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Title: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: pozhealthy on January 13, 2009, 12:53:19 am
I wonder why they do not respond?  Has someone else asked what you were going to? has your question you were gonna ask been aswered by someone else already or are you afraid to post because the replies can be very nasty sometimes and maybe you are afraid to post? Just wondering. It seems like there are about 10 people on here who reply to every post on here. Its time for some new people to voice their opinions. So if you are afraid please post anyway. Thanks
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: leatherman on January 13, 2009, 01:47:13 am
because subject lines can only tell you so much about what a thread's topic really is. that tends to be misleading at times (mostly done non-intentionally), so a lot of people might read a thread to see what it's about but never respond. And they probably don't respond for exactly the reasons you pointed out. Though I could add another reason - they're just not interested in the topic enough to post.

(I know I haven't posted in threads for all three reasons you listed. Sometimes too, I haven't been posting after reading a thread because my head just isn't in the right place to give a good or helpful answer. I'm coming up on the first year anniversay of when I took my second long-term partner into the hospital, where he stayed for 60 days before coming home to pass away from AIDS and non-Hodgkin's lymphoma - almost exactly to the date of when I lost my first long-term partner to AIDS fourteen years ago. Needless to say, I haven't been in the right frame of mind for giving out much help lately; but I sure have received a helluvalot of comfort and support here in the times when I needed it. Some very kind and generous people here even donated money so I could pay the bill to cremate my partner.  :-* Thank you once again, my friends.)

As to some of the same people making frequent posts, there are multiple reasons there. Often those first-posters are pretty knowledgeable and generaly post probably the best advice you'll get right off the bat. (sometimes it takes a few more questions to get enough info from the OP to give a "good" reply) Plus, it's nice to have some of those people around to answer a post quickly. I'd hate to wait for days until someone, anyone replied.  :D

Afraid to voice opinions?? This crowd?? ::)  ;D You must be kidding.  ;) Everyone's got an opinon, and states them quite freqently. Unfortunately, text doesn't have the nuances of facial expressions (thank Bill Gates for emoticons ;D ) or body language, and sometimes the opinions really start flying from this crowd (Bless all of them, even if they are wrong for not agreeing with me all the time. ;) :-*)

To the chagrin of some around here, as you see, I often have quite an opinion myself and type quite a while putting out that opinion. ;) But I do usually sit here for some time trying to compose what I want to get across, rather than throwing out tit for tat comments. Unfortunately, I've still offended some, and I kinda think I may be on some people's "ignore list" now. I haven't ever used the ignore button myself. I wanna know what they're saying about me!  :o :D No. Really, I think everyone is entitled to their opinion and I try to be happy to hear - even when I don't agree. I try to discuss my objections to their opinion sometimes; but that's always a 50/50 bet on whether someone will want to "discuss" back with you.  ;)

 ;) mikie
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: Dachshund on January 13, 2009, 06:29:15 am
I wonder why they do not respond?  Has someone else asked what you were going to? has your question you were gonna ask been aswered by someone else already or are you afraid to post because the replies can be very nasty sometimes and maybe you are afraid to post? Just wondering. It seems like there are about 10 people on here who reply to every post on here. Its time for some new people to voice their opinions. So if you are afraid please post anyway. Thanks

I'm not sure what you mean, but I think I know where you're going with this. Are you talking about the LTS forum or the forums in general?

Most people post in a thread that interests them. If the question is being asked repeatedly, most folks take a look and move on. It's nothing personal. If you look around, most threads actually garner only a few responses before falling off the page. There's no quarantee of a reply when you hit the post button, and there sure ain't no quarantee that you'll not see the same folks posting over and over again. They're probably not going to answer your question anyway and are just using your thread to talk about themselves.

As for the nasty part, usually the tone of a poster dictates the response. If you are talking about the Longtime forum, there ain't many of us, so you can expect the same poster's posting over and over and over and over...

Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: Gary85741 on January 13, 2009, 10:17:24 am
[in part]
...Just wondering. It seems like there are about 10 people on here who reply to every post on here. Its time for some new people to voice their opinions....

Certainly you notice a handful of people who seem to post responses to many comments or questions.  Sometimes I look at the far-right column of a content page...last posts.  You see the same person's name seven or eight times in a row, with two minutes between each post.  A lot of times it's just people saying "good luck," "too bad," etc. which to me is kind of a waste of time to post or read.  Some of those people have posted over 5,000 or 6,000 times...where do they get the time!

