I had Sex with an escort who had NO RESTRICTIONS .

[mluciej]

Hi guys , I really really need some help .

Im male 23 .

I've been having a Terrible year , no friends , no girlfriend , bad job , just bad life in general . On Sunday October 31 / 2015 I decided to meet up with an escort , she was 39 blonde , and on her ad she had No restrictions , I asked her and she told me she was open for everything . I asked her about tests and she told me she she gets tested every 2 weeks and is clean , not sure how true that is .

I really dont wana write massive paragraphs because its hard to follow so I'll just write cliff notes of most important points so its easy to follow .


- We met up on October 31 / 2015 at her motel , I paid for half hour service but she was very chill and relaxed and I actually stayed for 2 hours , we chatted alot .

- For the first 30 - 45 mins were just chatting about her life as an escort , what happens , crazy stories , we talk about her kids , etc . We do some light kissing aswell

- Then we decide to have sex , I told her lets use a condom for the sex but no condom for blowjob ( stupid mistake on my part )

- So she proceeds to give me a blowjob without a condom, she blows me for about 10-15 mins , then we slip on a condom and do some vaginal sex for about 3-5 mins . I looked down and made sure the condom was always on my penis .

- We take a break to talk and she smokes .

- She then gives me a blowjob without condom again for about 10 - 15 mins , we then decide to do anal . So she puts on a condom on me and we make an attempt at anal but it does not fit , we try a few times putting it in but no can do , so we give up.

- I then tell her we'll go for vaginal sex and she agrees but stops me first because we have to switch the condoms is what she tells me . I asked why and she told me something about a womans PH level , I had no idea .

- We change condom and go to vaginal sex for 5-10 mins in doggy position

- She then gives me a blowjob for a few mins , after that I *** on her face .

- I go to the bathroom , wash off , dry , put clothes on and leave .

----------------------- End of encounter --------------------

- I was paranoid for the next few days so I called her and pretended I wanted to see her again for her services but this time I wanted to see her results before hand .

- She agreed and said she gets tested on thursday . She agreed to do it but whenever I talked about her results , she tells me shes clean . But then shes very sarcastic as in saying " she proudly hangs her result papers on her wall like a doctor with a phd"

- I text her around wed reminding her to get her results and she agrees but then she says stuff to me like " If I get tested now , the results will be in on tuesday and in that time frame I will prob sleep with 10-20 guys " She kept making these excuses

- On thursday I went to the bathroom to pee and I felt a burning sensation , I drank more water to make myself pee again to make sure it wasnt an odd one time , but second time I felt the burn aswell .

- Later in the day Im at the mall and I go to the bathroom to pee and I notice small discharge coming out of my tip .

- I then text her to see if she did her tests and same bs from her ... she told me shes going on friday . So I called her and told her she might of given me an STD since I felt burning when I went to pee today and I had puss discharge coming out of me . She got angry and said I didnt get it from her and hung up.

- I call back and shes mad at me , tells me shes clean , this and that and hangs up.

- Then we basically proceed to text each other for the next 15-20 mins .. and shes pissed off texting me in capital letters . Saying I cant diagnose myself and she said its prob a yeast infection I got because escorts get that alot .
I thought she was joking because I thought only girls get yeast infections . . and she said it might of been her bath shower I used to clean up .

- She was very angry at me and told me she never had any clients say this to her .

- We texted angrily a bit , insulting each other . I told her I would expose her std status and report her and have her arrested and she called me a few names then blocked me .

----------- End of convo with escort ---------------

I went to my sexual health clinic on Wed and explain to them my problem and did a urine test for chlamydia and gonorrhea .

- I called them up yesterday to check myself and it all came back negative , I was confused and extremlly worried . Because it doesnt add up

- Im getting discharge pus coming out of me , Im getting a burning sensation while I pee , I had discharge puss come out of me 3 days and I get the burning feeling Alot today . Also this is weird but today when I got home from work I notcied I started to feel itchy around my body . I tried to control and not think about it but it was itchy is some random area , back , arm , hand , face ... but nothing to crazy . I just took a benadryll

- When I was speaking with the sexual health lady over the phone yesterday I was panicking , so I rushed to the clinic yesterday and had the doctor check me out , she took a swab and put around my penis hole , then I peed in 2 cups .


