high risk 2 encounters...scared and at the sametime i feel im goin to be ok but!

[scaredshtless]

i had 3 encounters with sex providers that i met on crg'slist  one happened in or around the feb time frame...we met and had sex with condom...i was having diffuculties and i said im not used to condoms..she said she will let me have sex without the condoms but that shell charge a lil more...and like a dumb ass i did.  Before I did I asked her if she was clean in reference to hiv and other stuff she said yes.  Then the 2nd time was in March..we met again the same gurl and we had sex without the condom again...i dont know why i did it...but i asked her again if she is clean and if i have anything to worry about..cuz i told her i was mariied and have kids.  She assured me she was good to go and she seemed knowledgeable after telling me all the std's she knew of hpv,chal, gon,of course hiv  as well.  SO like a dummy i had sex with her agian unprotected.  After that I told myself that if i do this again its not goin to be with her for the fact that she lets me do this without the condom and i asked her if she usually does this..and she says not very often. I have been asking like 4 times and even recently yesterday if she has been recently tested for hiv and that i was goin to get one like in the next day or 2 and told her and she says that as of right now she is good and hiv neg..which kind of calms my fears cuz she seems so confident.   Well my 3rd emcouter was with a gurl that i normally use protected sex with and she seems very careful and makes sure she uses condoms.

This was around the June time frame we were doin it d-style the condom slipped off and i just continued to do it without the condom.  Well i pulled out to ejac before she would know that i wasnt protected.  Well eventually she found out and seemed a little upset and started lecturing me that there are people out there who dont care that might have something and give it to someone, she also explains she is very self conciuous about hewr health.  I asked her if she got tested like i usually do with her, she said not since 3 months since she had her last neg results...and i asked her she uses protected sex with others and she said yes.........well like 3.5 weeks later im in texas and i started feeling my urethra tingling and burining when i pee i even saw on 2 occassions that time what looked to be discharge.  Then i thought damn i got something the chal or the gonn.  I went to the hosp. they gave me antibioptics and pills...im good now...but they didnt give me the results to confirm i had something..but i suspect i may have, hopefully not...but i had sex with my wife that week before i noticed the symptoms of gonn or chal.  I ended up coming back home to cali.  called the last gurl i was recently with..she seemed nervous as to why i was asking bout her to give me insurance that she is good to go...i said cuz i want to be sure im fine..it calmed me down knowing she is scared of the hiv topic...telling me she doenst want to be infected.  I am talking bout the 2nd gurl,   but i know she uses condoms everytime...except for that last encounter.   But now im thinking , that since i got the chal or the gonn....i could possibly have hiv.   Of the 2 women it seems one is confident that she is gfood after asking like 6 times and the other seems kinda of confident as well even tho she hasnt tested in 3 months however i known her for bout a year and know she uses protection religiously and is scared of getting hiv.   But like i said if i have this gonn or chal...it got me scared thinkin the possiblities of getting hiv ...and  knowing i had sex with my wife after those 2.  Im scared but at the sametime i feel like im goin to be alright...but there is an unknown....with all this....i havent went to get tested but i am thin kin bout doin it first chance i have off from work....but i am mad at myself and now im telling myself that i am no longer going to do this thing again cuz my family is first..i ju7st hope i didnt harm them...plz any advice would be apreciated....

[Ann]

Scared,

For a start, it's very offensive to those of us who are hiv positive when terms like "clean" are used to denote being hiv negative. I'm positive, but I'm also clean, thank you very much. I just got out of the shower, in fact.

You need to test three months past your last unprotected encounter for a conclusive result.

You also need to stop having unprotected intercourse. Not only are you putting yourself at risk, you're also putting your wife at risk. It's not fair.

You do have a good chance of testing negative, as hiv is more difficult to transmit from a woman to a man. HOWEVER - if you keep going unprotected, sooner or later your luck will run out.

Ann

[RapidRod]

Read the lessons on testing.  You can find the link in the "Welcome" thread. Yes you need to test and so should your wife.

[scaredshtless]

Ann, im sorry for offending you guys, i didnt mean it in a bad way...of course your a clean person, as well as all of you..i meant for it as a short indirect way of saying....not literally...but I am concerned ...and this is define a wake up call for me...i just hope i will be ok ...

[scaredshtless]

good news my test results came back and i dont have chalmydia or gonnoreah..thy were negative!!...and i talked with the first woman that i encountered and explained my concern....she assured me that she is hiv negative and that she got tested a week and a half ago.....i told her i was goin to get testd today...and she told me i had nothing to worry about...im still goin to get tested but now im hopeful that im ok....as for the other woman she does use protection and cares very much about being careful of aqcuiring hiv....so i feel a lot better...but i will get tested just to make sure....i hope everything will be fine...