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insertive fellatio
« on: May 19, 2011, 07:50:41 am »
hi just recieved insertive fellatio from a women for 6 seconds and made her stop  could i be infected with hiv

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Re: insertive fellatio
« Reply #1 on: May 19, 2011, 08:07:27 am »
Receiving fellatio is one of the most common of sexual activities. In the entire history of the epidemic there has never been a single confirmed case of transmission through a guy getting a blowjob. It's safe to say that you are not going to make history by becoming the first.

The only confirmed means of transmitting HIV sexually are vaginal and anal intercourse without using condoms. If you consistently use condoms for those activities you will be well protected against HIV transmission sexual.

This time you are worrying needlessly. There is no need for testing.
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Re: insertive fellatio
« Reply #2 on: May 19, 2011, 08:09:59 am »
Jazz,

I agree with Andy. Getting a blowjob is NOT a risk for hiv infection. Not only is saliva not infectious, but it also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect.

Here's what you need to know in order to remain hiv negative:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST OVER A BLOWJOB, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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« Reply #3 on: May 20, 2011, 12:28:50 am »
thanx ann and andy like u said but the thing im concerned is although i saw no blood in her mouth and she just ran up and down on my shaft for barely 5 seconds .should i consider it a no risk and move on with my life i have never cheated my wife evr no other sexuall contacts so far except this episode .i felt guilty that time and i told the women no and left . one more thing ann i have aa slightly large piss slit due to hypospodiasis surgery when i was 3 yrs old could it be cause of concern ? thankyou ann  please dont mind for the luanguage coz just wanted you to know actuall incodent clearly thanks !!!

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« Reply #4 on: May 20, 2011, 06:45:40 am »
Jazz,

Regardless of any additional details, the fact remains that getting a blowjob is NOT a risk for hiv infection. You did not have a risk for hiv infection. The only thing you had a risk for is guilty feelings and it would seem you caught that alright.

Put this NO RISK blowjob behind you and get on with your life.

Ann
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« Reply #5 on: May 20, 2011, 07:28:01 am »
thanks alot ann ! so i dont need any testing and can get back to my life with my wife without any fear . and i wont cheat evr . thanks ann once again people like you are gods angels to well worried like me keep the good work and ill keep myself off the internet or my worrie will emerge again thanks ann will check ur reply

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« Reply #6 on: May 20, 2011, 07:33:57 am »
Jazz,

You absolutely do not need to test over a blowjob. Not one person has ever been infected that way and you will not be the first.

Put this behind you and get on with your life. As I don't believe in the word "never" when it comes to human behaviour, I'm going to tell you something just in case....

Outside your marriage, use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!!! Read through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use them with confidence.

You have not had a risk and you do not need to test.

Ann
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« Reply #7 on: May 20, 2011, 07:46:07 am »
thanks alot ann u dnt know how much these words of yours meant to me ! hv no wrds to thank you whilr typing on this keyboard dnt know what to type dnt know how to thank you . just to say u i am an india i believe in god  and am a sikh by religion may be it will anoy u or if u dont like it . all i can give you is a mantra  just close ur eyes and say (ekom kaaar satnaam waheguru) 10 times when u feel low . (please dont mind thats just what i can give you please accept it)thanks alot again

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« Reply #8 on: May 20, 2011, 11:58:12 am »
Jazz,

I'm a Satsangi (Radha Soami Satsang, Beas) and I have been give a Simran to recite by the current Master, but thank you anyway.

You did not have a risk for hiv infection. It's time for you to move on.

Ann
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« Reply #9 on: May 21, 2011, 02:44:43 am »
hey ann !
       I JUST FOUND THIS ON THE BODY.COM(WHAT TO U SAY CAN THIS HAPPEN ? OR IS IT THR FIRST CASE? SCARED AGAIN MY FRIEND PLEASE HELP ME

  i got hiv through oral
May 20, 2011

i recently got infected by hiv through oral sex..i swallowed an annonymous guy i had oral sex with. why did this happen when they say its less risky? i do not have open sores in my mouth but i do tend to have some cheek biting issues? oral sex is the only sex i have. im so mad at this i dont know what to do, i got an initial flu like symptoms six weeks after the sex act. i dont have any symptoms now and am not on meds my t count is 665? how long will i be able to go without meds and should go on meds anyways? Thank you.

 
 
 
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Hello,

"Less risky" does not mean absolutely no risk! See link below.

I would recommend the following:

1. Establish care with an HIV physician specialist if you have not already done so. She will explain your treatment options.

