyone ever tried that AZO?  I think that's supposed to help bladder pain, isn't it?

You can pop those cran tablets anytime you want. I've had so many bladder problems I've done it hundreds of times. I take two or three at a time a few times a day when i have a probem. It clears things up for me within a couple of days.

I've tried AZO but its been a long time. I had better luck with the cran tabs.

[BT65]

Evening ladies-

This is just a short post.  Just was wondering how everyone is doing.  I'm alright, just frightfully congested.  Tomorrow at 10:30 a.m. is my dad's service.  Still overwhelming.  Anyway, I hope everyone is doing alright.

[cjc]

Betty, you have  been in my thoughts and prayers. I hope things go smoothly tomorrow and I will be thinking of you.                                             Things are okay here, just not very chatty. Hope everyone is okay. Later, Cristy

[Snowangel]

Betty- Cran tablets sound like they might work well for you.  I hope your chest congestion gets better and I will be thinking of you tomorrow.

Paulette- Thanks for the preview of what I will be doing when the trip  lets get older   Wow, 3 games in one day.  It makes me tired just thinking about it.

Win- Sounds like you and Billy had a fun time the other day.  That must have been nice to get out and do something different.

Ten- OK, what is a nappy?  I hope your sister and her baby get well soon.  That must have been a really strange phone call.  Sounds like you and me pick out the same rotten apples 

My Mom suprised me this morning by showing up at 7:30 in the morning.  She helped me take the kids to school and then we came home and loaded up my car with laundry to take to the laundry mat.  We filled up 5 of the triple loaders so we were there for awhile.  I have a washer and dryer here but I can only do 2 loads a day cuz I have a septic tank    We went to the Goodwill and got me some spoons. The kids must throw them away and I don't catch it because she had bought me a pack of 20 or 30 at Sams club and I only had a few left.  By 4 o clock I was so exhausted and my feet hurt so bad, I just wanted to go to bed for the night but I had to cook dinner and get the kids to bed.  I guess, I did pretty good, its 8:30 and only my oldest and my night owl(my daughter) are still up. Hopefully, I can take the dogs out and then go to bed early.

LOL. I woke up in the middle of the night last night calling "Jeromy" and wondering if he was OK, thinking he was pregnant.  I don't know any Jeromys, I think there might be one on this forum but I am pretty sure he isn't pregnant.  BUT, it got my SO all bothered, who is that, blah, blah, blah.  I just went back to sleep, I was all messed up though.

Hope everyone has a good night.
Snow

[Winiroo]

Ten- OK, what is a nappy? 

I'm not Ten but a nappy is another word for diaper.

[vivyt]

Hello all! Just checking in, too tired to say much.

Betty: I am sorry about your dad. Deal with it however you feel is right and don't let anyone tell you different. When my brother died tragically everyone told me I was so strong and that I needed to be strong for my mom. Well that was the role I assumed and just stuffed everything in. Not good.

My overnight field trip went well. The kids all had a good time. One little girl had to go home early. She said she was sick but I think it was more homesick. I have spring break next week and all I want to do is sleep. This trip really wiped me out.

I'll talk to you all soon.

[sunseeker]

Hi Girls

Happy St. Pattys Day.  Nothing really new to report.  Went out tonight, but it turned out to be rather boring.  I took my roommate with me and we left and were home by 830.  I am sure that I would have stayed longer, but I could sense that he was not having the best time, since he has only met my group of friends once.  Not to mention that he has never drank a drop of alcohol. and not one to hang out in bars.  So since he was my DD I decided that it would be best to leave so that he would not be so board.  We had fun together as a whole but the atmosphere is not his scene.  We spent the whole day shopping, then went to lunch at the Cheesecake Factory and then we came home and got ready to go out.

Betty my thoughts are with you tomorrow.

Sunseeker

[Queen Tokelove]

I hope everyone had a decent St. Patrick's Day. I would've checked in earlier but I really wanted to get the braids out, wash and perm my hair. I just finished right before 2am but my head feels so much better. Other than that I really didn't do much. My son stopped over to visit which has become routine. We chat and he usually burns a cd.

Today was the first day that the little ankle biter was actually quiet while his Daddy was at work. I think the little guy is starting to calm down a bit and I think we may actually have gotten him on a potty schedule or at least alert us when he has to go instead of just going.

That is about it for me. I am mad tired. Betty, I will be thinking of you tomorrow.

[BT65]

Morning ladies, I only have a couple minutes.  I'm not feeling well at all this morning-throwing up, diarrhea, congestion, still the bladder infection.  What's one to do.  Like I say I guess-suck it up and go on.  I preach that, so I might as well live it. 

The visitation for my dad's service is at 9:30, we have to meet there at 9:00.  Then the service is at 10:30.  My sister called me yesterday and found my dad's favorite song to play-"My Way" by Frank Sinatra.  That'll be good.  I don't know how I'll feel afterwards, it's just one thing at a time.

Snow, I do not know how you do it.  I would be exhausted all the time.  Does your mum ever babysit for you? 

St. Patrick's day really means nothing to me. I'm not Catholic.  I just remember when I was a kid, my mum used to make corned beef and cabbage.  I could go for some of that right now though.  Anyway, you ladies have a nice day-

[tendai]

Hie Ladies -
(this better work its the second time typing this!)

Betty - get welll soon ok? i can imagine how u're feeling. i hope u have a good service for your dad.

Snow- that was nice of your mom to come over and help with the kids and all.  U know when i put the phone down after talking to the police i was like "yes i really know how to pick them." if somoeone could make a cure for making bad choices theyd be so rich! And that dream of yours was weird. wonder what it means. i never pay any attention to my dreams, if i even remember them. full of nonsense really.

Wendy - tell Billy he's lucky im  continents away otherwise he'd never get rid of me by the pool.

Sun - u holding out on us? whats happening with Whitey? or did i miss something in  another thread?

Viv- u go and get some rest. i dont know how u manage it with kids all day. i know i'd go crazy in a day.

i woke up with diarrhoea and there was no water! Crappy place i live has the toilet outside and we share it with just about anyone who feels like using it.  Feel like i'd rather to use my entire salary just for rent as long as i can have a place i can enjoy living in. i had a phone call from my ex who i think infected me. he's in the UK now and said i should open a bank account so he can send me money for easter. Ha! i will open it and see what he does. if he does send the money i'll use it to pay for a better place to stay in. He might turn out to be useful after all.
i heard my landlord is so sick now. he's in denial about his condition and goes around coughing and feverish etc. heard he;s now at some clinic receiving daily injections for a month and treatment for TB. The wife is on ARVs and he absolutely refuses to go with her where they get them for free. I'd like to feel sorry for him but hes such a mean nasty man to his stepmother wanting to kick her out the house or trying to make her live in one room of a 5 bedroomed house with her neice. they had to get a peace order. i dont know why he;s so horrible to her; and his wife if she were clever she'd get close to the stepmom coz if that guy dies she very well might get kicked out of the house then what? instead she's the one who encourages the husband in his madness, silly woman.

damn i have to go. some patients want to make payments. they got armfuls of cash and its going to be a bitch counting it. stupid reserve bank governor should just make a $1 billion note and save us a lot of energy.

i'll catch u later ladies

[keepingfaith]

Good Morning Ladies


Nothing much exciting happening today. I go to the doctor tomorrow to have my labs drown to see how the Atripla is working.


Betty- I hope you fell better, and I pray you stay strong

Snow- Thats was super sweet of your mom. I wish mom would come get my 19 month old at least for an hour. I hated going to the washer. I lived in an apt, but now i live in an house. with a laundry room. YAAAA



HEllo to all my other G/F's Queen, Wish, Sun, Wendy, Viv, Netta, Win, CJC, Dragon, Paullette, Ten, Cheetara. I love you guys. You all are like my family that understands me. LOve Yaa  ~Latrice~     

[Queen Tokelove]

Afternoon Ladies----

Really nothing much going on here either. It seems to be a pretty decent day out, I think it's in the 40's but it's windy as hell. I finally got my hair finished. I'll probably use the flat iron on it a bit and that's it for today. A bit of good news, the car is finally going to get towed to the mechanic tomorrow so hopefully later on this week I'll know how much it will cost to get it running. Things are looking up.

 I had an appointment with Section 8 last week. I had forgotten a couple of documents but the lady had said it would be a few months before I would get the reminder letter to turn them in. It seems they sent a the reminder letter already but it went to my bff addy. I don't know why that is because I gave them my current addy. I think once they receive the information they need then I will have to go to some type of class to receive the section 8 check or something. My sister was trying to explain that to me once before.

I guess that is about it for me. Betty, I am sorry to hear you are not feeling well. Just try to make it through it all. I'll check in later....

[Winiroo]

I just woke up again.

I felt like total crap yesterday. I puked a couple of times yesterday morning but I went to work any way. I stayed an hour and drove home. I had gotten all the important things done. Had to pull over into a parking lot on the way home and puke out the door of my car again. I got to lay down for an hour and had to take my son to work.
Toward noon I started feeling a little better and was able to eat and hold it down.

I woke up today not feeling well. I have a fever blister starting on my upper lip and diarrhea too. I went to work anyway and stayed an hour doing only the things necessary. Went home took an hour nap and took my son to work.
Had to go across town to the Sam's club to pick up some insulin for work so I did that. Its raining buckets of water when i got out of the store. Got soaked to the bone. Went home, put the insulin in the fridge and went to bed. I stayed in there sleeping till 3:00 and decided I havent eaten anything today so I should get up and eat even though I am not hungry.
I had a bowl of cereal. Its still raining. We are under a flash flood warning but my pool isn't all the way full so the water if we where to get flooded has somewhere to go. LOL

I'm tired but I feel a little better than earlier. I've already taken 3 Valltrex for the cold sore. I hate them. They are uncomfortable, ugly and they keep me from using my mouth for kisses and other entertaining things. 

Wendy

Modified because for some reason the word Valtrex dissapeared when I posted it the first time.

[BT65]

Afternoon/evening ladies:

I'm home now.  I feel better physically.  I'm sure it was just a case of the 'nerves.'  The service was lovely.  The military did a color guard at the end.(my dad was a WWII vet).  Then we went to my oldest sister's house.  My sister that came from Phoenix turned me onto a new cigarette.  They're cloves, but they're really smooth.  The brand name is Djarum.  Well, on the way home I went to the tobacco store and asked the clerk if they had them.  He said 'yeah, we got 'em.  I've never had them, I just know they're expensive because they're imported.'  Well, they cost $7.20 a pack!(!)  I said 'oh well, that's what regular cigarettes will be up to before long.'  They're in different flavors, I like cherry.  So, anyway, all I have left today is school in a couple hours.  I really don't want to go, but I gotta.  Anyway,

Tendai-your old bf doesn't want you to give him your routing numbers does he?!  I can just see him cleaning out your account.  There are only about 3 people in the world I would give my routing numbers to- my power-of-attorney and my two sisters.  I would never give them to anyone else.  That's where my level of trust is.

Keeping, good to hear from you.  Wish you'd drop in more often.

Queen, that's great news about the car.  So hopefully you'll be mobile again soon.  That's a good feeling.

Nothing else to report, ladies.  Take care, I might check in tonight, not sure yet.

Edited: Wendy, you must have posted at the same time I did.  Girl, I hope you feel better soon.  You said you took 3 for the cold sore, but didn't say 3 of what.  I have a nasty one on my left upper lip right now and I just have my doctor call me in Zovirax anytime I get one.  That's the only thing that works for me.  Now get better damn it!

[Queen Tokelove]

Winiroo--- Sorry you don't feel good, girlie. That has to suck, I don't know what I hate more, headaches or hurling. I get migranes not the little headaches and I literally have to go lay down. Hurling on the other hand, well, it comes up and I usually feel better after a nap. Btw, I hope you have fun on the campout with Humm and Comp.... I have been dying to go to one of those but it's never financially possible for me.

Betty-- Glad you are feeling better in regards to the funeral. Now if the rest of you would just catch up..*LOL* It probably will now that things are settling down a bit.

