Author Topic: help,where do ibegin (Read 6282 times)

freddie · « **on:** October 30, 2006, 07:33:17 am »

hi everyone
i shall start at the begining ilve in the south east of englang and in june went to liverpool on astag do got very drunk wandered home and stupidly when stopped and asked by woman on the street i agreed oral sex unprotected lasted around 4 mins then wndered on my merry way.Next morning iget the horrors find abrasion on the inside of my foreskin ithen remember nights events recalling that this woman was probaly a drug user.On returning home full of guilt and horror go into london to gum and havfull std screen doctor tells me risk from hiv is negliable,does nothing to ease my fears igo back have hiv test at 8 weeks neg doctor tells me this is good as most time s it will show all the time this is going on ihave all sorts of symptons lower back pain pain and numbness in legs andb many more.i then went back at 11 weeks still not convinced negative again but i still cant get rid of symptons or feelings go back again 15 weeks test again negative great i can finally see the light,no 1week later igetr sore throat well a feeling that something is stuck and makes me want gag when i drink also notice yellow slimey coating on tongue this ahs now lasted 4 week and last week i had terrible stomach gases and nausea and the runs on and off for around 2 week s i am out of my mind with worry have tried to test again at different clinic but the said no, iwould just like to ask aquestion about tests in uk gum clinics whattype of tests would have been done they drew blood and what would they have looking for,and i would like to thank everyone you have been agreat help at avery lonley time

Andy Velez · « **Reply #1 on:** October 30, 2006, 08:10:33 am »

Freddie, you weren't at risk for HIV from getting a blowjob, irritated foreskin notwithstanding. In the entire history of the epidemic there's never been a case of transmission in this manner, and as you may imagine it's one of the most common sexual activities. Not one! And you aren't going to make history by becoming the first.

So it's no surprise you have repeatedly tested negative. There's no need for further testing.

Your symptoms? That's something to discuss with your doctor. Whatever they are about they have nothing to do with HIV. I suspect stress plays some part in them as well as the fact that you're looking for proof of your worst fears.

If you haven't already done so I suggest you read the lesson on Transmission which you can find a link to in the Welcome thread which begins this section. As far as HIV and sex goes, the main thing is to make certain you always use a condom for intercourse.

You also need to remember that mixing excessive drinking and casual sex is a dangerous combination which makes negotiating safer sex much more difficult. Avoid that in the future for your health's sake.

This time out you have no cause for concern about HIV.

Cheers,

freddie · « **Reply #2 on:** October 30, 2006, 08:25:54 am »

thanks andy for your quick reply,iknow this message is one you,ve read a thousand times and i will try to take something from your comments,but since i had the all clear at 15 weeks i have slept with my wife and now i am terrified i have passed it on to her sorry,to go on but as i said inmy last post the tests that were carried out what would they entail.
many thanks and good luck to all.
freddie

Andy Velez · « **Reply #3 on:** October 30, 2006, 10:05:01 am »

Maybe that's just leftover guilt for having strayed, Freddie. And in any case you cannot pass on what you don't yourself have. You have reliably tested negative for HIV.

You're a dog like the rest of us and you went straying. You can't undo that bit of your personal history and lugging around guilt or shame about it is bad for all concerned. Take a breath, let it go and get on with your life. No kidding.

Cheers,

freddie · « **Reply #4 on:** October 31, 2006, 01:13:05 pm »

sorry guys
as i have asked before does anyone know what type (in the dark about all this generation stuff) gum clinics in london use and what are they looking for antibodies? or hiv itself,sorry again just need educating!
cheers and good luck
freddie

RapidRod · « **Reply #5 on:** October 31, 2006, 01:17:58 pm »

Freddie, if you need more knowledge go to the "Welcome" thread and follow the links to lessons.

Ann · « **Reply #6 on:** October 31, 2006, 01:34:57 pm »

freddy,

In the UK, it does not matter what generation test is being used at or beyond the twelve week point. You tested reliably and conclusively hiv negative at week fifteen. You ARE hiv negative and it's time you moved on with your life.

If you cannot accept your negative status, then perhaps it's time to see a counselor to understand why you are holding on to this guilt and anxiety. We can do nothing more for you here.

Ann

freddie · « **Reply #7 on:** October 31, 2006, 01:41:34 pm »

thanks ann i do understand what you are trying to tell me,but it is hard but hey ho each day gets easier!!
thanks and god bless
freddie

freddie · « **Reply #8 on:** November 01, 2006, 09:11:35 am »

just a quick note and a confession i forgot to mention that i went to another clinic,i know i was wrong wasting resources (sorry) but i just called for results negitive over the moon (for now!!)no this isit done.I would just like to give my little bit of advice listen to the experts on here they are not trying to confuse us so heed thier kind words and as they said symptons(i had them all then some) mean nothing,so good luck to everyone and remember condoms, i will also be making a contribution to london lighthouse as a way of thanks to you guys for all your hard work.
cheers freddie

freddie · « **Reply #9 on:** July 11, 2007, 06:56:39 am »

hi back again just a quick question ihave been told by my gp that i have peripheral nueropathy in both feet i tested neg again for hiv at 12 months ido not have diabetes tested any suggestions i only tested with hiv dou 4th gen do i need to tst again many thanks

RapidRod · « **Reply #10 on:** July 11, 2007, 06:59:58 am »

No you don't need to test again. NP is not specific to HIV.

freddie · « **Reply #11 on:** July 11, 2007, 07:07:23 am »

thanks for the quick reply rod its just abit worrying as do not have any other symptons apart from avery sore shoulder that wont get better

Ann · « **Reply #12 on:** July 11, 2007, 07:36:14 am »

Fred,

If I were you, I'd get a second opinion on the PN. It can be notoriously difficult for a GP to diagnose. Ask for a referral to a neurology specialist.

You do NOT need further testing. You are hiv negative and whatever is going on with you has nothing to do with hiv.

Ann

freddie · « **Reply #13 on:** July 11, 2007, 08:28:33 am »

thanks ann i will but this has just put me back to square one with my fears

Andy Velez · « **Reply #14 on:** July 11, 2007, 09:03:26 am »

Fortunately feelings aren't facts. And even though you are worrying, you have absolutely no basis in HIV science to think that HIV is your issue.

You are HIV negative. Period. End of story.

Whatever else is going on has nothing to do with HIV. Do as Ann suggests and get it checked out further with a proper specialist.

Cheers,

freddie · « **Reply #15 on:** July 12, 2007, 07:47:08 am »

hi iforgot to mention i took last test 6 weeks after pn started thanks again

Ann · « **Reply #16 on:** July 12, 2007, 08:20:03 am »

Fred,

It does NOT matter! For a start, you got a blowjob. Getting a blowjob is NOT a risk for hiv infection, as you have been repeatedly told.

Not only that, but you have what, something like four or five negative hiv antibody test results under your belt. You ARE hiv negative.

If you'd ever bothered to read the Welcome Thread like you're supposed to, you would have read the following:

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Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

Please consider yourself warned. You have not had a risk, you are conclusively hiv negative. As you cannot seem to let this go, I suggest you seek counseling for your extreme hiv anxiety. We cannot help you with that here.

Ann

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