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Author Topic: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.  (Read 9617 times)

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Offline shadowfluid

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Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« on: March 02, 2008, 11:49:25 pm »
How did this happen?  I give it 3 more months *sigh*
I was at a dinner with 5 couples....they were all trashed and I was sober (cuz I'm a good healthy boy).
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Offline SouthSam7

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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #1 on: March 02, 2008, 11:54:13 pm »
I'm with you on that one.  I don't get it.  My friends who I would never think wanted to get serious all have partners or are dating someone for a while.

I don't think they are any better looking than me.

They don't all get shit-faced, though. 

I can have one or two glasses of wine and I'm hungover the next day.  I think it's because of my meds.


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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #2 on: March 02, 2008, 11:58:05 pm »
I'm with you on that one.  I don't get it.  My friends who I would never think wanted to get serious all have partners or are dating someone for a while.

I don't think they are any better looking than me.

They don't all get shit-faced, though. 

I can have one or two glasses of wine and I'm hungover the next day.  I think it's because of my meds.


I haven't tried drinking yet since starting meds.  I should! Like right now. Ha. I heard that can happen.  I know the day before I puked up viramune all day i couldn't tolerate caffeine for 48 hours. So weird. My liver was probably busy or something?
Yeah I'm def. the mary and not the rhoda of the bunch and I think I'm single cuz gays are scared of me or as my friends say I'm "a big bitch!!" ha.
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Offline SouthSam7

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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #3 on: March 03, 2008, 12:01:21 am »
I don't know why I'm single unless I put off some vibe or subconsciously don't want to be with someone.

You can't drink a whole lot while on meds, although I know some guys who do.

There's a thread going around about liver damage from meds, alcohol, statins, etc., so you have to be careful about your drinking.  You probably have the best idea (no drinking at all).

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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #4 on: March 03, 2008, 12:06:35 am »
I'm confused.  Is this thread about alcohol or homo-fag singledom?
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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #5 on: March 03, 2008, 12:07:51 am »
Yeah me too.  Sorry if I hi-jacked it.

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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #6 on: March 03, 2008, 12:10:12 am »
I'm confused.  Is this thread about alcohol or homo-fag singledom?
Oh I guess I forgot the rules in these forums that you have to STAY ON TOPIC. Must have been the adhd. whoops.
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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #7 on: March 03, 2008, 12:12:40 am »
I like pie
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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #8 on: March 03, 2008, 12:14:55 am »
I like pie
And the most random avatar award goes to you! *claps*
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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #9 on: March 03, 2008, 12:24:11 am »
All my friends have bfs except me. And I often feel like you and guy. I don't think I put off a "don't fuck with me" vibe. But when I try to date and say I am looking to get to know someone and not rush into sex, I get that "confused" look like I am speaking something other than English.
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Offline shadowfluid

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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #10 on: March 03, 2008, 12:31:27 am »
All my friends have bfs except me. And I often feel like you and guy. I don't think I put off a "don't fuck with me" vibe. But when I try to date and say I am looking to get to know someone and not rush into sex, I get that "confused" look like I am speaking something other than English.
All my girls have bfs too!
I want to take it slow too.  Just call me Mr. Bridget Jones.
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Offline Roie

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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #11 on: March 03, 2008, 12:43:47 am »
Please dont drink-
and dont worry, you will find yourself a bf. Of course you will.
Hows school going? How you been feeling on your meds?

My partner and I are 15 yrs together on the 10th Feb, We went out to an Indian rest. for dinner.
« Last Edit: March 03, 2008, 12:56:11 am by Roie »
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Offline next2u

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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #12 on: March 03, 2008, 12:56:31 am »
dude, all my peeps are dating too! dating, or coupled. and if they are stinking drunk then they're high as a kite. and me, im a good boy who can't land a man to save his life. ive dated all, black, white, latino, asian (and everything in between), gay/bi, young (22) & older (55), broke & living decently, poz & neg. goddamnit.

i think im giving off a "im genuinely concerned about your well being now lets fuck" vibe. or maybe its a "you're a loser and im an arrogant bastard, but can we still fuck?" vibe.
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Offline komnaes

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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #13 on: March 03, 2008, 04:16:21 am »
Who needs a boy friend?!?!