Tendai--- Damn girl, is this the same one who keeps giving you excuses about taking you to his apartment? I wouldn't trust putting that money in your account either. I get the suspicion that he is doing something foul and wanting to use your account to hide the money saying you can spend some of it or whatever. It just doesn't sound right to me. Get some more info on that.

Let the drama begin, sort of...Roomie #2's ex keeps calling Roomie #1's cell trying to get her to put the other roomie on the phone. I knew it was coming after he kept calling the landline over the weekend. He's trying to make excuses so he can talk to my roomie. I peep the game. More details will be in the blog later....I'll check back in a few ticks....

[Dragonette]

hi ladies,

Betty, sounds like a moving, respectable ceremony. kudos to you and your siblings for putting it together so quickly. I am really touched by how upright you are in handling all this. More power to you. Hope those tabs start working. Did that doctor even diagnose you? Is there a followup scheduled?

Tendai, conditions in Zim are horrendous and every time I read about it I am speechless. Just praying for the upcoming elections for you guys. I can't beleive I cancelled the course b/c I didn't want to share a toilet in the hotel with 1-2 other rooms for 9 nights. Talk about perspective. I feel like beating myself on the top of the head now. I understand the ex with the bank is neither the one wanted by the police nor the last one, but the guy who infected you & moved to the UK. Strange, but maybe you can ask him, by email or something. I don't see how he can clean you out if you open a new account just to let him send money. But please be cautious.

Wendy, hope you're feeling better. you're quite the bulldozer, poor thing getting soaked on top of it all.

Keeping, nice to see you around. Good luck with the labs.

Viv, I know, I get tired so easily. On a bus full of kids, I think I'd pass out. Now you can rest though and be proud of yourself.

Snow, you mentioned the bike, actually I ride it in any weather, snow, wind or hail, simply b/c everyone does (it's the #1 form of transport here and I didn't even know to ride before I came) and secondly b/c I can't afford a car nor am I allowed to drive here. everything is less than 20 min by bike anyway, but I dont have a European license so once I became a Dutch resident I needed to get their license, and I can't be bothered financially or otherwise. You can be sure though that no matter how crap the weather there'll be plenty of others cycling, so at least I don't feel alone... or lie a wierdo for that matter.
I still have really really wierd and vivid dreams even though I stopped Sustiva 6 months ago or more. I think it did something psychedelic to my brain. It's entertaining though.

Cindy, thanks for the support, I knew you'd get it... Happiness is a loaded gun as Lennon said, though I am not sure what he meant actually, but it sounds fitting. Like, you're just being very cautious around it.

Sun sounds like you & roomie are getting along... speaking of roomies I'll update myself on Queens blog now.

Cheetara very sorry bout your aunt; but happy about the baby. Sums it all up doesn't it, without the new life wouldn't be bearable really, kind of an answer to all the thoughts of why bring kids into the world. For the cycle I guess. Hope your aunt gets treated and gets better.

Im watching Devil Wears Prada, ive seen it before but its entertaining. I have no memory anyway, the weed took care of that. I can watch the same movie 5 times in one year with a vague recollection of it.

Cristy, Wishful, Netta, and anyone I may have temporarily forgotten, wishing us all a peaceful afternoon/night...

[sunseeker]

Hi Girls

Well, I had a great day till I got home and checked my email.  I went to the dress maker to have some of my summer pants taken in since they are to big.  Ran to the grocery store and had my monthly massage.  Then I got home and checked my email to find my test results from my doctor.  I went for my annual two weeks ago and she tested for HPV.  I have been tested before and have had HPV then last year it cleared up and I had a normal pap smear.  So I get these test results on-line, but cannot tell if I still have it.  So I guess that means if I do have it then my pap will come back abnormal.  I put a call into the doctor and waiting for a phone call back.  I have dealt with chronic baterial infections and know that can cause abnormal paps, but I was hope since I am on Atripla and my CD4's are up and I am undetectable that this would be a thing of the past.  So now I guess I get to play the waiting game.


Queen-  Your hair sounds great.  I know that you took all of the braids out but I have always loved that look.  My doctor had half of her braids undone when I went in for my appointment.  Well, If we ever meet maybe you can give me a braid or two.  I just love that look.  

Betty- I am glad that things went as well as could be expected.  I am sure that it could not have been an easy day.  Still thinking of you and your are in my prayers.

Winn- I am sorry to hear that you are not feeling well.  I hate cold sores.  I have not had one in a long time but if I felt one coming on I would take large doses of Lysine which you can get at any store.  Have you tried that?  Stay dry and feel better.  

KeepingFaith-  Good luck with your labs.  I hope the Atripla works as good for you as it has for me.  I have not had many side effects, other than crazy weird dreams and sometimes its hard for me to sleep.  But its working so I will keep with it.  I have a few shifts of graveyards coming up and after those past then I will see about taking the Atripla in the morning, not sure if that will work or not.  I have heard that you can feel a little woozy.  Keep us posted on your labs.


Tendai- The whole Whitey situation is plugging along.  I did not see him this week which is find,  Its good for me to have my distance to see if I miss him or not.  We are planning on taking his son and my nephew on Monday to the zoo.  I have still not told him my status, but I figure Monday will only be our 4th date so I will see how things keep playing out, plus I have not open mouthed kissed him either.  I guess my fear has been that I did not want, because I did not want him to think that I put him at risk. Not sure when the right time is to tell him. We talk every day, but I am still not sure what to do.  I guess I will know when the time is right.  Plus this also gives him time to get to know me and since he is not being pushey about anything, other than wanting to see me, I guess there is no point in telling him just yet.  Maybe I should let him bring up the issues of wanting to be intimate and then go from there.  Please be careful about your ex and giving him any bank account information.  If he wants to send you money, let him send you a cashiers check.  Even opening a new bank account and not having any money in it he can still use that in ways and purchase things or bounce checks on the account and you could be held responsible.  So just be careful, I don't to see anything bad happen to you.  xoxo

Snow- I am glad that your mother came to help you with the laundry.  That must have been a relief to get it all done.  I had to laugh about your spoon story, I seem to have lost some spoons along the way.  I know that I will take them to work and if I leave them in sink and then I never see them again.  I think  the sink is like the dryer, its always eats my socks. hmmmmm something strange is a foot.

Vivyt-   Glad your over night field trip went well, but sorry it was so tiring.  But least is over.  Spring break must be approaching for you, so may you get plenty of time to relax.  

Drag-  Sorry I missed in the earlier posts that you got engaged.  Congrats.  Sounds like you and I our both excited about our relationships, but we are both being cautions.  I am glad that I do not have to worry about Whitey's family seeing my Tattoos since Whitey, has three.   Keep us posted.

Netta and Moon- Hope you ladies are doing well.  Looking forward to hearing from you soon.  Sorry if I missed anyone.

[Snowangel]

Win- I am sorry you are feeling bad, I hope you get better soon.  I used to not be able to tolerate anyone puking but since my daughter pukes everytime she gets a cold, I am used to it now.  I can't stand that feeling you get in your stomach.  I hope it is just a 24 hr bug and is gone tomorrow.  You were so nice to go and do what your guy needed, I don't think I would be able to do that. 

Sun- I hope the doc calls you back so you don't have to worry about your results.  I have had a problem with abnormal cells since my early 20's, I had so many biopsies I can't even count.  I went last month for my check up after 4 yrs and I was praying the women didn't ask for my history cuz there was no way I was remembering it all. Amazingly enough, my pap was normal this time around and I hope you hear the same. Glad things are going well with Whitey. Socks.  How I hate matching socks.  I got these things called sock cops that are supposed to keep your socks together when you wash...of course, in order for them to work you have to use them    Good idea though...the kids might get the hang of it in like the next 5 or 7 years.


Betty- I am glad you are feeling better and the service was so nice for your Dad.  I only smoke cigs when I am really, really, really, mad, next time I will have to try those they sound pretty good.

Viv- I am glad your field trip went well and everyone made it home safe and sound.  I hope you get to rest and relax next week.

Ten-  Was dude giving you money when he was around?  I doubt he will be making an effort to do it when he isn't.  Just be careful because he could use your information for something no-good.  Sounds like you need a finger condom to count all that money.  I used to use them for work and it makes going through a lot of paper much quicker.

Keep- I hope your labs go well tomorrow, too.  Keep us posted. 

Queen- That would be nice if you could get section 8 but I don't know if you will be able to have your roomates.  I was working for a property management co around here last summer and the qualifications for an apt or house to qualify for sect. 8 is long.  I hope it is better down your way.

I took my friend to the doc and did some errands with her.  I tried to come home and take a nap before picking up the kids but my mind was going a mile a minute.  I think I was speed dreaming, you know those books that have the pics in the corner and you flick the pages really quick, that what my dreams were like.  Tonight was cheap movie night around here so we went to see Horton Hears Who, it was cute.  There is a kung-fu panda movie coming out with Jack Black that looks good.  The trip  lets got school pics a couple weeks ago and they came in today.  They are going to kindegarten next year so in some of them they were in caps and gown, I can get all the pics for $120.     They were so cute though and they all smiled- which is a small miracle. I can get a gazillion pics at Walmart for 1/2 that., though. I am going to the support group, the therapist and then to vacuum a cute little 90+ old ladies house, she lives all by herself the poor thing tomorrow.  I hope everyone has a great day.
Take care,
Snow

[BT65]

Late evening ladies-

Queen, drama, drama, drama.  Hopefully that pesky person will stop calling.  I hate it when people call constantly bugging. 

Drag, I had to chuckle about the pot taking some of your memory away.  It used to do that to me also.  And I would imagine things that weren't really real.  Hey, the cycling.  Wow.  Something I couldn't do.

Sun, I hope your pap comes back normal. Got my fingers crossed for ya.

Snow, if Queen were to get section 8, she wouldn't have to tell them about her roomies.   It sounds like you had a good time at the movies.  That's great.  Cherish that time when they're little. 

Well, my bladder still hurts when I pee.  But I'm giving it the duration of the antibiotic.  I'm now losing my voice, which I'm sure will thrill some people.  I went to school tonight.  It gives me something to do.  Either Friday or Saturday I'm going to go help my sibs start cleaning out my parents'.  What a process that's going to be.  50+ years worth of stuff. 

Nothing else to report.  I hope all you ladies have a good evening.

[netta]

Hello Ladies,
I know its late in the evening ,but want to say hello. I felt like crap yesterday, hot  flashes, cold  ,then i felt lite headed. I hope thsi is all due to hormones, I have started back on HART. takes a few weeks to kick in.Today I made my self shower BEFORE breakfast instead, and that seems to make me feel better. I still didn't get up till 12 noon!
BETTY- still praying for you, if your meds are not working well for your urinary tract infec. please let the doctor know, I have had many. Please get something for pain, don't want u to suffer anymore than you already are!Glad the service went well, my dad was also a wwII vet.!
QUEEN T-  hey girl, I know a lot about section 8 ,had it  for some years. how do you wear your hair? I wear locs and they take me forever to retwist!
WINN- feel better girl
KEEPIN,TENDAI,MOONLIGHT,CHEETERA,,PAULETTE -HELLO!
SNOW- hi, how many kids do you have, if I may ask? god bless you!
DRAG- just breath girl, breath!!!
SUN- you can't put your date at risk by tongue kissing unless he or you have open sores.So don't worry.I had to deal with this .
VIV-NICE TO MEET YOU
EVERYONE ELSE- SHOUT OUT, PEACE!

[Snowangel]

Betty- Don't you love when you lose your voice and people look at funny and say "Is there something wrong with your voice?"  That cracks me up everytime "Duh, did I sound like this last time you talked to me?"  I do cherish the moments but I have to tell you I am getting very tired of checking out the poop in the toilet.  I am very happy and proud that everyone is doing thier duty there, but I have seen enough shit in the last few months to last me a lifetime.    Now that I think about it, it is probably good that I look, cuz I always ask if they wipe and they ALWAYS say "Yes" and some how there is never any TP in the toilet. Ever. 