Im realllly freaking out guys .... I made the biggest mistake of my life and now I think my life is over ..... how will I ever tell my parents I got HIV ? OMG THAT WILL DESTROY THEM ...... my life will not have anymore meaning .

Im terrified guys , is there anything I can do or is it all over ? is it a waiting game now ? Gosh I regret my decision soo much ... : - (

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Update : I went to my doctors today and explained to him my situation , he told me I had symptoms of gonorrhea , even thou I tested negative for gonorrhea at the sexual health clinic . He said I should take the medicine and I also gave urine and blood samples to test for other std's

Im still very very scared guys ... my situation , could I have gotten HIV I cannot wait 3 months in pain until I find out , oh boy , this is soo hard . : (

[Jeff G]

You had protected vaginal and anal sex and that is not a risk for HIV … getting a blow job is not a risk . Leave this poor woman alone, if you are having anxiety its your problem and not hers and the truth is the only HIV test that matters is your own test taken at the appropriate time. You did not have a risk or a need to test but I will give you the facts anyway.

You can read about testing here...
http://www.aidsmeds.com/articles/HIVtests_5029.shtml
 
Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI.Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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[Jeff G]

Quite frankly if I were her I would get a restraining order against you … What you shared with me is outrageous and you should be ashamed of yourself.

[mluciej]

Quite frankly if I were her I would get a restraining order against you … What you shared with me is outrageous and you should be ashamed of yourself.

Thanks for the quick reply .

I prob look bad by the way I explained my situation and I prob didnt handle it very well . But she did agree to show me her test results and whenever I brought it up she could start making excuses not to show it , this was very suspicious . Shes also offering sex without condoms with her clients , who in their right mind would have unprotected sex with random clients ? This made me think she prob already has a virus is isnt worried about catching something because she already has it .

I thought I might of caught something from her and called her to let her know so she doesnt put other guys at risk . My doctor told me I had symptoms of gonorrhea . I wanted to let her know so she could get tested and get the medicine instead of putting other guys at risks .

Its a very difficult situation , thanks for the advice you gave me but I honestly dont think I did anything to that escort that I should feel ashamed about .

[Joe K]

You can try and rationalize your actions all you want, but nobody made you the "sex police."  If you are not adult enough to handle using an escort, don't.  She is under no obligation to give you any test results and you hounding her for the results are not the way to go.  Protect yourself and let her worry about her own health.

Joe

[Jeff G]

- We texted angrily a bit , insulting each other . I told her I would expose her std status and report her and have her arrested and she called me a few names then blocked me .

What you tried to do was blackmail a woman into doing what you wanted her to do to ease your unfounded anxiety after you freaked out about a risk YOU DID NOT HAVE .
Put on your big boy pants and take responsibility … The only test for HIV or an std that matters is the one you take at the appropriate time, never ask another person to take a HIV test for you , all you learn from an HIV test is that she did not have HIV 13 weeks ago. She could have been infected 3 days after her last test and highly infectious. Asking another persons HIV status or asking for test results to gauge your own risk is a good way to end up HIV positive …

How would you feel if this woman stalked you demanding things from you ?

You willingly had sex with this woman and she owes you nothing .

[mluciej]

Alright guys , I handled the situation poorly , I asked scared but it doesnt matter Im never going to be renting an escort again , or putting myself in this type of situation , I just cannot deal with it with all my anxiety .

I know have a question thou , today I noticed and felt my right jawline had a weird feeling to it , Im not gona say its discomfort but it felt odd , maybe my right jawline feels bigger then my left jawline ..... is this any indication of HIV or any other symptom ?

I cannot go on google and do research because my anxiety will just freak out

[Jeff G]

You did not have a risk for HIV so if this is you’re only concern it’s not HIV making you sick .

We do not discuss symptoms and advise you to see a doctor if you are sick.

[Jeff G]

You did not have a risk for HIV so if this is you’re only concern it’s not HIV making you sick .

We do not discuss symptoms and advise you to see a doctor if you are sick.

We forgot to set your user settings to prevent you from sending personal messages continuing to ask questions about your no risk incident. There really is nothing more to add to your assessment than we already have.