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HIV Prevention and Testing => Do I Have HIV? => Topic started by: TerrifiedMistake on October 10, 2012, 04:55:36 pm
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I had unprotected sex 2 nights ago with someone who told me the next day they are HIV positive. Its to soon for me to be tested but I'm wondering what are the chances I'm infected or not infected. It was my first time bottoming, I did not notice any bleeding on my part. He did not cum inside me or at all for that matter but we did have anal sex for about 30min. He said he doesn't usually produce precum. My main concern is that he is uncirmumsized and he has a very small irration(possible blister or laceration) on the top of his foreskin (where the skin connects to the shaft just under the head) he said it was from rubbing raw from masturbating, it didn't seem to have any visable blood just red and irratated I spoke to him this am and he said its cleared up it was just iratation. He said he's not in treatment so I don't know his viral load/cd4. What are the chances I've been infected, what are the chances I'm in the clear.
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Well, you have had a very real risk, not only for HIV but for other STDs as well.
For most STDs, like gonorrhea and chlamydia and the like, you can be tested in ten days assuming symptoms don't show up earlier than that.
Syphilis and HIV both share a three month window. Again, if a small, painless sore appears, then it's likely a chancre and you would need treatment for syphilis. Sadly, as a bottom, that chancre could well be inside your rectum and go unnoticed.
Insofar as HIV is concerned, most people seroconvert within six weeks, give or take. A test at that time would be almost - *almost*- conclusive. You would stil need to test for HIV and syphilis at the three month mark.
Of course I don't need to tell you to wear a condom, and ALWAYS assume your partner is HIV positive. No treatment often means a high viral load, and for the first time bottoming, there is a high probability of tissue damage, which provides an excellent opportunity for infection. Not judging you at all, it just seems easier to use a condom rather than start down this scary journey.
There aren't reliable statistics to give even a rough estimate of your risk, other than saying it ranks among the highest possible risks for HIV transmission. If you don't want to pay for a subscription to the site, I recommend that you post again in six weeks if you test at that time, and then in three months when you have your definitive test.
I sincerely hope that you come through this OK.