Netta- Thank you.  God did bless me. I have a 9 yr old boy and 4 yr old BGB trip  lets.  I always type it like that in case someone does a search, just in case
I hope you are feeling better.  I like to shower in the morning to help wake me up but I hate to blow dry my hair cuz it takes forever.  I usually do a half-ass job and end up with some frozen hair if  I spend too much time outside.

If it wasn't so late, I would go out and buy a lottlery ticket, I got itchy palms, someone told me that was supposed to be good luck, they obviously didn't have itchy palms.

Good night

[Queen Tokelove]

Evening Ladies----

Netta, I always said I would like to go to locs one day. I usually keep my hair in braids because I hate doing my hair because it is so fine or thin depending on how you look at it, I guess. It doesn't like to hold a curl. I don't want to have it cut because I am trying to grow it long that's why I am always sporting braids. At the moment it is a little bit past my shoulders but I know I need my ends clipped. I just don't trust anyone to do it. I am also looking for a new look but something that will continue to make my hair grow. What is your experience with section 8 because it is new to me.

Betty- No, I did not tell section 8 about my roomies. I am kind of playing things by ear but I know section 8 would never approve me for a whole house. If we can find a whole house soon then I wouldn't need section 8 but it took them over 5 years to get to me, that is how long the list is. The pesky person called the bff at work. To me, it is him being slick but he told bff that he has cancer and this is suppose to be from them sticking a tube down his throat. Roomie #1 says they wouldn't be able to tell that from the scope going down his throat so I am not sure what to believe but wouldn't at all be surprised if he was lying.

The car is getting towed to the mechanic tomorrow. Woooo Hoooooo!!!! Hopefully soon, I will be mobile again. Other than that, nothing else to really report. I hope you feel better Betty, Sun, Snow and Netta. Have a good night everyone..

[tendai]

Good morning all

Wendy - hope u're all better now.  this diarhea bug's been busy everywhere.
Queen - good news bout your car. its so convenient having your own car. u can go anywhere u want anytime.
Keeping - good luck with the labs!
Drag - i'll be careful promise. hows your arm doing these days?  any news yet on your BFs interview?
the guy who wants to send me money is the one i think infected me and went to the UK. He has sent me some money before -  long ago at the beginning of last year then stopped.  i dont know why he's wanting to start again. Me im thinking he owes me. We have so many families with so many people out in the diaspora that receiving money from abroad isnt something new now. cashiers cheques dont work unless its above $50 and then the bank will take 3% off plus $300million from what u've been sent. and so far thats only one bank that will do that. all the others wont because of the forex shortage.  most of the forex is in people's houses!  its quite a process actually receiving money from abroad if u dont have a forex account. i dont know we'll just wait and see if he does actually send it. the way things are right now i definately could use some extra cash. and no, he wont be able to access my account once he sends money

Seems like i jinxed my landlord when i mentioned him here. He died yesterday morning. Apparently it was too little to late. Got home and there was people cooking by the fire. Its a very quiet funeral so far.  Ordinarily there would be a whole crowd of people and they be singing and dancing and beating drums and all. Have to apply to the cops that there'l be noise.  This one is very quiet. not a peep from anyone. maybe it'll pick up later. shit then everyone will be using our toilet!

have a great day all you guys i'll catch u later

[BT65]

Good morning ladies:

Right now I'm blaring one of my favorite songs-'Tumbling Dice' by the Rolling Stones.  It's amazing what a good song will do for a person.  Anyway......

Netta, I hope the HRT kicks in for you soon.  I was on it before (Estrogen, Progesterone).  Now I'm on the Depo shot.  It's amazing what we woman go through isn't it.

Snow, what's the lottery up to there?  They have powerball here (and I believe in 4 other states).  Last weekend, it was $275 million.  I never buy lottery tickets, but I should-someone's got to win, right?

Queen, I've been on section 8 for the last few years.  I know it takes a long time to get on. But they've been a god-send to me.  I couldn't make it otherwise.  They would only approve you for a 1 br, but I'm sure you already know that (at least that's the way they do it here).  Good luck on that car.

My pee'er still hurts.  I wonder how long it's going to take before it stops.  I need to do laundry today and get some milk.  Notice I said I need to do these things, not I'm gonna do them.  I'm still pretty tired and might just hang low.  The weather is gloomy anyway.  Friday starts the cleaning out of my parents' house.  I'm getting my dad's police radio.  He used to listen to that all the time to find out what was happening to whom.  Anyway ladies, I'll check back in later.

Edited to add: Tendai, girl, I don't know how you do it.  You are one strong woman.

[minismom]

My fellow TBs, I am back.  Life took a turn on the fast and crazy track but I think it's slowing to a managable speed. The kids' birthday party went well last Saturday.  The rain held off so the kids were able to play outside and ride bikes, play kickball, and run off a ton of energy.  We played a couple of games inside, ate, finished up their shirts, ate, opened gifts, ate, and everyone went home.  By the end of the day, I was exhausted!

#6's birthday was Monday - St. Patty's Day.  She's officially 4.  #5 will be 5 on the 29th, but since we already had his party, we just let him be 5 early.  Although, the little booger thinks that he turned 5 on Saturday and on the 29th, he gets to turn 6.

Snow, I feel your pain with the laundry.  Just got finished matching 60 pairs of socks.  I can't wait until it's warm enough for sandals. I have another load in the washer, one in the dryer, and one more to do.  I'm gonna start a nudist colony that only eats on paper plates with plastic spoons.  No laundry.  No dishes.  What could be better?

Betty, how are you doing, hun?  I've been thinking about you since I read that your father died.

Queen, has the poor dog settled down any?  It's got to be frusterating for you.

Well, I think we're taking the kids to see "Horton" today.  Earliest show time is 2pm.  I should probably start thinking about getting them bathed and dressed.  It's nearly 10.

Everyone have a great Wed.

Mum

[Queen Tokelove]

It's a dreary day in my quaint little hood. It's been raining since yesterday. It beats the snow so I am not complaining. I am excited that the car is going to the mechanic today so hopefully by next check day, I will be mobile. Then y'all really going to say "Where Queen at?"...*LOL*.. And the car is a 4 cylinder, what a save on gas that will be. It'll just be nice to not have to depend on people for rides or constantly rescheduling things.

Mum-- Glad to hear things got back on track for you. I was missing me some Mum. Let me know how the Horton movie is, post it in my movies thread in OT. I want to see it, I love Dr. Seuss movies. Is Jim Carrey in this one too? The dog has settled a bit but the little ankle biter is crapping in the house even after we take him out. It is frustrating the hell out of me. I don't want my house stinking....

Tendai--- It's probably quiet for the landlord's funeral because it sounds like no one liked the man so who would want to celebrate? Maybe this man is sending you money because he feels bad that he has infected you? I can understand you needing the money though so do YOU.

Betty-- Actually, I would get approved for a 2 bedroom but if we decide to get a house, I won't need the section 8, the breakdown between the 3 of us should cover things nicely. The section 8 list here has been suspended for the time being and it took them over 5 years to get to me now. I had actually given up on it completely so it really surprised me to hear from them. The letter went to my bff(girl) house cause that's the last addy they had for me. I have to mail in some paperwork and work on getting a previous electric bill taken care of though. The lady at section 8 said it would probably take them 2 months to get back to me so hopefully I can have it paid off by then. Btw, did you get yahoo messenger yet?

It seems that the new roomie's ex found a way to get a hold of him by calling him at work. The new roomie has made his boss aware of the break up so hopefully he won't lose his job with the ex calling him there. He called him and told him that he has cancer. Can you find this out by sticking a scope down one's throat? I don't mean to sound cold but I don't know whether to believe the ex or not because he is so manipulative and could be saying he has cancer to make the new roomie come back to him. It's really sad at times but then I remember how the ex is.

Have a good day ladies...

[minismom]

It's good to be back, Queen, thx.  We decided not to take the kids to see the movie today.  It's pouring the rain and I didn't feel like dragging them in and out of the rain.  They manage to stay dry and I end up getting soaked.  We'll take them next week.  Depending on the type of cancer, you can tell from a endoscopy - like throat cancer, cancer of the larynx, voice box, ect.  Correction, you can tell if there are "growths" or cysts with an endoscopy, but they would have to be biopsied to know for sure if it was cancer and if it was malignant or not.

Life hasnt' calmed down much, I'm just learning to live with it, it's not going to change any time soon, so why stress.  I'm in the process of finding a new doc for #3 and #6.  We have until June 3rd to find one, or we'll have to wait until after that.  She's been with us for a while, but I've flat out had enough.  I don't need the hassle.  It's a long drawn out issue, and i don't want to bore anybody. 

Tomorrow is the 1st day of Spring and we have a chance for snow.  I've decided we're living in the next ice age.  I did wake up this morning to birds singing - then I opened my eyes to the gray dreariness of the day.  I NEED SUN! (and a vacation..and a shower..and a maid..and the winning lottery ticket..and a new house..and, and, and)

Hope everyone is having the most wonderful of Wednesdays.  I've missed you all...really.

Hugs and Moochies!
Mum

[Winiroo]

Still feeling like crap. My upper lip is a wreck, my lower lip was beginning to get a sore but I don't think it will erupt with all the Valtrex I'm taking. Still have diarrhea.
I've been able to work for an hour a day and manage to take my son to work still. Billy was able to pick him up from work yesterday so I was able to stay home and lay down.

I'm trying to take it easy. With as low as my tcells are it will likely take a while for me to feel better.
I've been doing this for 15 years I'm used to it. Dont worry. I'll be fine.

[BT65]

Afternoon ladies,

It sounds like it's grey everywhere.  What's up with that?  I'm like you mum, I need sun, sun and more sun (and warmth).  By the way, welcome back mum.  I've really missed your posts.  I understand things get hectic with all those kids.  I'm glad you're back with us.

Queen, section 8 can be a pain in the ass to deal with.  But then again, so is any government agency.  It seems like they never remember what they just did, and expect you to fix it.(I don't know if that makes any sense).  I'm so glad about your car.  A 4-cylinder is a nice thing to have nowadays.  My car is an 8-cylinder, and I just hate how much I have to pay to fill it just a little bit. 

Wendy, what are your t-cells?  Don't let yourself get too run down.  I don't want to hear any news of you being in the hospital or the like.  Please, please, take care of yourself.  Even though we've been dealing with this a long time, during that time, our bodies might get a little weaker and might need a little more help. 

I did do the laundry.  I had so much of it, and I'm so glad to get it done.  I went and got some milk and some gas.  My gas was on 1/4 tank, I put $20 in it and it only filled it up to the 1/2 way mark.  But gas is $3.19, down from $3.38, so I won't complain (like hell). 

I was going to go to the video store today to see if they have a copy of 'No Country for Old Men' in, but I just hate to think of going back outside.  I must be somewhat thin-blooded, as I really cannot stand the cold.  Anyway ladies, you all take care of yourselves.  I don't want to have to kick any ass.   Later-

[Winiroo]

Wendy, what are your t-cells?  Don't let yourself get too run down.  I don't want to hear any news of you being in the hospital or the like.  Please, please, take care of yourself.  Even though we've been dealing with this a long time, during that time, our bodies might get a little weaker and might need a little more help. 

They have been as low as 3 tcells but right now I'm at 120 and undetectable.

I aint going anywhere. I'm too stubborn.

Wendy

[Queen Tokelove]

Wooo Hoo, the car is now officially at the mechanics. He is charging 30 bucks to figure out what is wrong with it. Roomie #2 got it added to his insurance so it is covered. Now I just have to get the title changed next check day and wait and see how much mechanic is going to charge for inspection and whatever the problem is. I hope I can afford to get it all done next month.

Other than that, there really isn't anything new to report. My oldest sister's bday is next week so I have to go get her a card. She had gotten me one for my birthday and if I don't send her one, I will never hear the end of it. I'll check back in later..

