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Title: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: Matty the Damned on July 23, 2006, 09:29:06 am
Mrs Kathleen Edgar born 2nd May 1919 died yesterday. She was a fantastic woman. She wasn't my mother but she was my sister, Jennifer's, mother.

We're a complicated family.  :o

Jenny knows of many of you. She lurks here simply to know that her little brother is ok. She think's he's treated far better than he deserves. ;)

MtD

/edited for a missing pronoun -- dammit/
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: Dachshund on July 23, 2006, 09:34:52 am
Hey Matty,

Sorry for your loss...but, oh so glad you are back. Listen to your big sis...sounds like a wise woman.

Love & Kisses,
Aunty Doxie

p.s. my birthday is May, 2nd

Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: RAB on July 23, 2006, 09:59:25 am
Matty

Sorry for the loss you and your sis have experienced.  Kathleen's 87 years is a pretty remarkable run. 

Take care and listen to you sis, she's wise!

RAB
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: Matty the Damned on July 23, 2006, 10:03:53 am
Ah, crap.

My paternal grandmother Magaret Elizabeth was born on May 2nd 1917. At least she had the good taste to die in April. I was diagnosed on May 3rd 2002. My father was born in May.

But good friends make the difference. Thanks guys.

--big hugs--

MtD
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: The Canuck on July 23, 2006, 10:08:43 am
Matty,

I'm really sorry for your loss...Although Kathleen was 87 years old and had a good life it doesn't make it easier...to loose a loved one is never easy.

Regards,

The Canuck
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: Teresa on July 23, 2006, 10:15:26 am
Matty,

So sorry for you and your sisters loss.

Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Hugs For You and Your Sister
Teresa
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: Christine on July 23, 2006, 10:57:06 am
Hi Matty,
I am so sorry for your loss. Peace be with all of you.
Christine
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: aztecan on July 23, 2006, 12:10:25 pm
Matty,
I'm sorry for the loss suffered by you and your sister.

Know that you will be in my thoughts.


HUGS,

Mark
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: Andy Velez on July 23, 2006, 12:47:31 pm
My condolences, Matty. Glad you and your sister have each other to get through.

Cheers,
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: AlanBama on July 23, 2006, 04:59:35 pm
My deepest sympathy to you and your sister, Matty.   

Love,

Alan
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: zephyr on July 23, 2006, 05:36:47 pm
 :'(

Very saddened to hear of your loss, dear. My deepest sympathy for your entire family.

Thinking of you,

Love

Zephie
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: JeffInNYC on July 23, 2006, 05:48:54 pm
Hi Matty,

Im so very sorry for your loss and I especialy hope your sister Jenny is doing alright.  No matter the age, a loss is a loss and hurts.

Hope youre doing well and Im wondering if your sister ever called you 'Thew?
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: sweetasmeli on July 23, 2006, 06:08:27 pm
I'm so sorry for your sad loss Matty.
My condolences to you, your sister and your family.

Kind thoughts

Melia
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: Cliff on July 23, 2006, 06:11:19 pm
Matty,

My condolences.  I'm sorry to hear of this.

Cliff
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: Mouse on July 23, 2006, 06:16:04 pm
Matty, I'm sorry. 87 years is pretty cool though. Obviously not someone that liked to give up too easily. Sounds like your family, though. :)

Tell your sister I'm thinking about her.
<3  <3 <-- (hearts!!!).
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: Lis on July 23, 2006, 10:49:54 pm
Jennifer,

im sorry for your loss... i hope that the pain from her passing ends with peace soon..

lisbeth
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: anniebc on July 23, 2006, 11:31:57 pm
Dearest Matty

You and your sister are both in my thoughts and my prayers are with you today.

Hugs to you both.

Love
Jan :'(
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: jkinatl2 on July 24, 2006, 03:06:11 am
{{{matty}}}}

You are well loved. And anyone who has had the luck to be family to you knows that.

You are one of the brightest and the best.

Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: Ann on July 24, 2006, 05:06:57 am
Jennifer and Matty,

I'm sorry for your loss. Please accept my heartfelt condolences.

Ann
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: Nadine on July 24, 2006, 07:22:24 am
Matty,

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. You, your sisiter and your family are in my thoughts

((HUGS))
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: skeebo1969 on July 24, 2006, 10:19:23 am


  Sorry for your loss
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: Trish on July 24, 2006, 12:18:58 pm
My thoughts are with you Matty and your sister.  Sorry for your loss.

Love,

Trish
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: ACinKC on July 24, 2006, 12:43:07 pm
Matty and Jennifer,

87 years! That is quite a long life to share with others and should be celebrated as well as remembered.

Andrew

PS
I am sorry for your loss but I ALWAYS try to put the positives at the forefront.  Matty, you know my thoughts are with you both!

edited to rephrase
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: RapidRod on July 24, 2006, 05:45:27 pm
My condolences, Matty.

