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Offline Gary85741

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New Relationships
« on: May 15, 2010, 12:16:10 pm »
At 58, I never thought it would happen, and had practically dismissed the thought of finding a partner from my mind.

However...last July I met a guy while I was visiting a friend in another city and we hit it off.  Subsequently we corresponded frequently by email and after three months he came down for a one-month visit.  Oh, we discovered some differences and had some arguments...yet we both came away from the visit with very possitive impressions.

To my surprise, he decided to move here and in with me in another three months.  That was three months ago.  Things are going well, but it has been a real learning or acclimiation curve.  It's different when someone shares your enviroment every day, especially if you've been used to living alone.  It's an exploration of what's inside another person, a person who loves you.  You trial-and-error your way through many things, not the least of which is communication.

Since February when Greg moved in, our comfort level with each other has deepened and grown.  I can tell him I don't like a movies he does, I can tell him I don't like some certain thing he cooks, and I can ask questions about things I don't understand.

I realize the above is not all that exciting to read, but I'd sure benefit from and be curious about other guys in LTRs, what kind of adjustment it was to begin living together, how disagreements were handled, and how things change as time goes by together.

Thanks!
Gary
Poz since '89. 
Current regimen: Rescriptor, Emtriva, Kaletra, Invirase, Acyclovir, Lisinopril, Lipitor, Prilosec, Valium, Testim, Nandrolone, Loperamidr, Marinol.

Offline bear60

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Re: New Relationships
« Reply #1 on: May 16, 2010, 03:20:18 pm »
Two words:
Honesty
Compromise
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Offline mecch

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Re: New Relationships
« Reply #2 on: May 16, 2010, 03:42:51 pm »
Great for you! Is this your first bf in a long while? Congrats.
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Offline next2u

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Re: New Relationships
« Reply #3 on: May 16, 2010, 05:04:01 pm »
awesome! Now i feel like i have 26 more years to get this right : )
midapr07 - seroconversion
sept07 - tested poz
oct07 cd4 1013; vl 13,900; cd4% 41
feb08 cd4  694;  vl 16,160; cd4% 50.1
may08 cd4 546; vl 91,480; cd4% 32
aug08 cd4 576; vl 48,190; cd4% 40.7
dec08 cd4 559; vl 63,020; cd4% 29.4
feb09 cd4 464; vl 11,000; cd4% 26
may09 cd4 544; vl 29,710; cd4% 27.2
oct09 cd4 ...; vl 23,350; cd4% 31.6
mar10 cd4 408; vl 59,050; cd4% 31.4
aug10 cd4 328; vl 80,000; cd4% 19.3 STARTED ATRIPLA
oct10 cd4 423; vl 410 ;); cd4% 30.2
jun11 cd4 439; vl <20 ;); cd4% 33.8 <-Undetectable!
mar12 cd4 695; vl ud; cd4% 38.6
jan13 cd4 738; vl ud; cd4% 36.8
aug13 cd4 930; vl ud; cd4% 44.3
jan14 cd4 813; vl ud; cd4% 42.8
may14 cd4 783; vl *; cd4%43.5
sept14 cd4 990; vl ud; cd4% *
jun15 cd4 1152; vl ud; cd4% *
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Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: New Relationships
« Reply #4 on: July 30, 2010, 08:05:58 am »
awesome! Now i feel like i have 26 more years to get this right : )

I don't have 26 yrs but damn I sure can't get it right.
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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