[keepingfaith]

AFTERNOON LADIES,,


NOTHING SPECIAL TO REPORT FROM MISSISSIPPI. THE WEATHER IS (BLAH) ITS RAINING AND THE WEATHER HAS TURNED COLD ONCE AGAIN. I'M CRAMPPING VERY BADLY  I WENT TO THE DOCTOR TODAY. THEY DID NOT DRAW BLOOD BECAUSE I HAVENT BEEN ON THE MEDS ONLY FOR 3 WEEKS. DO I HAVE TO GO BACK NEXT WEEK. I HOPE EVERYONE IS HAVING A GREAT DAY.

WIN- I HOPE YOU START FEELING BETTER REAL SOON.

QUEEN- GREAT NEWS ABOUT THE CAR. I WOULD BE SO LOST WITHOUT MINES. I HAVE A TAHOE AND A CAR. THAT WAY IF ONE FAIL THE OTHER ONE SHOULD CARRY ME ON...

MINISMOM- GOOD TO HEAR FROM YOU, YOU ARE A STRONG WOMAN. I HAVE 2 CHILDREN AND THEY SOMETIMES RUN ME NUTS.

BETTY- LOVE YOU GIRL, YOU ARE A STRONG WOMAN.

[BT65]

Evening ladies-

Wendy, you just take care of yourself girlie.  I hope you know when it's time to go see your doctor.  I didn't realize your t's were so low.  Damn.

Queen, you must be excited.  It's not long until check day either. 

Keeping, good to hear from you, though I'm sorry to hear you're having cramps. 

I really did nothing exciting today.  I guess my sisters are going to take my mum's urn to the funeral home tomorrow and they are going to combine my mum's and dad's ashes.  Then, they're putting it into this one urn that floats and goes down to the bottom of (wherever).  We're going to put it on the St. Joe River, which eventually empties into Lake Michigan.  Friday.  And Friday will probably be the last time I'm at my parents'.  Well, that will seem strange. 

I wonder if Medicare pays for chiropracters.  My neck keeps popping and I think it needs a good crack.  I swore them (chiros) off years ago after one went to crack my back and I had a sharp pain that went from my ankle to my neck.  But maybe it's time to go see one. 

Nothing else really to report.  Have a good evening ladies-

[Winiroo]

Wendy, you just take care of yourself girlie.  I hope you know when it's time to go see your doctor.  I didn't realize your t's were so low.  Damn.

No worries, I've had an AIDS diagnosis since 1994. I know my limitations and do pretty well with making sure I get to the docs when its serious.
This is just a typical bump in the road sickness. It will pass.

I'm tired but healing.

[Snowangel]

Queen- We are going to have to hook you up with some fuzzy dice.  That will be so nice to have a car on the road again, just in time for summer too.  Maybe you can see if you can find a support group or something in your area.

Betty- Chiropractors freak me out.  That is the wierdest feeling to have them pop this and crack that.  I hope you feel better soon.  You guys got your parents place cleaned out quick.

Win- I hope you get better soon too, you know your limits, but please put yourself first.  I like your new pic- you are very photogenic

Keep- Chocolate...keeps the cramps away.  It's raining here too, doesn't it just do wonders for your mood...NOT!

Mum- Nice to see you back.  I hear you on the vacation and all of that, it has been like 15 yrs since I actually went anywhere on a vacation and I'm thinking it will be another 10 till it's actually possible.

  If you guys hear of someone winning powerball and not claiming, my mother has the ticket.....or had the ticket.  My father bought her one when he was NH or CT and she put it on the stove and promptly set it on fire.  She already had one major fire and it actually wasn't her fault.  I feel like her mother.  MOM...you have to stop putting things on your stove.  My turn to say....Calgon take me away! 

If you guys could seen the conversation I had about the kids today.  One of the guys from group brought me to the food bank and they ask you how many kids you have which is fine except this guy spoke Spanish and I don't. 
How many kids do you have?
4
What are thier ages?
9 and  trip  lets that are 4
You have 2 kids
No, I have 4.
a 9 yr old and (3) 4 yrs olds ------as I am holding up 3 fingers
You have 3 kids?
Um...No, I have 4.
Then this whole thing is repeated when he asks for our health cards. I finally asked the people sitting waiting to eat, does anyone know how to say trip  lets in spanish? cuz we are all laughing at this point....it turns out it is just triple or trip-lay. He finally believed me after seeing all the health cards I had.   
After all that fun, I went to see the therapist and she thinks I need to go to Al-anon or kind of group like that for co-dependency.  After coming home and reading a little on it, I think she is right.  Now I just have to find one
Not much else going on here. I hope everyone is doing well tonight.
Take care,
Snow

[Winiroo]

Win- I hope you get better soon too, you know your limits, but please put yourself first.  I like your new pic- you are very photogenic

Thank you very much. I'll be ok.

LOL you know thats the face of AIDS.

[MOONLIGHT1114]

Hi GFs~

Its been a rough week, with docs appts scheduled every night M-Th, and then group on Friday.  I have managed to catch a cold today or to succumb (sp?) to seasonal allergies, not sure which.

Betty, I have been thinking about how this week has been for you.  You are handling everything so strongly.  I just wish your pee-er felt better already.   

Win, so sorry to hear you've had a hurl-n-go week.  Damn, if I threw up I would be home for two days.  LOL 

I reconciled about 40 bank statements today at work, I'm about halfway done for the Feb stmts.  Good gosh almighty.

More this weekend, I really need to rest.

Love you all, GFs.

Night.

[netta]

Evening ladies, I've had the diarreah all morning, felt like crap,stomach swollen, it must be that dam norvir they keep me on. feeling better now.I think I'm  going crazy, While watching the show "ER on the health chanell, a young man got  seriouly heart from a car accident and I literally started crying and boo hoo n along with the family!! Boy talk about hormones out of whack! do I need to get a life, is  this what 50 does to you? lol!

Queen- Listen to betty bout the section 8

Betty- I have a gas guzzler 8 cylindar  (97 caddy) car also. When I get on e, I loan the car out so I can get my friends to buy gas, so far so good!. I want to see that movie also",gone baby gone "is a good one also.

Snow- you made my day, I laughed  so loud, my neighbors must think I got company !!!! i live by myself and rarely have any. Snow my last name is codependant , l been hearing that for years, but i've gotten better, been to support groups like alonon, helps.

minismom- you are too blessed to be stressed!!! lol

Tendai- i don't know u well, bu I understand you live in Zimbabwe?? I hope things get better for you.

Keepin, and Moon- take care
Winn- get plenty rest and take care, i luv ur pic also, u are very pretty

Ladies , the rest of you have a nice nite. Oh lets all buy a lottery ticket this week!!!

[vivyt]

Hello all! Not much is going on. Some drama with one of my coworkers but that's it. You'd think the drama would be with the kids, but sometimes they behave better than adults. I do have a funny story about my autistic boy I mentioned before. He has anger issues and will hit or kick when he gets mad. Well, yesterday he hit a student in class with an encyclopedia type book on the head. I pulled him aside and was talking very sternly with him. I told him, "You do not hit, period!" Without missing a beat he replied, "No, COMMA, he bothered me!" That was the first time I almost laughed out loud when scolding a child. I had to cover my mouth so he would not see me smile. He was letting me know that it was not over and he had more to say about it. 

On another note, I have finally come to the realization that I need to find a group to meet with. This forum is great but I need to interact with others locally. I live in Orange County and a lot of the groups are all the way in Los Angeles so I don't know what I am going to do. My therapist thinks it is a good thing. She says that even though I talk to her she doesn't know how to relate to my circumstance. I think that maybe doing both will help. Who knows, but I guess it's worth a try.

Oh, I do have a question for anyone. Have any of you who are on Atripla noticed any weight gain?

Two days till Spring Break! YAY!

[tendai]

good morning all

the ways u guys are just saying Section 8 i get to thinking its some kind of futuristic secret government agency in a sci-fi movie.

wendy i hope your mouth heals soon so u can get back to doing those "interesting things" u cant do. at least its not full blown shingles, which i cant even think about without cringing.  is that paint on your face or u fiddled with the picture? very  nice though..

mum- hi welcome back. your life is sooo full and busy with all those kids. never a dull moment huh? but i sure dont envy u when it comes to laundry. thank goodness for clothes washers. imagine if u had to do it by hand?

netta - yes i live in zimbabwe, things are bad but hopefully if the elections dont get rigged by u-know-who things will get better. hope u're feeling better today

viv- that autistic kid of yours is precious.  sounds really intelligent and funny. good luck finding a group

cindy - i hope u have a restful weekend. is Iceman in the picture for the weekend? u always feel great after being with him

betty - good luck with the chiropractor. have u ever tried acupuncture? or it doenst work with neck problems? and yes u have to be strong these days. its like a jungle here these days, survival of the fittest.

Queen - hope the mechanic fixes your car soon. $30 here is about $1,5billion.   

keeping - try a hot compress on your cramps, i heard it helps

snow - that story was funny. good luck finding a goup

sun - glad u're still together with Whitey, u'll find the right moment to tell him. its a miracle he hasnt complained about u not kissing him open mouthed and all. hopefully that means he's an understanding guy. any news on the results?

my sister i stay with ran away to my uncles to avoid going to sing at the funeral.  i wanted to go yesterday but noone was singing until after 7 and by then i was in bed. today i'm not going home because of the water crisis. i could still smell the stench from the toilet all the way to work. thank God its easter holiday , take a break from work and all. plus i have an excuse. i think the problem is that guy was stuck up, having being raised in the states and being deported for drug abuse or something, and the way he treated his stepmom was common knowledge. guess thats why theres such a poor turnout

guys isnt i mentioned that other sister of mine the one with the kid who looks like the worm aliens. she is "married" but the husband is in Botswana and wont be back until August if shes lucky. she's staying with her inlaws but the conditions shes living in are so bad and thats contributing to her and the childs general ill-health. i want to take her away from there and stay with her for a while. just until their health improves. or forever because nothing good is coming out of that "marriage". the stupid husband didnt even pay anything to our family so shes not officially married. i bet they just want a housegirl of sorts. she made a stupid mistake getting pregnant and running off to live with him and i think she realises that but she wont admit it coz people are saying "thats what u wanted deal with it". i just dont like seeing her live like that. i dont know.  i think i'll talk to my uncle and aunt about it hear what they say.

have a good one!

[BT65]

Morning ladies:

Wendy, '94 was the year I was diagnosed with AIDS also.  That is a nice picture of you.  You have a beautiful smile!

Cin, I hope your sinuses clear up.  Those can be miserable.  I'm still fighting the nasal virus I got 3 weeks ago. 

Netta, isn't it funny how you can be watching a show and they have something a little sad on and you start blubbering?  That happens to me sometimes also; don't feel lonely.  I have a '94 Crown Victoria.  They sure are comfortable cars (the big ones) and I love the way they ride, but I sure wish gas wasn't so much.  Yes, we should all buy lottery tickets and if one of us wins, that would pay for all of us to meet somewhere for the cookout Queen & I were talking about earlier on.  No, seriously, I haven't bought a lottery ticket in many years. 

Snow, hee.  That story is funny about you seeing the man at the food bank.  Your mother set her own place on fire?  Well, I suppose that can happen. 

Viv, love those stories you tell us about the kids.  I know you're waiting for the end of tomorrow so you can start spring break.  Any plans?  Yes, a support group would be a good thing; at least that's what I've experienced.

Tendai, girl, where you live sounds like a nightmare.  I honestly don't know how you do it.  I sure hope the elections go smoothly and bring different leadership to your country. 

Well, between tomorrow and Saturday we're supposed to get 8 inches of snow.   I thought we were through with this shit.  I don't know what mother nature is trying to do to us.  Torture us, I guess. 

I really have nothing exciting planned for today.  I'm going to clean; my therapist comes over; and a friend of mine is taking me out to supper this evening.  Tomorrow I have to go to my parents'; Sunday my one sister is flying back to Phoenix.  That's about as exciting as it gets around here.  I hope you ladies have a good day. I'll check back in later-

[minismom]

Good morning sweeties!  HAPPY FIRST DAY OF SPRING!!  It would be more convincing if it wasn't supposed to snow today. It's 8:30 and there's a million things I need to do and I'm not doing a single one of them   We'll have to have school at some point today.  Hubby's off with clients, so it's just me and the booglets.