Gary
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: BT65 on January 13, 2009, 10:20:16 am
My, my, such animosity.
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: Miss Philicia on January 13, 2009, 10:24:04 am
If you've ever looked at the "Users Online" (http://forums.poz.com/index.php?action=who) section you'll see that 75% (or more) of the activity on these boards is by unregistered "Guests" -- people who just wander in here, possibly not even HIV positive, who never bother to become active on the boards.  Add in registered users who don't post much and you can answer your own question.

There's no need to antagonize the more vocal components of the board with accusations of nastiness.
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: pozhealthy on January 13, 2009, 11:03:57 am
not a suprising response from BT as you always have been rather nasty to anything i post on here :o :o :o :----thought i had you on ignore, i do now.  BT lighten up with me--ok???? ;D ;D ;D ;D 8) 8) 8) 8)  What did i ever do to you??? Have a great day and hope you are well and healthy. :D :D :D :D :D :D

anyway, i did not take into account the fact that people who are not registered are included in the tally of how many people have read the posting, which explains a lot. Thank you so much. I asked this question in general. Not directed towards any grouping. But since I am a LTS ( at least i think I am but I am sure I will get lots of comments) and tend to post in this part of the forum I decided to ask the question here.

Leatherman, sorry to hear about your loss---BIG HUG to you. Hang in there.

Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: Miss Philicia on January 13, 2009, 11:52:45 am
I think Betty's comment was aimed at Gary85741
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: pozhealthy on January 13, 2009, 11:55:38 am
my apologies to BT then.....i thought  maybe i had a target on my rear end....lol 
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: pozhealthy on January 13, 2009, 11:57:51 am
hey gary---DUCK !!!!

why target anybody???
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: Miss Philicia on January 13, 2009, 12:27:35 pm

why target anybody???

Ask Gary.  He seems to be targeting those of us in excess of 5,000 posts.
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: redhill on January 13, 2009, 12:45:05 pm
on the norm. i do respond  to what i read because of my lack of political correctness. and while my intension is good,it dont come out that way then feelings are hurt and the message is lost,so i have learnt that a good ear is better than speaking.
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: sharkdiver on January 13, 2009, 01:17:49 pm
on the norm. i do respond  to what i read because of my lack of political correctness. and while my intension is good,it dont come out that way then feelings are hurt and the message is lost,so i have learnt that a good ear is better than speaking.
Hi redhill
welcome to the forum. btw are you a Long Term Survivor? (LTS)
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: Gary85741 on January 13, 2009, 01:44:55 pm

Gee...I literally had no idea I was "targeting" anyone by making a simple comment about frequent posters.  Anyway whether or not I have a particular opinion or perception is, of course, never influenced by whether or not it may be popular.

I simply observed that one must have a good deal of free time on their hands to post thousands of comments on the boards here, some of which appear to have no great purpose.  That is neither a felony or even a misdemeanor the last time I checked.  8)     I can likewise "accuse" myself of not having a great deal of free time, since I've posted <200 comments in the four or five years I've been lurking around herein.

Gary
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: ademas on January 13, 2009, 01:47:16 pm
oy vey.

this forum is becoming a train wreck. 
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: sharkdiver on January 13, 2009, 01:50:49 pm
oy vey.

this forum is becoming a train wreck. 
this is not a helpful comment.  btw are you a LTS'er?
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: ademas on January 13, 2009, 01:52:49 pm
since 1983, dearest.

and you?

Oh...and is this my cue to get highly offended, and search all of your posts, and quote every comment you've ever made that isn't "helpful"?

Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: sharkdiver on January 13, 2009, 01:55:45 pm
I'm not your dearest but...
 please lets not spur on internal fights, it is not helpful

poz test result in 85 (2 months after the test was made available)
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: sharkdiver on January 13, 2009, 02:01:54 pm
I'd prefer if you made comments that might bring peace or clear up misunderstandings.
There is too much fighting going on all around us, especially in this time of uncertainty (fundings cut, etc).

sometimes tempers flair around here, but usually things work out.

(oh and sorry for the questioning, it is a bit annoying, although I hope our request to make this a LTS only forum is considered)
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people
Post by: Miss Philicia on January 13, 2009, 03:41:13 pm
I may have a lot of free time, but then again I don't spend every waking hour obtaining a sunburn.
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: anniebc on January 13, 2009, 04:16:10 pm
it's just people saying "good luck," "too bad," etc. which to me is kind of a waste of time to post or read.  Some of those people have posted over 5,000 or 6,000 times...where do they get the time!

