Scared and need confirmation!!!

[Dillikabilla]

Hi,

First of all, thanks for doing awesome work you all are doing.
I spent night with one of my friend, whom I know and she got tested negative on 29th November.
Below are my exposures:

We did deep open mouth kissing multiple times for 20-30 seconds everytime. No blood, no dental surgery, no sores involved.
I did finger her multiple times but with condom on my fingers.
I kissed on her chicks where she had few pimples, but no active/fresh blood out of those pimples.
This one is the most dangerous one happened with me. We were naked and I was kissing her, being on top of her. For 1-2 seconds, my penis touched upper part (close to vagina) of her vagina. I am not sure whether she had vaginal fluid on the surface of vagina. I am afraid if my urethra touched vaginal fluid on vaginal surface.
She scratched with her nails on my buttocks
I licked her nipples multiple times and she is not lactating (licked, not sucked)

Please let me know if any of above activity did put me on risk for hiv.
I am really scared and planning to test over this episode.

Thanks.

[Jim Allen]

Hi

whom I know and she got tested negative on 29th November.

This means nothing, forget about it. She could test this morning and it would only reflect her HIV status from 3 months ago. No good to you at all.

To start with HIV isn’t transmitted By hugging, shaking hands, sharing toilets, sharing dishes, kissing, through saliva, tears, or sweat. So you can put any of them concerns out of your mind.

Rubbing against her and the vaginal fluid was also not a risk, HIV is only sexually transmitted inside the human body as in never leaving the confines. HIV does not remain infectouise outside the human body, once hiv finds itself exposed outside the body, small changes in temperature, pH / moisture levels all damage the receptors needed to infect you thus render it unable to infect you. 

On top of that the fluid you came into contact with was not HIV infectouise to start with the fluid a woman produces when sexually excited comes from the Bartholin's glands, this is a lubricating fluid and does not have any more hiv present than other bodily secretions such as saliva, sweat or tears. Saliva, sweat and tears are not infectious fluids.  Not that it really matters even if it had been blood it would not be a concern as it was exposed outside the body before reaching you.

Biologically HIV firstly needs to be present for it to be a risk and in sufficient quantity for it to transmit, it also than needs an effective route, and it must also reach cells which are susceptible to infection.  All 4 conditions must be met for transmission to even be possible in theory and nothing you mentioned met them.

My advise is if this was the only concern it is safe to move on with your life.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions.

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information on HIV Basics, PEP, TaSP and Transmission can be found through the links in my signature to our POZ pages, this includes information on HIV Testing

Kind regards

Jim

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[Jim Allen]

I licked her nipples multiple times and she is not lactating (licked, not sucked)

Ill add for clarity this would only be concern if you are an infant.
As your not and you are an adult you could have sucked her nipples for as long as she liked and it would not be a concern

Jim

[Dillikabilla]

Thank you so much Jim for detailed reply.
It is such a big relief to read this.

Sorry for late reply as I live in India, so timezone difference.
I will be rest assured now and will continue my normal intercourse with my wife.

Thanks again.

[Dillikabilla]

One more and last thing to ask.
I rubbed my penis (with my underwear on) on her buttocks (with towel wrapped around her buttocks).

No anal penetration, no skin contact.
Any risk here?

Thanks.

[Jim Allen]

Already answered.
The towel is not inside the human body

HIV is only sexually transmitted inside the human body as in never leaving the confines. HIV does not remain infectouise outside the human body, once hiv finds itself exposed outside the body, small changes in temperature, pH / moisture levels all damage the receptors needed to infect you thus render it unable to infect you.

Just saw your 2nd post

I will be rest assured now and will continue my normal intercourse with my wife.   

This would be your only HIV risk if its unprotected intercourse. It seems to be or i gather it is a risk you accept.

Jim