Main Forums => Living With HIV => Topic started by: woodshere on July 24, 2007, 12:01:11 pm
Title: wishin and hopin....revisited
Post by: woodshere on July 24, 2007, 12:01:11 pm
I have been out a few times with this guy and I think he is someone I could attempt to have a relationship with. We click, have a lot in common and think along the same lines. So the time is approaching to disclose. I find myself hoping that when I say I am HIV+, he says so am I. In actuality, I would never want someone to be poz. But for selfish reasons I hope he is and this causes me to feel guilty. I know I shouldn't hope this, but it sure would make things easier. http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=13721.0, Jul 9
To bring you up to date after exchanging emails for a month and then going out for about 3 weeks I finally told him I was positive (he is not). I was a nervous wreck, this was the first time I had to disclose to someone I was dating. (hook ups are another story) But I did and it went very well. We talked, he thanked me for telling him, he asked questions. He said he was beginning to think I was a prude (which is far from the case) because as things would get heavy in a make out session I would pull back and make an excuse not to go farther. We had some very good laughs about the various excuses I used and on that night I didn't have to use any excuse!
We aren't picking out china patterns by any means. He may not be able to handle it or we may decided things aren't working for a reason completely non-HIV related or we may end up registering at Target. Who knows, but at least the HIV issue is on the table. I am no longer worried about keeping it a secret and thank goodness because I was running out of excuses.
I have heard from many that you will know when the time is right to disclose, I think that is pretty much true.
Thanks, Woods
Title: Re: wishin and hopin....revisited
Post by: milker on July 24, 2007, 12:14:04 pm
All this trouble to end up registering at Target ??? :o :o :o
Congrats, woodie, it's a big step and it went well. I'll need your list of excuses, it may become handy :D
Milker.
Title: Re: wishin and hopin....revisited
Post by: keyite on July 24, 2007, 12:15:26 pm
Glad to hear it went so well. I've yet to disclose in those types of circumstances and I can't say the prospect thrills me - this tale gives some hope it might just be okay.
Title: Re: wishin and hopin....revisited
Post by: Dachshund on July 24, 2007, 12:23:42 pm
Most of the guys I have disclosed to were thoroughly nonplussed. I think it has more to do with my standards not theirs...their reaction was usually, whew thank God...I thought you were going to tell me you had a small penis.
I think we make more out of it than they do.
Enjoy, Hal
Title: Re: wishin and hopin....revisited
Post by: woodshere on July 24, 2007, 12:57:20 pm
Hal, I have been trying to come up with a way to describe his reaction and I think you hit the nail on the head.
Milker, Target has some really cool home accessories.
Keyite, the prospect didn't thrill me either, but if one wants to persue a relationship there are always going to be risks. But they must be taken in order to get to the real thrills..... ;)
Thanks guys.
Title: Re: wishin and hopin....revisited
Post by: redhotmuslbear on July 24, 2007, 01:28:27 pm
Please say you haven't become a whore for Mizrahi!!
Congrats on breaking the virological ice, as it were.
I became a whore way before Mizrahi darkened the doors of Target!
Title: Re: wishin and hopin....revisited
Post by: Queen Tokelove on July 24, 2007, 01:39:47 pm
Woods,
Glad things worked out for you on disclosing. I'm glad you found someone who was willing to accept you. Not to sound like the preverbial wet blanket but there are still those that are not as willing to accept it. I always seem to get those types even when it comes to my own family. Because of that I choose not to disclose but at the same time, I'm not out humping like a dog in heat either. Since disclosure is such an issue for me, I chose to try to get with someone poz. Which will just make my life a whole lot easier....Congrats anyways....
Title: Re: wishin and hopin....revisited
Post by: MoltenStorm on July 24, 2007, 01:51:14 pm
;D WOOHOO!!!!! ;D
RIDE 'EM COWBOY!!!! YEEEHAWWW!!!!
Sorry, don't know where that came from. ;) Glad to hear he didn't pick up his petticoat and run, arms flailing, like a demented banshee. Congratulations, Sir.
Now, do me a favor, and send some of that luck my way. :D :D :D