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Offline AnxietyPanicPete

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Male to female oral
« on: December 11, 2013, 10:03:45 pm »
First off, you all have a ridiculous amount of patience for continually answering the same question I'm about to ask! So, I apologize.

Mid Nov I had protected vaginal sex, she performed oral on me while I had a condom on and then I performed unprotected oral on her. 4 days after the event I had a huge canker sore on the inside of my lip. 2 days after that I had canker sores all over the inside of my mouth and throat, after 2 weeks it went away. About a week after that I got another sore throat and a canker sore towards the back of my mouth, and noticed a small rash on the tip of my penis (which I was told by my doc it's fungal, and after 2 weeks of applying anti-fungal cream it's still there if not worse) Which brings me to present time, I just got over ANOTHER canker sore on the inside of my cheek and I again have a sore throat and just now noticed that I most likely have oral thrush on my tongue. As of yesterday the lymph nodes in my left armpit and left groin are a little painful. 2 days ago I did an Oraquick test (exactly 51 days after exposure) and a blood test yesterday (52 days after).
      After reading 40 pages of this forum, I felt much better until I noticed the oral thrush....now I'm back to where I started, panicking and depressed!!! I can not help to think what else could cause all of this continually for 2 months, in this manner, besides HIV, it's like every week is something and this week has been the scariest for me. Mind you, I got both hiv tests done before the oral thrush appeared....thank you all for what you are doing here, very admirable and respectful!!!!!

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Re: Male to female oral
« Reply #1 on: December 11, 2013, 10:40:21 pm »
You never had an exposure in any of the situations you've provided.

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Re: Male to female oral
« Reply #2 on: December 12, 2013, 06:59:25 am »
Wasting one of my posts...crap!! Forgot to say both Oraquick and blood tests were negative

Fixed/deleted.

Pete,

You haven't had a risk for hiv infection so it's no surprise that your test result was negative. Even if you did have a risk, you would be extremely unlikely to go on to test positive at the end of the three month window period.

The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days.

A six week negative is highly unlikely to change, but must be confirmed at the three month point - when there has actually been a risk. You did NOT have a risk.

Keep working with your doctor to find out what, if anything, is actually going on. Whatever that may be, it is NOT hiv. You haven't had a risk for hiv.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED FURTHER TESTING AT THIS TIME, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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Offline AnxietyPanicPete

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Re: Male to female oral
« Reply #3 on: December 13, 2013, 10:33:51 am »
Thanks you two, I really appreciate your time. I am doing my absolute best to stay positive and not think about too much, being I have another three weeks to wait until I can test again. I just can't but help but think with everything that is going on with my body, that I am infected...naturally scaring and depressing the hell out of me!

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Re: Male to female oral
« Reply #4 on: December 13, 2013, 10:42:03 am »
Fortunately fears aren't facts. Longterm studies have been conducted of sero-discordant couples, both gay and straight. They had lots of varied unprotected oral sex mutually and only protected intercourse. The results have been that not a single sero-negative partner became infected.

You're going to test negative. Period.

Discuss your symptoms with your doctor. HIV is not the problem.
Andy Velez

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Re: Male to female oral
« Reply #5 on: January 10, 2014, 04:11:16 am »
Just did my 12 week Oraquick oral swab and it was negative. Is this test accurate enough or should I get a blood test from a Dr. to get the 12 week conclusive? Also, the control line on the Oraquick isnt as dark as the directions depict it to be, is that a problem? This is my last post (assuming I'm conclusively negative) and I wanted to thank ya'll one more one time and let u know how amazing of a thing you're doing, ya'll are a gift from god!

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Re: Male to female oral
« Reply #6 on: January 10, 2014, 04:38:11 am »

Pete,

You haven't had a risk for hiv infection so it's no surprise that your test result was negative. Even if you did have a risk, you would be extremely unlikely to go on to test positive at the end of the three month window period.


Pete,

Nothing has changed since you last wrote in to us. You haven't had a risk, it's no surprise you tested negative, and YES! you are conclusively hiv negative and do NOT need further testing at this time.

Please re-read your entire thread until you understand what is and isn't a risk. To sum up:

In adults, hiv is transmitted through:

Unprotected anal intercourse.

Unprotected vaginal intercourse.

Sharing drug injecting equipment.

And that's it.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!!!

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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