Gary

Hi Gary
People start threads for all kinds of reasons, they are lonely, need advice, need to vent or just need to know that someone out there cares enough about what they have to say to post a few lines in responce..so maybe , just maybe all those people you are accusing of wasting their time because they read or respond, simply just care..ever thought of that?..and I don't think it's so much "where" do they get the time I think the fact is they "take" the time.

Hugs
Jan
(who is getting the hell out of here before Sharkie spots her.. ;D)
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: Moffie65 on January 13, 2009, 04:28:44 pm

I simply observed that one must have a good deal of free time on their hands to post thousands of comments on the boards here, some of which appear to have no great purpose.  That is neither a felony or even a misdemeanor the last time I checked.   I can likewise "accuse" myself of not having a great deal of free time, since I've posted <200 comments in the four or five years I've been lurking around herein.

Gary


What the hell is this Gary? 

I know you, yes, we've met and I know what your job is so I understand why you don't have free time.. However, for those that you work with, haven't you ever seen someone with HIV that wasn't able to work?  Haven't you seen HIV+s that are too crippled to spend much time outside of a chair?  Come on, I cannot believe you even had the thoughts you placed here, let alone in the LTS forum.  I think you have really gone too far, and need to re-think the state of HIV affairs and quit standing in judjement of those who find their panacea in this website.  Just think how many of the clients you have delt with who have no life whatsoever, and then you come here on occasion and then this post comes out of your head to the screen.  Come on Gary, please cool your heels.

Some people really need this space and some people actually have enough money to stay home and enjoy this place without having to work.  There are so many reasons you have overlooked in your blanket review of our lives online.  Not fair at all.

Just my opinion.
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: BT65 on January 13, 2009, 06:36:03 pm
I think Betty's comment was aimed at Gary85741

Yeah, it was.  That was totally uncalled for. 
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people
Post by: denb45 on January 13, 2009, 06:48:39 pm
I may have a lot of free time, but then again I don't spend every waking hour obtaining a sunburn.

I've got more free time than I'll ever have the money for............ :o
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: Gary85741 on January 13, 2009, 07:05:14 pm
[in part]
What the hell is this Gary? 

I know you, yes, we've met and I know what your job is so I understand why you don't have free time.. However, for those that you work with, haven't you ever seen someone with HIV that wasn't able to work?  Haven't you seen HIV+s that are too crippled to spend much time outside of a chair?  Come on, I cannot believe you even had the thoughts you placed here, let alone in the LTS forum.  I think you have really gone too far, and need to rethink the state of HIV affairs and quit standing in judjement of those who find their panacea in this website.  Just think how many of the clients you have delt with who have no life whatsoever, and then you come here on occasion and then this post comes out of your head to the screen.  Come on Gary, please cool your heels.

Just my opinion.

? ? ?

Uh...I haven't had a job since 1997 when I went through a two-year application, denial, and appeal process for SSDI.  So I think you might have me mixed up with someone else?  Hence I don't work with anybody.  I have malar and body wasting so of course have empathy with anyone else who is symptomatic.  I pay hundreds of dollars a year out of my own pocket to get Radiesse injections for my face.  I certainly don't judge anybody, having been rejected by others due to my own problems, appearance or otherwise.  And I really don't have that much of a life in the way that phrase is typically defined.

Further, I think it's great if people have lots of time on their hands.  My chores (housework, meals, laundry, paperwork, etc.) and errands (medical and others) take a fair share of time for me, personally, and I usually take a nap in the afternoon due to fatigue.  So there are days I wish for a little more free time.

I think what I've said speaks for itself and I won't be trying to "defend" myself further over something that has been blown out of proportion and taken out of context.

Gary

Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: Winiroo on January 13, 2009, 09:11:02 pm
I read many things I do not respond to. Often it is either because I don't feel I have anything to add to the discussion,the topic does not interest me or it does not relate to me.
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: RapidRod on January 14, 2009, 04:34:34 am
Quote
Further, I think it's great if people have lots of time on their hands.  My chores (housework, meals, laundry, paperwork, etc.) and errands (medical and others) take a fair share of time for me, personally, and I usually take a nap in the afternoon due to fatigue.  So there are days I wish for a little more free time.


