2 GAY EXPOSURES HIV RISK (VERY CONCERNED)

[WOWZA]

HI Everyone,

On September 23, 2012 I had attempted protected, receptive anal sex with a transsexual, maybe a prostitute, but she didn't charge me (very high risk), I'm also concerned some precum may have gotten on the condom, this may be an irrational fear. I also performed protected oral sex (I did get some precum on my finger, although he never came at all during the session) and mutual masturbation (one penis on top of the other), rimming and I fingered his anus. 

On October 31, 2012, I performed unprotected oral sex and rimming with another man I met online and mutual masturbation (I put my hand in his ejaculation). My wisdom teeth were also starting to come through (mostly inflammation, no blood at this point) and I think I got some precum in my mouth but no ejaculation, would this have increased my risk significantly?

Could you please tell me what my risks from these activities are? Also I have tested negative from a rapid HIV test at 94 days post exposure for the first incident and 56 days post exposure for the second.

I plan on retesting for the second incident after 90 days but how good of an indicator is a 56 day post exposure negative? Can I get some opinions from some people who perform clinical HIV testing? Not only on the window period but also on the risk of acquiring HIV from this encounter.

Can I consider the 94 day test conclusive or is a 6 month retest required (I perfer expert opinions)?

Also at 8.5 weeks after the second incident I have got a chest and nose cold. I'm coughing up phlegm and have a persistant runny nose, could these be symptoms of ARS?

Lastly I'm having some trouble coming to terms that I actually had sex with two men. I've considered myself straight my whole life and still do. I've been attracted to females as long as I can remember. I'm not homophobic (which should be obvious) but I am having some trouble coming to terms with these encounters any advice on how I can better manage these feelings? Both of these men looked like women and I think I just tried it cause it was something new. Also any advice on how I can deal with my anxiety during this time. I'm an accountant and my work is starting to pick up significantly and I'm finding it hard to concentrate at work and I'm not getting any work done. Any advice on how I can calm myself down? I'm terrified and have already been to the emergency room with anxiety related issues over this. The xanax helps a lil but only for a short period of time.

Thanks for any advice!

Again I'm sorry this post is so long I'm just very terrified

[Ann]

Wowza,

For a start, people are not high or low or no risk, activities are high or low or no risk. It's not WHO you do, it's HOW you do it that matters.

You haven't had a risk. You do not need further hiv testing at this time.

You are conclusively hiv negative. You do NOT have hiv.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED FURTHER HIV TESTING AT THIS TIME, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann

[WOWZA]

Thank You Ann for your reassuring words! I also like your avatar, I have a cat that looks like her.

I do have one question though about oral sex. I have heard from my local health department, planned parenthood and the state of Illinois STD hotline & a physicians assistant that there is a low risk of HIV infection with unprotected oral sex. They have also advised me to get conclusive results at either 3 or 6 months depending upon who you talk to. Can you provide me with some insight or perhaps a link regarding that theres no risk of HIV infection from oral sex, especially with the possible wisdom teeth coming through? It seems that a lot of healthcare professionals agree there is at least a minimal risk. And is the chest cold just a chest cold? Is this a possible symptom of ARS? I've had no fever and felt fine otherwise its just a little scary when you're hearing so much conflicting information.

Also I'm not sure if it's the right place to post my other questions about dealing with the other situations around these incidents but if someone else could help me out with those it would be appreciated. If it's against the rules then I do apologize.

[Ann]

Also I'm not sure if it's the right place to post my other questions about dealing with the other situations around these incidents but if someone else could help me out with those it would be appreciated. If it's against the rules then I do apologize.

Wowza,

If you read the Welcome Thread before posting like you're supposed to, you'd know that you are to keep all your thoughts and questions in the same thread. That means you posted in the right place. Make sure you read that thread so you know our rules - and also read the "Important Update" that appears at the top of each and every Am I Infected forum page.


There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

Google "meth mouth" to understand what sort of oral health changes the game for oral transmission. Swollen gums due to emerging wisdom teeth aren't a problem. However, you may want to refrain from giving oral when the wisdom teeth actually start to erupt and cause open, bleeding areas.

The window period for hiv testing has been three months for years now. Some people/websites aren't up-to-date with this information.

The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days.

A six week negative must be confirmed at the three month point (when there has been a risk), but is highly unlikely to change.

You haven't had a risk. You do not need further hiv testing at this time.

You are conclusively hiv negative. You do NOT have hiv.

Ann

[WOWZA]

One last question. I usually have very good oral hygiene however I remember the morning after performing oral sex on the guy that the site of my wisdom teeth were bleeding slightly, the were also very sore during this time. The was noticable red liquid around the site. My exposure was to potential precum. Given this info do you still think my risk is non-existant?

[jkinatl2]

I do. The only theoretical game changer in the real of oral sex and HIV is sonething along the lines of a condition referred to as "meth mouth. " Google that for images and you will understand.