I am typing this from my new bedroom and looking at three crystal chandeliers - one waterford, one murano, and one marie therese of unknown origin
PS - no hoarding of garbage, newspapers, etc etc here. Oh my god, have you ever seen the Hoarder series (there are two different ones). The things people hoard, and their rationales, its otherworldly, when its not also quite funny to an outsider.
I'll tell you what, if the board will be kind and encouraging about this, I will post before and after pictures in September :).
I won't give you a hard time about it. I tend to be an extremely sensitive person who would never make fun of someone else's personal issues. Can you at least post a before pic right now? I think it would be best and might just inspire you to accomplish your goal faster. Post a pic Mecch, I won't say anything negative.
C'mon we wanna see this fucking pigsty you've been eating caviar in.. right guys?
Congrats Mecch-
I try to fall (sometimes not as successfully) the rule that if I have looked at it or used it for 6 months then I probably don't need it.... and I dispose of accordingly.
Of course this rule does not apply to certain body parts.... ;D
Sounds like a bad case of labelqueenitis to me.
Right now as I type this I can pack up everything I own into 3 boxes, except for the furniture. I like it this way.
Good. It will make your move to Philadelphia or Miami a lot easier. Unless you are still planning to move to Argentina to become Mrs. Jesus Hernandez.
Good. It will make your move to Philadelphia or Miami a lot easier. Unless you are still planning to move to Argentina to become Mrs. Jesus Hernandez.
I get moving to Argentina for "Jesus". But Philadelphia....are you suggesting that I move to Philly to force the unrequited love issue with MissP?
And who the hell is in Miami?
I believe that you and La Felicita would make one lovely couple.
Who's in Miami? Hmmmmpf.... Did you expect me to move to awful San Antonio when you proposed a few weeks ago?
and your blatant silence regarding my reference to our unrequited love is deafening...and it stings.
-Will
I'm too busy laughing at your hand wringing about hot weather in Vegas when you live in San Antonio. Anyway, I'll quickly be second fiddle with whatever cheap rentboy (http://www.rentboy.com/listing.aspx?lid=226569&iid=99609&scid=41854628&sp=1&pos=3&locid=1545) you pick up after gorging on buffets 24/7.
Good heavens. That ghastly "classy" twink cannot be 19 as he claims. But my oh my, what gift he has been given between them legs.
I'm too busy laughing at your hand wringing about hot weather in Vegas when you live in San Antonio. Anyway, I'll quickly be second fiddle with whatever cheap rentboy (http://www.rentboy.com/listing.aspx?lid=226569&iid=99609&scid=41854628&sp=1&pos=3&locid=1545) you pick up after gorging on buffets 24/7.
I always fancied the Vumpy and Teddy would make a cute twosome.
Hey Mecch,
I've seen one of the Hoarders series--quite a number of the shows were run back to back one weekend. I was glued to the set. I didn't realize there are two series. I think it's fascinating as a disorder and tragic for the sufferers.
I'm not a hoarder, but I definitely have some stuff to chuck---mostly papers/books----but a LOT OF PAPERS/BOOKS.
So, no matter that you've got chandeliers laced into your piles of stuff, I think what I'm reading is you are trying to confess and address as a way of movng on.
I have several friends who are in the same boat and we talk about it---it's reassuring to know that you're not the only person who has a hard time making decisions about what to keep/toss.
And, it can be motivating to fess up and then someone can ask periodically, so, how's it going? Is the living room clear yet? Are you still sleeping on the couch? Have you put that whatever for sale on eBay or taken items to Goodwill or Salvation Army.
I am determined to get my stuff cleared out!! You wanna share a before picture? Please do. Cuz when you post the After picture or pictures, I will root you on.
Thats a really sweet post and yes, you nailed the issue - even though I don't have piles of garbage, I've got piles of funky interesting beautiful stuff and it has destroyed the functionality of my home, compounded by piles of all sort of other unattended to business. Overwhelmed feeling for more than a year - just doing my job well and enjoying that.
Pictures will come 1) when I figure out a picture hosting site and 2) when I trust I won't be abused here.
when I trust I won't be abused here.
Self-centered navel gazing, you bet. Hoarding, no way.
As I said: when pigs fly.... ;)
1) http://photobucket.com (http://photobucket.com)
2) Tuffen up, Mary.
I, for one, cannot wait to see rooms filled from floor to ceiling with cuckoo clocks and fondue sets.
MtD
Sounds like we could be talking Luriddigs.com (http://www.luriddigs.com/)* here.
*Not safe for work or human sight.
If you want to use Latin, you should spell it correctly.
It's "nauseam."
So today I started on the mountains of clothes.
It's a wrenching experience to sort and get rid of stuff.
Plus some I am getting rid of because I got fat in the last 18 months.
Some I am saving because I might go back to normal?
And some I get rid of because I am too old for the style.
And some I get rid of because it reminds me of times I don't want to remember.
I wish I had the courage to throw it all away but some I want to keep and wear. And need to wear in my life. And I don't have much cash to replace an entire wardrode.