Tendai: when we lived in Honduras (#1 was born there), I DID have to do all the laundry by hand on a washboard.  I have pictures to prove it.  That was almost 11yrs ago.  We had to set up buckets to catch the rain as it fell off the roof because the government cut off the water every time it rained - which was every day! Anyway, soak the clothes, scrub, scrub, dip, scrub, scrub, dip, dip, ring out, dip in clean water, dip, dip, ring, shake, hang.  I had big ol' bicepts with in a week!  I'll need to find the pictures and post them here.  It was a hoot!

The process of finding a new doc for #'s 2 and 6 isn't going too well.  No doctor wants to take the time to sit with me and talk (interview).  I want to make sure he/she understands what I need, what we believe, and can deal with all the dynamics that I'd be bringing in.  It's frustrating.  I have more names on my list, but so far I keep hitting brick walls.  I tried to change last summer and went to a highly recommended doctor.  Within 5 minutes I knew it wasn't going to work out.  By that time, she went from standing to sitting, from smiling to slack-jawed, and from enthusiastic to dumbfounded.  I collected the kids, thanked her for her time, and told her we wouldn't be back.  I hung in there with our "old" doc, but I've had it. So, onward and upward!

So far, that's it.  Nothing exciting or earth shattering.

SMILE! and remember: hysterical IS the new calm.

Mum

[minismom]

I know, I just posted, but crap!  Just got a call from the ENT / audiologist.  #6 had an appointment to have her hearing rechecked.  She has progressive hearing loss in her right ear (and periphreal blindness in her right eye).  I called last week because she keeps sticking her left ear ON the speakers.  I'm worried that she's now losing hearing in that ear, too.  It started out by her sitting closer and closer to the TV / radio.  Then, she started standing next to it.  Now, she puts her left ear on the speaker.  We assumed she was having a vision issue, now it looks like a hearing issue. Anyway, I called to get her appointment changed so we could get in earlier.  It was supposed to be the beginning of next week.  Now, suddenly today, it was moved to April 10th - hubby's birthday.  Now I have to call and get it changed again to something earlier.  I mean, come on!  I'm also upset because they won't aide her "bad" ear and now they both may be "bad".  If anything comes at her on the right side, she can't see it or hear it.  AAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!  Sorry, just had to get that out.

Mum (who warns that this probably will NOT be the last rant of the day)

[BT65]

Mum, you poor dear.  Rant on, sister, rant on.

[Winiroo]

is that paint on your face or u fiddled with the picture? very nice though..

I tinkered with a picture of me with a photo editor. Its my face on top of my face. They are just tilted at different angles. And the photo was also given a slight color change.
The cold sore on my bottom lip is pretty much gone but my upper lip is nasty still. It will take 3 to 5 days to heal likely. The lower my tcells have gotten the more sores I've gotten in and on my mouth. Fortunately I have meds to keep them from staying forever or spreading.

Mum - sorry your having trouble with the kiddos and doctors. Stinks to loose your hearing. I had chronic ear problems when I was much younger and was deaf for a few days because of an infection and impaction. I have had more ear problems in my life than I've had BM's this year likely LOL
I have an ear infection right now. Its not too bad though I'm letting this one clear up on its own. Its only mildly uncomfortable and I can feel it draining in my throat so I know it is ok right now. 

Thanks to Betty and Netta for the compliments.

Viv - That was a cute story.

[BT65]

Wendy, don't push your body.  I trust your judgement, but don't try to just roll the dice and see what you get.  You may need antibiotics.

[Winiroo]

If it gets more painful or to where I cant pop my ear or I can tell its not draining. I'll get some antibiotics.

I usually avoid antibiotics unless necessary.

Honestly its only mildly uncomfortable and BTW I'm not 100% better but I do feel way better.
The blister on my upper lip is now scabbed and I'm only moderately more tired than usual.

[Dragonette]

yeah I second Betty on that one. when I had less than 200 Ts I was kept on antiobiotics anyway all the time as a prophlactic, it was for 8-9 months. I used to have the sores all the bloody time too.

Wendy you are even a tougher cookie that I knew before, if that's even possible.

Betty, wishing things would go as smoothly as possible for you. It's great that you were able to share so much with the forums. I am quite dumbstruck when it comes to consolling unfortunately but I really care.

I will keep it short cos of the old arm. my BF got called in spain and told that he has the job, its not clear yet if he will have only the 2 days a week or they will upgrade him to fulltime (they said they'd try). I am so happy but waiting for the contract to be signed to really exhale. Thanks Snow. & Tendai I hope you enjoy any moment away from Dr. Evil's clinic, you'll probabaly only read this Tue. Cindy I am looking forward to a long post from you when you feel better. Netta I am sorry about your brother, that must be tough. Snow I'd have trip lets just to say I have them, how awsome, but I know it's not 3 times the work, but like 3 in the power of 3...

Hugs to all y'all, hope you have a wonderful Easter weekend. I got 4 DVDs, books, work and cleaning to do. If I don't clean soon I might get a visit from the Health Dept.

Modified to say Wendy just saw your reply and am glad you feel better

[Winiroo]

Naaa not tough just stubborn.

They prescribe me Bactrim but I don't take it unless something hinky is going on with my lungs.

[BT65]

Evening ladies, well Wendy, I'm glad you're feeling some better.  Just watch yourself, girlie. 

Drag, good to hear from you.  Congrats on your bf getting that job.  So you'll be moving to Spain.  Do you know Spanish? 

I just got back from my gay bff taking me out to eat at Logan's Roadhouse.  I had a very good steak, a baked sweet potato and salad.  I'm so full.  We had a good time trashing people.  In a fun, loving way of course.     Sometimes we all just need to get out and have some laughs.  My nose kept running though; it's always cold in my apartment, and I don't control the heat (the landlord does).  So when I get into some place warm, the nose starts in.  I still have pressure when I pee, but oh well, I guess I can live with that. 

Otherwise, nothing to report.  I hope all you ladies have a great evening-

[Dragonette]

hey Betty - no the job's here, that's the great thing, I can finish my contract and not worry about moving in the meantime. sorry, wasn't very clear. he called me from spain, b/c they called him there, he went to celebrate easter week with his family, its a very big deal there. just hope and pray that the contract and everything will be OK and that maybe they will get him up to fulltime like they said they would, but even part time is great. Just keeping fingers crossed everything works out.

maybe I'll move to spain at some point. dont speak much Spanish, yet.

I had to do a double take, btw you & Queen's gay bffs, I wasn't sure for a second I was addressing the right person .

So glad you went out and had a good meal and laugh. you so deserve/needed that

[minismom]

OH, Betty, I'm jealous!  A good juicy steak, some good juicy gossip...a perfect combo.

I'm thinking we may bypass the ENT/Audiologist and take her to a hearing center here in town.  They usually have very flexible hours and lots of openings.  At the very least, it may help me get her in to see her audiologist faster.  And, as if that's not bad enough, her left eye has been wandering to the left while her right eye wanders to the right - like the opposite of being cross-eyed.  She's had this issue since last summer, or at least that's when it was identified.  She's usually able to blink and it sets her eyes straight again.  Now, her right eye is staying forward and her left eye is wandering out and it's not going back.  I'll call her eye specialist on Monday to see when we can take her in to get THAT checked, too.  When it rains...it pours.  And, goodness knows that it's been raining here.

Thanks for llistening to my rant.  I try not to - I know everyone has issues here that are greater than mine.  It means a lot that you ladies consider me part of the "gang".  It really does.

Mum

[Winiroo]

They may have her wear glasses to strengthen her ocular muscles. I hope its as simple a solution as that.

[minismom]

Win, I'm the one who told the doc that something was up with her perifreal (sp?) vision.  The nurse that checked it said that everything was fine.  I was holding #6 and KNEW something was up looking at the back of her head!  So, when the doctor came in (who, btw, is mini's ID doc's hubby), I told him to check.  That's when he told me that she had no perifreal vision in her right eye.  I didn't know about the "wandering" until I got a copy of his report - a month later.  It said that #6 had a (something).  I had hubby look it up and found out that it meant her eyes wander out.  She was scheduled for another MRI - ended up having 3 over the summer - and nothing was found.  So, back to the doc who, after getting an earload from me, confirmed her blindness and her crazy eye.  I asked him at that point if either patching or glasses could help.  He told me no.  Then, he made a referral to a vision therapist through the WV school for the blind.  We have YET to hear from them - after several phone calls from us and the doctor.  So, here we sit.  I hate doctors!

We do have an autism advocate - did I mention she's autistic and has MR? - that's trying to see what she can do.  It sounds so silly to say, but sometimes Mini's HIV seems really "easy".

Mum (who only has 1 1/2 hrs. to rant today - because then it will be tomorrow )

[Winiroo]

Sorry to hear that. poor baby

[Snowangel]

Hi Ladies-

Viv- That was such a cute comeback,  I just love those moments!  I totally understand you with trying to find a group in your area.  I wish you luck.  Supposedly there has been groups around here for years but I just recently found them, when I called around and asked before they told me they only allowed gay men.  So I guess, what I am saying, the operators/receptionist might not know everything that is available so be persistant.

Betty- Glad you had a good night out!  I love to people watch too.  No, my mother didn't burn down her house...yet.  She did have a house fire in the early 90's and the whole house needed to be gutted.  It was kinda freaky actually, she had taken a nap in the afternoon and around 10 pm decided she needed to go to the post office that was open in the next town ,so she left and took the 2 dogs with her.  She came back a 1/2 hour later and the house was engulfed in flames, if she hadn't taken a nap and got up and left she probably would have been asleep when the fire started and who knows what would have happened.  It was the cord to the fridge that started the fire. 

Moon- Only 40, geez. Slacker.  I hate to see what you can do when you are feeling a 100%.  How are you doing?

Netta- How are feeling today?  Have you ever heard of CODA co-dependent anonymous?  I found it on-line yesterday and I sent an email to someone but I haven't heard anything back yet

Mum- Sorry to hear you have so much going on right now.  Thank goodness the kids have you to advocate for them.  I can't stand the docs that have "the complex" and don't really listen to the words that are coming out of your mouth. One of my kids has glasses.  He had eye surgery on one eye and hopefully the glasses will help the other eye.  He had to use a patch too.  I had to take him to a specialist and she told me to patch one eye and I patched the other and it turned out I was the one who was right.  They think what they see in 15 min. outweights what we see 24/7.  Good luck.  Vent on, girl, vent on!  That's what we are here for!  Right, girlz?

Drag- Congrats on the bf getting the job.  I don't speak Spanish either.  I know words like cocina and zapatos, and the people I know usually don't talk about thier kitchens or shoes much.

Win- I am glad you are feeling better!  I have to agree you are one tough cookie.  You're beautiful, funny and you even try out recipes while not feeling well.....Does Billy realize how lucky he is?

Brain fart....I totally forgot what I was going to say.  I am tired.  The kids don't have school tomorrow so at least, theoretically, I can sleep late. 

Oh, eyebrows.  Does anyone get thier eyebrows waxed?  Do you usually bleed?  I need to get mine done, big time.  Shoot, my 9 yr old son gets his done when he goes to visit his father, why can't I.  I don't know if I bleed but it hurts like a biatch and I feel like I might bleed.  Is this something I should worry about?

Hi to everyone else, I hope everyone is doing well.

Oh Ten- 1.5 billion???  What is the highest denomination bill you have?  I hope your elections go well too.

Take care everyone, Snow

[BT65]

Morning ladies:

Mum, wow.  It sounds like you have your hands full, as always.  I agree with Snow, the kids are very fortunate they have you in their corners.  We're here anytime you want to rant-just go ahead and let it out.