You don't have anymore to do than anyone else, from what I've noticed in your post. Maybe a time study would help you find out where you can be more efficient with your time.
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: Miss Philicia on January 14, 2009, 06:45:37 am
Nothing like back tracking on the teh intrawebz.
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: Ithaca_Nights on January 14, 2009, 06:16:24 pm
Reading all the posts on this subject is one of the main reasons that I abstain from posting on the forums.  It seems to me there is a lot of S--t slinging here a lot of the time.  their seems to be a lot of conflicting personality's here.  That is not always a bad thing, but can be in certain circumstances.

On the other hand, I have learned a lot here on the forums by just reading posts by others.  I can relate to some of the posters experiences with this virus. 

Hope everyone has a great day!
Dan
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: BT65 on January 14, 2009, 08:32:40 pm
Dan, anytime there's a group of people, there's going to be conflict.  That's just life and you've got to get over it.  Most of the time, everyone's civil.
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: Ithaca_Nights on January 14, 2009, 08:40:44 pm
[b]"That's just life and you've got to get over it. "[/b]

Thank you for reading my entire post!  I rest my case!
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: Lisa on January 14, 2009, 08:47:53 pm
There are some people who have been "lurkers" here for a long time, some for years even.
One must also bear in mind that many guests to the site are able to read, but cannot legally post.
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: pozhealthy on January 14, 2009, 08:54:24 pm
ok so this post went a bit astray.....but its kind of amazing how some of the antagonists turn around in the next post and take a completely different opinion.  I really feel that more people would post but are afraid to because  the "regulars" on here will attack them and thats a shame.
Anyway I think everyone on here is under their own fair share of stress. So peace health and hugs to everyone.
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people
Post by: denb45 on January 14, 2009, 09:11:51 pm
ok so this post went a bit astray.....but its kind of amazing how some of the antagonists turn around in the next post and take a completely different opinion.  I really feel that more people would post but are afraid to because  the "regulars" on here will attack them and thats a shame.
Anyway I think everyone on here is under their own fair share of stress. So peace health and hugs to everyone.

Anything posted in theses forums is always up for debate, we all have a different take on things posted,(not everyone will agree with you all the time) I find nothing posted in  these forum to be afraid of, or scared-off by, I would hope that most of us have thicker-skins than that, as most do, that is not what the scope of these Forums are about...theres nothing to be afraid of here in these forums, and nobody is really gonna attack you for posting your own opinion, that simply is just not true at all........ ???
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: AndyArrow on January 20, 2009, 12:47:50 pm
Some people are afraid ... although not because they think someone else in the forums is going to call them a name they don't like.  Many people are not "out" about their poz status to the whole world and since these forums are search able via any search engine some people prefer to remain anonymous.  This is probably why many people have cute avatars rather than a picture of themselves.  Some people (and you know who you are ... I myself am guilty of it from time to time) just like to change their avatar to fit their mood.

Sometimes you read a post and know exactly how you are going to respond but by the time you reach the end of the thread you find someone has already said it so why post it twice.

Maybe someone will ask a question and you read hoping to find the same answer and don't really have anything helpful to add.

I could go on with a lot of other reasons but everyone probably bored by now so I'll just add (and please don't take this the wrong way ... and if you do I'm sorry in advance  :D ) try not to jump to conclusions about someone's postings.  Many times things are written in a light hearted tone but can come across as cruel or harsh on a blank page.  emoticons don't quite do the human face justice.

Hugs & Stuff to Everyone
AA
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: leatherman on January 20, 2009, 01:17:02 pm
emoticons don't quite do the human face justice.
but they are better than nothing.  ;) ;D I frequently sprinkle emoticons throughout my posts, as without them my posts are sometimes not taken in quite the light-hearted manner that I meant. Truth is often blunt and harsh, but a  ;D can take the unintended sting out. ;)
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: Miss Philicia on January 20, 2009, 01:21:25 pm
(http://boomajoom.com/internet.jpg)
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: pozhealthy on January 20, 2009, 11:36:19 pm
i just think the "regulars" who seem to respond to every post on here need to be a bit more compassionate sometimes. I truly feel a lot more people would post but they are afraid because they sometimes get attacked on here. Then there are those who like to just agitate things and then in the next post tell everyone to calm down. They just like to get a rise out of people. This is a place where we come to ask questions and to vent our problems within a forum of people who are all experiencing some of the same things and are trying to find a solution to the problem they are faceing or just want someone to say that its going to be ok and hang in there. So lets all try to be a little less judgemental about what the person is posting and how the post is answered in a more positive and helpful way. Thanks
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: AlanBama on January 21, 2009, 12:28:54 pm
ph,

I understand what you are trying to say, and I agree with you.   We should ALL try to be less judgemental and more compassionate.   My experience with most of the LTSers on this board is that they are very helpful and knowledgeable about a variety of things.

