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Offline marikapelonis

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worried like hell
« on: February 10, 2010, 06:12:55 pm »
hello guys,

  i have a question about 3 exposures that i had, the first one was i received unprotected oral from a sex worker. The second two were protected oral  and protected genital rubbing and mutual masturbation.

no  penetration at alll...\


my question is that i have been diagnosed with something called scabies and was given a lotion to apply on all my body .. last night i covered my whole body including my genitals and today my butt and testicles have been burning me like they are on fire ... i am going mad... what can this be ..


1  hiv

2 std of some sort

3 am i worrying needlesly ..

 please help

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Re: worried like hell
« Reply #1 on: February 10, 2010, 06:15:30 pm »
You were never at risk of contracting HIV.

Offline marikapelonis

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Re: worried like hell
« Reply #2 on: February 10, 2010, 06:25:46 pm »
thanks for your reply rapidrod,, 

 am i at risk of other stds or not ... what can i go and test for ...

cheers

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Re: worried like hell
« Reply #3 on: February 10, 2010, 06:33:46 pm »
The treatment for scabies can cause a burning sensation on sensitive tissues such as your genitals. This should abate with time, though if symptoms persist consult your doctor.

I agree with Rod that you were not at risk of HIV infection from this encounter and as such you do not need to be tested.

It is possible for STIs such as chlamydia and gonorrhoea to be transmitted via unprotected oral sex and so you should seek medical advice regarding this.

MtD

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Re: worried like hell
« Reply #4 on: February 14, 2010, 08:32:02 am »
hi everyone i have a couple of questions and i would like your kind answers....

1-  i have stopped using that lotion on my genitals and no problem so far interms of burning, it is just that my testicles are aching thats it ... i have been having alot of sex with girlfriend could that be it.

2- i read that the above conditions cause the person to have penis discharge and burning during urinating. i dont have that nor do i have any rash or blisters anywhere on my genitals.

3- i called the clinic and asked for a urine analysis. will it show any of the above.

4- is it risky in terms of hiv that i am having sex with my gf.

5- am i over reacting here or is  my reaction normal because the one and only unprotected oral was in early December.

 i trust your expertise and i appreciate your kind words


cheers..... :o :o :o :o :o :o

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Re: worried like hell
« Reply #5 on: February 14, 2010, 09:26:55 am »
As much as we would like to be helpful to you here about your concerns, our focus on this site is strictly on HIV-related issues. Your problem and symptoms have absolutely nothing to do with HIV as nothing you did sexually put you at risk for its transmission.

You need to discuss the various problems you are having with your doctor. Other STDs are much easier to acquire than HIV. We can't diagnose anything here.

For future reference you ought to know that the only confirmed risks for the sexual transmission of HIV are unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse. As long as you consistently use condoms for those activities you will be well protected against HIV. It's just as simple as that.

Good luck with getting your other problem sorted out in the right medical setting. 
Andy Velez

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Re: worried like hell
« Reply #6 on: February 14, 2010, 09:29:44 am »
marik,

1. This has nothing to do with hiv. Talk to your doctor if you're concerned.

2. See #1.

3. See #1

4. Unless you and your girlfriend are either using condoms or have both been tested for hiv and all the other STIs before having unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse, then you need to test. If you ARE using condoms or if you have both tested for everything before having unprotected intercourse, then you have not been and are not at any risk and you do not need to test.

5. You're overreacting about the blowjobs. Getting a blowjob, with or without a condom, is NOT A RISK FOR HIV INFECTION as you've been repeatedly told.

Ann
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Re: worried like hell
« Reply #7 on: February 14, 2010, 10:03:12 am »
we test together every year as part of our residence permit and i know that she is sexually active with me only ...

1- my concern is about sti in general are my symptoms indicative of any STIs  or is my mind playing games on me....

i know that this site focuses on hiv but i am sure you have enough experience to give me advice ... i was just informed by her that she is pregnant and i will be in difficult situation if something happens to the baby or her ... it is just that i am very happy about the baby yet very concerned about them ... now that she is pregnant i am thinking about taking it a step further and get married and settle  you know .....


i just thought i share that with you kind people ... thanks everybody...

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Re: worried like hell
« Reply #8 on: February 14, 2010, 03:29:16 pm »
If you have concerns about STIs other than HIV you should consult your doctor, particularly if your partner is pregnant.

MtD

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Re: worried like hell
« Reply #9 on: February 15, 2010, 07:39:55 am »
hi everyone ... 

  i just came back from the lab and i took a urine analysis and a blood test (blood count) everything  i hope is ok .... however the doctor asked me for more tests, hiv and culture which i will do this week... when i told him that i did not have sex all i did was oral and protected genital rubbing no penetration.. he said that it was LOW RISK not no risk and that made my freak out and he said especially if i caught any other std then it would make much easier for me to become infected from that episode , because the reason i  opted for oral and not sex was because i want to be 100% protected from hiv and now this doctor dropped a bomb on me ....he even suggested the  following  website and i am really concerned.. guys is it really safe and why would this website say other wise is there a gain for them to lie to us .... ohh so many questions ... please any advice on what to do next.... ??? ??? ??? ??? ??? ??? ??? ???

cheers......


http://www.pccwichita.org/sexstds/factsaboutoralsexstds

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Re: worried like hell
« Reply #10 on: February 15, 2010, 07:52:22 am »
Your doctor is uneducated in HIV transmission. You were never at risk.