2. Repeat your HIV-antibody test if you have not already done so to rule out a false positive.

3. Learn more about HIV treatment and prognosis by reviewing the wealth of information on this site and related links. Begin with "The Basics" and "Just Diagnosed Resource Center" that can both be easily accessed on The Body's homepage.

I'm here if you need me, OK?

Dr. Bob

HIV from receiving oral sex (TRANSMISSION VIA ORAL SEX, 2011) May 18, 2011
 
I WS JUST SURFING THE NET OUT OF CURIOSITY I JUST HASPPENED TO GO ON THE BODY WEBSITE  AND I FOUND THIS


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Re: insertive fellatio
« Reply #10 on: May 21, 2011, 05:29:11 am »
■Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

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« Reply #11 on: May 21, 2011, 06:44:43 am »
Jazz,

That guy was talking about GIVING blowjobs. You GOT a  NO RISK blowjob. Getting your dick sucked is never going to give you hiv in a million years.

As for that guy who claims to have been infected by giving blowjobs, well, some people refuse to admit to unprotected anal intercourse.

You did not have a risk for hiv infection. I suggest you stay off hiv internet sites so you aren't exposed to crap that does nothing but scare you.

And by the way, Rodney's warning stands.

Ann
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« Reply #12 on: May 21, 2011, 10:16:07 am »
I'm sorry ann !bt somehow I thnk that guy is lying about his incident . But has there been any case of people returning to say they're hiv +ve after evaluating their risk of insertive fellatio ann can I have unprotected sex with my wife just give me the answere and I won't evr distrb u my friend I just trust you ann ! I'm just scared of this hypospodiasis thing coz der have been no research on that topic 

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« Reply #13 on: May 21, 2011, 10:24:55 am »
Jazz,

No, I have never seen someone posting in the Am I Infected forum come back to report a positive result when they've tested over any sort of oral sex. I've been a member of these forums for ten years.

You got your dick sucked. Get over it and move on with your life. You were not at risk for hiv infection.

Keep posting about your NO RISK blowjob and I'll give you that time out Rodney warned you about.

This is your last warning!!!

Ann
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HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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« Reply #14 on: May 21, 2011, 10:29:25 am »
Ok ann Im sry ! Please I opologize. Ure aware of my condition nw just one answere and I swear I will nevr post again can I have unprotected sex wid my wife putting every thing behind ? Please ans this and ill be off from all surfings   

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« Reply #15 on: May 21, 2011, 10:32:33 am »
Jazz,

Why would you not be able to have sex with your wife when you DID NOT HAVE A RISK? It seems like a no-brainer to me.

I'm giving you that time out you've been warned about. Do not attempt to create a new account to get around your time out because if you do, you will be permanently banned.

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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

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HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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« Reply #16 on: July 06, 2011, 09:35:20 pm »
hi again ann a, need your advice ann as i told ui have hypospodiasis and i heard from a doc that saliva contains hiv virus and it can infect if exposed to urethra ihav large pee hole ,please help me ann is it true what if saliva enters fresh wound on body

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« Reply #17 on: July 06, 2011, 09:38:24 pm »
Saliva is not infectious and contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that inhibit HIV transmission.

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« Reply #18 on: July 07, 2011, 07:49:06 am »
You did not have a risk. You continue to ask just one more question about a non-risk situation. We are not going to continue to indulge you in drama about this incident.

HIV is not your problem whether you choose to accept that or not.

Sexually only unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse are confirmed risks for the transmission of HIV.

If Ann hadn't already given you a 28 day Time Out I would have.

HIV is not your problem. Cut out the drama and get on with your life. If this situation is about anything it's the guilty fears of a straying partner, a phenomena with which we are very familiar here.
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« Reply #19 on: August 21, 2011, 01:35:39 pm »
Hi ann I tried to move n but scared.about my 6 second blowjob beside I have hyspodiasis and heard that saliva can be insectious there is no data on net saing hiv is not in saliva . A case in india says a man had high viral load and bit this father on nail bed that ripped his nail and he was find positiv. I'm scared to death what to do ?

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« Reply #20 on: August 21, 2011, 01:43:40 pm »
Saliva is NOT infectious.

This is why HIV positive people kiss their negative partners without fear.

This is why HIV positive mothers kiss their negative children.

You are scared to death? Well congratulations. You certainly worked hard for it, scouring the web for undocumented "cases" to fuel your fear.

This is a place for first tiered peer-reviewed scientific risk assessment.

And it apparent that you would rather seek out bullshit on the internet than listen to experts.

You are not going to be the very first person to get HIV through getting a blowjob.