Snow, I've never had my eyebrows waxed.  I don't know anything about that.  When I was in high school, I shaved my eyebrows completely off.  That was terrible.  I don't know what I was hoping to accomplish.  Cin would probably be the one to comment about that. 

Btw, where is Cin?  And Queen didn't post at all yesterday.  I hope they're alright. 

Well, today is the day of reckoning I suppose, at my parents'.  I hope my two sisters aren't all worked into a tizzy.  I just want to get in there and get out.  I don't want something that can be accomplished in an hour or two to be turned into a whole-day thing.  My brother and I have coordinated our times so we'll get there at the same time.  Then when he leaves, I'm outta there also.  No disrespect is meant by this, don't read it that way.  I just don't like to drag things out. 

I am officially sick and tired of this bladder infection.  Yes, it still hurts when I pee.  My doctor wants me to give them another urine.  He says there's a 20% chance it's resistant to the Bactrim DS.  Their office is only open 1/2 day today and I have to go to my parents'.  So I told him I would let him know Monday how it's going.  I'm so tired of water and cranberry juice I'm going to vomit.  No, not really.

I hope you ladies have a good day.  I'm going to check out a few more threads, eat and take a shower.  Have a good one-

[Queen Tokelove]

Afternoon Ladies---

I am still here. I read posts yesterday but really didn't have anything to say. So, I guess I kind of lurked and left. I got woken up early this morning around 8 am with a helluva headache. I took an 800mg Ib and went back to sleep. Funny, I just got up a few minutes ago and can still feel the headache a bit. It seems to be nice out today, I have my bedroom window cracked to let some fresh air in. My allergies have been giving me hell lately. Nothing planned for today other than washing some clothes for my son when I get around to doing it.

Betty-- I hope things run smoothly with the packing of the house. Sorry that bladder infection still has you. I know by now you have to be tired of the cranberry juice by now. Did you get those pills Winiroo was talking about?

Dragonette-- Congrats to your fiance on getting the job. I can understand how you can get me and Betty's gay bff mixed up. My bff's ex has now gotten the bff's cell number and wants him to spend the weekend with him. Bff is not going to do it but I knew it was a setup from the door. And I cooked my own steak last night with some rice and gravy..It was delish!!!!

I guess that is it for me, I was just checking in to let you gals know I am ok and so far things are right as rain. I am still waiting on the termination notice from the gas company. I haven't gone to a therapist yet because Ms Twice A week called and said the place she recommended by my house doesn't accept my insurance after all. WTF? Well, I have checked in, where is Wishful and Cindy? Holla at you guys later...

[minismom]

I posted this in the OT forum, but wanted to also post it here.  There was a news report last night about those new "energy efficient" light bulbs. These are the ONLY bulbs that will be sold as of 2016 (or 2013, i can't remember).  The problem is that these bulbs contain mercury - one of the most poisonous substances in the world.  In the story, a woman dropped one of these bulbs and called poison control.  She was put in touch with a company that charged $2000 to remove the mercury from her home.  Also, when these bulbs go out, you can NOT throw them in the trash.  They must be brought to (and paid for) a hazzardous materials drop-off site.

We HAD these bulbs in every light and lamp in our home until we heard that report.  They were replaced today with the good ol' standard bulbs.  The mercury bulbs were boxed up and placed in our barn.  I'm not paying to bring them to a hazzardous waste dump - which we can't even find in our area (within 60 miles from our home).

I know there are ladies here with kids / animals and accidents happen.  I'd be really careful if you have these in your home.

Mum

[Snowangel]

Mum- Are you talking about the funny looking light bulbs that are skinny and wrap around themselves?

Hi ya- Queen

Betty- I hope your day went well at your parents house.

Snow

[minismom]

yeah, Snow, that's the ones I'm talking about.  They either look like that - all spiraled up - or they are just one tube that looks like a lower-case "n".  They are no longer in our home. 

Mum

[Winiroo]

Snow - I've had my eyebrows and my lip waxed. I didn't bleed. The lip hurt like a mother. LOL
I'm premenopausal so I've been growing hairs here and there that don't belong and the peach fuzz on my upper lip has gotten a bit darker.

Mum - I saw something on tv that said you can dispose of those bulbs in ziplock bags and put them in the trash.

Betty - I was given a pill for one of my bladder infections once that made my pee turn blue. Cant remember what it was called cause I was a teen but it worked and peeing blue was pretty cool. LOL

[MOONLIGHT1114]

I just got to Iceman's after group tonight.  I am going to kick his ass at Guitar Hero.

I'll post more tomorrow, I need to chill tonight. 

~ Cindy

[Dragonette]

Hello ladies,

Awful quiet here today, except for a few "guests". Wonder what's going on? Betty give us a shout so we'll know you're OK, I guess you're working on the house?

Wendy, I know those bloody stray hairs, but didnt realize they come before the period? I feel like the bearded lady sometimes. I don't wax but tweeze, I heard that waxing can cause wrinkles cos is tags on the skin as well. I also heard that tweexing makes them grow back faster, not sure that true b/c on the other hand they say if your overtweeze your eyebrows you wont get them back. That sure aint happening with the rest of my face though.

It's absurdly freezing here and I still didnt clean the house, but I will. Mañana. I have a bunch of girly movies, watched some of them, using my time wisely till BF gets back tomorrow night... I already watched Marie Antoinette & Devil Wears Prada, tonight I'll watch Closer. I also watched one very good Israeli film. I am such a loner, I haven't been seeing or talking to anyone these 3 days (except shortly on skype), but I did buy a ticket to go and see a friend in Italy in over a week, for 5 days. I feel like my close friends aren't here, as neither is my family. My friend doesn't know I am poz and I don't want to tell her, I'm afraid she'll freak out about my using her toilet etc. I told so many people, I don't know why with some people I am just shit scared.

Oh I went to the gym and there was some street dancing type class, damn I am out of shape, or out of enthusiasm, or both. I am also premenstural I think. I don't think I got pregnant, which is kind of worrying b/c in 2 weeks we did it 19 times... that's not normal though usually its much less. I know b/c there is only 1 syrnige left from the 20 that we bought.

Hope all of you are doing well. Queen, if you haven't got a therpaist yet maybe you can try and find one who does conginitive behavioral therapy or some kind of positive psychology. That helps me a lot and it's not something you need hundreds of meeting for like with conventional therapy. Evereyone's different but I don't beleive that only digging in the past can be that helpful. But like I said I can only relate my own experience.

[BT65]

Morning ladies:

Well, I was pretty busy yesterday at my parents'.  We (the sibs) took their ashes down by the St. Joe River, which empties into Lake Michigan, and put some of the ashes in there, then the rest got scattered at their home.  Lots (tons) of stuff.  My dad was a drummer (did I already mention this).  He has an autograph book which has Frank Sinatra's autograph in it.  He played a lot at the nightclubs in Detroit when he was younger.  I got some old (40's) records of my dad drumming.  Now if I just had a record player. 

Queen, I'm sorry you haven't had luck with finding a therapist.  Just keep plugging.  When do you expect your d/c notice from the gas company?  Good luck on all the craziness that is life.

Mum, thanks for the heads up on those lightbulbs.  I've wondered about getting some, but I never have.  Now I'm glad I didn't-I have a cat and wouldn't want to risk her getting any poisoning.

Snow, how you doing girlie?

Cin, how did Guitar Hero go?  I did some playing here myself, but not that game.

OK, Camms, where the hell are you?  I remember you told us we stuck with you.  Waiting for you to deliver on that, gf.  Other than that ladies, no big plans today.  I rented 'No Country for Old Men' yesterday and plan on wathcing it today.  All you ladies take care of yourselves.

[Snowangel]

Hi everyone-
Queen- I am glad things went well yesterday.   You could try Craigslist or Freecycle in your area for a record player, you could probably get one for free.  Is your bladder infection feeling any better?

Drag-  It is in the 40's here during the day and colder at night.  I don't know about you but I am so sick of the cold weather.   I have one girlfriend that I still talk to and I haven't told her either.  I am not sure why, I am just afraid of that person telling someone else and it getting around.  Did you see "The Holiday" with Cameron Diaz and Kate Winslet?  That is a cute chick flick.

Queen- What's the 411 on your car?  I hope it was a cheap fix.

Cin- What is Guitar Hero, exactly?  Is it like playing air guitar or are you actually hitting some strings?  I can play pac man and that is about it and that tells you how long it has been since I played.   Are you feeling better?

Keeping-  How are you feeling?

Mum-  Thanks for the lightbulb info!

Paulette- Hope and your girls are doing well.  I was cleaning out the other day and found some pics of me climbing in tree class at school.  Geez, I wish I was still in that good of shape.

Yesterday, the kids were home from school.  I had it out with my SO. I took my older son to see his father.  I visited my grandmother and then brought lunch to my Mom and Dad.  My parents have been divorced for over 10 yrs so it so wierd to see them together.  Technically, my father is still married so I am not sure what is up with that but he has been at her house helping clean and fix things up.  When the trips and I got home last night we put videos on and danced our asses off.  That is actually a pretty good stress reliever.
Today, I need to clean the house, go get some stuff for Easter dinner.  I finally just filed a dispute in with one of the companies I ordered our stuff from this morning, enough is enough, bet they call me back when they see thier money got taken back.  I think I have something on my forehead that says, F*ck with me!  I found another place anyway and I am not going to say anything else, cuz I will jinx myself   

Hope everyone is doing well!

Take care,
Snow

[netta]

just giving a shot out, i'm fine. i was so depressed last nite I started crying, because the holidays are rough for me, plus i missed my friends in va and my manfriend in va had to go to Bagdad(navy guy) for a week. Just as i was into my pity party, the phone rang and a good male friend from new york (my home) called and knew something was wrong, he talked to me on and off till 2 am!!!!Wait it gets better, my best friend in va, called and bought me a ticket to come visit next month!!!!We are going to a family party for her brother in law who is being shiped off to the persian gulf, that week for 6 mos. her family and I grew up together. This is a woman who has been my friend for over thirty years!!! and has lost both parents to aids!!!She also has a ex husband who is hiv and lives in the va hospital. when her mom was very sick and livng in maryland the doctors had giving up on her, being a senior and all. then we moved her down here and i got her hooked up with my id doc and she lived a few more years! than expected, she didnt like taking meds, or I think she would still be here. People don't believe elderly better get aids too. why is that? she got it from her husband who had a blood transfusion long before they tested the blood. Anyhow my best friend is a nurse, and she is not poz,which is a blessing. her husband was a vietnam vet and became a herione addict during the war. he also got shot.

ps I'm crocheting again!!

I hope everyone is doing well and has a good weekend !!! luv to all,

[Queen Tokelove]

Hey Ladies---

I'm needing to vent today. I had to kick my gay bff out already. He lied to me about a date he had last night, the date was with the ex. But come to find out he has lied about a few other things too. The funny thing is that I am more hurt than pissed. It showed me that his ex and his addiction means more than our friendship ever did. When he came in this afternoon, about an hour ago, I called him on his shit and told him he has to go. He tried to give me the excuse that they had to finalize things but it was bullshit, he was holed up over at the ex's sister's house because I guess the ex had gotten a nice sized check from something. While I was stuck here with his traumatized dog. After I confronted him, he grabbed his dog and left. He still has to get the rest of his stuff. I am done and am going to wash my hands of him. One thing I can't tolerate is a liar and a thief. I did what I could to try to help but he doesn't want to help himself, so I am done.

The car is at mechanics and I am still waiting to hear back from the mechanic on what's wrong with it or how much it will cost. I am on the phone with my other bff so I will check back later....

[minismom]

Netta, crochet is my therapy.  I have a big ol' basket of yarn sitting beside me as I type.  I just finished crocheting bookmarks for some folks for Easter.  If you want a list of sites that have FREE crochet patterns, just shoot me a PM.  If you are ever looking for something specific, let me know.  Chances are that I have a pattern for it somewhere in the house. I crocheted our youngest daughter's dress for tomorrow.  All 3 of my boys and Mini are all learning to crochet.  They are also learning how to cross-stitch (my other therapy). 

