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Main Forums => Living With HIV => Topic started by: 27years on March 01, 2008, 11:51:13 am
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I have just moved from one town to another because of work. I have to change my Dr and am not sure if i will be comfortable with the new one though I haven't met him/her yet. I feel so scared and alone to be in the my new town. i have spend the whole day in my room feeling very sad and sorry for myself which i hardly used to do. recently my mood swings from a happy person to being depressed. Are these feelings normal. How are you feeling today maybe that will make me understand that i am not alone.
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Hi, I've never relocated as an adult so I can only imagine what you're going through. Here are some resources you might find useful
Find a doctor:
http://www.aahivm.org/index.php?option=com_comprofiler&task=usersList
Find local support services re: HIV/AIDS:
http://www.asofinder.com
Hang in there
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Hi 27years-
Oh, yes...been there, done that. I moved where I am presently, 4 yrs ago after being with my ID doc from initial diagnosis back in 93. It will take some time but you will get acclimated to the new office procedures. You might find that you like something that they do that you old doctor did not. I looked at it in the way, this is something I have to do to live, so I just faced my fear and did it. I totally understand your fear but you will do fine. I have gotten used to and trust my new doc.
I think what you are feeling probably is normal since it just happened, it takes awhile to get used to a new area. My SO is from here but I have basically been on my own since moving here. I have kids so I have been focused on them and I am just starting to get out on my own because I know that is what is best for me. Find something you are interested in and go for it. If you like to read, read a book, I find if I read a book it takes me away from my situation for awhile. Whatever you do, don't stop taking care of yourself.
Today and everyday I feel blessed even though my circumstances aren't the best, they could certainly be worse. You are never alone cuz you can come and talk to the people on this forum.
I wish you the best, 27.
Snow
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27 dont feel like this get out there explore you need to keep on top of things :-*
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Keep the mind busy with something you like.
I think the " bug" and the meds compound the depressed feelings we all get.
As for me today, I'm in a funk. so to combat that i will make a old family receipt for dinner.
I don't want to do anything today and this dish is a chore. i will destroy the kitchen and mess up every frying pan and pot in the house, but i will be busy. Watching the family enjoy the meal will do wonders for my mood.
Just have to find what works for you.
Lucas
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Moving to an unfamiliar town can do it every time. You need to get out and find some support. Try to locate your nearest ASO, see if they have support groups etc. Good luck.
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Moving to another town, starting new again....I can see why that can make anyone freak out. But hey, I see it as you getting a fresh start. Go out and explore the new town. Keep your chin up, things can only get better!
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Sometimes I wish I was in USA like most of you, where I am there is no HIV support group that I know or heard of. I have to rely on my Dr, before it was ok because i was so used to my Dr and I could talk to him about anything but hey now that I have moved its a new start. The kind of support groups that are around are not HIV specific they just help people at work with day to day problems, I am finding it so difficult to go to someone who might not even have a clue what HIV is all about and how I am feeling and ask for support, wish they was an organisation or if I knew anyone who is in the same situation like me. I feel so better when I visit this site because people can relate to how things are. Anyway I have just told myself that I need to get a grip of things because it could be worse. Hopefully things will get better when i start work sometime this week. I will keep you updated on how the days go by, Earlier on I was trying to read a book to divert my thought but just realised nothing is sinking in my head will just play my wii games maybe I will feel better. Thanks everyone for your support
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Hi 27 years.
Sometimes I wish I was in USA like most of you, where I am there is no HIV support group that I know or heard of. . . .. The kind of support groups that are around are not HIV specific they just help people at work with day to day problems, I am finding it so difficult to go to someone who might not even have a clue what HIV is all about and how I am feeling and ask for support, wish they was an organisation or if I knew anyone who is in the same situation like me. I feel so better when I visit this site because people can relate to how things are. . . .
I'm in the US myself and not very good at digging out the support organizations elsewhere. But I've seen lots of other knowledgeable people on this site dig up support organizations for people in a lot of different cities and countries. Perhaps if you were willing to satay where you are from someone on here could help you find local support as well?
In the meantime, we are here to listen.
Regards
Assurbanipal
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am in germany but speak english not germany at all thats why its so difficult for me to find the support groups. will start germany language lessons soon.
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I assumed you're from the USA, I'm sorry. Just remember doctors can refer you to support groups and vice versa. Stay strong.
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Hi, if living in Germany you should be able to find some help or addresses of German Organisations from Google, here there are some addresses i could find.
http://www.thebody.com/index/hotlines/internat.html#germany
Perhaps you had already google this, but well... i just hope i could contribute a bit.
cheers,
Juan Carlos
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thanks for the links i have managed to get some org that are close by, I am settling in well in my new job the people are alright, though i am not planning to disclose to them anytime soon. I am still waiting to go and register with my new Dr they are still waiting for my medical records from the previous Dr. So far at least i have something to look forward to and its going to work. My spirits hav been lifted up because of work I feel a bit better today
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Moving to an unfamiliar town can do it every time.
All of my worst depressive periods have been right after I've moved. The first 18 years of my life were spent in the same town... same house even. Since then I've had 4 major moves to different cities and each time the same thing happens, and it often lasts an entire year.
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27years,
It's great to hear you are feeling better. Things will improve as you get a handle on your new surroundings, job and language there.
David
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I have just been to my new Dr, because of a sore throat. I didnt tell her of my status thinking she already knew from Computer records which she had from the previous Dr. She gave me a spray and some asprin to gargle and some time off work and said it might be a bug just going around. When i was about to go out i asked if hiv might have triggered it for me and she was shocked. She never expected it from me and she wouldnt have assumed at all if i hadnt told her. After the initial shock she told me she hasnt had any patient under her care who are pos (not sure if i should take it as a compliment or insult) and she hasnt got that much experience with it. The thing is i wont be going to her for my lab work so I am not worried about her experience with hiv that much. We discussed my care plan plan, my ups and downs i have had living with the virus. She has offered me her support whenever possible even if its just poping for a chat. i was really dreading this appointment with her but she has made it more welcoming for me to turn to her. Having read about nasty Dr i wouldnt complain about my initial appointment with mine. Although my throat is bad I wasnt worried about it compared to how i was feeling about meeting a new Dr. Hope i will get better soon and get back to work
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Its not even a 6 months since i moved to this town in germany and now I am moving again, this time to another country because of work and some personal issues. Its alright to go though I will miss some of the Germany collegues i have met through these forum. Hopefully its a blessing when i get there, at least its somewhere familiar so I wont have any major dramas settling, but the thought of moving just sucks. Its something which i have to get used to with my job. I am not changing my hiv dr so thats one problem out of my way, just have to register with a new GP and thats it. Goodbye to all Germany friends, I will keep in touch