Could I now have HIV?

[callmesteve]

Hi everyone I am 17 years old and I made the biggest mistake of my life. I am a male, Was a virgin and still a virgin. I met a guy on the website Craigslist. We met outside in his car and we kissed for ages and I gave him oral ( BJ )  and he did do some fingering. He never came, I don't think he pre-cumed not sure. I kept spitting every 30 seconds.

I am sorry for writing that.

I am worried I may have contracted HIV. I didn't have sex ( No sex or anal happened ) but my mind is going 90.

When I came home I noticed there was blood from my back passage and it's scared me. He never used lube and was unprotected ( Fingering no anal ) I had diarrhea and seen bits of red things and was freaking out.

I am so scared right now. Biggest mistake and head is filled with worry. When I came home I cleaned myself. I need answers and information if anyone can help this will be a lot. I don't know if I should go to my local doctors in the morning or not.

He did want to have sex ( unprotected ) but I did say no. I said no condom no sex. So we didn't have sex. I asked him his HIV status he said Neg. He said he was with a guy for 10 years and no other men. Clearly people on this site all don't tell the truth.

Please if anyone can share advice. I am so scared right now in case I have HIV.

Edit: I also brushed my death 45 minutes before I met him and gave him oral.

Thanks,

Steve

[Jeff G]

You are going to be perfectly OK so you can relax now . Fingering is not a risk and no one has ever been infected from that . Oral sex is one of the safest of safe practices and you did not get HIV from giving a BJ . Also , you need not apologize for writing a single thing here , that's why we are here and what we do .

There have been no fewer than three separate serodiscordant couples studies (where one person is HIV positive, the other negative.) These couples were tracked for three. five and ten years. The couples used condoms for penetrative vaginal and anal sex, but NO BARRIER at all for oral sex. Any kind of oral sex.

These studies yielded NO infections .

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED HIV TESTING AT THIS TIME for this incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Now that you are sexually active it will be necessary to get those sexual healthcare checkups , its the responsible thing to do when you come of age and begin to have sex .
You really can relax , if you had a risk I would have told you straight up so you could take care of business , but you did not and now you can put this fear aside . best of luck .

[callmesteve]

Hi Jeff,

I do get tested a lot. I have been with a girl but never anything sexual.

I need to ask this?

1. If someone sucks there finger and then fingers you who is HIV positive could they pass on the virus to you?

2. Can you get HIV from giving a man a blowjob who may have HIV but never cummed?

3. Edit- I did have very bad diarrhea when I came home and I did see blood. I did have piles last year. I am so worried.

This guy says he was Neg but I don't know. My mind is racing. I know getting tested now won't show up because it's way to early. I am so scared.

[Jeff G]

1. If someone sucks there finger and then fingers you who is HIV positive could they pass on the virus to you?

No . Saliva isn't infectious for HIV and HIV cant survive outside the human body for more than an instant ... even from mouth to butt LOL . Small changes in PH levels and temperature changes damages HIV and renders it unable to infect . 

2. Can you get HIV from giving a man a blowjob who may have HIV but never cummed?

If a man has a very high viral load and you have major wounds in your mouth there is a theoretical risk ... and that's clearly not your situation . Read the snippet from the study I posted above again , its conclusive . 

These are the risk factors for HIV .

Sharing IV drug injection equipment .
Unprotected vaginal or anal sex .
From mother to child during pregnancy or during childbirth

Just use condoms correctly an consistently for vaginal and anal sex and you will avoid HIV . Stop worrying and enjoy your sex life .   

[callmesteve]

1. If someone sucks there finger and then fingers you who is HIV positive could they pass on the virus to you?

No . Saliva isn't infectious for HIV and HIV cant survive outside the human body for more than an instant ... even from mouth to butt LOL . Small changes in PH levels and temperature changes damages HIV and renders it unable to infect . 

2. Can you get HIV from giving a man a blowjob who may have HIV but never cummed?

If a man has a very high viral load and you have major wounds in your mouth there is a theoretical risk ... and that's clearly not your situation . Read the snippet from the study I posted above again , its conclusive . 

These are the risk factors for HIV .

Sharing IV drug injection equipment .
Unprotected vaginal or anal sex .
From mother to child during pregnancy or during childbirth

Just use condoms correctly an consistently for vaginal and anal sex and you will avoid HIV . Stop worrying and enjoy your sex life .

Thank you Jeff,

I still will be seeing the doctor. I don't know if I should call in the morning?

I just am worried because when I came home I had diarrhea and there was blood and if he did finger me and there was blood already it would worry me.

Like I said this man really wanted unprotected anal and I said NO.

It's just the way he was getting on and wanted it so much. I did say NO and I went home. He did lick his fingers before he did finger me.

It lasted a few minutes.

If you have any more advice please share. Thank you. I won't be sleeping tonight.

[Jeff G]

You seem to be ignoring the fact I emphatically said you did not have a risk . If you cant accept it then go test for peace of mind . You have been given the straight up facts , so there is really nothing more to say . I do hate to see you stress over NOTHING though .

[jkinatl2]

Saliva is not infectious. Therefore you cannot get HIV from someone licking a finger and sticking it in you.

I hope that was concise enough.