It is cold and nasty here today.  I NEED SUN AND HEAT!!! (but not too much heat...70 - 75 is high enough)

Everything else is really quiet.  Trying to catch up on the laundry.  Everyone have a really great day!

mum

[Dragonette]

wish I knew how to crochet or knit or quilt or something

freezing here like a witch's tit. Quiet is good Minis...

Queen, sorry bout your friend. Hes a big boy though. However can't help being sad and worried for the dog, poor thing.  were you counting on him for the rent? Yep you can't have a crack addict coming around if he's still in the relationship. Getting into any issue with a couple is complicated, people say they're going to leave like a million times, but something draws them back again and again.

Which reminds me, I wonder what happened with Afraid? Its been ages and ages.

Netta, what an uplifting post, sounds like you have some amazing people in your life.

I was at the supermarket and there was this beaitiful young black woman shopping with a guy (who seemed to be a relative), and she had very bad wasting, her clothes looked like there were empty, like there was no body in there, and walking very slowly using a stick. i know that "look". Of course could be something else, but made me sad. I kept bumping into them, I always go to the cheap shop first and then into the posh one to make up for things that were missing, and they did the same.

On a more cheerful note I forgot to write that there is this woman at my gym whose trying to pick me up... she looks Indonesian or something, but a bit on the tough side. Not really butch but not as waify as a lot of Asian women, anyway I have seen her check me out and today she came to sit with me when I was resting, I was reading a magazine and then I looked up and she was staring hard, I mean there was no mistaking that look  but I just walked away. It's rare for people to look at me like that so I guess it was a compliment, if I wasn't already spoken for, who knows? I don't consider myself bisexual but it could happen, I mean I have had some experiences. Well I doubt it cos I doubt I would be able to disclose. Although I did it with my BF it doesn't seem to get easier at all. Strangely it seems to get harder than in the beginning, my guess is cos I wasn't quite aware of the levels of prejudice till I became poz, and truthfully, using these as well as other forums and reading things online (talkbacks and such) has made me less, not more confident. It's like you carry the pain of others' rejection and discrimination on top of what you yourself have experienced. Do you find it the same?

Joining Betty on the shout out to Camms too... Betty your ceremony for your folks sounds very moving, very special.

Snow, thx, I have seen the holiday, actually I like a good chick flick but not too sweet... that was a bit much for me, I don't do the really romantic stuff, no Sandra Bollock bollocks for me  I too am sick of cold, but in no way ready to bare myself... kind of a Catch 22 really, except sooner or later it will get warm. I'm contemplating starting a weight loss thread. anyoen intersted in reporting what we ate? a virtual support group as such? I have never done this before, in fact I haven't dieted since I was 20, but I have put on like 8 kgs since my picture. Id love to lose some before it gets warm...

OK ladies, ciao for now, have a good one.

[Winiroo]

One thing I can't tolerate is a liar and a thief. I did what I could to try to help but he doesn't want to help himself, so I am done.

Good for you. I cant stand that crap either.

Wendy, I know those bloody stray hairs, but didnt realize they come before the period?

LOL Menopause not menstrual


Netta - I crochet but it doesn't come out nice. LOL I have no skill when it comes to crocheting. Its still fun sometimes though.

[Snowangel]

I don't know what it is about crocheting but I ever time I see that word I read it as...CRAW- cheting and it makes me think of ornery, elderly people?  I can't crochet or knit or quilt, I don't have the patience.  I really like the crazy quilts that people do.  I used to do beading but I don't have the patience for that anymore either.

Netta- Sorry to hear you were so down yesterday, you must have vibed your friends. Glad they called and made you feel better. That is so nice of your friend to send you a ticket to visit, she sounds like a wonderful person.

It's rare for people to look at me like that so I guess it was a compliment, if I wasn't already spoken for, who knows?

Drag- LOL! It's probably not rare you just happened to catch the person checking you out 
I could definately stand to lose some weight too.  As far as the disclosure thing,  I have only one girlfriend that I am really close to and I haven't told her because I am afraid to lose her friendship and I am not ready to take that chance yet but I am sure I will someday. I can't say that I think about what has happened to other people affects me telling or not, you have to have it in you and I don't yet .

Queen- Sorry to hear about your bff.  I guess it is true when they say you can't help someone until they are ready to help themselves. Just know, that you did the best that you could.  I'm with Drag and  felt bad for the dog too, you took much better care of him then he did.


Win- I read it as premenstrual too   You look so young, how old are you again?  I am 36, and I already(started like 4 yrs ago) got a ton of grey around my temples underneath.  It sucks get older 

Snow

[Winiroo]

Win- I read it as premenstrual too   You look so young, how old are you again?  I am 36, and I already(started like 4 yrs ago) got a ton of grey around my temples underneath.  It sucks get older 

I am 35 will be 36 in a couple of months. I've got all sorts of white hair when I don't color it. My hormones are whacked without birth control pills.
Probably HIV's fault.

[Queen Tokelove]

Evening Everyone---

Thanks for the words about the situation with me and the gay bff. I was really bummed about it earlier and went to sleep for a few hours. I feel bad for the dog too because he is going to be neglected again. But there is nothing I can do about that. Our mutual friend who was trying to help the bff is done with him too. After I told him he had to leave, he called our mutual friend and tried to throw a guilt trip saying that he guesses that the mutual friend hates him too. I don't hate my bff but for the life of me I can't figure out why he keeps going back to his bf. I can only guess that he doesn't mind living a trifling lifestyle and going from sugar to shit because of the crack. He has burned his bridges when it comes to people helping him and his only other option is to live with the bf's sister who has about 5 kids and a bf. I'm guessing that is where he is but I don't see that situation lasting long either because no one there is going to put up with a dog who shits all over the house much less take the poor thing outside or for walks. No, Dragonette, I was not depending on him for rent. I wasn't depending on him for anything other than to be honest and not lie to me.

I forgot to mention that Kevin stopped over yesterday. He didn't get past the front door and I didn't talk to him. I guess he thought if he waited for a minute that I would change my mind about things....NOT!!!! The mutual friend and I was talking last night about hiv here in our town. He goes to meetings and was telling me that only one person showed up for the last meeting. He had asked me to go but I had declined because when I was ready to go to one, they cancelled. I told him, we must be the only person in our quaint little town who is poz. Bad joke, I know but it just shows that like I had said in the past people here are really on the DL (down low) about it.

LOL@the gray hairs thing. I have one hair on my head that is gray and you really have to look to see it. It seems that all my gray hairs decided to make their home down south if you know what I mean. No surprise to me since my poonani is not getting any action. So, I just shave them suckers away!!!! I guess I just have good genes and am aging gracefully...*hee hee*

I am off to surf the internet and the cable guide for something to watch. I'll check back in later. Happy Easter!!!

[Queen Tokelove]

I am in a bit of shock about now. I swear the hits just keep coming. While checking my email on Yahoo, I get a PM from who I thought was Boo. Those of you who were here from the beginning remember how I felt about Boo. The person I spoke to claimed to be his gf of 11 years, another shocker. I met or should say corresponded with Boo from his profile on Poz personals. We use to talk for hours which made me think along with him telling me that he didn't have any gf. She was really nice, no drama and explained to me that Boo passed away on November 4th of last year. She went on to say that he never disclosed to her and found out he was poz from his sister. He had told her that he had cancer. Which immediately gave me a flashback kind of feeling because I remember when I was first diagnosed that is what I had told someone but eventually ended up telling the person the truth. Anyhoo, if you remember, the last time I spoke to Boo, I was upset with him because he had stopped taking his meds which ended up landing him in the hospital for about a week. I know Cindy remembers this because this was about the time me and her use to talk daily through IMs.
 
Right now I am just numb and stunned. Not from him not being honest about having a gf or how he became infected. He told me his ex infected him but found out it was the other way around. Not that any of that matters now but it is the first time that someone I know (or should kind of knew or maybe not) has passed from AIDS.

 But I am also a bit puzzled too because remember about a few days ago I had mentioned that Boo had added me to his Fanbox friends. If he passed in November then who added me? I just joined up with Fanbox a few months ago. I asked the gf this but she said she had no clue to who it could be and did not know of his Fanbox account. I am feeling numb and confused. I would think that if it is indeed him, why would he lie and say he passed away? It would be a whole lot easier to just fess up and say he has a gf. I can't see it being a jealous gf or anything like that. From corresponding to Boo for the time that I did, I know he was very paranoid about certain things. But how could he have a gf for that amount of time and the times we talked it was for hours so I know no female lived with him. I am confused, in shock and honestly don't know what to think. If it is indeed true that he has passed, I feel awful because of the last conversation we had which was me jumping down his throat about not adhering to his meds.....

[Snowangel]

Wow. Queen- Sorry to hear your friend passed away.  The stuff about the fanbox seems kind of strange?  I am not sure what fanbox is but could someone else have his acct. that his gf doesn't know about?  I hate finding out someone isn't really who you thought they were, if he could get away with not telling his gf for 11 yrs, just think of what else he could get away with.  Definately not what you needed to hear right now.  Sorry.

[Dragonette]

Oh dear, Queen I am really sorry about Boo, that's quite a shocker. I don't know what fanbox is, don't have an account but keep getting invites from people I don't even know or people I am not in touch with, could be maybe some automatic thing? Do you have to contact details of the woman who called you, maybe you can speak with her again. What a sad, confusing story.

I have realized a while back that there are a lot of people determined to fuck up their own lives and not always in the most obvious way (i.e. drugs, booze), and all we can do is look out for ourselves b/c we can't fix these people, we just can't. I say this in reference to your BFF but also to Boo. And you know something... a lot of these people are men. Quite a few guys are not good at taking care of them selves and also do strange inexplicable things, esp when they are poz or otherwise have some problem like debt or something. I mean straight guys. That sounds like a terrible generalization but this has been my experience. I think it's because they don't know how to open up and how to ask for help. i think the state of mind of being a man and being a woman is far more different than we imagine.

Someone must have listened when I said I want to lose weight last night b/c I got the squirts from hell, don't remember it even being so bad apart from travelling in poor countries. Anyway I'm OK now, but staying in the vicinity of the WC.

I read the most horrible heartbreaking story in the news (US domestic) last night. I'm suprised no one's mentioned it on the Off topic. I wanted to, but didn't b/c it's so fucking awful there is nothing to say, so i just cried. I know awful things happen every day, everywhere, but some things just do your head in. I hope the bitch who did this will burn in hell a 1,000 times over. For once I am glad you guys have death penalty.

I am in the process of cleaning... a friend has dropped by, she's the most gorgeous girl ever, she looks seriously like a supermodel, like 180 tall and superslim,'beautiful face and hair and everything, she is super smart and succesful and speaks like 5 languages, and yet she has this guy who looks like George Constanza (from Seinfeld) playing her, I mean really, he is now with another girl in another country for a week and she has gone mental. Go figure  .

Have a good day ladies, Queen, Betty, am thinking of you

[vivyt]

Good Morning everyone! Happy Easter!

Queen-Sorry about your friend 

Snow-I used to get my eyebrows waxed but my skin is so sensitive it always bleeds and sometimes tears so I either pluck or get them threaded. Much better 

Well not a whole lot is going on here. I have officially had it with myself. I have gained so much weight I can't even look at myself. Since I am on Spring Break I am going to hit the gym religiously...I hope

Today I have lunch with my family. My family has been experiencing some drama and I dread getting together with them. I won't get into the details but I'll give you the basics. My parents got divorced about 3 years ago. Since then my father has been through about 3 ho bags who are total gold diggers who barely speak English and my mother started dating a man who lives in Texas who is the COMPLETE opposite of her. She is now engaged and planning to move to Texas. My sister, who just turned 18, has been basically acting out. In the last 6 months she has gotten her lip pierced, tongue pierced, and a tattoo. My mother and I have always been VERY close and knowing that she is leaving has been extremely difficult to deal with but she just doesn't get it. The whole family is just not happy about it. Her parents are heartbroken she is leaving (she is an only child) and she is angry that no one is happy for her. No one talks about it. It is just very stressful. There is more I could go into but I don't want to bore you all with the details...

