Urgent... help me please... Worried about HIV

[helpmerrickys000]

I recently had been through few instances of physical intimacies. I\'m worried if I will be affected by HIV. I really repent for what I had done will never want to do this again in life. Since, this is new to me, I could not control it.

1. I was masturbated by 3 women separately without condom. I did not insert in their private parts. I cleaned my parts with tissue papers after the masturbation. I fingered them for less than a minute. I do not think either of us have any cuts in the skin. Will I have chances of HIV here?

2. Later, I was seduced by a lady and I inserted my penis in her vagina with condom. after some time she started masturbating my penis during which the condom got torn and then I ejaculated externally and not inside her vagina. But I fingered her for less than a minute and I guess I touched my penis with the same figures to help her masturbate my penis. I also sucked her nipples. I'm worried if I'll be prone to any HIV here.

I was looking was symptoms of HIV infection. I'm currently having throat infection, cough, slight fever and have seen some red rashes on my shoulder. Since I was in a beach under hot sun few days ago for water sports, I thought it was because of this.

But, the symptoms really worry me a lot. I was sweating in sleep few days ago. Thought that this could be because of the air conditioner not working properly. Recently, in a website I read that this is also a symptom of HIV.

I\'m really very scared about this. Can you please help me with the same ASAP.
Thanks a lot for your help.

[Jeff G]

The risk factors for HIV is from unprotected anal and vaginal sex . HIV is far to fragile to be transmitted once it leaves the confines of the human body . Small changes in temperature and PH levels damage HIV and render it unable to infect the instant its exposed to conditions outside the human body and this is why only penetrative anal and vaginal sex is a risk for HIV . HIV is NOT transmitted in any of the ways you are concerned about and no one has been infected in that manner . 

1. I was masturbated by 3 women separately without condom. I did not insert in their private parts. I cleaned my parts with tissue papers after the masturbation. I fingered them for less than a minute. I do not think either of us have any cuts in the skin. Will I have chances of HIV here?

Masturbation is not a risk for HIV so no worry here . Use condoms for anal and vaginal correctly and consistently sex and you will avoid HIV .

2. Later, I was seduced by a lady and I inserted my penis in her vagina with condom. after some time she started masturbating my penis during which the condom got torn and then I ejaculated externally and not inside her vagina. But I fingered her for less than a minute and I guess I touched my penis with the same figures to help her masturbate my penis. I also sucked her nipples. I'm worried if I'll be prone to any HIV here.

This is not a risk for the reasons I outlined above .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

[helpmerrickys000]

Thanks a lot for your quick reply Jeff.

In the first incident, I had felt the woman's vaginal fluids while fingering. Do I have to worry about me touching the same fingers on my penis head?

I have seen your similar replies to other posts too.

But, I just want to make sure of the situation. Since, the second incident (broken condom) had happened just 1.5 days ago, if there is a possibility, should I go for PEP?

My last question - Is there a reason for me facing these symptoms? I'm really scared of this.

Sorry for bugging you. It's just that I'm not able to think away from this incident. I was very foolish. Now, this keeps disturbing my sleep too.

I want to make sure of things here and set them right with no delay.

[Jeff G]

This is still the same answer for your new question ... not a risk .
HIV is far to fragile to be transmitted once it leaves the confines of the human body . Small changes in temperature and PH levels damage HIV and render it unable to infect the instant its exposed to conditions outside the human body and this is why only penetrative anal and vaginal sex is a risk for HIV . HIV is NOT transmitted in any of the ways you are concerned about and no one has been infected in that manner . 

The broken condom happened while you were being masturbated and not during penetrative anal or vaginal sex and that was not a risk . YOU DO NOT NEED PEP FOR A NO RISK INCIDENT .

[helpmerrickys000]

Thanks for your patience and help Jeff.

Somehow, I'm really not able to reason out the symptoms that I'm facing. These are scaring me a lot.

[Jeff G]

Thanks for your patience and help Jeff.

Somehow, I'm really not able to reason out the symptoms that I'm facing. These are scaring me a lot.

We do not discuss symptoms because they are not specific to HIV . There are thousands of conditions out there to consider so it makes no sense to focus on HIV as the cause when you have not had a risk for HIV ... if you are sick go see a doctor about it and find out why ... its not HIV . 

[Jeff G]

The participants in the AM I Infected forum do not have personal messages privileges, your account is now set the same as the others so you will not be able to send or receive PM's .   

I'm not a doctor ... The moderators on this forum are volunteers that use the latest peer reviewed science to base our assessments on . I have lived with the virus for over 30 years and volunteer my time to prevent new infections and give out accurate information to protect peoples health and help in fight to reduce the stigma that is associated with the virus due to misinformation .