Should I test, was I at risk...insertive anal

[Drivers]

4 days ago I had an encounter with a transexual prostitute and we both proceeded to have oral sex with one another fully protected both wearing condoms.

Then I performed protected insertive anal sex which lasted about 1 minute and then I pulled out and came in the condom. I applied pressure to the tip of the condom once I was completly out and wanted to see if there was any leaks...I felt pressure so I knew the condom was still intact. I then removed the condom and dried myself with kleenex. Also I should note that there was brief making out while I had a cut gum over my wisdom tooth.

So now I'm a little worried as this is the riskiest thing I've ever done. Do I need to test for HIV? What is my risk from this encounter? Can I resume unprotected sex with my girlfriend?

Please help...I'm affraid I have done a grave mistake.

Thanks

[RapidRod]

No you don't need to test. You did all the right things.

[Drivers]

Thanks for the reply...why is it that most classify condom sex as low risk? So you are saying that even though I had sex with a potential HIV infected person, there was no risk?

Does it change the fact that the transexual provided her own condom? What if it was expired or non-latex? It had a red wrapper and it felt like latex...how would I know the difference in lambskin or not?

[Andy Velez]

Risk is not about who you are with. It's about whether you use a condom or not. In your case because you used a condom for intercourse it wouldn't matter if the person you were with is HIV+. And by the way assuming that someone who's transgender or whatever is never the way to accurately know someone's HIV status.

The very fact that she was committed to using condoms speaks well for her sense of responsibility to herself as well as to the person she is with.

Nothing you did put you at risk. The condom worked. Believe me you would have known if it had failed because it's a matter itty bitty leaks. When a condm fails it ends up looking like a fringed hoop on your penis.

Keep using the condoms for intercourse everytime and you'll be ok as far as HIV is concerned. It's really just as simple as that in terms of sexual risks for HIV.

Cheers.   

[Ann]

Drivers,

I hope you and this girlfriend you're having unprotected intercourse with have BOTH been tested for ALL STIs before you stopped using condoms. You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

You need to remember that the ONLY TRUE RISK GROUP where hiv is concerned is that group of people who have unprotected intercourse with a person or persons of unknown or positive hiv status. If you and your girlfriend have never tested before doing without condoms, then you are BOTH in this risk group.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

Ann

[Drivers]

I have been in a monogamous relationship for the past 4yrs and we both tested together and we were fine, I then had another full STD/HIV test about 1 month ago just as part of my yearly routine, all was fine...but last week I did something I never did before and I don't really know how effective condoms are for HIV. As I stated, I'm pretty confident the condom was intact as I tested it to see for breaks or tiny leaks and the whole insertive part lasted max 2 minutes...and since I sincerely value my health and my gf's, I wanted to know how much at risk I am of getting HIV from this first and last incident.

From what you have all told me, based on this fully protected incident (both oral/insertive anal) that I was not in any way at risk of HIV and that my next test should be negative...correct?

Drivers,

I hope you and this girlfriend you're having unprotected intercourse with have BOTH been tested for ALL STIs before you stopped using condoms. You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

You need to remember that the ONLY TRUE RISK GROUP where hiv is concerned is that group of people who have unprotected intercourse with a person or persons of unknown or positive hiv status. If you and your girlfriend have never tested before doing without condoms, then you are BOTH in this risk group.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

Ann

[RapidRod]

As you were told you were never at risk.

Latex condoms, when used consistently and correctly, are highly effective in
preventing transmission of HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. In addition, correct
and consistent use of latex condoms can reduce the risk of other sexually
transmitted diseases (STDs), including discharge and genital ulcer diseases.
While the effect of condoms in preventing human papilloma virus (HPV) infection
is unknown, condom use has been associated with a lower rate of cervical
cancer, an HPV-associated disease. Laboratory studies have demonstrated that latex condoms provide an essentially impermeable barrier to particles the size of STD pathogens.

[Drivers]

Andy/Ann,

Today, 4weeks later, I woke up with a very sore throat and mild fever with a small rash on chest..Now I am really worried that my last encounter has something to do with this??

I forgot to mention last time that as I checked the condom for leaks, right after, I cleared my nose as it was slightly bleeding earlier that day...and I didn't think to wipe my finger...possibly there may have been some blood on the condom which I accidently txed in my nose...is this a risk?

There was even deep kissing...as you can see these symptoms have got me really worried...was the fact that I used a condom correctly fool proof against any chance of getting HIV? I going to test at the end of this week but fear the result will be +...

[RapidRod]

Move on at no time were you at risk of contracting HIV.

[Drivers]

Thanks RR...

I was also hoping Andy and Ann could also comment given the new info I provided...

[Ann]

Drivers,

NONE of the new information you've listed changes your risk assessment. NO RISK.

Ann

[Drivers]

Hey guys, I had a rapid 3rd gen HIV test done at 6-weeks...which was negative...do I need to retest at 13weeks or can I consider this a done deal? Please advise, as I can't seem to shake off my worries and don't compute how my experience was zero/NO risk...please help one last time...what if kissing or improper removal of the condom at the end exposed me...what if I DID in fact contract HIV?

Thanks.

[anniebc]

I suggest you move on as you have already been told you were never at risk..the only risk you run is being given a TO (Time Out) for not listening to the experts.

Move on.

Jan