I hope everyone has a good day!

[BT65]

Afternoon ladies,

Queen, I am sincerely sorry about your gay bff.  It's so true, though, a using addict is a liar and a thief.  I know, been there, done that.  You did all you could.  If you did more, it would only be hurting yourself and your friend.  He has to reach the bottom on his own and figure out how to come up.   I do remember Boo.  I was posting at that time.  I am truly sorry if he did pass; I don't know why someone would lie about something like that (death).  Don't feel bad about your last conversation with him.  It is what it is.  He knows how you feel.  I've lost many friends to AIDS.  It never gets any easier; just a reminder of what can and still does happen when someone doesn't take care of themselves.  Again, you have my condolences.  Sounds like you've had a very rough couple of days.

Viv, you made me laugh when you said you couldn't stand yourself.  HA (I'm still laughing).  I'm sorry, it just sounds funny.  My weight always yo-yos.  When I quit smoking awhile back, using Chantix, I gained about 30 lbs.  I guess my only saving grace is that I'm tall.  That's what I keep telling myself anyway.  I'm sorry about your mum.  But, what can you do.  I know it's hard.  When my mum died I thought my world would fall apart.  Maybe your mum will be really happy with this new guy.  It's hard for people to let go of others they love, whether it involves moving or otherwise.  Just keep your chin up.

Drag, a thread about losing weight?  Damn.  That would make me feel too accountable.   I would be willing to participate in it, though.  I would just have to get disciplined.  Oh, and it would probably have to start once I eat all the candy in my place.  That's a good idea, though.

Snow, I have grey hair if I don't bleach it every month.  I get the bleach from a local beauty supply store and do it myself.  I don't know if I'd ever go back to natural color.  Don't see it in the near future.

Netta, it sounds like you have a really good support system.  I'm glad.  It sucks being alone.  I hope you have fun when you go visit your friend. 

Mum, how the hell are you?  I'm so glad you're back.  I was starting to feel mummi-less.

OK, haven't heard from Cin or Camms in awhile.  Camms in a long while.  I'm not really doing anything today.  Just listening to some music.  That seems to help my mood.   I'm not really in a funk, just blah.  It's so frickin' cold and grey here, I'm getting to the point where I'm about ready to pack up the wagon and meandor down South.  Or out west.  Someday, someday.  Have a good one ladies-

[Blessed1974]

Good afternoon Ladies

I just wanted to stop in and say hello to everyone.  Since I've had the baby I've been learning the art of typing with one hand, (LOL).  Just to catch everyone up all is well with me.  I am finally starting to feel like myself again after the c-section and thru some kind of miracle have actually already gotten back down to my pre-pregnancy weight!!! The baby is growing like a weed and finally allowing me some sleep.  Since I've had the baby I've started taking some classes online with the hopes of completing at least my associates degree this year.  I also have an appointment to see about re-starting nursing school tomorrow.  I know it sounds like a lot but before I got pregnant this last time I was working 40+ hours a week, going to school full-time and managing to make sure the kids ate a real meal everynight.

Minismom- I love to crochet too.  I would love to get any websites for patterns.  I had seen this crocheted dress once in a bridal magazine that took my breath away.  I usually only make scarfs, blankets, hats and pretty basic things but I would love to expand.

Netta-I saw that you have locks.  My twins and I have been locking for a couple years.  Have you ever heard of or used Black Earth products?  I heard that they were really good but I wanted some feedback from someone with first hand experience.

Has anyone heard from Nygurl lately?  I was wondering how she was getting along with the baby.

I'll try not to be such a stranger
Dee

[Winiroo]

Jeez Queen,
Instinct says not to believe this lady you talked to on her word alone. I'd investigate. Try contacting the person who added you to fanbox if you can. See if they respond and if they do is the response similar to Boo's.
Boo might have passed away but with his history of drama and the hitbox irregularity I'd want proof before I really believed he was dead.

Good luck and protect that heart.

Wendy

[BT65]

Blessed, thanks for checking in with us.  We were all wondering about you and the little one.  And good for you for trying to complete your associate's.  It speaks volumes about your character. 

[minismom]

It's late, but wanted to pop in and check on everyone.  Today was busy and I'm finally getting to sit down and put my feet up. 

Blessed, I crocheted #6's dress she wore today.  I'll have to post the pictures as soon as hubby downloads them.  I'll PM you the free pattern websites.  I crochet things and bring them to the peds ward of the hospital.  They are always needing blankets, hats, "lovies", ect. to give out to patients.

Sorry that this is going to be so short, but I'm so tired that I'm starting to fall asleep.  I'll pop in tomorrow and tell you all about our adventure with #2 today.  I sware that child's brain runs in reverse.  More tomorrow...

Mum

[Dragonette]

Blessed, you're my hero (seriously). Bless you & your little ones. 

[TreDai]

How is everyone doing?

[BT65]

Morning ladies:

Mum, what you do is just wonderful.  What you do with your family was already unbelievable, now to read what else you do, well, you're really something else, lady.  I honestly don't know how you do it all.  Do you have some kind of special speed you're not coming out with?

TreDai, I'm glad you're here.  Please tell us more about yourself. 

This morning I crawled out of bed with severe body aches, the runs.  Hmmmmm.  Now what can this be?  Oh well, I'm not going to worry too much about it.  Maybe I'm getting the 'flu' I missed out on this winter.  Of course, the winter doesn't seem to be over with here.  It's grey again.  Maybe I'm having withdrawals from warm weather.  Seriously.  Ladies, I think my time of smoking is again coming to an end.  I'm so tired of hacking (it sounds gross), blowing my nose, etc.  all the evil that stems from smoking.  I don't even like the taste of cigarettes.  I never have; the only reason I like smoking is because of the calming effect it has on the nerves.  But I suppose I can find something else for that. 

Well, we didn't hear from Cin all weekend; we haven't heard from Camms in quite awhile.  And Queen, I hope you're doing alright.  I'm with Wendy a little on this dying thing; I'd be a little suspicious until it was confirmed.  Why someone would lie about someone dying would be beyond me.  But that doesn't mean it wouldn't happen.  Just be careful, gf.  Ok ladies, I'll check in later. 

[keepingfaith]

Good morning Ladies,


I hope everyone hade a blessed Easter. Mines went ok. After our first service yesterday, my lil cousin who is 18, called and said her baby had gotten worse. He is 19 months. They flew him to the childrens hospital which is like 1 hour away. He was on life support. He has sickle cell anemia and pneumionia (sp?), so one of his lungs had collapsed. I have my faith in God that he will be alright. I started my 8th online class today. I'll be happy when I get this all done with. Me and my SO picked an wedding date. It will be May 10. The colors will be Lavender and Canary Yellow. Enough about me.


TreDai- Glad to see you in the forum

Mum- I use to cross stich a while back. I could make some awesome work.

Betty- Glad to see your still holding strong

Queen- Sorry about your friend, but it does seems strange that you would get that call and then a week before just been added to his friend list.

Blessed - Great news hun, I hope you get your AA degree. I know how hard it can be. Im working on my Bachelors in Healthcare currently. I wont graduate until next year

Win- How are you feeling

Snow- How are the children, I bet they enjoyed their break out of school. My 8 yr old was out today and last Friday.


Thats all for now. I will check back in later.

[BT65]

Keeping, when my daughter was born 1/4 of one of her lungs was collapsed and she had pneumonia (though she didn't have sickle cell thrown in on top it that).  She was out of the hospital in a week.  They can do miraculous things today.  My thoughts are with the little one.  Please keep us informed.

[Winiroo]

keepingfaith - Best wishes to your cousin's baby. Its sad to think of a small child having such serious health problems. I hope he heals quickly.

I started feeling ok but I'm back to feeling like crap again. That ear infection has pretty much cleared up but its in my sinuses now. Plus I took the old guy I take care of to a Primacare clinic and God knows if I picked up something there. I've been taking my Bactrim.
Its all upper resperatory crap and diareah of course. Seems like I always pick something up when I go to a clinic or hospital.
I'm still able to run around and work and stuff so its not too bad. Only low fevers when I get them. The highest was 99.6.
I'll be glad when this crap is done so my immune system can get back in track.

I swear I should walk around with a mask in public. To protect me not them...LOL

Hope ya'll have a marvy day. I'm going to cruise the rest of the forum for a minute then look for a recipe online.

[thandi]

Just to say hi to everyone, I am still getting to know all of you. Wow it is end of the easter weekend and its work for me tommorrow am not looking forward to it at all. Sorry ladies I hear its quite cold in your part of the world we are enjoying a lot of sunshine hear.

Betty- thanks wont fret about disclosure anymore.

Take care

[BT65]

Yes, the weather is absolutely frigid here.  And I for one am sick of the whole thing.  Thandi, I think I remember you're in S. Africa, correct? 

Wendy, I feel ya baby.  Sometimes I feel like holing up in my apartment and just hiring someone to do all my running around for me.  Yeah, right.

I hope all the other ladies are doing alright.  Haven't heard from Wishful in awhile either.  I'm going to be getting informed in the next few days what we'll be doing about my father's house. He owed $53,000 on it when he passed.  The mortgage payments were always up to date, but damn.  He also owed credit card bills, and my mum's medical expenses from when she was alive.  I told my sisters that the dr. (from my mum's expenses) will write off what is owed.  Fuck the credit card and let the house go back to the bank.  But, my sisters have this idea that since my father always kept up on his bills, it would be a dishonor to let that happen.  Whatever. 

Have a good one ladies-

[Snowangel]

Keeping- Sorry to hear about your cousins son, I hope he gets out of the hospital soon.  My kids had Friday off and all went back to school today, thank goodness, cuz I am sick as a dog.  Congrats on setting a date!  Is it May of this year?

Betty- I hope you feel better.  That must be hard when there is other people involved to figure out what the best thing to do with your parents home.  There wasn't anything in his will about what he wanted done?  Is the bladder infection better at least


Hi Thandi- The sun is shining here but it is still cold, probably in the high 30 or low 40's.  It was nice enough to let the kids do an Easter egg hunt outside.

Win- Sorry you still feel like crap.  I feel the same way about using the masks sometimes especially going into the kids school.  Parents these days don't keep thier kids home if thier kid is sick and they end up bringing germs and illnesses back and forth. 


Blessed- Good for you for getting back to your pre-pregnancy weight!  I am still not there and it will be 5 yrs in June    I am glad you recovered from your c-section.  My oldest was 5 when I had mine and he kept wanting to see the "nails" in my stomach.  What did you do about the pain of your milk coming in?  I used cabbage leaves for both pregnancies, something in the leaves, numbs the area and makes it drain a little.  I looked really funny but it felt sooooo good


Both my parents came out for Easter and they picked up my son on the way.  We ate when they got here around 3 and then I gave the kids thier baskets and we went outside for an easter egg hunt.  I got camo, spiderman, cars and princess eggs so they would all have thier own to look for.  They all get a long and usually help each other out but it was easier for me that way.  Last night, I felt like I got hit by a truck.  My back and my feet were killing me. I took a bath and that almost made it worse.  I feel a little better today, my feet and back don't hurt much but I just took the kids to school and went back to bed until 12:30.

Hope everyone has a good Monday!

Snow

[thandi]

Yes Betty I am in South Africa.

[Winiroo]

Fuck the credit card and let the house go back to the bank.  But, my sisters have this idea that since my father always kept up on his bills, it would be a dishonor to let that happen.  Whatever. 

Assuming he doesn't have a will?

$53,000 isn't chump change. I say if your sisters want to fork over their own money more power to them. I love my parents but I sure as heck am not going to take over their debts when they pass away.

I don't think it is a matter of honor unless he owed a debt to someone he knew on a personal level. If my father wanted to make sure his debts where paid in the event of his death he would have made arangements in life to assure everything would be taken care of. Like a will, life insurance, savings, ect.

[BT65]

Please go to the new thread.