But you will get a time-out or baa banned from this site if you keep on with this inappropriate, immature and quite frankly insulting behavior.

HIV people are not, contrary to what you imply with your posts, monsters who pose a direct threat to you. They are not to be stigmatized or shunned.

The real monsters are people who selfishly let their irrational fears dictate their actions, regardless of who it may hurt. That's pretty monstrous.

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« Reply #21 on: August 21, 2011, 03:04:44 pm »
Jkniatl , from whatof my coments u came tothe conclusion of me being insulting anybody , its a fear fear of finding myself hiv n we all commit mistakes I did it as well and I'm afraid of that , people like us come hear for someone experienced like u could help ease our minds , and we find u scaring us with your " can ban you " remarks no one wants to be hiv positive so if u can't understand the pain of tension going on with the people comin here atleast dnt get them wrong and mísunderstand them 

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« Reply #22 on: August 21, 2011, 03:49:38 pm »
There's really nothing more we can do for you here. You have been told again and again that you have no basis in HIV science for thinking you were at risk.

ZERO RISK!

If you come agian about this non-risk you are going to find yourself getting a Time Out or possibly being banned permanently from this site.

If you can't let go of this unwarranted fear then get yourself some professional help to deal with the matter. HIV is not the problem. It's your obsessive thinking about it that is the problem.

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« Reply #23 on: August 21, 2011, 05:24:44 pm »
Jkniatl , from whatof my coments u came tothe conclusion of me being insulting anybody , its a fear fear of finding myself hiv n we all commit mistakes I did it as well and I'm afraid of that , people like us come hear for someone experienced like u could help ease our minds , and we find u scaring us with your " can ban you " remarks no one wants to be hiv positive so if u can't understand the pain of tension going on with the people comin here atleast dnt get them wrong and mísunderstand them 

I will address this.

You came in here, got information you requested, backup up with first tiered peer-reviewed scientific data.

It is not our duty to ease your mind. Nor is it possible. You got the information we gave, and it seems to have done little do ease your mind. What it did was provide incentive for you to scour the web for anything that contradicted what we said, and demand that we address it.

THAT is rude. It is also impossible, since we base our transmission theory on the most current and up to date data, where other sites use old data gathered from a time when people simply dropped dead after infection, that used patient report. Both of those factors made hard scientific human-centered data gathering very difficult.

It's a shame that other sites have not addressed the profound difference in HIV transmission theory, but it's not our job to tell them how to run their sites. Nor is it our responsibility to police these sites We have more than enough to deal with right here.

One thing you need to understand is that when you freeak out to US over and over about the possibility of saliva being infectious (it isnt) then YOU are showing how much YOU stigmatize those of US with HIV and AIDS. And yes, most of us in this forum have HIV/AIDS. Surely you are aware of this?

It's this kind of thinking that makes people not want an HIV positive waiter/bartender. It's this kind of thinking that makes people stigmatized for absolutely no valid reason. You will probably say that you have never known, perhaps never encountered another HIV positive person. I can pretty much bet that you have, however. And will again, I wager. If you treat these people as though they are poisonous snakes, fearing even a simple kiss or a hand-made sandwich, then you are doing all of us, including those who have tried to help you, a terrible harm.

You have certainly exhausted MY patience by your insistence that HIV positive people present a risk to you. Scientific data doesn't seem to help, and that's all we have. We are NOT a support group for those terrified of HIV and AIDS. We are a support forum FOR those infected, and who have loved ones and friends infected.

This part of the forum was set aside for two reasons:

1- to give ourselves the chance to inform those who are afraid or ignorant of HIV transmission

2 -  to keep the Worried Well out of the other forums and away from other member who they have been known to harass, either on the public forums or in Private Messages.

The help you need can not be found here. Your insistence that HIV positive people spit poison is both inaccurate and increasingly tiresome. Each time you make that claim you insult those of us who have the virus. Each time you reject the facts you move further from uninformed fear to purposeful bigotry.

As I have no desire to follow you down that rabbit hole, I respectfully excuse myself from further communication.

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« Reply #24 on: August 21, 2011, 05:34:25 pm »
JK's comments have made me re-think what I said to you. You now have a 56-day Time Out from the site. Get yourself the professional help you need and which we cannot provide.

Don't make the mistake of trying to get around it by creating a new name for yourself. That will get you banned permanently.

Whether you can accept it or not, HIV is not your problem. Cut out the drama and get on with your life. You also need to know that on this site 3 strikes and you are out. If you come back again in the future with more of the same you will very quickly find yourself banned permanently.
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