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Main Forums => Living With HIV => Topic started by: milker on April 02, 2007, 10:17:18 pm
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I know it's a controversial question, but I'm wondering. I think the polls are anonymous?
If you did, and you're open about it, care to say how that happened, and did you disclose after the act?
Milker.
PS: I have not (yet, and that's why i'm asking).
PPS: I should have asked "without disclosing your status at that time".
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Way too close to the N word.
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Way too close to the N word.
:o :o :o :o :o Not my intention! Jesus..
Milker.
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Um, you realize that in states/countries where it is a felony to have unprotected sex with someone who is negative without disclosing your status, you are essentially asking folks to incriminate themselves in a manner that might aid in their own prosecution, right?
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um ok.. first of all i'm now a racist, then a felon.
ANDY/ANN/MODERATORS CAN YOU REMOVE THAT TOPIC? THANKS!
Milker.
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Dude, you are neither. Why so defensive? I am not attacking you.
Is there something going on that you wanna talk about?
In Off Topic, you show a remarkable sense of humor and understanding. I simply assumed you would carry that here as well.
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Sorry but racism is something that I do not understand, and if I offended someone it makes me very sad because that was totally not my intent. So this post is starting on the wrong foot, better remove it.
Milker.
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I would go so far as to say that anyone who posts anything personal here does so at his/her own peril. In addition to the religious / rightwing nutjobs and denialists who routinely patrol these forums, we also have our assortment of stalkers and crazies who single us out, as a group or individuals, for harrassment. God/dess known thats one of my main reasons for withholding information here. Wish I had done so earlier, would have saved me much grief and three email address changes.
In addition, there are those from "competing" forums (I know, its in freaking sane) who have made it their stated goal to bring down this site. I daresay they would not hesitate to harm the credibility/reputation of anyone who is vulnerable enough to post here.
This is simply not a particularly safe place. I think we forget that sometimes because so relatively few actually post here.
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where's the choice for "Don't Know" ???
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PS: If Neggie = the N word, does Pozzie = the P word?
What is the P word?
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jk i appreciate that you're trying to make this funny, but i've asked Andy to remove the topic.
Milker.
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Not trying to make it funny,Milker.
Just pointing out the absurdity of comparing the term Neggie to an offensive racial slur. Seems like you got your hackles up instantly after RedDragon's post.
I respectfully withdraw from the conversation.
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I know you did not mean it,
but that was the first think i thought of
when i saw it. Just because you did
not mean it that way does not mean others
may not take it that way. You could always
change it to non-poz.
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I call them "negatrons."
I call us "pozitrons."
It's funny if you're a geek.
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lol
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Benj your such a Newtron!
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Benj your such a Newtron!
Ha ha ha ha!
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You realize that even POZ Magazine uses the term? That it's been in common useage for years without unwarranted association with racism?
Are ALL N words racist? Negative is racist isn't it? Because in the light spectrum, it's the absence of light, ergo black.
Methinks you might want to reconsider your sensitivities before insinuating someone is a racist. It's been my experience that he who smelt it, often dealt it.
I know you did not mean it,
but that was the first think i thought of
when i saw it. Just because you did
not mean it that way does not mean others
may not take it that way. You could always
change it to non-poz.
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milker, I knew exactly what you meant. You're not the first, nor the last to use the term neggie to mean negative. I didn't see it any other way.
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I'm gonna get slammed for this post.
Yes to the first three, after I disclosed.
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Basquo, we already knew you were a SL#*T. ;)
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mmmmmmmmmmm lol I should have stayed with my first instinct and stayed quiet, but I was just pointing out what I was thinking. If you feel that I am wrong, which is evident, than that is your opinion. Besides, it stepped on my toes and maybe one day a word may step on yours. By the way, the void of color is non-color and not black in my opinion.
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Basquo, we already knew you were a SL#*T. ;)
Only 0ne # in SLUT ;D
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Only 0ne # in SLUT ;D
Oh, thanks! I thought he was calling me a SLEPT!
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Dash that stood for a capital U. ;)
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Basquo, well since you mention it, that too. As in, "You've slept with everyone you could get your paws on." =(definition of SLUT) Road kill isn't even safe around you. ;)
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"You've slept with everyone you could get your paws on."
That's why I keep them in my pockets, baby. It's as close as I get to safer sex.
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What is the P word?
"P word" is Please God, send me a poz boyfriend! :D
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I use the word "Neggie" all the time. I'm not sure how anyone can mistake it for "nigger".
MtD
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not disclosing.... pathetic...
how do you live with yourself after that? AAACKK!!!!!
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Lis, I thought my hubby William was the only one that used that word "AAACKK" - I am releived!
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Would you believe there is a book called "The N Word." Here is an excerpt.
About the Book
In 2003, Randall Kennedy's book Nigger started an intense conversation about the use and implications of that epithet. The N Word moves far beyond Kennedy's short, provocative book by revealing how the slur has both reflected and spread the scourge of bigotry in America over the last 400 years.
Asim pinpoints Thomas Jefferson as the source of our enduring image of the "nigger." In Jefferson's seminal but now obscure essay, he marshaled a welter of pseudo-science to define the stereotype of a shiftless child-man with huge appetites and stunted self control. Asim reveals how nineteenth-century "science" then colluded with popular culture to amplify this slander. What began as false generalizations became institutionalized in every corner of our society: the arts and sciences, sports, the law, and on the streets.