Neil Young got it right years ago... "a man maaan maannnnnnn ... a man needs a maid"... :D

I am more in need of a maid than a boyfriend now that's for sure.
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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #14 on: March 03, 2008, 08:19:05 am »
Well, luckily most of my friends are single.  I truly enjoy not being in a relationship. It makes for a much more interesting sex life.
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Offline Texan38

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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #15 on: March 03, 2008, 12:06:57 pm »
Well, all my friends have gotten boyfriends - within time we just stopped talking. Now, the only time I hear from them is when they break up and they know that I'm always here to listen. As far as me getting a boyfriend?....mmmmm....na, don't think so. I enjoy being "friendly"  ;)
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Offline GSOgymrat

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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #16 on: March 03, 2008, 01:14:21 pm »
I've lost many a gay workout partner to domesticity. When they are single they workout all the time. Then they find love and get all fat and happy.

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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #17 on: March 03, 2008, 01:28:02 pm »
I've lost many a gay workout partner to domesticity. When they are single they workout all the time. Then they find love and get all fat and happy.

You've got that right!  Just ask my hubby how true this is.  Man, I was in shape when I was single, but then again I was quite a bit younger (33). 

As to being the only single... hubby and I were with a group of about 9 guys the other evening.  We were the only two who were (still) a couple.  Go figure.  Attitude certainly has a lot to do with it.  I don't know how well things would go when even friends call one a 'big bitch'.  Now, a 'big slut', that'll certainly get you lots of boyfriends!   ;D

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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #18 on: March 03, 2008, 02:32:21 pm »
I dont have time for a boyfriend...thats my excuse ....that and i enjoy my space :-D
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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #19 on: March 03, 2008, 03:00:12 pm »
I haven't seen my boyfriend in weeks. I suspect he may have caught onto the fact that 'boyfriend' is kind of an obsolete title in our relationship.  :-\

I don't want to be single, but fuck, right now I just can't deal with a relationship.

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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #20 on: March 03, 2008, 03:13:22 pm »
I am more in need of a maid than a boyfriend now that's for sure.
My sentiments , exactly!
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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #21 on: March 03, 2008, 07:14:30 pm »
Quote
I've lost many a gay workout partner to domesticity. When they are single they workout all the time. Then they find love and get all fat and happy.

AMEN!!

Me and the bf were laying in bed at noon on Saturday thinking "we should workout" but just decided to stay in bed :)   

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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #22 on: March 05, 2008, 08:16:05 am »
There is something wrong with this picture. :)

Not from where I'm sitting.  Nice avvy!  Hey....   :P


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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #23 on: March 05, 2008, 02:15:07 pm »
I've lost many a gay workout partner to domesticity. When they are single they workout all the time. Then they find love and get all fat and happy.

I was going to argue strenuously against your point, but I just found a bag of cookies...

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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #24 on: March 05, 2008, 02:40:32 pm »
Not from where I'm sitting.  Nice avvy!  Hey....   :P

Barbara please... and if you think I didn't see your obvious swarming in the comments section of Miss Shadow's myspace page you are GREATLY mistaken.  Philicia knows all on teh intrawebz.
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Offline thunter34

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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #25 on: March 05, 2008, 02:54:41 pm »
Barbara please... and if you think I didn't see your obvious swarming in the comments section of Miss Shadow's myspace page you are GREATLY mistaken.  Philicia knows all on teh intrawebz.

Hey - no shame in my game, honey.  While I question this alleged "swarming", I make no bones about calling out pretty when I see it.  She may have ugly toes, but from the ankles up Miss Shadow's doin' alright. 

And I would never make a mistake like that about you, dear.  I assume you troll every virtual gutter as surely as you do the real ones. 

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Offline DCGUY2007

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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #26 on: March 07, 2008, 03:32:09 am »
All my friends now have boyfriends too. It's a bummer.

Oh well grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence. :)

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Re: Wow. All my gays have boyfriends now.
« Reply #27 on: May 08, 2008, 04:03:33 am »
Hey - no shame in my game, honey.  While I question this alleged "swarming", I make no bones about calling out pretty when I see it.  She may have ugly toes, but from the ankles up Miss Shadow's doin' alright. 

And I would never make a mistake like that about you, dear.  I assume you troll every virtual gutter as surely as you do the real ones. 

Kisses,

T

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