If some of us seem a bit 'short fused' perhaps it's just that we've dealt with years of shit (pardon my french) and our tolerence levels for foolishness are probably lower than the average person's, and most of our "bullshit meters" are set on high.   That's all.

hugs,
Alan
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people
Post by: denb45 on January 21, 2009, 12:43:05 pm
ph,

I understand what you are trying to say, and I agree with you.   We should ALL try to be less judgemental and more compassionate.   My experience with most of the LTSers on this board is that they are very helpful and knowledgeable about a variety of things.

If some of us seem a bit 'short fused' perhaps it's just that we've dealt with years of shit (pardon my french) and our tolerence levels for foolishness are probably lower than the average person's, and most of our "bullshit meters" are set on high.   That's all.

hugs,
Alan

AMEM to that...........yes, I can be very cynical, so, please choose your questions wisely, if you don't, I'll come at you like a junk-yard-dog, I'm gonna snap at you, but, I promise, I won't bite to hard......Thank You Alan, for telling it , like it is  ;D
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: lucas777 on January 24, 2009, 05:34:07 pm


I've got myself
In a masochestic hold
Why don't you let go
Shake it off but
Just to redirect my flow
Come on let's go

Sit up straight
I'm on a double date
I've got to find my way
Into the light, heavy, middle weight
We don't stop for rock around the clock
Motor mouthing off
In front of every other road block

Come again and tell me
What you're going through
Like a girl who only knew
Her child was due

Memories of everything
On lemon trees on Mercury and
Come to me with remedies
From five or six of seven seas and
You always took me with a smile
When I was down
Memories of everything
That blew through

Looking up into
A reverse vertigo
What an undertow
Give it up
Another stubborn Scorpio
Come on, let's go

Sit up straight
I'm on a double date
I've gotta find my way
Into the light, heavy, middle weight
We don't stop for rock around the clock
Motor mouthing off
In front of every other road block

Come again and tell me
What you're going through
Like a girl who only knew
Her child was due
To the moon she gave another good review
turn around and look at me
it's really really you

Memories of everything
On lemon trees on Mercury and
Come to me with remedies
From five or six of seven seas and
You always took me with a smile
When I was down
Memories of everything
That blew through

RHCP
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: lucas777 on January 24, 2009, 05:38:00 pm
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Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: BT65 on January 24, 2009, 08:24:56 pm
Lucas777, I'm not sure why you posted that poem in this particular thread?
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: lucas777 on January 25, 2009, 08:51:41 am
I just read it again and I've no idea I think I saw some kind of connection to answer to the topic  ???
nevermind
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: weasel on January 30, 2009, 09:51:59 pm
THANKS LUCUS777

LOVED THE POEM !

OK then ,
 night night ,    ROTFLMAO    :)
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: OneTampa on February 01, 2009, 06:30:49 pm
......and...Cut!......

Right, (turning to the camera), What you've just witnessed, dear audience, is the mix of the seven powerful and potent ingredients necessary for an excellent dish that can be served at home or on the go:

1. Sass
2. Snap
3. Snarkyness
4. Sensitivity
5. Sensation
6. Sensibility
7. Sanity

Measure and add these ingredients to taste and simmer in a service broth over low heat until done. When served, this tasty dish will surely hit the spot.

Now, until next time, please know that we love you. Cheers! ;D
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: AlanBama on February 06, 2009, 10:08:33 pm
Looks like someone is posting after having a few too many......

Boy did this thread ever take a 'down turn'.   Hopefully it will slip into obscurity with the rest of the nonsense.....

 :(
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: pozhealthy on February 06, 2009, 11:12:20 pm
is the poem poster a LTS??? ;) ;) ;)  maybe the moderators should move his posts to another area on here like they do with other peoples posts.....just a thought
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: lucas777 on February 07, 2009, 07:52:16 am
Yeah, exactly what he was on about ???
now I got the attention I wanted-- how long you have to be HIV positive to be a long-term survivor( I asked about it in my post before no one answered) now it makes the poem relevant ;D
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: BT65 on February 07, 2009, 08:00:24 am
- how long you have to be HIV positive to be a long-term survivor( I asked about it in my post before no one answered) now it makes the poem relevant ;D

Lucas, I believe the concensus is that you have to have lived diagnosed with HIV/AIDS for over 10 years.  Of course, any other LTS'er regular poster feel free to add.
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: Ann on February 07, 2009, 08:20:44 am
is the poem poster a LTS??? ;) ;) ;)  maybe the moderators should move his posts to another area on here like they do with other peoples posts.....just a thought

Yes, he is. If you were that worried about this person's standing in the LTS stakes, you could have clicked on his posting history, skimmed it and figured it out for yourself. ::)

Ann
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: lucas777 on February 07, 2009, 02:51:38 pm
 Thanx BT65,
for some reason I thought that you must live with it for 25 years like since 80's. I'm poz. since 93 or 94 can't remember the year but remember the results day the 17 of May.

Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: hudstar on February 27, 2009, 02:31:15 pm
This site is American based so I'm wondering if you local guys/girls ever meet face to face after talking on here. I dont post much cause most has been said but I do when I see a subject i relate to. I can never relate to internet chat like a face to face conversation so writing is like giving information and it does become about yourself. I guess I wouldn't say much if I was in a group of people in real life face to face and they were talking about themself so maybe that is why so many lerkers
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: Peter Staley on February 28, 2009, 09:54:48 am
Hud -- see the "AM Gatherings" forum -- the last forum in our list of forums.
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: OneTampa on February 28, 2009, 11:09:30 am
I think that it worth noting that several things are going on here.

We must remember that contributors to these boards are quite wonderful and diverse ranging geographically, culturally, ethnically, gender, age, sexual orientation, religion, and a host of other categories that form a community just like any other, if one were to use the parlance.  We are just a few clicks away in this virtual community instead of a few doors down. This is a great asset that impacts what you see written here.
 
As to the original question about why people may be afraid to post here, the reasons may be many with several clearly noted earlier by others and, in my opinion, quite true.  Since this virtual community can only approximate the one where you would meet face-to-face, participants may be shy, put off, willing to say something already voiced by someone else but think that there is no need to repeat or simply wish to be a listener (reader--or lurker as I've read is the descriptor--in this case).

Also, it can be difficult to effectively translate to the the virtual the face-to-face dynamics of personal discussions given the absence of physical gestures, audio and visual cues and settings-- a challenge to put into writing. I believe that is one reason why we have those little emoticons to sort of massage the meanings of some posts. In addition, I also believe that this site is American based which may filter some of the intended meanings of posts as well.

And, in a virtual community, as in the physical world, there are different takes on the events and the experiences of life.  Personally, I love the nuance, insights, snap, diverse opinions, moods and tones I see here.  The discussions can often mirror an interesting gathering of friends, colleagues, acquaintances, and strangers--some you agree with and others you may not.

If you search my posts, you'll find that I have found great inspiration and life affirming motivation from this forum. I believe that there is also a direct correlation to a better quality of life and health (I have the labs to prove it!) ;D as well because of the freedom of expression allowed here.
  
I don't drink or smoke.  So my earlier post to this thread and others like it come from what my son calls my very droll--he looked the word up--sense of humor.  I hope that when the occasion calls for it, I can switch tone and signal the proper intent as appropriate. To be quite frank, I simply marvel and am immensely grateful that I am still here after 24 years HIV+ with a generally good life, and can even make my way to a computer, boot it up and type in any tone and intent.

With reference to the discussions around who should be categorized as a long term HIV+ survivor. If we were to take heed of the predictions in the early days, many of us were supposed to be dead after six months to about two years.  So anyone living longer than that puts nearly all of us in the "experienced" survivor category, in my humble opinion.

Finally, as my father used to say, "Lets chat-chat!  Beat those gums!"(or fingers..)

Thank you all for the patience it took to read through my post (or rant...).

Take care. ;D

Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people and
Post by: hudstar on February 28, 2009, 03:38:59 pm
Hud -- see the "AM Gatherings" forum -- the last forum in our list of forums.
Wow, heaps of gatherings going on, that's pretty cool. I've never looked further down the list than LTS  ::)
Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people
Post by: dgr20002 on March 11, 2009, 07:07:02 pm
I may have a lot of free time, but then again I don't spend every waking hour obtaining a sunburn.

If I am red it's the viagra  ;D

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Title: Re: i noticed that lots of people read these posts,sometimes thousands of people
Post by: denb45 on March 11, 2009, 07:44:02 pm
If I am red it's the viagra  ;D

D

That stuff is EVIL, it dries up my sinuses, and gives me a terrible Headache , then the next day, I feel like I was hit by a Mack-Truck, and left on the side on the road DEAD  ??? ....talk about a Hangover, Viagra will sure give you one in the worst way  :(