andy, ann ,may i have your attention please

[halomano]

hello
first of all i would like to thank every one in this site who are helping other pepole
i wanted to ask you about a risk (sorry for my bad english)
4 days ago i meet a man in a bar(i'm gay)
we get in my car then i drove to a drak place we did a deep french kiss then he sucked me and i sucked him
but while suking him i did not get the head of his sex in my mouth i only sucked the tube (i hope you can understand me because i don't know the correct words in english)but i don't know if i've been in contact with his semen liquide or not but he does not cum into my mouth and i did not cum in his too
since that day i'm very sacred and i don't arrive to do anything even going to my job
my questions are
1-Have I put myself at risk for HIV infection
2-is it normal to devlop primery infection signs the day after the risk because i fall in a hard flu jsut the day after the risk
3-if he has some cut on his sex ?

thanks a lot for listing to me

[RapidRod]

1. NO
2. NO
3. NO

[Andy Velez]

You are worrying needlessly. Your saliva has over a dozen elements and proteins which very effectively prevent the transmission of viable HIV, if it is even present. The way in which you sucked the guy was even less of a risk since you never had the head of the penis in your mouth. But even if you had it in your mouth the risk is strictly theoretical.

As far as being sucked, in the entire history of the epidemic there's never been a confirmed case of a guy becoming infected that way. You won't make history by becoming the first.

There was/is no need for testing over this incident. Any symptoms you are experiencing are conincidental and have nothing to do with HIV. Speak to your doctor about them if they continue.

This is not an HIV situation. Period.

Cheers.

[halomano]

thanks a lot for your answer
i need really to speak to some one
i'm a gay man and i feel that it's a punishment to be a gay because i have always the fear of getting hiv
i have never been happy all my life,i have never practise sex as all peopole !!
even when i did i always wear condom but always have the fear of getting hiv from oral sex !
here in france they said that 8 per cent of hiv infection are from oral sex and especilay receptive (who sucks)
i don't know really waht to do ,and who belive ? may i forget my fear and practise my sexual life normaly and only wear condom in anal sex  ,may i stop sex,may i may be die !
 is oral sex witout condom safe?if i suck some one or some one sucked me without cuming safe?
i was always unlucky and i think that i'll die unlucky
thanks again and very happy to know you

[RapidRod]

Then I suggest you seek help from a mental help professional.

[Andy Velez]

Those are serious concerns that you have and they ought to be dealt with in a serious way. I recommend that you see a therapist or other professional to discuss everything in a safe setting.

Life is too short to be spent being unhappy.

Good luck with getting things addressed in a proper setting. We can't do that for you here.

Cheers.

[halomano]

ok i'll try to get this proffesionel help
but can u tell me
in france in a very television programs and in magazines they saif that 8 percent of hiv infection is from oral sex ,how ever others said that is not proved
may i know your point of view
thank u !

[Andy Velez]

Frankly, I am not willing to discuss this issue with you any longer beyond saying that is nonsense and non-scientific material you are quoting. 

You did not have a risk. And you have made it clear from your remarks that you have issues about HIV that cannot be resolved in this setting.

Instead of seeking out material that will only fuel your fears how about doing something really worthwhile like getting some professional help with your problem.

You are very quickly heading towards a Time Out from this site if you continue to return with the same non-problem about HIV.

[halomano]

dear andy
my fears this time is real because i've sopke with this man and he told me that he never did a test and he is not concerned with hiv and he did an unportected sex but his health is good
i become crazy
what shall i do
i'm nearly sure that i recived a little bit of his semen liquide in my mouth
and we did a hard deep kissing
what can i do andy
pls help me

[Andy Velez]

Halo, you need to get yourself some professional help about your HIV fears. We can't help you in this setting with that problem.

I'm going to give you the 28 day Time Out you have been warned about. Don't make the mistake of trying to get around that by creating a new name here. We'll be able to identify you and it will cause you to be permanently banned from the site.

HIV is not your problem no matter what your head is telling you otherwise. Get some help.