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HIV Prevention and Testing => Do I Have HIV? => Topic started by: kylerlu on February 13, 2013, 01:43:19 pm
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Hi guys!
Last month, January 2013, I met a guy and we dated. We then had protected sex. Just last week, he told me that he was HIV positive. I said that it was ok but deep down, I was very scared...
Guys, I am a top and wore condoms everytime we had sex. However, i received a blowjob from him without wearing a condom. Also, I am wearing braces and usually have mouth sores when we kissed... Although I never gave him a blowjob, there was a time that we kissed when both of us have mouth sores... Do you guys think that I am at risk? Also, when is the best time to test for HIV as it might fall on a window period? And what test would generate an accurate result with the least waiting time I don't think I can wait for 6 months... The last time we had sex was on Feb 4.
Guys I need your advise on this... It scares me and I love my partner but he should have told me about it earlier so we could have taken more precautions... Do you guys think I am at risk of HIV? Thanks so much!
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Kyler,
You have already been taking the only precaution you need - you used condoms for anal (or vaginal) intercourse. That's all you need to do in order to remain hiv negative.
Getting a blowjob is absolutely not a risk for hiv infection. Kissing is also not a risk. Not only is saliva not infectious, but it also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect.
There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.
Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:
You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.
To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.
Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.
ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV SPECIFICALLY OVER KISSING OR A BLOWJOB , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.
If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.
Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!
Ann
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Hi Ann!
Thanks so much! I was really panicking... But what if me and my partner kissed when we both have mouth sores? Mouth sores are considered open wounds right? Could I possibly be at risk at that? I'm sorry to bother Ann, it just really scares me...
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And I remembered masturbating him until he came. Then wiping my hands off before using it to masturbate mine... Is it risky? Please help...
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The only precaution you need to take to avoid HIV is to wear a condom when having penetrative sex.
You do NOT get HIV from kissing, sores or no sores. Saliva is not infectious - as a matter of fact, it contains over a dozen identified elements that neutralize HIV.
You can masturbate with his ejaculate if you want (though it might not hold up well as lubrication) and you will be in NO danger of infection. HIV absolutely can NOT be transmitted outside the body. It is a very fragile virus, for all the stigma surrounding it.
As a top, your risk is significantly lower than if you were the receptive partner in anal sex. If your partner is on medication for HIV and his viral load is undetectable, you stand a better chance of being hit by lightning while riding a donkey than getting HIV, even if a condom breaks or you forget to wear one.
You and your partner are already taking ALL the precautions you need when you wear s condom for penetrative sex. And if being in a relationship with you inspires him to be vigilant on medication (or start,) then that is an added level of protection - along with a bonus for his health.