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Author Topic: Intercourse with sex worker  (Read 1878 times)

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Offline vassili90

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Intercourse with sex worker
« on: November 21, 2017, 02:53:22 am »
Dear all,

I had sex with a sex worker 20 days ago. Firstly, the sex worker got kissed me all over my body. Then I told her to her to put on the condom for me. I saw her tear the condom cover and put it on my penis. And then she sat on me. Since then I didn't see my penis because of this position. I don't know whether the condom slip off or not. About thirty seconds or more, I came, but the sex worker didn't pull out my penis immediately. She kept this position about one minute and then she pull my penis out. When I sit up, I remember I saw the condom was still on my penis. Then she pull the condom out very quickly. This makes me wonder did I really saw the condom on my penis, or it was slip off and I didn't know. After that, I poured water into the condom, there was no water coming out, this mean the condom was not broken.

I have never had unprotected sex, so I don't know the feeling if the penis in vagina without condom. This makes me wonder did I really had condom on penis when having sex with this sex worker. Please give me advise is there any risk for me in this situation? Do I need take a test for STDs? Thank you very much
« Last Edit: November 21, 2017, 02:55:36 am by vassili90 »

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Re: Intercourse with sex worker
« Reply #1 on: November 21, 2017, 03:43:17 am »
Nothing you mentioned here was a HIV risk. You have no reason to worry if this was your only intercourse/concern.

Stop testing condoms with water before/during or after intercourse!

If you test the condom before you use it this can weaken the condom, making it more likely to break during use. So don't and, also never test a condom after you use it. Instead, immediately dispose of the condom in the bin.

Testing the condom after intercourse could damage the condom, as its not designed as a reusable product and this could lead you to mistakenly think that the condom was damaged during sex, when in fact you actually caused the damage after the intercourse by trying to "test" it with water. In short, testing the condom yourself before or after use is not a reliable way to tell you anything.

Testing condoms yourself is basically a stupid myth.

My advice is to move on with your life,  keep using condoms and test as routine at least yearly for easier to transmit STI's and HIV

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Re: Intercourse with sex worker
« Reply #2 on: November 21, 2017, 04:03:47 am »
Thank you Jim for your quick reply.

In the past, I also several times went to Thai massage. This means the prostitute massage customers with their naked bodies, and providing hand job to customers, but there was no intercourse. I am afraid that my penis accidentally slipped into their vaginas but I did not know. Or their vaginal fluids could splash into my penis or my skin cysts, or my wounds (if any). Is there any risks in these situations ?

Currently I have a fever, sore throat and have pain in the chest muscle. All are flu symptoms. Is is related to HIV?

Thank you very much Jim, I am looking forward to hearing from you soon
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Re: Intercourse with sex worker
« Reply #3 on: November 21, 2017, 04:17:58 am »
Her vaginal fluids on your penis from splashing or rubbing or touching are not a concern even if you had wounds.

HIV unlike other easier to transmit STI's is only sexually transmitted inside the human body, like during unprotected intercourse. This is because HIV is incredibly fragile and does not remain infectious once exposed outside the body to air, it corrodes the receptors used to infect leaving it unable to infect you.

If you had unprotected intercourse I presume you would have know about it.

Nothing you posted here was a HIV concern, it simply is not transmitted the way you fear.

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Re: Intercourse with sex worker
« Reply #4 on: November 21, 2017, 05:53:23 am »
Thank you Jim, that's very relieving. I am sure this situation above is the only time I had intercourse intentionally. I saw myself that the sex worker take the condom out of its cover and put it on my penis, but during the intercourse, because she was on top I didn't see my penis. It was just about thirty or forty seconds and I came. But she didn't pull my penis out immediately but about 1 minutes later. I remembered I saw the condom was on my penis the moment she pull it out. But it was too quick makes me wonder did I really see it. I am sure that the condom was not broken, but the ideal that the condom may slip off scares me. With your experiences, is there any cases that the condom slip off and we don't know?

Currently I am very tired, have fever, sore throat, feel like I got flu. I am describe all of my activities that would lead to infection, are you sure all the symptoms I have now are not related to HIV?, cause I read these are early symptoms of HIV. I want to get tested (combo test ab/ag), but I read somewhere that getting tested while having flu easily leads to false positive, is that right Jim?

Thank you very much Jim and I am looking forward to hearing from you soon.

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Re: Intercourse with sex worker
« Reply #5 on: November 21, 2017, 06:36:49 am »
Look if the condom had come off during the intercourse she would have been fishing for it afterwards, it would not on your penis.

If what you posted is true than your concerns are simply irrational fear, nothing more than that and you should put them behind you.

Nothing you mentioned was a HIV risk, so your symptoms are not HIV from the incident mentioned as you need to have a risk first, also the symptoms you mentioned are simply not HIV specific. Typically people experience no symptoms or too mild to notice and that is one of the reasons we don't discuss them here. 

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