Rodney
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: newt on July 24, 2006, 05:57:36 pm
Sorry,Matty

Sun comes up, it's Tuesday morning
hits me straight in the eye
guess you forgot to close the blind last night
Oh, that's right, I forgot, it was me

I sure do miss the smell of black coffee in the morning,
the sound of water splashing all over the bathroom,
the kiss that you would give me even though I was sleeping,
but I kind of like the feel of this extra few feet in my bed
Telephone's ringing, but I don't answer it
'cause everybody knows that good news always sleeps till noon

Guess it's tea and toast for breakfast again
maybe I'll add a little T.V. too
No milk! God, how I hate that
Guess I'll go to the corner, get breakfast from Jenny
She's got a black eye this morning, `Jen how'd ya get it?'
she says, `Last night, Bobby got a little bit out of hand'

Lunchtime. I start to dial your number
then I remember so I reach for something to smoke
and anyways I'd rather listen to Coltrane
than go through all that shit again

There's something about an afternoon spent doing nothing
Just listening to records and watching the sun falling
Thinking of things that don't have to add up to something
and this spell won't be broken
by the sound of keys scraping in the lock

Maybe tonight it's a movie
with plenty of room for elbows and knees
a bag of popcorn all to myself,
black and white with a strong female lead
and if I don't like it, no debate, I'll leave

Here comes that feeling that I'd forgotten
how strange these streets feel
when you're alone on them
Each pair of eyes just filled with suggestion
So I lower my head, make a beeline for home
Seething inside

Funny, I'd never noticed
the sound the streetcars make as they pass my window
Which reminds me that I forgot to close the blind again
Yeah, sure I'll admit there are times when I miss you
Especially like now when I need someone to hold me
but there are some things that can never be forgiven
and I just gotta tell you
that I kinda like this extra few feet in my bed

Sun's Coming Up... Caution Horses
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: cjc on July 24, 2006, 11:16:46 pm
Sorry for your loss. Hope ya'll are okay.   Cristy
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: Matty the Damned on July 25, 2006, 05:49:34 am
Kath will be buried on Thursday Australian time. Jenny and I are honoured and very touched by the messages offered in this thread.

Most fondly,

MtD
(Who is more grateful than he can say)
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: Moffie65 on July 25, 2006, 10:05:23 am
Matty,

I am not sorry. 

Surprised?  Naw, I know you aren't.  OK, I will explain.  I want to encourage you to be happy in the fact that you were able to share this womans' incredible journey on this plane.  When people of age pass, we are supposed to learn from their passing.  Learn to not waste precious time in this life.  Learn to appreciate the gems they shared with us.  Learn to be happy with today.  Learn to be thankful for the little things in life that bring us joy.  Learn to share with those we love, so that we will not miss any opportunity to share our love for them.  Learn Learn Learn.

I know this is not falling on deaf, or uninformed ears; however, it is often times good to hear it once again, from friends who care about the suriviors in this life trip.  I trust your sister and you will recover from this loss soon, and her legacy will stay with you into the future to give you strength and understanding about the life you are GOING to live. 

In Love and Understanding.
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: tuggem on July 25, 2006, 11:21:15 am
You both have my sympathy and my sense of the celebration of life.  Peace.

Ron
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: ACinKC on July 25, 2006, 11:38:12 am
Again, Moffie said it EXACTLY the way i was thinking it! 
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: fearless on July 25, 2006, 10:29:11 pm
Hey Matty,

Sorry to hear of your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Steve
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: Matty the Damned on July 25, 2006, 10:45:18 pm
Jenny has read every post in this thread and sends her eternal love to all. She wants me to say that you take the most wonderful care her little brother.

Newt/Matt - such a gorgeous poem. There are not words to describe the honour you have done us.

Squeakie-Boi: She's looking for a friend for Wombat.

Jan/Ann/Trish/Zephie/Rasheen/Melia and all the Positive women: Jenny says that you have a strength that is almost never found. You inspire her.

To everyone else we want you to know that this thread is the most amazing gift we could have received at this time. Despite all the disagreements that happen in this place this thread is the epitomy of what AIDSMEDS is about --  unconditional love.

MtD
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: zephyr on July 26, 2006, 01:37:22 am
Matty...Jenny,

Thank you, each of you, for those wonderful thoughts. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.

<<<Hugs>>> of the tightest kind possible....

and, I thought I'd send you flowers, too.

Love,

Zephie

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Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: tnboy on July 26, 2006, 02:22:16 am
My Man Matty,

     Sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you and Jenny as you go through this difficult time.

  Lots of Love and Hugs.
Mike
Title: Re: My Sister's Mother Died Yesterday
Post by: ademas on July 26, 2006, 12:52:10 pm
well, damn, I'm so sorry to hear this, Matty.
My condolences and best thoughts to you and your sister, and your family.
xox