Precum on Anus from Anal Rubbing

[roberthan20]

I am a male, and I found out my male partner was HIV positive. He rubbed his penis with precum on and around my anus. With the precum making contact with my anus, what is the HIV transmission risk? There was no penetration. I am just really worried because he was recently diagnosed and has not started his medication yet. Do I need to be tested over this specific incident? Thanks.

[Jeff G]

HIV is fragile and easily damaged instantly once exposed to oxygen and poses no risk in the situation you are concerned with .

These are the risk factors for HIV ....

Sharing IV drug needles immediately after use.
Unprotected anal and vaginal sex.
Mother to child during or shortly after birth
Very specific healthcare situations.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED HIV TESTING AT THIS TIME for this incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!   

[roberthan20]

This is no risk even if the partner has a high viral load without medication? Thanks for your reply.

[Jeff G]

That is correct you didn't have a risk in the situation you described . And you are welcome .

[roberthan20]

In another incident:

When my partner gave me a handjob, I noticed some pain and realized there was some torn skin on my shaft. If he had touched his own precum and gave me a handjob  with the precum from his penis, what is the risk? Additionally, if he was  fingering me and there was some precum on the outside of my anus from him rubbing his penis against me, some of the precum may have entered my anus with his finger.

[Jeff G]

None of the tings you mentioned are a risk for HIV . 


These are the risk factors for HIV ....

Sharing IV drug needles immediately after use.
Unprotected anal and vaginal sex.
Mother to child during or shortly after birth
Very specific healthcare situations.

[jkinatl2]

You have to realize that serodiscordant/magnetic relationships (where one partner is positive and the other is negative) happen all the time, without the negative partner getting infected.

Even if your partner has a high viral load, the only truly risky activities are unprotected penetrative intercourse.

He could literally masturbate himself and use his semen as a lubricant to masturbate YOU and it would not be considered a risk.

And obviously if your partner is on medication and responding well to treatment (if he has an undetectable viral load) then the risk is essentially the same as that when wearing a condom, if you are mutually monogamous with no other STDs.

HIV is not easily nor efficiently spread. You can have a very satisfying sexual partnership with a person who is HIV positive and never get infected. The precautions are ridiculously easy. Wear a condom for penetrative anal sex.

As for your near-dipping episode, that is simply not considered a viable risk because HIV is so very fragile. It cannot maintain it's glycoprotein shell for any length of time outside the body.

If you really want to feel more secure, perhaps you could ask if your partner would be willing to go on antivirals to render his viral load undetectable - or perhaps you could go on what is called PrEP, a daily pill YOU take thatnearly negates the possibility of HIV infection.

Even if neither of those options are viable, wearing a condom for penetrative sex will avoid an HIV transmission.