True Love

[goatwriter]

Something strange and wonderful has happened recently. I've fallen in love, and with someone who loves me. What is really strange about it to me is that she is negative. I've been poz about 12 years now, and in that time I've suffered. Not physically, luckily, but mentally and emotionally for not having love and sex.
Actually if you had asked me a few months ago i would have told you I didn't believe in love. The dating game had become a rather cynical and compromised farce using the dating sites. Sure, i met a couple of interesting women, but not who I would have chosen out in the real world. I guess I thought the best it could be is kind of like an arranged marriage where you might learn to like and respect each other.
 I first met this girl 7 years ago. It was love at first sight and we spent 3 weeks together. We had sex, I didn't disclose until after the act and although upset at first she forgave me and still wanted to be with me.( it was unsafe sex as well. Although I'm not trying to excuse it. I f*cked up. bit she was more understanding than I was of myself ) We lived in separate countires though and the long distacne relationship broke.
 Now 7 years later we met again and the love is stronger than ever. She told me she was afraid of the hiv before, after she went home and tested negative. But she said now she is not afraid at all. And i don't think about it either. It doesn't really come into the relationship. The sex is the best I've had. ( and I've had a lot). Using condoms is not a problem for either of us, and neither of us is worried about oral sex. And the thing is , whatever risk there is, that risk is worth it to be together.
 Actually, she finds it ridiculous that a person would choose not to be with someone just because of there hiv status. Like many neg people i know she also feels there is no obligation for a poz person to disclose if having sex with condoms. That is, there is no moral obligation.
 I realise I'm extremely lucky in this. Its like the need for us to be together out weighs anything else. Even hiv. So this is True love.
 I never thought I'd find it again in this life. I really believed it was all about compromise. But it happened. And if it happened to me...
 So, don't give up. And don't give up on negative people. That's my advice anyway. Peace.

[Andy Velez]

That's a powerful story and journey you and your friend have made. Lots of good luck to you in continuing to enjoy each other.

It's a reminder that if we keep on breathing and staying open to possibilities, along with ups and downs, great and good things are always possible.

Cheers,

[ACinKC]

YOU SEE GUYS!  Its NOT just me!

CONGRATS Goat!  You deserve it and so does she!