I guess I'll post this here since I'm apparently not allowed to post elsewhere

[girlychic]

I was a bit annoyed by other ppl's reaction to me in another thread about HIV disclosure, b/c I do have a personal story with that.

about a year and a half ago, I was hooking up with a close friend (at the time) who insisted he was negative, didn't wanna use condoms. (he used to be a junkie). turns out, he had it. luckily, I insisted on condoms anyway most of the time, b/c I wasn't sure, but a few times, I didn't. I was scared as hell, but I've gotten tested twice since then (last time being 2 months ago) and both came back negative, so I was lucky.

but I think what he did was extremely selfish. I don't talk to him anymore. But in the PAST, he was someone I did care about.

that's my issue w/the disclosure thing, though, I don't like being mislead, though I do think it's up to everyone to be proactive about their own health and well-being and insist on safe sex if they are unsure of this person's status.

so don't tell me I don't have a clue just b/c I don't see things your way, as of being HIV-negative make my opinion less valid, or something. lol. what was wrong w/my statement, btw? (in the other thread). I'd love to hear what got you ppl so up in arms that you'd threaten to ban me, when I didn't even say anything rude or disrespectful.

 

[sharkdiver]

did you read the rules of the forums?

[Miss Philicia]

Of course not

[sharkdiver]

what ppl is he talking about?

[fearless]

The fact that you don't see anything rude or disrespectful in a statement like this says it all:

"this is coming from an HIV-negative chic, who'd probably wanna know beforehand. once you disclosed, I wouldn't wanna have sex with you. (I realize you're gay so you wouldn't want me anyway, lol, but if I were with a straight man I wouldn't want to have sex with him if he told me that). I wouldn't hate you for it, though, we could still be friends and all that, and if I liked you, I'd wanna be there for ya, regardless."

now, go play somewhere else like a good little girl.

[GNYC09]

buh-bye.

[Rev. Moon]

Oh Father.

[anniebc]

OK what was it you didn't understand about Ann's warning in the other thread?...Do not post in any forum except the "AM I" forum and the OFF TOPIC" forum..it really is that simple  ..if you had read the rules like you were supposed to then you would still be here but I'm sorry this was your last post for awhile, I'm giving you a 28day Time out, that should give you time to read the rules here.

 Do not try and get round your ban by trying to create another user name because you Will be caught Adan you will receive a permanent ban.

Jan

[anniebc]

The fact that you don't see anything rude or disrespectful in a statement like this says it all:

"this is coming from an HIV-negative chic, who'd probably wanna know beforehand. once you disclosed, I wouldn't wanna have sex with you. (I realize you're gay so you wouldn't want me anyway, lol, but if I were with a straight man I wouldn't want to have sex with him if he told me that). I wouldn't hate you for it, though, we could still be friends and all that, and if I liked you, I'd wanna be there for ya, regardless."

now, go play somewhere else like a good little girl.

Hi Steve

I commemted on that in the other thread...unbelievable.

Hugs
Jan

[skeebo1969]

so don't tell me I don't have a clue just b/c I don't see things your way, as of being HIV-negative make my opinion less valid, or something. lol. what was wrong w/my statement, btw? (in the other thread). I'd love to hear what got you ppl so up in arms that you'd threaten to ban me, when I didn't even say anything rude or disrespectful.

See girlychic we have rules here.  If I called you an idiot I would be breaking one of those rules much like you did when you posted in the Living With Forum.  I know the living with title may have been a bit hard for you to understand but what that means is you actually have the vrus, which you don't so you shouldn't post there.

I also have to ask why are you posting in the Someone I Care About forum?  You already said you do not speak to the guy any longer.  Go out and celebrate being negative and spread your message  to your little girlychic friends.

[Sebastian1969]

girlychic-you are basing your opinions here on an experience you had with someone who lied to you about their status, it is unfortuante that you did not insist on condoms everytime you had sex-but that was a decision you made for whatever reason.  There are many helpful articles on how HIV is transmitted on this site, you may find it helpful to read those so that you can see that when and how someone discloses their status is completely up to them. 
To say that you would never have sex with someone if you knew they were positive is a rude and offensive statement not only to HIV positive people, but to those of us that care about people with HIV.  We have sex with people that we love and care about as a way to communicate those feelings on a higher level, HIV does not define who a person is, it is a bad disease, but does not make a person bad and in no way does it ever make someone less worthy of being treated with the respect that they deserve.
Please read through the information provided on here, it may give you some good information that you do not have now. 
The site is for people to find support and give each other support. 

[sharkdiver]

well, I guess we will see when she comes back after her 28 day ban, huh?

[max123]

sigh