Asim's conclusion is as original as his premise. He argues even when uttered with the opposite intent by hipsters and hip-hop icons, using the slur helps keep blacks at the bottom of America's socio-economic ladder. But, Asim also proves, there is a place for this word in the mouths and on the pens of those who truly understand its twisted history--from Mark Twain to Dave Chappelle to Mos Def. Only when we know its legacy can we loosen this slur's grip on our national psyche.
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Which is cool Dragon. I'll make a note to read it. But do you seriously think the people on an HIV/AIDS website are going to confuse these two words?
MtD
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Not really. I just made a comment and the house fell on me that's all.
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Not really. I just made a comment and the house fell on me that's all.
Happens to all of us from time to time. Don't let it worry ya. :-*
Fondly,
MtD
(Who is always climbing out from under wreckage)
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You asked the question if we have HAD sex, not when, and what our status was when we did....
Now having said that, I THINK that I MIGHT have had sex with one guy when I was HIV+, but I didn't know it, and I don't know what his status was.
Having said that, if you were asking if anyone knowingly had sex with a "neg" while they were poz, in that case, "NO" I haven't, and I doubt you'll get too many answers saying yes to that one.
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I didn't even know what Dragon meant by his post until I read a few replies down.
Thank heavens no one said "niggardly" or anything. That would have really brought the house down.
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N GGERS
want a hint?
People that annoy you.
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NAGGERS not niggers silly!
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I always liked that thing from Family Guy.
" GO UCK YOURSELF" on Wheel of Fortune was "GO TUCK YOURSELF IN."
Tee hee.
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south park did the wheel of fortune thing with the Naggers a few weeks back. hilarious!
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i just blew a hot creamy load down the throat of a neggie.
He liked it.
Me too.
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i just blew a hot creamy load down the throat of a neggie.
He liked it.
Me too.
oh gee. your back. aren't we lucky.
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oh gee. your back. aren't we lucky.
Hope:
Don't assume that everything you read in these forums is necessarily true. Often times, members, who in the crisis of the moment, can and do post things that are more about a cry for help then they are an accurate statement of fact.
Many of us know Dingo.
Whatever he's currently struggling with will eventually come to the surface.
Please, give him and it time to surface.
RAB
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Hope:
Don't assume that everything you read in these forums is necessarily true. Often times, members, who in the crisis of the moment, can and do post things that are more about a cry for help then they are an accurate statement of fact.
Many of us know Dingo.
Whatever he's currently struggling with will eventually come to the surface.
Please, give him and it time to surface.
RAB
I know he is being sarcastic, so was I.
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I use the word "Neggie" all the time. I'm not sure how anyone can mistake it for "nigger".
MtD
:D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D
Too entirely different words. JEEEEZUZ. Watch out for the PC police. There are many where I live. They usually crap their pants if someone says anything close to the N word, but seem to have no problem with heterosexuals using the word "Faggot". I have also found that when heterosexual people of color use the word "Faggot" often agressively, they are given a free pass by the PC police, as they are seen as "more oppressed".
Fuck that shit. (Milker, sorry for the hijack, but I saw absolutely nothing wrong or racist about "neggie" for Christ sake!!!)
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oh gee. your back. aren't we lucky.
I HEART IHAVEHOPE AKA AL!
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"Many of us know Dingo."
Yep, he is very Special to us all!
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i just blew a hot creamy load down the throat of a neggie.
He liked it.
Me too.
Then you paid him and sent him off to his fourth period Algebra class!!
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Oh, Dingo just woke up and just posted about a dream he was having. Poor London, next time Dingo does that to you, piss on his head. ;)
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Yes, but without knowing I was HIV+. Fortunately he remains negative.
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Wow... talk about thread derailment.
Yes, I have played with a neggie... in all possible scenarios, positions, etc.
I have always, however, disclosed. And I haven't topped anyone negative without a condom in 8 - 9 years. However, my vigilance was not always the case. I infected a former lover and I have never forgiven myself.
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i more than likely had sex with many negative people (many unprotected) but before i found out i was positive, but since ive found out (not too long ago) i havent
-josh
(who actually has yet to have sex with a "non-poz" person but has fooled around with them)
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actually, I did and, yes, he knew.
So poop on you.
yes, it is partly about going through emotional distress, but I was out for the first time and 'overdid' it.
then I did 'it'.
I don't regret it either.
(actually it was fifth period scatttt)
and for the record, the puppy only licked my dick once... and that was when I was having sex with my boyfriend on the couch and she couldn't resist... neither could he.
Kinda gross, but it took me a few seconds to realize it wasn't just a 'wet finger'. Puppy was forever banished when getting it on.
and that's my accidental bestiality story. enjoy
kthanxbye.
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lol after reading your post i will make sure my dog is locked out of my room when i have sex.....
she gets jealous anyways and gives me dirty looks when i do have sex and shes in the room ....i usually kick her out anyways because it makes me feel wierd...another human being watching=fun, the dog just makes me feel wierd
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Ahh Dingo, the gift that keeps on giving! ;D
One thing is for damn sure, things will never be boring with you around!!!
Scott AKA Scatttt (Now, Dingo, that was funny!!!)