Unduly Worried

[UndulyWorried]

Hi Everyone

I would first like to say thanks to you all for the great work you are doing.  I have reading the forum wondering If I should post or not, but I decided to try and get some advice from you guys.

Well heres my story......

Towards the end of 2008 I was working in scandanavia and had been for about a year.  I was going through a difficult time in a relationship and was depressed. 

I got friendly with two young ladies and the above coupled with alot of alcohol lead me to have a sexual encounter with both of them within a week.  These ladies were just normal girls not prostitutes etc and both were just one-offs.

The first was unprotected vaginal intercourse, I started for about 30 secs and then thought "What I am doing" and stopped.  I didnt finish and there was no ejaculation.

The second was just some fingering.  Again I sobered up pretty quickly and decided that I didnt want to be this person any more.  Since these issues I have tried successfully to remain faithful to my girlfriend and have regretted deeply these incidents ever since.  I have tried to be a better person to both my girlfriend and child.

On returning to the UK I thought I should take responsibility for my actions and went to the local GUM clinic and got tested.  I tested -VE at 9.5 weeks for the first incident and 8.5 for the second respectively.  The doctor did say I would need retesting at 12 weeks but I didnt really understand why......needless to say due to my naivety I didnt return to get my confirmation test.

Fast forward 3 years and I was by chance reading the internet and looked at an article about window period and 12 week confirmation tests.  Since then my world has been upside down, constantly worried that I still could have tested +ve and infected my child and partner.  About 4 months ago I started to have some mild skin irritation on my neck, shoulders and forearms (I still have it ) and a funny feeling in my left eye (still have it), I have also started feeling tired and having back pains and sleeping more as well as intermittent groin pain.

I started getting really worried and went back to the GUM clinic who said I was worrying unescessarily and that they didnt recommend retesting as in their opinion 9.5/10 weeks were more than reliable (I didnt know what test was used).  I also went to my GP who basically said the same.  I was referred to a phycologist and I am still undergoing treatment with them for medical anxiety.

I couldnt take it any more so I contacted the lady I had sex with and just asked her, she has since had a baby and says she is OK.  I also contacted the second lady and she did not say anything untoward.  I was still worried so I booked a private clinic for a test, I had a 1 minute DUO test that was -VE.  I picked up then until I was reading about false negatives, I have now started questioning the test results.  The main fear has would be infecting those who I love so dear over a stupid immature action.
I still have the so-called symptoms that are very real to me and am considering another test.  Should I just trust the doctors, the testing and move on (more difficult to do in reality).

Your views would be very much appreciated.

[Matty the Damned]

The only thing that stands out from this boring wall of text is the unprotected vaginal sex.

The first was unprotected vaginal intercourse, I started for about 30 secs and then thought "What I am doing" and stopped.  I didnt finish and there was no ejaculation.

The rest of your post is just narcissistic bullshit.

2008 was a long time ago. The window period for HIV testing is three months. Go and get tested for HIV and all the other commonly transmitted STI's.

I expect that you'll test negative for HIV. You should expect the same.

Normally I'd post a link to our Welcome Thread here but I can't be bothered.

Get a life.

MtD