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Re: worried like hell
« Reply #11 on: February 15, 2010, 08:00:46 am »
People keep forgetting that HIV is a very very delicate virus, and for transmission to happen is very hard thats why it is only through Anal, vaginal sex or blood transfussion... I heard someone yesterday at a supermarket said that their aunt died of HIV caught it from her son from him always cooking for her i was like WTF thats bs!
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Re: worried like hell
« Reply #12 on: February 15, 2010, 10:29:49 am »
hi ... Andy Ann any insight on the above website........

cheers

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Re: worried like hell
« Reply #13 on: February 15, 2010, 11:26:46 am »
Marikap, it's not our to explain or respond to what is said on other websites. We simply evaluate individual situations based on our HIV-science based information and experience.

It's very unfortunate that on other websites as well as from the occasional medical person inaccurate and/or outdated (mis)information is being handed out.

You had a no- risk incident. Anyone who says otherwise simply doesn't know what they are talking about. Even if you had another STD it wouldn't have made you more vulnerable to getting HIV through the activities you participated in. It is true that if you already had another STD it would lower your immune system and make you more vulnerable to HIV, but only IF you had unprotected vaginal or anal intercourse. Having oral sex and/or masturbating, rubbing and such activities are not risks for HIV whether you have other STDs or not.

You are worrying needlessly. I do suggest you stop surfing the net about your concerns because I can assure you that for sure you will find fuel for your fears and all to no good purpose. Get on with your life. Really.
« Last Edit: February 15, 2010, 11:28:18 am by Andy Velez »
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Re: worried like hell
« Reply #14 on: February 15, 2010, 05:41:34 pm »
thankx Andy ... you are right mate... i will go and test for everything as early as next week not that i  don't believe you but to for my girl's sake and for the baby's .... so that i can burry this crap and get on with my work....

cheers everybody ... i'll keep you updated on my tests .... ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

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« Reply #15 on: February 15, 2010, 05:45:00 pm »
Good. That's a plan. I expect negative results and then you can get on with your life.

Cheers.
Andy Velez

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Re: worried like hell
« Reply #16 on: February 19, 2010, 05:13:16 pm »
ok guys i am going for a full std test tomorrow including hiv... it has been almost three months since my last unprotected oral encounter.... my only concern is getting a false positive how often does it happen because i really dont have the guts to recieve this news .. call me a coward or whatever you like .... because i read about this indian guy on this forum who tested positive on elisa and intermidiate on western blot .. i must have been a shock ... anyways .....thank you for being so kind and informative and i  really appreciate your patience and understanding.... 

cheers

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Re: worried like hell
« Reply #17 on: February 19, 2010, 05:15:27 pm »
Marika,

Clearly you aren't listening to us.

You were not at risk of HIV infection and you do not need to be tested for HIV.

MtD

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Re: worried like hell
« Reply #18 on: February 19, 2010, 05:33:32 pm »
thanks for your reply matty ... i just want to shut up the voices in my head.... thats all .... i want to get back to normal...

cheers

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Re: worried like hell
« Reply #19 on: February 19, 2010, 05:41:44 pm »
Marika,

If you're experiencing anxiety and other emotional issues your time would be better spent talking to a menatl health professional. We are simply not able to provide you with that sort of support.

MtD

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Re: worried like hell
« Reply #20 on: February 19, 2010, 06:09:27 pm »
Marika,

The test results "the Indian guy" got would be read as hiv NEGATIVE by any knowledgeable doctor. What's the problem?

You have NOT been at risk for hiv infection and if you continue to insist on using this forum to go on and on about your NO RISK situation, you WILL be given a time out.


If you read the Welcome Thread before posting like you're supposed to, you will have read the following posting guideline:

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Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.


Please consider yourself warned!

Ann
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Re: worried like hell
« Reply #21 on: February 19, 2010, 07:00:42 pm »
ooops didn't want to upset anyone... sorry

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Re: worried like hell
« Reply #22 on: March 06, 2010, 01:06:11 pm »
hi everyone .   i havent posted since i got that waring from Ann... anyways my friend who is a doctor asked me to take a urine analysis and a urine culture ... all came back ok .. so he excluded stds which is good news ... i also tested for hiv and hepatitys all ok ..... my question is during my last exposure 2 weeks ago the sex worker that gave me the blowjob was shoving her hands in her vagina and her ass .. u know trying to get me excited her hands where wet from her vaginal fluids and she put the condom on me with out cleaning her hand and i could feel her liquids on the tip of my penis .... is that considered safe as well .....

cheers ... :o :o :o :o :o :o

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« Reply #23 on: March 06, 2010, 01:23:59 pm »
Marik,

What you describe is not a risk. Successful hiv transmission occurs INSIDE the body, as in unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse. Once hiv is outside the body, small changes in temperature and pH and moisture levels all quickly damage the virus and render it unable to infect. Vaginal fluids transferred from her hands to your penis would not present a risk to you.

As you've been told, the only proven sexual risks for hiv infection are unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse. Unless you're having unprotected intercourse, you are not at risk. It's time you grasped that fact.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. IT REALLY IS THAT SIMPLE!!!

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

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HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: worried like hell
« Reply #24 on: March 14, 2010, 11:35:27 am »
on my way to pick up a 6 week test result ... the reason is that i have been having aches under my armpits which is making me think of one thing....that is why i took this test....

  going back to my last exposure i did not really see the girl open the condom she could of have easily contaminated it or something or maybe it was lying around  .... i will be back to tell you my result in a couple of hours .... any words of encouragement will be highly appreciated..

cheers

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« Reply #25 on: March 14, 2010, 11:45:27 am »
Marik,

You did NOT have a risk. If you feel unwell, go see your doctor. You could be missing something important in your misguided focus on hiv.

I'm giving you that time out you were warned about. Do not attempt to create a new account to get around your time out because if you do, you will be permanently banned.

Ann
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HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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