Re: Divorced from family, hard at Easter:

[jm1953]

Hey Members, Dealing with the reality of family who only care for you when you are of use to them as well as some friends is a hard pill to swallow, especially at holiday time.  Since my father died a couple of years ago who accepted my HIV status and lifestyle and was my best friend, I've been the victim of family greed over his probate, and a distrust in friends who feel they may have something to gain from it.  After much therapy I know it is better to have no communication than toxic communication which will hurt me even more.  It's hard enough living with this disease, on disability, feeling crumby alot, and having seen countless friends die in the 80's and 90's and even as of late which is alarming.  But as my attorney said, the family wants what ever was left to you, otherwise nothing to do with you until then.  Over the hurt, now moving forward.  The weird thing is trying to figure out what I ever did to make them hate me so much being the loving brother and uncle I always tried to be.  The only conclusion is with my dad gone they can now show their true colors about my lifestyle and having AIDS.  They only kept it civil for his behalf.  Now moving forward, trying to reboot my life with new friends, and trying to forget the negative stuff and concentrate on the positive.  For those with accepting families and trusting friends, cherish them, and don't take them for granted.  This is a road I never expected to follow, especially in the latter part of my journey with AIDS.  Best to you all, J

[emeraldize]

Very difficult. Very sad. You have taken good care of your self and you have this gang here. You loved and had a wonderful dad who obviously trusted you. There is more to come for you that is good in nature. Such a post on Easter had to sting god you to write.

[emeraldize]

iphonerrata -- " had to sting for you to write." was what was I thought I was writing. God was not intentionally pulled into the sentence, but hey, what do I know?

I hope this week is going more smoothly for you. Holidays surely sensitize us -- it's too bad and contradictory.

[weasel]

   Hi  jm1953   ,
                       I hope you are feeling better .  It is sad to hear stories
  of siblings and other family taking everything  from  you .
   I was lucky when my Mother died , we just split  stuff 5 ways .

    I did have some issues with  distant family wanting more than they
deserved ?  They deserved nothing ! A couple got several thousand dollars
before I did a hissy dance and put a stop to all fund transfers 

   As for being alone for Holidays  , I am grateful for my husband   
   We spend many a weeks alone here in the woods ,But that is all I need .

   When I get lonely I come here 

                                Be well  , Weasel