I bought a couple of pairs of fat jeans since its just the waist and tummy that seems to have expanded so quickly. All the rest of it is sort of unnoticeable in clothes, which still fit everyere else, because I was gangly before and some meat on the bones is welcome. I kind of like filling out the shirts in the shoulders, arms.
The key is that I bought those armoires for every room. So eventually, every thing I want has to fit in th armoire in each room.
This is arbitrary and it helps a lot to force the purge.
Its very hard each time I have to start this work and several times during it I have to stop and breathe or have a Temesta or cry. I cry at least once every day I really work on this mess I have made.
My shrink said it was fine, however, and just to keep on pushing even if its stressy and sad and tiring.
Well Mecch, I have a confession to make - and I never thought I'd say this, but - I empathise with you very much on this. I'm a bit of a hoarder too; I think it stems from a time in my life when I had pretty much nothing.I feel for you Ann. I hate moving.
The trouble is, I have to move temporarily some time in 2011. I live in a council house and the houses on my estate are due for an upgrade - new wiring, new kitchens and bathrooms, new mains-wired smoke alarms and things like that. It means I have to move out, lock, stock and two smoking barrels, into a transit house, then move back in two to three months when the work is complete. That's two moves with a helluva lot of crap to shift.
I have the option to stay in the transit house, but that means I have to arrange the move myself and pay for things like new carpet and the cost of decorating in the transit house. If I don't want to stay in the transit house, they pay professional movers and my house would also be completely freshly painted, free of charge. I really can't afford to stay in the transit house, which will be a bit of a wrench if I get one in an area of town I like better than where I am.
I'm going to have to start whittling my possessions down, whichever way I go on this. For example, I've got well over 1,000 books. Maybe if I get busy and start selling some of this stuff on Ebay I might be able to afford to stay in the transit house. I'm going to have to raise some money somehow anyway, because even if I stay in the house I'm currently in, I'll probably have to replace the living room carpet and the lino in the kitchen. I just don't have that kind of dosh.
And the kicker? Last time I had to move, my daughter was away at university and I had to do the move all on my own. She's been back home living with me for the past year, but when this move-to-a-transit-house thing comes up, probably in February, she'll be at the University of East Anglia in Norwich studying for her teaching certificate. Not fair!
I feel for you Ann. I hate moving.
Council contractors - refurb it in 2-3 months my eye! Don't believe any of that crap!
I'll pop over and give you a hand to shift if you like.
I have taken some great photos of hanging Chandler YOU WOULD LOVE !
with another truck rented on Monday for a run to the dump.to get anything accomplished it takes hard work and patience. It sounds like you're still chugging along - and moving forward. WooHoo! ;D Keep at it. ;) Just keep in mind how neat, clean, and healthy your place with be without the clutter, and dust-collecting items.
Mecch, I hate to be the one to break it to you, but when you post on a public website, you gotta take what you get. If you don't want unsupportive responses, don't post. It really is that simple. It's the internet, not your bedroom. Duh.
You're wrong. I have to listen to what I get, but I don't have to "take it." Its mean.
Because I said I have a real problem to deal with. And when people doubted that, I clarified and restated that it is quite serious and also asked people to be kind.
If I came on here and said I was a drug addict and was detoxing and it is difficult, would you feel the same?
Members of this forum have an obligation to not bully, am I correct?
Fun and joshing where it belongs. Not when someone cries uncle.
Surely you are aware of that Ann. If you are not, I'll send you some literature.
So be mean if you want, anyone, but that's all it is, and I don't have to "take it".
But.. every so often I would get the sarcastic comment of "Oh hey Mr. Father of the year", or "you're a loser of the worst kind". I admit I took that shit hard, but like Ann said I shared it and if someone does not want to understand the plight of trying to regain ones health back, well what was I suppose to do?
I didn't pussyfoot around about it. When they came at me I spoke my mind, but I didn't sit here and rant like you are now.
I am not ranting. I am doing just what you said. The shit hits hard and I reminding the people who keep doing it that its out of line. E.g. Speaking my mind. Amen.
The "poor me y'all are so mean" routine Meech is handing out is (whilst par for the course) getting a bit sickly.
So we're a bunch of evil mean fuckers who live only to beat up on him. If this is so and he finds it so traumatic why on earth would he start a thread like this one?
How can he condemn a goodly number of us as bullies of the worst stripe and yet present us with his soft, white belly? I mean that's what this rather gormless thread seems to be.
And yes his kvetching, pissing and moaning about how horrid some folks are predates this cringeworthy thread.
Resolve this small conumdrum and I think we'll all have a better understanding of the complex little poppet who calls himself meech.
MtD
And there it is. Pretty isn't it. You are bullying me MTD.
And move the thread to mental health, that's totally valid, given the shrink and pills I have to take this summer to get through this passage. My mom lost this battle and its tragic. I won't. You could learn about it or you could be mean.
Then lay off, you big bully. I don't claim you bully everyone, but you have a foul mouth and you do bully me.
Moonie dearest, have you been hoarding this thread?